[Image]In October, Colleen and I attended the conference for those dealing with leaving Mormonism. AKA: The Ex-Mormon Conference at the Embassy Suites Hotel in SLC.
We stayed at the Hotel there, and enjoyed most of it.
We attended Dr. Marlene Winell's presentation on 'Leaving the Fold'. At first, her message seemed somewhat drab. In other words, she didn't seem to connect really well with her audience very well. Which was somewhat strange and interesting at the same time because it seemed that her message would be spot on relevant to everyone in attendance, but something about the delivery seemed to put you to sleep. (If you're reading this Dr. Winell, sorry about the frankness of the message) However, as I concentrated, I could tell that she had done some pretty deep study, and practice around the topic.
She offered an after conference group therapy session which Colleen and I attended, plus a book. Frankly, the after conference session seemed a little bit too large to have its intended affect. It seemed somewhat similar to many of the CALM meetings I've held in my home, or at Dennis Borg's home. The difficulty that I found, however, was that I felt I had moved past that portion of my restorative therapy.
The book, however, as I began to read it, and take notes, and complete the exercises, has really begun to resonate with my trail. In her book, she outlines the process that folks leaving the fold may experience from twenty years or so as a practicing psychologist specializing in clients recovering from religious indoctrination both on the phone and person from her practice in Berkeley California.
In this blog, I'd like to begin to share with you some of the things she has shared, and perhaps open a window to myself, and in the process, perhaps you too may see some of the value contained there in. Especially as she has recommended as part of the exercises in her book to begin maintaining a journal to document the process.
[Image]Chapter 1
"The Recover Process" went into detail to help me inventory my own impact from Religion in my life. Colleen and I read this chapter, and answered it's questions on our last trip to Disneyland. The reading was actually somewhat uncomfortable because of unearthed issues that we had left buried for years, now rising like stinking, ugly zombies. But, there we were, and the zombies needed to be dealt with. So we talked openly about subjects we had been far to afraid to deal with.
The end of the chapter features an exercise: The Impact Inventory. 25 questions to assess the impact of particular issues on your daily life.
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Issue/Feeling1-5
Confusion3-4
Anxiety or fear4
Lack of clear identity and personal values3
Negative sense of self1
Emptiness, as if you have no core4
Negative image of your body and discomfor with sexuality5
Lack of meaning or purpose in life5
Anger and bitterness2
Loneliness3
Loss and grief3
Depression3
Persistent guilt3
Difficulty enjoying daily pleasures3
Unreasonably high expectations, perfectionism5
Trouble appreciating people1
Difficulty with self-responsibility2
Lack of deep self-love and skills for self-care3
Trouble thinking for yourself2
Difficulty feeling and expressing emotion5
External focus for satisfaction3
Colleen and I were quite surprised to see the impact still occurring in our lives. We must have talked for quite a while around how religion definitely impacted our views of our body and discomfort with sexuality, and such topics. I was very surprised to learn about how difficult expressing emotion was. I'm working on it though. I think that there is just a bit too much fear around that. I fear rejection, etc.
Next up, an inventory of the benefits we used to share with religion.
"Leaving the Fold"
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