Delete comment from: Captain Capitalism
I am brand new to this blog, and this is the first time I have ever commented on ANY blog. I am a soon to be 34 year old woman. I am recently single after a 7 year relationship. I was very much in love, as was he. We parted after many happy years living together and it became apparent that marriage was something that he could never come to terms with. But we loved each other very much and I don't for a minute regret any of our years together. It seems that perhaps I gave this gentleman too much leeway in the "moving forward" department. However, am I to understand that in today's society, I am now considered "waste"? As in " DONE, STAY AWAY, DANGER?!"That by simply existing as a single 30 something woman my only options are to date elderly men or give up completely and adopt some kind of cat lady lifestyle? My great "sin" was I simply loved someone who ultimately decided he doesn't want the same future as I do. I don't think my standards are too high, I don't really have a "type" or any unreasonable expectations ( ie: be employed, not housebound by obesity, no weird mom stuff, I don't care for "Guido" types. ) I don't need a man who is rich or a knight in shining armor. I am not a supermodel but neither am I a hideous hag. I am employed in a career that I truly enjoy, I am educated but not an elite academic. I am " normal". The world can't really be that black and white. I assume you, Captain are an educated man. Why don't you ( and I am asking you on behalf of the male gender in general) allow for any gray area? So much of life falls in the gray. According to you ( and the whole of the internet) If I didn't "catch" a husband by 28, then the jig is up? No love for me ever again? I may be an exception where as I never played those games some girls apparently do ( I apparently was never told the rules of said games). I have never had a goal of "catching" a husband. My goal was and is to find someone who loves me, and I love them, and to live our lives together happily. Marriage is to me not a "prize" but the ultimate declaration of love.It is so not about "winning" or gifts or even a fancy white dress and big party. Its about finding a partner in life. So I ask you, " Captain". Why is a woman such as myself faced with such a lackluster future ( according to you and apparently quite a few others out there). Are men really such simple creatures as " 25 good, 32 BAD. Doesn't anyone believe in love anymore? Or is that only for the fresh faced 20 year olds still hanging out in frat basements doing keg stands?
Jul 17, 2015, 8:00:11 AM
Posted to To the 30/40 Something Woman Who Wouldn't Leave Me Alone