Hard relate. I'm having a similar dilemma within my closest friend circle and it's really hard to work out what is pandemic madness and what is real life crossroads and most importantly, what to do about it all? I have that thing of wanting them to leave me alone but also not wanting to be excluded. Sometimes I feel 10 yrs old again. I think mainly we're all just terribly bored, coupled with the 'everyone needs more than anyone can give right now', and not having much work isn't helping. I kinda envy you your big exhausting project! Thank you for this series, it's been a good, inspiring one. Hope this week is less taxing.
March 2, 2021 at 9:37 AM
[Image]as they always say in the nytimes cooking facebook group - a kitten for the algorithm the older i get, the more i feel aware of my energy and how the people i am around affect it. especially in these times when we're not around people all that much, it becomes much more apparent who gives you energy and who doesn't. and i find my lifelong desire to be part of a group (who doesn't have that?) at odds with whether or not that group gives me energy. and as i sit here on a zoom with one of those groups, i can tell you that it does not give me energy and in fact, i feel it draining what energy i had left at the end of a long and very busy day. and i am going to have to put aside my desire to belong and protect myself and my energy. my energy is more important than being part of a group. i don't think i've been very good at that equation for most of my life - too often choosing to persevere and go for the belonging, so it's high time i started listening to myself and my needs. and now it's over and i have an overwhelming urge to cry. the pettiness and the snark. i just can't take it from people anymore. i think these times have left me feeling raw and even a little bit broken. i don't have anything in common with several of these people. they don't give me anything, least of all energy and frankly not even just general kindness. i have to not second guess the feeling in my heart that it's simply not worth it. and the ones in the group who i do like, i can still like them without being on this board. the snarky, energy leeches take too much. in these strange times, we need people who give us kindness and creativity and energy and we need to stay as far away as we can from those who don't. it's really that simple. maybe that's the good thing about this time we're living in, it has given me a lot of time to consider what's important and who deserves my time and energy. damn, i want my two hours back.
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I'm having a similar dilemma within my closest friend circle and it's really hard to work out what is pandemic madness and what is real life crossroads and most importantly, what to do about it all?
I have that thing of wanting them to leave me alone but also not wanting to be excluded. Sometimes I feel 10 yrs old again.
I think mainly we're all just terribly bored, coupled with the 'everyone needs more than anyone can give right now', and not having much work isn't helping. I kinda envy you your big exhausting project!
Thank you for this series, it's been a good, inspiring one. Hope this week is less taxing.
March 2, 2021 at 9:37 AM