On our late flight home from Orlando, I sat next to a somewhat annoying father of two, whose children were seated in front of us with their mom. During our long flight, he asked me about my occupation -- the usual stuff of flights. I made the mistake of answering with way too many details. I told him I'm a former federal prosecutor, now working at a large law firm in criminal defense and government investigations. Open the flood gates . . . .`
For the next two hours, I was cross-examined by this gentleman about prosecutions, police work, and being a lawyer. Sigh. That will teach me to open my mouth. Ha! One of his questions stuck with me, however: "When you were a prosecutor, did you want to 'do the right thing' or were you 'in it to win it'?" Huh. Interesting question and an easy one for me, quite frankly. The right thing was ALL I cared about when I prosecuted. This man was stunned when I told him about cases I declined for lack of evidence or when an agent went south on me mid-trial and we dismissed the case. I think this gentleman doesn't really like prosecutors or agents or police officers. Very mistrustful. Nevertheless, I found his question interesting.`See, I am competitive. And I LOVE to win. But as a prosecutor, it wasn't my main goal -- not even close. Probably because I'm a little bit of a Bleeding Heart. Ah, there it is. ;) Win, but not at all costs. Isn't that yet another little slice of life?`If there's anything I want to give Seth it is the desire to do only the right thing. Yes, I hope he's competitive. I hope he wants (and likes) to win. It's the foundation of this country, like it or not, so he kind of needs to be competitive. But not over the top.`The Bible doesn't really address competition -- at least not directly. Instead, it commands us to lay down our lives for each other. (John 15: 12-13. "My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.") Treat others better than ourselves. (Phil. 2:3. "In humility consider others better than yourselves.") Give a stranger the coat off our back (Matt. 5:40. "If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat also."). Love others. (John 15:12. "Love each other as I have loved you."). Love our enemies. (Matt 5:44. "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."). Doesn't sound like win at all costs to me.`I don't believe, however, that God calls us to be weak or door mats for people who want to run us over. No. God raises up the poor (Matt. 5:3. "Blessed are the Poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.") gives strength to the weak (Is. 40:31. "But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.") fights for the oppressed (Ps. 9:9-10 "The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble."). He is the ultimate Judge, Arbiter, Decider. And Jesus also didn't bow to questions or pressure, even when he could have . . . .`But nevertheless, since the greatest of these is love (1 Cor. 13:13. "And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.") living life doing only what's right in every situation is my end game. Now to help Seth understand that . . . . `"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Matt. 7:12