I think IM is different for different people. I was talking to a friend about the "realness" of IM conversations and it became apparent that we had quite different views of it. Some people are easier to talk to on IMs than real life, and some people are harder to talk to. I have friends who I never talk to on IMs, and friends who I never talk to except for IMs. So what does this all mean? I don't know, but IM and real life seems to be mutually orthogonal.
I wonder what makes a close friend. Does close friendship have to be reciprocal? I made it my working assumption for a while and got a bit depressed...
Oops, this is turning into a rant. I really should go rant in my own blog. Sorry!
hey ~ no worries! comment as Much as you like, i LOVE COMMENTS! :P
yes it is a very interesting concept isnt it, IMs.. hmm 2 types of friends huh,.. i guess in some ways i like IMs cos you can read them again later, and think carefully/properly before you write haha.. i also love keeping histories.. they are also good for looking for "evidence" that you said ___ etc
hmm i was wondering about that thing too, it is kinda depressing i suppose when one does not return the same "amount" as you but that's life, as long as I think that person is a good friend that's all that matters? and eventually they will think the same maybe?
I agree that histories are useful! Sometimes I wish I could keep a log of everything I say on the phone... maybe I should tape-record every call, but there's some law against that I think.
Maybe I just have a bad memory.
Hmmm... I wonder what makes people think you're a good friend to them?
Part of friendship is giving and not expecting anything in return. And when something is given in return, well, that is nice.
8:24 pm
This is yet again one of those things drifting in the back of my mind.. and it just surfaced into a proper "meaningful" theory.. i hope Have you realised how people have sooo many contacts on msn? or icq? or any other IM? Have you also wondered how many of those 1xx contacts do you actually talk to? I've realised that those who you talk to often in real life you tend to talk to more often on IMs.. Those who from the start you don't talk at all will end up being on your list just to make you feel special.. sigh On another note, I've realised that those I talk to in real life may not read my blog.. yet those i don't know as well read it often.. how interesting.. What then determines their degree of friendship? :P i dont want to be measuring etc.. but i get confused.. do people have to know me both "inside and out" to really be a good friend? Ive heard once on MYC that those who come to your house at least once and go somewhere other than work/uni related will be more likely to stay friends with you longer.. i wonder.. is that true?
"Building up a contact list to feel like you have friends.. but do you?"
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I think IM is different for different people. I was talking to a friend about the "realness" of IM conversations and it became apparent that we had quite different views of it. Some people are easier to talk to on IMs than real life, and some people are harder to talk to. I have friends who I never talk to on IMs, and friends who I never talk to except for IMs. So what does this all mean? I don't know, but IM and real life seems to be mutually orthogonal.
I wonder what makes a close friend. Does close friendship have to be reciprocal? I made it my working assumption for a while and got a bit depressed...
Oops, this is turning into a rant. I really should go rant in my own blog. Sorry!
8:56 pm
hey ~ no worries! comment as Much as you like, i LOVE COMMENTS! :P
yes it is a very interesting concept isnt it, IMs.. hmm 2 types of friends huh,.. i guess in some ways i like IMs cos you can read them again later, and think carefully/properly before you write haha.. i also love keeping histories..
they are also good for looking for "evidence" that you said ___ etc
hmm i was wondering about that thing too, it is kinda depressing i suppose when one does not return the same "amount" as you but that's life, as long as I think that person is a good friend that's all that matters? and eventually they will think the same maybe?
11:33 pm
I agree that histories are useful! Sometimes I wish I could keep a log of everything I say on the phone... maybe I should tape-record every call, but there's some law against that I think.
Maybe I just have a bad memory.
Hmmm... I wonder what makes people think you're a good friend to them?
10:55 am
Part of friendship is giving and not expecting anything in return. And when something is given in return, well, that is nice.
8:24 pm