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Bravo!
I would add this note to those ladies with a husband or boyfriend in attendance. I love to dance, but my husband does not. However, I hate the idea of turning down some poor guy willing to dance with me (I'm not very good), especially when he had the bravery to ask me first. So, when my husband (or boyfriend for earlier incidents) was there, I made a point of looking at him first when I was asked to dance (usually with a "please please please!" look on my face) to see how he felt about it.
He told me later that it made all the difference to him that I actually showed him (and incidentally the man asking me to dance and possible scamming on me for a date) that I was (a) attached, and (b) cared more about my boyfriend's/husband's feelings than I did this stranger's.
For me, it was an instinctual response that turned out to work well. However, since my husband fessed up to how much he appreciated it, I have made it a point to always look at him and akcnowledge his presence in situations like this.
I also think it is more fair for the man asking you to dance, since many men (my brother is one) absolutely hate the thought of dancing with another man's girlfriend or wife, especially if it will get him (or them) in a fight later.
Nov 11, 2008, 6:52:00 PM