I am here by way of Shakesville. I loved your question and had to come over here and comment. I hope you don't mind.
I just got married in August and my husband and I still are kicking around ideas on the new name thing. I would like us to both hyphenate. We told my father about this and he told my husband he better not or he would consider him a "p*ssy".
The older I get the more I dislike my father.
Also, my husband makes less than I do which does not bother me, but my mother has asked me before "What kind of man makes so little?"
I hadn't even thought about the name change! My guy and I have decided that I'll take his name b/c I just don't care enough and would rather avoid all of the drama that'll come. It was bad enough when I decided against an engagement ring, and that was the more important thing for me.
It's amazing how people react so strongly over the name change issue.
I don't anticipate changing my name after (my mythical future) marriage. My mom didn't, and actually she gave me her name, too, so my dad and I don't share the same last name. Some people I know still can't comprehend that he's my biological father. People find naming horrifically confusing if you do anything other than what is "traditional."
Evo, I also like the idea of both hyphenating, though. Seems most fair. That's what I hope to do for my children's names, for sure.
Sally, I'm interested in your engagement ring decision...
Thanks for your comment, Evo! I think hyphenating last names is a great idea. If it was good enough for John Lennon (he changed his name to John Ono Lennon after he married Yoko) then its good enough for everyone!
If I ever get married, I plan to keep my last name too. It suits me, and I don't see why I should give it up.
Have a great weekend everybody!
October 10, 2008 at 5:16 PM
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Hi,
I am here by way of Shakesville. I loved your question and had to come over here and comment. I hope you don't mind.
I just got married in August and my husband and I still are kicking around ideas on the new name thing. I would like us to both hyphenate. We told my father about this and he told my husband he better not or he would consider him a "p*ssy".
The older I get the more I dislike my father.
Also, my husband makes less than I do which does not bother me, but my mother has asked me before "What kind of man makes so little?"
Cheers,
Evo
October 10, 2008 at 2:57 PM
Thanks for stopping by, Evo!
I hadn't even thought about the name change! My guy and I have decided that I'll take his name b/c I just don't care enough and would rather avoid all of the drama that'll come. It was bad enough when I decided against an engagement ring, and that was the more important thing for me.
It's amazing how people react so strongly over the name change issue.
October 10, 2008 at 3:51 PM
I don't anticipate changing my name after (my mythical future) marriage. My mom didn't, and actually she gave me her name, too, so my dad and I don't share the same last name. Some people I know still can't comprehend that he's my biological father. People find naming horrifically confusing if you do anything other than what is "traditional."
Evo, I also like the idea of both hyphenating, though. Seems most fair. That's what I hope to do for my children's names, for sure.
Sally, I'm interested in your engagement ring decision...
October 10, 2008 at 4:12 PM
Thanks for your comment, Evo! I think hyphenating last names is a great idea. If it was good enough for John Lennon (he changed his name to John Ono Lennon after he married Yoko) then its good enough for everyone!
If I ever get married, I plan to keep my last name too. It suits me, and I don't see why I should give it up.
Have a great weekend everybody!
October 10, 2008 at 5:16 PM