Delete comment from: Captain Capitalism
Cap'n, I don't know if your thesis is proven.
Sure, I take your point that your experience of young American women is that they set too high a price on themselves. However, from your anecdotes about other gullible guys, it seems that these women's behaviour is being encouraged and reinforced by such means as drinks buying.
Young people, of course, think they'll live forever young. So it's not surprising women behave this way, especially when they have guys fawning on them.
I also take your point that some percentage of women don't wise up, and end up "on the bench" as the new crop of young women come along behind, crushing their market value.
But don't "most" women end up in a relationship? Isn't the woman in this story part of a minority who never got a strong grip on reality? Aren't you only seeing the ones who failed to learn? I'm curious as to your thoughts, as I don't live in the USA.
By the way, you often talk about USA women rejecting guys who ask for a dance at dance venues.
I recently visited New York, I was in the USA for the first time, and went to a Contra dance. My personal dance history started with formal training in Irish soft shoe and hard shoe, and moved on to Irish Sets and Irish Ceileidh, Scottish Social and Contra, with a 'minor' in waltz and polka studies on the way, with some training in tap and jazz ballet. I have been held to be a "pretty decent" social couples dancer.
I was astonished to find that some women - who had presumably turned up at an organised Contradance, paid the entrance price and were sitting around chatting, would reject an offer for a dance. Especially because, as is often the case, there were more women than guys in attendance.
And even, I'd have to say, when I'd been dancing on the night and so they could have seen I wasn't a klutz.
I'm of average male looks, athletically slim, 5"10, neat hair, was cleanly showered and shaven and wearing neat casual clothes and dance shoes.
I can't say that has *ever* happened to me here in Australia, unless said woman was dripping with sweat and fanning herself and breathing hard and (plausibly) gasping "Sorry, I really need to sit one out".
Keep well.
Sep 4, 2010, 3:01:13 PM
Posted to To the 30/40 Something Woman Who Wouldn't Leave Me Alone