Two acceptances and one rejection

tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7933668627152548301.post-92034366139584916742008-03-04T11:03:00.000-08:002008-03-04T11:28:32.952-08:00Two acceptances and one rejection<a href="http://bp1.blogger.com/_H4UB91ZSk3E/R82e6HF-xPI/AAAAAAAAAs0/6FurknjrWV4/s1600-h/YOSAKOI!.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5173966268092302578" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://bp1.blogger.com/_H4UB91ZSk3E/R82e6HF-xPI/AAAAAAAAAs0/6FurknjrWV4/s400/YOSAKOI!.jpg" border="0" /></a> <div>Here are some random pictures that have nothing to do with anything but I know people like to look at pictures so here they are. This is our daughter in Japan getting ready for her dance team performance.</div><div> </div> I told you that I was accepted into the Olive Hyde Textile Exhibit in the Bay Area. That's good news. You can see the piece in an earlier post. It is called "She Spilled Her Guts". I also told you that I was accepted into the California Fiber Arts group. That is a very nice place to be. Then I applied to a third group (which I will not name) and was not accepted which was what I thought might happen but also thought that perhaps there was a chance that I might get in so what the heck. Nope. <a href="http://bp2.blogger.com/_H4UB91ZSk3E/R82dnXF-xII/AAAAAAAAAr8/_CNdjCZQMoE/s1600-h/Or-Joel+kicking.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5173964846458127490" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://bp2.blogger.com/_H4UB91ZSk3E/R82dnXF-xII/AAAAAAAAAr8/_CNdjCZQMoE/s400/Or-Joel+kicking.jpg" border="0" /></a> Here is a picture of our son kicking a soccer ball while at a family reunion in Oregon. A major portion of my husband's family plays soccer so there was a lot of this going on.So here's the question- why do we feel so bad when someone or a group says "no" to us? I had two acceptances but there was a bit of a sting when the last group said, "sorry". It never is something we can just shrug off even when our brains can tell us other consoling things about how worthwhile we are and how much we have accomplished. <a href="http://bp0.blogger.com/_H4UB91ZSk3E/R82dn3F-xJI/AAAAAAAAAsE/tNG_ysBESuI/s1600-h/Or-M3+kicks.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5173964855048062098" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://bp0.blogger.com/_H4UB91ZSk3E/R82dn3F-xJI/AAAAAAAAAsE/tNG_ysBESuI/s400/Or-M3+kicks.jpg" border="0" /></a> Here is daughter kicking the soccer ball. I never once touched that ball even when it came over in my direction. Tennis balls I will play with but not soccer balls.To not be accepted is a human condition. It is going to happen to us all and happens to us more times than we care to admit. I was beginning to actually think that with those first two acceptances that perhaps my work was becoming too mainstream! I am so used to NOT being a part of the group. <a href="http://bp3.blogger.com/_H4UB91ZSk3E/R82donF-xKI/AAAAAAAAAsM/9E9YA_s0ihI/s1600-h/Or-Steve+kicks.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5173964867932964002" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://bp3.blogger.com/_H4UB91ZSk3E/R82donF-xKI/AAAAAAAAAsM/9E9YA_s0ihI/s400/Or-Steve+kicks.jpg" border="0" /></a> Here is Steve kicking the soccer ball. He is really good at keeping it in the air.I must say that it's really okay that I didn't get into the last group because I can now apply more of my efforts into the ones I AM a part of but rejection is an interesting phenomenon. It can cause you to withdraw or it can cause you to excel and more often than not, I have found that it causes me to step up my game. It can be a good thing or it can be a paralyzing thing. At the moment I have shrugged it off and am looking for the next thing to do.Talk to me about your experiences with artistic rejection. It's a good thing! It makes us who we are. Marjiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09513588281070693079noreply@blogger.com