Delete comment from: Captain Capitalism
Yeah, I'm dealing with this with my wife. Last June our house was severely damaged by a small tornado. The house is nearly repaired - lots of small stuff to do and some outside stuff remains. We lost 28 trees, most broken off. So that's the background.
First, the Mrs. has been milking this for all the sympathy she can get from anyone who will listen and even those who don't, has stopped looking for work because of the time she has needed to grind through the insurance mess and to repair the place.
Me, I just moved forward one step at a time and will continue to do so until it's all done and I can relax and enjoy how good things are.
But, there's a large - 36 in + diameter broken-off fir tree stump which is prominent when you drive into the place. I want it gone. She wants to keep the thing as a memorial of the storm, but she really wants it to pull the chain on the pity pot when there's opportunity to do so.
I said, let's compromise - let's cut it off parallel to the ground, make a flat top for it and make it into a planter. No dice, because that hides the ripped and shattered wood.
The only socially redeeming thing is that the damned thing will naturally rot within a few years. Maybe I can find some stuff to make it go away faster. ;-)
Meanwhile she's driving her family and friends crazy to the point that they don't answer her phone calls because of her whining. They've called me asking what to do about it. I told them to listen, but not buy into the pity, but force the conversation toward what she's doing to move forward. We aren't living in the past, we're living forward.
Not ssking for your help here, just providing an example of what the Capt. has experienced.
Apr 6, 2013, 6:37:27 AM
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