Sometimes the ladder can be climbed up naturally, don't have to deliberately focus on climbing it. That doesn't mean, however, that you only focus on the friendships where they are easy to climb. As a Christian, you should be seeking to do both.
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Or maybe whenever i "think" i am *closer* friends with someone, i step up the "closeness ladder" a bit too much and i over do it.. What I mean about the closeness ladder/level is the level of speech you can use with certain "levels" of friendship... eg with an aquaintance you will talk in a certain way, very polite, not deep, just surface chat -> or when I talk to my brother, - fully speaking my mind without blinking at times.. So when I think I am close with someone I step up the ladder a bit too much, too fast and i experience rebound instead of exchange.. I need to take things slower I guess... but suppose I am bad at judging when I can use a certain language, when I can step a bit more into someone's life.. I used to be shy and not do anything at all, treating all friends with a similar attitude, building a wall around myself.. But now I wish to break that wall.. but maybe I break it too quickly, too hard.. I can see why I was shy and want to Not be.. but maybe somethings can never really be changed.. and the result of trying to break the wall makes me rebuild it again..
"Another thing..-the Closeness ladder-..."
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Sometimes the ladder can be climbed up naturally, don't have to deliberately focus on climbing it. That doesn't mean, however, that you only focus on the friendships where they are easy to climb. As a Christian, you should be seeking to do both.
6:56 pm