YESSSSSSSS! I look at myself and can't see the married, adult, mom in me...I still see the girl getting ready in the morning to catch the bus to school (high school)....just odd.
I'm interested in when you wrote 'you can't actually see yourself', how is that so??
i'm so glad other people can relate (i was, after hitting publish, thinking i'd exposed once and for all that i am totally mental). :-) loredana - what i mean is that you've only ever seen a reflection of your own face or a picture of your own face, you've never ever seen your actual face.
After my aunt passed, my cousin gave me a photo of us at a birthday party. I was probably 5 she was 9 years old. I remember it being taken. My aunt was a camera passionista. That face, me, was probably the last time I recognized myself in a photo, I didn't even understand that until a few years ago. Since then, who is that aging woman. There is a haunting in that face now that never lifts, even a smile can't disguise it. She is now me, but I am still at the Birthday party in my head.
yes, yes, yes and yes. i so know this feeling. reflections really never do us justice, i don't think. it is our actions that create the portrait of who we really are.
Yes, photographs are never the same as even the "me" in the mirror, much less the me inside. Shame I suppose, as I like the mirror me more often. Ah well...
Exactly, The me in my head doesn't look or sound anything like the me on the outside. Sometimes it's quite a shock to catch my reflection in a store window. Is that really me?
I have this feeling ALL THE TIME!! To the point where sometimes I'll look in the mirror and feel myself wince slightly because somehow the reflection doesn't look familiar at all. So weird, but good to know it's not just me.
You've hit a chord here! So good to know I'm not alone in this strange business...Aging has certainly increased this sensation...was reading today a collection of stories of women having spiritual 'awakenings' in which they realized that they were nothing and everything all at once...still trying to wrap my brain around this...but know the truth in our interconnectedness...thanks for getting the conversation rolling!
i always think i look different in photos than in the mirror. which might be a really stupid comment... but i definitely notice other things in photos.
i agree with boom boom above, i can relate to the me in most mirrors, but i can rarely relate to the me in photos, with every year it gets more and mroe difficult and i really, really hate having my picture taken. that is just not me turning up in photos. sometime i see the real me in a photo, most of the times not. it's just too depressing, so i stick to the shoe and leg-ones, i'm fairly okey with them:)
Yes, this is totally the way I feel....I'm sometimes aware more than others that I'm always looking out from this place and never really see the person that other people see (me) as I go through life...it is an odd sensation!
I feel the same. I am unrecognizable when I look in the mirror. I'm trying to look like someone that I'm not. So the things I'm doing to beautify myself are not what I need at all. Is this understandable?
Yes. I'm nothing like my voice either. I see myself as a sensitive feminine person but I sound masculine? This is why people sometimes misread what I mean and I sometimes put a higher pitch voice when I need empathy haha x
I get that all the time. I have times when I look all the time passing car windows because of it. And I feel like someone I don't know is following me as I walk x
April 13, 2018 at 10:50 PM
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are you ever surprised when you look in the mirror? like that person you see can't possibly be you, because you feel so different than that on the inside? and do you realize that you've never truly seen yourself? it's actually physically impossible to look at your own face. is something missing in the reflection? sometimes it seems so to me. i feel so different than how i look. i don't really know where i'm going with this, it's just something that strikes me at times. that it's really quite impossible to get at who we are, even to ourselves.
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Close this window Jump to comment formI know exactly what you mean. Love your self-portrait, good work!
April 5, 2011 at 10:50 AM
I feel like that every time I look in the mirror.
April 5, 2011 at 1:16 PM
What amazes me is the discrepancy between what I see in the mirror and what I see in photographs. Such a difference!
April 5, 2011 at 1:20 PM
YESSSSSSSS! I look at myself and can't see the married, adult, mom in me...I still see the girl getting ready in the morning to catch the bus to school (high school)....just odd.
I'm interested in when you wrote 'you can't actually see yourself', how is that so??
April 5, 2011 at 2:48 PM
i'm so glad other people can relate (i was, after hitting publish, thinking i'd exposed once and for all that i am totally mental). :-) loredana - what i mean is that you've only ever seen a reflection of your own face or a picture of your own face, you've never ever seen your actual face.
April 5, 2011 at 3:01 PM
After my aunt passed, my cousin gave me a photo of us at a birthday party. I was probably 5 she was 9 years old. I remember it being taken. My aunt was a camera passionista. That face, me, was probably the last time I recognized myself in a photo, I didn't even understand that until a few years ago. Since then, who is that aging woman. There is a haunting in that face now that never lifts, even a smile can't disguise it. She is now me, but I am still at the Birthday party in my head.
April 5, 2011 at 3:11 PM
I totally understand.
April 5, 2011 at 3:29 PM
Even worse ... listening to recordings of your voice.
So, the guy in the mirror isn't me and the sounds from the speakers isn't me ... then who am I but a process and a thought?
April 5, 2011 at 4:16 PM
I understand, it's one of those feelings that is quite difficult to put into words but I think all people experience it. xoxo
April 5, 2011 at 4:21 PM
Hello Julie
Trust me I understand what you mean! I am trying to understand who I am--never seeing myself as I am now--it is for me a learning process.
Still hate having my picture made.
Take Care
Best
Tracy :)
April 5, 2011 at 4:29 PM
yes, yes, yes and yes. i so know this feeling. reflections really never do us justice, i don't think. it is our actions that create the portrait of who we really are.
April 5, 2011 at 4:30 PM
Yes, photographs are never the same as even the "me" in the mirror, much less the me inside. Shame I suppose, as I like the mirror me more often. Ah well...
April 5, 2011 at 5:41 PM
Exactly,
The me in my head doesn't look or sound anything like the me on the outside. Sometimes it's quite a shock to catch my reflection in a store window. Is that really me?
April 5, 2011 at 6:07 PM
I have this feeling ALL THE TIME!! To the point where sometimes I'll look in the mirror and feel myself wince slightly because somehow the reflection doesn't look familiar at all. So weird, but good to know it's not just me.
April 5, 2011 at 10:11 PM
You've hit a chord here! So good to know I'm not alone in this strange business...Aging has certainly increased this sensation...was reading today a collection of stories of women having spiritual 'awakenings' in which they realized that they were nothing and everything all at once...still trying to wrap my brain around this...but know the truth in our interconnectedness...thanks for getting the conversation rolling!
April 6, 2011 at 5:07 AM
i always think i look different in photos than in the mirror. which might be a really stupid comment... but i definitely notice other things in photos.
April 6, 2011 at 11:27 AM
sammi - not stupid at all. i find the same thing to be true.
April 6, 2011 at 2:04 PM
i agree with boom boom above, i can relate to the me in most mirrors, but i can rarely relate to the me in photos, with every year it gets more and mroe difficult and i really, really hate having my picture taken. that is just not me turning up in photos. sometime i see the real me in a photo, most of the times not. it's just too depressing, so i stick to the shoe and leg-ones, i'm fairly okey with them:)
April 8, 2011 at 1:30 AM
Yes, this is totally the way I feel....I'm sometimes aware more than others that I'm always looking out from this place and never really see the person that other people see (me) as I go through life...it is an odd sensation!
April 12, 2011 at 4:30 PM
I feel the same. I am unrecognizable when I look in the mirror. I'm trying to look like someone that I'm not. So the things I'm doing to beautify myself are not what I need at all. Is this understandable?
April 13, 2018 at 10:48 PM
Yes. I'm nothing like my voice either. I see myself as a sensitive feminine person but I sound masculine? This is why people sometimes misread what I mean and I sometimes put a higher pitch voice when I need empathy haha x
April 13, 2018 at 10:49 PM
I get that all the time. I have times when I look all the time passing car windows because of it. And I feel like someone I don't know is following me as I walk x
April 13, 2018 at 10:50 PM