Hypnotherapy Blog

Cures for Binge Drinking

2009-07-15T08:23:00.002+01:00

I was recently interviewed for The Yorkshire Evening Post on the subject of binge drinking which seems to be all an all time high in the UK. Many traditional therapies focus purely on the drinking aspect in a very analytical way and in many cases this does little to change how the person feels and subsequent problem behaviour.

As the representative for Just Be Well in the North of England I see lots of people for binge related issues and have discovered very similar patterns between binge drinkers and those who binge on food. In most instances the client is mentally very active and finds it difficult to relax. They tend to be very good in their work in that these same abilities to anticipate work great in this area of life BUT in the emotional arena this exact same process helps maintain "the problem"

Most binge drinkers find it very difficult to relax and learning this ability is an essential skill in learnig to create new behavioural patterns and to break free from the previous ways of thinking.

The full article can be found here

http://www.nickkemp.com/downloads/NickKemp.com_yorkshire-evening-post-curing-binge-drinking.pdf

Hypnosis gaining more acceptance in mainstream medicine

2009-06-09T12:35:00.000+01:00

“It's time for hypnosis to work it's way into the mainstream of British medicine.”

So says Prof. David Speigel of the Dept. of Psychiatry and Behavioural Sciences at Stanford University in the US.

He's also calling for the UK regulatory body, The National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE) to add hypnotherapy to it's list of approve therapeutic techniques for the treatment of conditions ranging from allergies and high blood pressure to the pain associated with bone marrow transplantation, cancer treatment and anaesthesia for liver biopsy. Nice has already approved the technique for the treatment of irritable bowel syndrome.

"There is solid science behind what sounds like mysticism and we need to get that message across to the bodies that influence this area. Hypnosis has no negative side-effects. It makes operations quicker, as the patient is able to talk to the surgeon as the operation proceeds, and it is cheaper than conventional pain relief. Since it does not interfere with the workings of the body, the patient recovers faster, too. It is also extremely powerful as a means of pain relief. Hypnosis has been accepted and rejected because people are nervous of it. They think it's either too powerful or not powerful enough, but, although the public are sceptical, the hardest part of the procedure is getting other doctors to accept it."

Professor Marie-Elisabeth Faymonville, head of the Pain Clinic at Liege University Hospital in Belgium, who has operated on more than 6,000 patients using hypnosis combined with a light local anaesthetic, said: "The local anaesthetic is used only to deaden the surface of the skin while a scalpel slices through it. It has no effect inside the body.

"The patient is conscious throughout the operation and this helps the doctor and patient work together. The patient may have to move during an operation and it's simple to get them to do so if they remain conscious. We've even done a hysterectomy using the procedure."

The theory behind medical hypnosis is that the body's brain and nervous system can't always distinguish an imagined situation from a real occurrence. This means the brain can act on any image or verbal suggestion as if it were reality. Hypnosis puts patients into a state of deep relaxation that is very susceptible to imagery. The more vivid this imagery, the greater the effect on the body.

Dr Martin Wall, president of the Section Hypnosis and Psychosomatic Medicine at the Royal Society of Medicine, said hypnosis fundamentally alters a subject's state of mind. Hypnosis is not, he said, simply a matter of suggestibility and relaxation.

This is from an article by Amelia Hill, the Social Affairs Correspondent of The Observer newspaper in the UK. Read the full article at http://bit.ly/129Coq.

The article also quotes NICE as saying that hypnotherapy could be considered for approval if it was shown to be cost-effective and a consistent standard of delivery could be guaranteed.

In that regard, when seeking a hypnotherapist either via the NHS or privately, I suggest seeking someone who is experienced and well trained. All the therapists on Just Be Well, for example, meet that requirement.

Feeding The Baby

2009-05-07T12:46:00.001+01:00

This particluar blog is more aimed at practtioners than clients but contains a very useful point for anyone to keep in mind (in my opinion).

I don’t know how many of you have had the joy of training a young child to eat ‘properly’. Most of them seem to go through a phase when they discover the absolute delight of hurling their food onto the floor, they can find it very amusing...

Now what does not work at this point is pointing at the food on the floor and saying,

‘Stop throwing your food on the floor, Agamemnon, food costs money, you know!’ And young Agamemnon looks at the food on the floor and....

What works best, naturally, is when you totally ignore the food on the floor and say to your child.

‘Here you are, darling, do this,’ and you encourage the child to do what you WANT it to do, that is, in this case, eat from the plate.

Then, what the child does, inevitably, is look at the food, grin at you, and throw it on the floor again. And the wise parent, at this point, begins to pass smaller amounts of food to Agamemnon, repeating the process of ignoring the ‘inappropriate’ behaviour and helping to get their child to imagine eating from the plate. With patience, (and it does take some...) your child begins to imagine doing what you want it to do, and then starts doing it, and then it becomes established as a habituated pattern of thought and behaviour. Hooray!

However, that is not to say that a couple of weeks into the new ‘proper’ way of eating, that young Agamemnon isn’t going to have a ‘relapse’. He might, he might not. And this usually happens, of course, when you are escorting a visiting friend into the kitchen having just informed them proudly of how quickly your son has learned to eat well.

If you are luckier than I was then the rusk won’t actually hit your friend on the forehead.

So what are you going to do at this point (apart from apologise)? Are you going to give up? Are you going to say, ‘Oh crap, my training of my son has just worn off, now he’ll never eat properly, he has gone back to his old behaviour! I was afraid this might happen! I am a failure, and so is he!’

Well you might, briefly. But it would be pretty stupid to keep saying that to yourself, wouldn’t it!?

What you do, naturally, is go over to the child and again encourage it to eat ‘properly’, aiming their thinking and imagination towards eating from the plate.

Obviously if their behaviour is dangerous then a little ‘away from’ motivation wouldn’t go amiss as well...

When I see clients I almost invariably run these kinds of metaphors to inoculate against them feeling like a failure if they relapse into the behaviour they came to see me to change. I don’t sort every client I see in one session. Do you? This kind of story is obviously particularly appropriate for something like bulimia but it would be helpful for many ‘issues’. It frames the ‘relapse’ as something that might or might not happen, but if it does, it’s OK, and it would be silly and stupid to view the relapse as a complete failure. I also use analogue marking to make the 'relapse' as unlikely as I can, by the way.

And, naturally, the thing is this, to get your child, or client, to be aware that whatever happens, it is important to continue to aim, and re-aim their thinking to imagine more appropriate behaviour.

When your client is smiling or laughing at the silliness of treating a 'relapse' as failure, when you get your client to fully realise that the important thing thing is to always aim and re-aim towards more appropriate behaviour, in any event, whatever happens, you massively enhance their chances of rapid and sustainable change for good.

And, by the way, I didn't name my son Agamemnon. My wife wouldn’t let me.

Anxious times in the credit crunch?

2009-04-07T08:47:00.003+01:00

I was watching Sky News yesterday which had a running total of the cost of the credit crunch! With so much doom and gloom presented in the media little wonder that there is so anxiety in society. I checked my own client records for the types of conditions I am currently treating and noticed that currently over 90% are for anxiety related issues. Many clients have previously tried a number of "traditional talk therapy approaches" without success and are surprised at the effectiveness of the approaches that I use with clients.
One of the secrets to accelerated and long lasting change is to create opportunities for the client to experience new ways of thinking and feeling, by paying attention in a new way. In many instances clients are highly intelligent, but up until now have found it impossible to switch off in order to experience useful levels of relaxation to create a better life balance.

A sensible investment in creating this better sense of well being (usually 2 - 3 sessions) can produce extraordinary results and open up a world of new opportunities with the previous anxiety is replaced by a new found freedom.

Stop Nail Biting Transcript

2009-03-26T10:57:00.002Z

To View this directly on YouTube go here - Stop Nail Biting

Ok, I’m going to spend a couple of minutes talking about nail biting and how we can get people to stop nail biting.

It may not seem to those of you who don’t bite their nails a lot, that nail biting is a big issue. However, if you have seen people as I have, and anyone who has been in this business long enough has, turn up with fingers actually bleeding with hardly any trace of any nails, and in tears because they have been like this for years and they can’t stop themselves, seemingly, then you’d know that it can be a serious condition.

Yes, it can be nice to have nice nails, but it’s really nice not to have to chew the ends of your fingers. Now this isn’t therapy, this is training, this is working with your mind so that the patterns which you’ve learned unwittingly to fall into, or to do automatically, are redirected or re-patterned so the combinations we use, combinations built from the fields of Neuro-linguistics, are very direct. It doesn’t matter where or when you started biting your nails, it’s totally irrelevant. What matters is you did learn to do it and there you are caught in an endless loop, sometimes you know you are doing it sometimes you don’t know you’re doing it. It seems to happen all by itself.

Sometimes nail biting can provide what seems to be a perverse pleasure for the nail biter, whatever. Whichever version you are doing you can stop doing it and we can help you.

Typically, because this is a direct behaviour, it’s a very straight forward behaviour, albeit it can seem extremely ingrained, it takes one session. Most of the clients I see to get them stop biting their nails. however extreme, one session does it. Its direct, it’s to the point and I’m confident we can help you with this.

So do call us; either myself, or any of my colleagues throughout the UK or the world. We will be pleased to help you stop biting your nails for good.

Stop Taking Cocaine Transcript

2009-03-26T10:41:00.003Z

To watch this on YouTube go here - Stop Using Cocaine

I’m going to spend a few minutes talking about how to stop taking Cocaine, how to stop using Cocaine.

I have seen people who turn up with their lives wrecked by taking Cocaine. That’s the way they have described it. They’ve lost their wife, their children, their job. They are up to taking a mound of cocaine every day and it doesn’t do anything for them except it makes them feel horrible; but not quite as horrible as they did before they took it.

Taking any drug, cocaine is no exception to this, is just a habit but it’s a horrible habit, a big habit. Taking cocaine socially for some people seems to be ok; it just keeps them awake it enables them to party longer. However it can very destructive, physically, mentally and emotionally. What I do with this is I use NLP which is training the mind and hypnosis combined to aim the person at the kind of person they want to be.

To begin with, people who come in are hooked, not only on the drug but the idea of the drug. They think about it and it gives them a good feeling, a positive feeling, ‘ahh cocaine, yes, let’s have some’. My job is to disconnect that in their mind, make that a thought of the past, make it distant, but my most important job is to aim them at how they are going to be, in other words if typically the person took several lines of cocaine every Saturday night out partying then I will get them thinking about how they are going to be instead of the problem, instead of the drug. I will get them thinking about it vividly. I will help them to create, in their imagination, a compelling vision of what life is going to be like without the drugs.

What are they going to be doing instead? How much fun are they going to be having? That kind of thing. Building things for them inside their mind because, yes, you can build aversions for things and disconnect things, but the most important aspect of my work is not where the person is coming from, its where they can be when they start aiming themselves at the solution. And the solution to ‘not taking cocaine’ isn’t ‘not taking cocaine’, it’s what their life is going to be like when they are not doing it any more, when they are doing something new. They could even be in the same place at the same party, socialising with the same people and happy and free and relaxed and alive and alert and having fun. That’s what my work is about, aiming at the solution, and the combinations, particularly of NLP which enables people to take control over their thinking in advance (that basically programs them to think how they want to rather than how they don’t) and hypnosis which simply helps them to re-pattern things at an unconscious level, is a very powerful combination. It’s a very powerful combination, so do contact us because we can almost certainly help you with this.

How effectively can phobias be cured?

2009-02-15T17:29:00.001Z

In yesterday's Guardian was a story about a poor girl who died of starvation after dental treatment went wrong and she developed a phobia. Now clearly there's a lot to be said about the role of the health service and social services here. I'll leave that for others.

What concerns me is this, from the article: "Although Sophie's case is exceptional, it raises questions about the way children with phobias are treated - and about the quality of community psychological care. Sophie developed her phobia at the age of four when a dentist scratched her tongue accidentally. From that time, her mother said that whenever she tried to take her for treatment she would run out of the surgery with her hand clamped over her mouth.”

Eventually Sophie had all her teeth removed during surgery, “because the hospital dentist knew she was frightened and removing them all would prevent problems in the future.”

All I know about this is the Guardian story and not the deep background. That said, if we're dealing with a child with dental phobia there's just no need for it to have reached this tragic conclusion. No need whatsoever.

In hypnotic NLP there's a technique known as the fast phobia cure. I've had great results with clients who have had real problems with phobias – heights, public speaking, all sorts – including recently a phobic reaction to other people being sick. It's quick, easy, and NLP practitioners and hypontherapists will all confirm how effective this technique is.

So why isn't it used as a matter of course in cases such as Sophie? I wish I knew. Sometimes people object to quick and easy cures because they don't get to the root of the problem, or because they may not last forever. Okay that's fine. The issue with not getting to the root may mean the cure needs to be applied again. Well, hell, it takes twenty minutes or less. If the technique had to be run through every time Sophie went to the dentist where's the problem with that?

There are other ways of getting successful dental treatment using hypnosis. In fact, some people opt not to have an anaesthetic and receive treatment while in trance.

Please, if you have any limits placed on your medical or dental treatment by your phobias or fears, seek out an NLP Practitioner, Hypnotist or Hypnotherapist. Let's have no more Sophies.

Edit: Steve Tromans writes - Thanks Ian, Laura Spicer has just uploaded a short video about this onto YouTube. To see it directly on YouTube go here: NLP Fast Phobia Cure

2009-02-15T17:24:00.000Z

Eventually Sophie had all her teeth removed during surgery, “because the hospital dentist knew she was frightened and removing them all would prevent problems in the future.”

There are other ways of getting successful dental treatment using hypnosis. In fact, some people opt not to have an anaesthetic and receive treatment while in trance.

Please, if you have any limits placed on your medical or dental treatment by your phobias or fears, seek out an NLP Practitioner, Hypnotist or Hypnotherapist. Let's have no more Sophies.

Stop Blushing: Is Hypnosis Or Surgery Best

2009-02-12T10:41:00.006Z

'Stop Blushing', Debbie Williams' multi-track recording, now also has a website of its own - http://www.stop-blushing.com

Because this is a website over several pages, it is able to go into more depth in terms of what it says about blushing, and also about other treatment options, including ETS surgery for blushing, and the side effects of ETS surgery

ETS Surgery For Blushing

The letters ETS stand for endoscopic transthoracic sympathectomy, a keyhole surgery technique that cuts the nerves that are partly responsible for the blushing response. ETS can also be used to treat excessive sweating. Sometimes the sympathetic nerve is snipped, in which case the process can be reversed (though this reversal cannot be guaranteed), sometimes it is severed completely. It can be a successful procedure though there is a risk of side effects.

Side Effects Of Surgery

By no means all people who have surgery for blushing experience side effects, although if you scan the Internet you will find plenty of people complaining about their experiences following ETS. Loss of sensation in other areas can be experienced, after all, nerves have been severed. The lung needs to be deflated during the operation which means there is a slight risk to either lungs or heart. The pain from the operation usually, but not in every single case, goes away

Usually the operation is successful, and the fact that people actually get to the point of wanting nerves severed to overcome blushing shows how desperate some people are to stop blushing

For Goodness Sake Get a Good Self Hypnosis Recording To Stop Blushing

After all, they often work when listened to repeatedly, and reputable organisations will always provide you with a money back guarantee. Or alternatively, go and see a really experienced practitioner of both hypnotherapy and NLP, there are plenty of them on this site.

Edit: Just put a video online about this, to see it durectly on YouTube go here Cure For Blushing

Stop Binge Drinking Video

2009-02-12T09:08:00.003Z

Alcohol Abuse And Binge Drinking

Here's a video I recently put on YouTube. As getting people to stop binge drinking is one of the main areas of my work these days, this video is longer than most, but I think it gets the points across well enough.

How Hypnotherapy And NLP Combine For Binge Drinking Treatment

As I say in the video, this is all about training the mind to be in control, but this training takes place 'in advance'. The main difference between a binge drinker and someone who drinks alcohol moderately is that the binge drinker is on autopilot to drink excessively, and the non binge drinker is on autopilot not to. When the mind is educated and trained, in advance, to expect to drink in moderation, that's what happens because unless and until something happens in the mind, the person will tend to repeat drinking patterns over and over and over again

When these NLP mind training techniques are then combined with a whole host of hypotherapeutic technique the results are usually positive, and usually fast. Both NLP and hypnosis can independently cure binge drinking problems, but the combination is the most effective way of treating people I know.

Is It Really This Simple

With extreme and chronic alcoholism, however, it can take a great deal longer but with the vast majority of cases of binge drinking, even when the problems have been extreme, a couple of hours will usually sort it out.

More Self Confidence

2009-02-11T11:09:00.006Z

Laura Spicer talks about how to have more self confidence

We have now produced a series of videos introducing our work in video format. This one, by Laura Spicer, talks about self confidence, and what we do to help people to experience more self esteem and begin to feel better about themselves. So here it is:

To view this video on YouTube go here More Self Confidence

Confidence And Esteem

Remember, as with all our work, this isn't therapy, it isn't going over the past to find out, in this case, why you had 'low self esteem', a 'poor self image' or low levels of confidence', it is a combination of education and training that has proven time and time again to be a rapid and effective way of solving all sorts of problems for people. We literally work with the way that you experience yourself, the way you have unwittingly learned to think, feel and experience, the way you see things, imagine things, remember things, talk to yourself about things and feel things. The work is based upon modelling people who think, feel and behave ion resourceful ways, and it is also based upon the careful examination of the work of great therapists.

Self Image, Self Esteem, Self Confidence and More

They are just words, really, and different people will describe their issues in different ways. The important thing is to deal with what is going on with a person, not what these things are called. That's why I like NLP, it gets to the heart of the matter in a pragmatic no-nonsense way and simply gets the job done. I have know Laura Spicer for more than ten years and can thoroughly recommend her as one of the most effective practitioners in her field.

Duration of Time in Therapeutic Change

2009-01-24T09:57:00.005Z

Many people believe that the ability for change or learning is automatically linked to duration of time. I have even had therapists e-mail me in an outraged fashion complaining that I am claiming that a phobia and other "problematic conditions" can be sucessfully treated in as little as 2 - 3 sessions!

In 2006 I guested on BBC Radio and for 26 weeks worked with curing a series of phobics supplied by the BBC, curing and testing their phobias usually within an hour, much to the amazement of both the BBC, the phobic and listeners.
(Some of these sessions can be heard here http://www.nickkemp.com/bbc.php)
I am very pleased t be associated with Just Be Well, which has an international reputation for working with clients using the very best and most effective approaches for resolving client conditions.

By running a highly successful private practice I have the opportunity to see a substantial number of clients each year and to really refine and develop skills. I have realised that in many instances clients expect change to be related to duration of time which is not useful in producing momentum for useful change.

Instead of relying on "anaylsis" as an approach, I am able to produce quick and substantive change by changing "how the client creates the perceives the problem", by using a combined approach of hypnosis and what I term "Provocative Change Works" which is inspired from the work of Frank Farrelly and Milton Erickson. Clients expect and receive very good results in very short periods of time. Many such individuals have already exhausted other talking therapy approaches and are delighted that they can notice that they feel different and crucially experience a new found freedom.

Best treatment for depression

2008-12-18T10:17:00.003Z

Many people ask what the best treatment for depression is. Is NLP effective? Does hypnotherapy help? If you ask most medically trained therapists (those versed in the medical model of disgnosing/labelling), chances are you will be told "no", or advised to see a psychologist or psychiatrist.

But recent research expresses that no treatment approach is really any more or less effective than other approaches! This is based on examining over 50 studies about clinical effectiveness.

A recent issue of the *Journal of Consulting & Clinical Psychology* (Vol. 76, No.6) includes an article: "Psychotherapy for Depression in Adults: A Meta-Analysis of Comparative Outcome Studies."

This is the summary: "Although the subject has been debated and examined for more than 3 decades, it is still not clear whether all psychotherapies are equally efficacious. The authors conducted 7 meta- analyses (with a total of 53 studies) in which 7 major types of psychological treatment for mild to moderate adult depression(cognitive-behavior therapy, nondirective supportive treatment, behavioral activation treatment, psychodynamic treatment, problem-solving therapy, interpersonal psychotherapy, and social skills training) were directly compared with other psychological treatments. Each major type of treatment had been examined in at least 5 randomized comparative trials. There was no indication that 1 of the treatments was more or lessefficacious, with the exception of interpersonal psychotherapy (which wassomewhat more efficacious; d = 0.20) and nondirective supportive treatment (which was somewhat less efficacious than the other treatments; d = 0.13). The drop-out rate was significantly higher in cognitivebe-havior therapythan in the other therapies, whereas it was significantly lower inproblem-solving therapy. This study suggests that there are no large differences in efficacy between the major psychotherapies for mild to moderate depression."

Re-read the last sentence!
So, since no one treatment approach is necessarily any more or less effective than other treatments for treating depression, why choose NLP/hypnotherapy?

Firstly, these therapies usually do not take as long as other methods to produce results, which can save huge amounts of time and money.
Secondly, they do not prescribe medication.
Thirdly, while research literature does indicate that although the treatment method applied is essentially irrelevant, some common factors are present when therapy is successful:

These factors are good rapport between therapist and client, and a belief by the therapist in what he or she does, and a belief by the client in the chosen method.

So, for people with depression (and other conditions), it makes good sense to work with a therapist with whom you have good rapport (by the way, quality NLP trained practitioners are experts at developing rapport so that effective changes can occur faster). Furthermore, if a person has, for example, a belief that a traditional approach such as CBT will not help them, that does not mean CBT is bad. It just means that this person would probably be better served by seeking out a therapist which uses methods that you are drawn towards. You with me?

Adam Szmerling
Counsellor hypnotherapist
Suite 4/75 Bay St
Brighton 3186
9530 6353

Disclaimer: This information is informative only and shouldn't be used to diagnose or treat and disease, ailment, or anything else.

Stop Excessive Sweating Video

2008-12-01T18:38:00.003Z

Well I have just put my first video onto YouTube. 'Stop Excessive Sweating' is the first of about sixty videos I have planned, eighteen of which are now ready to go online. Take a look - link here - Stop Excessive Sweating
Apparently, very few people like the way they look on video. I always thought I was much younger, and much more handsome.

Now I Know

The interesting thing about doing these videos was the similarity in the things I found myself saying each time. Yes, there are a range of specific 'techniques' to help people to get over their problems, but the one thing I found myself saying over and over was that the solution to the problem is nothing to do with the problem.

What I mean is that when you aim your neurology and your thinking at, in this case, being cool, calm and collected, when you stop worrying in advance about excessive sweating, the problem is miminised and often disappears. Whe you are worrying about sweating, fretting that you will sweat in ceratin places and at certain times, then you are more likely to.

Help To Stop Excessive Sweating

These self-fulfilling prophesies (worrying about the problem ahead of time) can be overcome. We can help to train people to stop worrying about sweating. But, more imporatntly, we can train people to start using their imagination to create the kind of future and the kind of life that they would like. Because the work is direct, it tends to be fast.

Scary Pictures

2008-11-26T20:12:00.000Z

The pictures we make in our heads can take us to some difficult places. Often when I'm working with my private clients I find it takes a while for them to 'get' the idea of altering their pictures (the submodalities). By making some key adjustments (making the pictures bigger, brighter, moving, perhaps with the client in the picture (associated) rather than watching themselves (disassociated) – and much more – all kinds of changes for the better can follow.

Anyway, see what you make of this description:

“I started sweating heavily. I started shaking. I felt myself losing control. I was petrified. Then came the pictures in my head, specific, enormous, terrifying images. Sometimes, with the covers pulled tightly over my head, I would try and hide from the thoughts, Then, sometimes out of bed, almost blind with fear, I tried to run from them. Sometimes, I would stand stock still and imagine I could fight the fear with my bare hands.”

(Marcus Trescothick writing in his autobiography 'Coming Back to Me' http://www.guardian.co.uk/sport/2008/nov/25/marcus-trescothick-autobiography)

I believe Marcus has seen a hypnotherapist as a part of his recovery. No doubt a key starting point was making those 'enormous, terrifying images' rather smaller.

Premature Ejaculation

2008-11-24T17:15:00.002Z

The Squeeze Technique is often recommended as a treatment for premature ejaculation. This technique involves suitable stimulation to the point of ejaculation before stopping, and squeezing the penis until arousal diminishes. This procedure is then repeated.

This frustrating affair is aimed at getting the man to learn how to control his arousal and gain control over his ejaculatory response. It involves an awful lot of masturbation (with, or without, a partner) and takes some time to work, if indeed it works at all.

There is a superior technique that is derived from certain yoga practices that is similar and much more effective. Essentially the man masturbates until the point just before orgasm and then stops. There is no squeezing.

He waits only until the physical need to orgasm subsides by deliberately relaxing the muscles involved in ejaculation. He then starts again to the point just before orgasm. This is repeated as much as possible during each experimental session. Often, in the early stages of experimentation, orgasm will follow a few seconds later in the absence of any ongoing stimulation. This is just fine and is part of the training. You see, the trick here is the begin to learn to separate the orgasm from the muscle contractions of ejaculation. So, if orgasm does occur, it is important not offer any further stimulation, but instead relax the penis and muscles in the perineum (that's the bit between testicles and anus).

At first, during early experiments the typical experience men have is that ejaculation occurs quickly. This is just fine as the response does take a bit of time to develop. Remember, the most important aspect is to relax those crucial muscles during the orgasm.

What starts to develop is the phenomena of the "dry orgasm" and the "multiple orgasm." With sufficient practice, the orgasm can occur with minimal, or even not at all, ejaculation. Invariably, the man will also begin to experience multiple "mini-orgasms" before a full orgasm accompanied by full ejaculation occurs. Even with what appears to be full ejaculation, the sensitisation response in the penis glans that usually prevents further stimulation may not develop and further orgasm with lesser ejaculation is often possible. Without this sensitisation response, the man may feel that whilst he has orgasmed but is not yet "spent".

This, gentlemen, is the aim, and puts you fully in control.

Over Excitability
In any given social group, the least emotionally responsive person who promotes the biggest emotional response from other people will be the most dominant person. Their position is, "I am not excitable. You are."

Meanwhile, the most emotionally responsive person who is least able to promote emotional responses in others will be the least dominant person in the group. Their position is, "I am emotionally excitable. You are not." (Unless they get the sympathy vote, of course).
Often, but by no means always, the person with PE will be the over-excitable one of the group.
Confidence

PE can rapidly affect a man's confidence, but also his level of confidence can rapidly affect his sexual performances. It is a vicious cycle and whilst the biological drive to have sex is ever present, the opportunity for sexual congress can fill him with dread, anxiety and fear.

A lot of confidence comes down to self identity and self-assurance. It is important to explore just how someone imagines themselves to be. Some men will imagine themselves as a sexual failure - and often they did so before they even had any form of sexual experience to prove otherwise. This will often stem from how they saw themselves when they were younger, their perceived place in the social hierarchy amongst their peers and families, and so on.

This place-in-the-social-hierarchy is an important area. In men with either premature ejaculation or psychogenic impotence (as opposed to impotence from a medical disorder) they often are having (or, not having) sex with someone that they view as being more socially dominant, or higher up the social hierarchy than themselves. When people feel intimidated by another person, they rarely perform well, regardless of the situation.

What Therapy Entails
As with any symptom that usually manifests in the body I want you to see a doctor first before any hypnotherapy and NLP sessions.

Any embarrassment at seeking help passes quickly, enabling the work to move onward. What I often examine are issues of identity, emotional control, clearing out mental and emotional baggage and how to gain greater control over your thinking and emotions. Now, it is important to know that you won't neceaasrily be magically cured of your PE - it might well take a bit of time and practice on your own before things start to noticably change. The aim of the session is to get you pointed in the right direction to put you firmly in control.

Steve Tromans adds: Thanks Andy, just put this short video up on YouTube, to watch it there click here Stop Premature Ejaculation

Slight of Mouth, Barack Obama's speech

2008-11-05T21:09:00.001Z

Look at the use of language patterns and persuasion in this piece it's

quite awesome!! You also need a very skilled person to deliver it

perfectly!

This is an excerpt from a speech by Senator Barack Obama - New Hampshire

Primary Tuesday, January 8th, 2008 Nashua, New Hampshire

Comments on the persuasive power of this are in (italics).

We've been asked to pause for a reality check. (This is an indirect

suggestion to "pause" i.e., to stop thinking or rationalizing) We've

been warned against offering the people of this nation false hope.

(:"We" implies a "you and me" thus uniting us. From our detached "pause"

we can look at the concept of false hope.)

But in the unlikely story that is America, ("unlikely" allows us to feel

unique and special as Americans, linking us to the myth of a people who

thrive against all odds) there has never been anything false about hope.

(This is a different use of the words "false" and "hope" and reframes

"false hope" in a new way) For when we have faced down impossible odds

(these impossible odds are unmentioned but assumed and affirms that we

are unique) ; when we've been told that we're not ready, or that we

shouldn't try, or that we can't, generations of Americans have responded

with a simple creed that sums up the spirit of a people.

Yes we can.

(A call to action but even more; a call to rebellion against those who

try to discourage us.)

It was a creed written into the founding documents that declared the

destiny of a nation.

(Evocation of "destiny"; that we are the central figures around whom

great things can occur.)

Yes we can.

It was whispered by slaves and abolitionists as they blazed a trail

toward freedom through the darkest of nights.

(Offering anecdotal evidence to support our rebellion against any

oppressor.)

Yes we can.

(Repetition. Hammer it into the mind and link it with powerful and

positive emotions.)

It was sung by immigrants as they struck out from distant shores and

pioneers who pushed westward against an unforgiving wilderness. (More

strong images of perseverance against security and reason.)

Yes we can.

It was the call of workers who organized; women who reached for the

ballot; a President who chose the moon as our new frontier; and a King

who took us to the mountaintop and pointed the way to the Promised Land.

(Wow! This one is POWERFUL! Without stating who the "King" is it

providing clues of "mountaintop" and "the Promised Land" and he allows

us to connect the dots on our own. This makes us to feel as if we have

knowledge of an inner secret.)

Yes we can to justice and equality. Yes we can to opportunity and

prosperity. Yes we can heal this nation. Yes we can repair this world.

Yes we can. (Powerful use of repetition.)

And so tomorrow, as we take this campaign South and West; (in itself

this brings people back to earth... to the reality of the campaign. This

would be bad if it were not for the preceding emotional high we've been

brought to) as we learn that the struggles of the textile worker in

Spartanburg are not so different than the plight of the dishwasher in

Las Vegas; that the hopes of the little girl who goes to a crumbling

school in Dillon are the same as the dreams of the boy who learns on the

streets of LA; (This creates the feeling of bonding between different

people. A feeling that we are not so different from one another.) we

will remember that there is something happening in America; that we are

not as divided as our politics suggests; that we are one people; we are

one nation; and together, (Providing three ways of saying "we are one

people" and thus clobbering us with repetition again) we will begin the

next great chapter in America's story with three words that will ring

from coast to coast; from sea to shining sea ("coast to coast; from sea

to shining sea" evokes patriotic memories of the song "God Bless

America" ... all without saying it explicitly!) – Yes. We. Can.

(Yes, we can! There is little more persuasive than a simple phrase

repeated and instilled with emotion. It is the same effect that

Martin Luther King with "I have a dream.")

Bulimia - A special focus

2008-11-01T00:44:00.005Z

Bulimia, A Clients Story

"I started feeling bad about myself as far back as I can remember. I know there was a time where I was just a happy little kid, but I can't remember what that felt like.

I can remember the first time I did it, it grossed me out, and yet when I'd vomited up all the Christmas dinner I'd had that night I remember saying to myself...."they are all too drunk to notice" Recently a person at work (I don't work now, I couldn’t get out of bed anymore and lost my job) said to me she was thinking of trying it. I said to her in a voice I didn't recognize "You don't want to go there". I felt a shutter going down my body and I knew I was in so far I couldn’t see my way out.

My body was swelling, it seemed heavier than ever, I couldn’t sleep, I didn’t want to shower because I’d have to touch my body, and I hated how it felt. I was in a physical form that was foreign to me. I hated myself, my family, my life and I couldn’t get it to stop.

I'd never done any drugs, or addictive substances so when I realized this "caught" feeling was an addiction, it not only surprised me, it scared me!

I was foggy in my thinking. I only thought about where, when, how to get free of others so I could. All my thoughts directed me to the images of me running through stores and grabbing food and stuffing my mouth until I was soon after purging! I didn’t care about throwing up anymore, I never felt full, I always felt empty, even the smallest amount of food inside me felt wrong.

After a while I got more focused on my process. Greater planning. I had a lot of stories running in the back ground of the images I was looking at. Mostly food, everything was big images, pizza's so big you could use them for magic carpets! Muffins the size of space ships...then I saw all the foods there, moving towards me as if they were enticing me to grab them ....

Sometimes my parents faces came in over the foods...but seeing my dads sad eyes or moms anger just drove me to get back to what I was happier to view. My next binge

As soon as I opened my exhausted eyes in the morning, the inner commentary began...and never in the way that guy on "What the Bleep Do we Know" would say of "how he liked to create his day," what a joke. My inner voices were reminding me instantly of the dreaded day ahead. Oh there was a little weak one there in the back ground...suggesting in a rather high pitch "maybe things will be better today", but I squashed that one so fast with the images of last nights binge, the smell of vomit still in my hair, the taste and feel of the acid in my mouth...and all I wanted was last nights left overs to fill the aching sinking feeling inside me.

I knew I was in trouble, I couldn't even think of the last real conversation I'd had with anyone, heck I couldn't even remember clearly the details of yesterday! My parents were so frustrated with me and so afraid of what I was doing and doing to myself, they started hiding food, watching me, like I was a caged animal, and yet I had no where else to go.

Taking the pills seemed a logical way out so I did. Waking up in the hospital and monitored for a week was heaven, I couldn't do anything, and food was monitored for me. Slowly I felt better, but at the end of the week they discharged me and I knew that last day all I was thinking about was where to get the food to binge again. It was my only thought. They set me up with a psychiatrist. It was ok however, talking about it over and over again just made me want to keep doing it and I did, I was right back into it and everyone was so angry with me.

It's like talking to an alcoholic about all his binges - all I could think of coming out of each session was where I was going to get the food. It helped a little...but the 45 minutes a week really I was still sinking back into my darkening world, and I knew it. They gave me medications, that just made my head even fuzzier and I felt almost numb.

My dad found JBW on the web site and suggested I check it out. I called, and then called back and finally decided to take a chance on Kathy because I honestly didn't know what else to do.

And I know today, you probably don't realize you've given me back my life and me and I'm so grateful! Thank you, from everything I am."

It works, NLP is brilliant at unpacking addictive behaviors and restoring "normal" quickly without reviewing the endless past looking for the culprit. Mothers often feel it's their fault, fathers are desperate, as the family slowly comes unraveled...so when they see the resultant changes their daughters (and yes, some sons), go through...there can sometimes be a little residual - "hey what happened here? I thought this was really hard for you to stop?"

Don't be fooled, it was about the hardest thing your daughter will do and when she does it for herself it becomes the cornerstone of her strength and personal power as she regains her life again.

NLP can offer up the solution, the transformation and the life skills to maintain herself the rest of her life, and that’s all we do for her…teach her how to do it for herself.

My program is a full eight sessions with three months following of support via Email, Phone & SKYPE to ensure she breaks forever with the inner addictive patterns and knows just how to help herself if life gets too overwhelming.

Kathy Welter Nichols.
Just Be Well-Team Canada

Steve Tromans writes: Thanks Kathy, I have just added this video to YouTube on how to cure bulimia - click here to watch on YouTube - Bulimia Cure

NLP Strategies for shifting corporate stress

2008-10-29T08:04:00.001Z

SOME TIPS FOR MANAGING STRESS DURING TIMES OF CHANGE:

NLP & Hypnosis can assist you with strategies for stress during times of great change. NLP is like the primary operating system a computer uses, only that computer is our brain. When we overtax it with stressors and we don’t provide for alternatives to help it maintain optimum processing functionality, we begin to use up brain cells. It’s like never turning the computer system off, things never “clear” completely. There are super easy ways to do this, and NLP offers strategies to help you create more of what you want while reducing the stress that you don't want.

So here’s the thing, what are the chances that this situation has been presented to you right now, so you could learn some new strategies about how you work and how you might learn to do things a little differently that might give you some different results?

Think about guys like The Donald…how does he manage 20 corporations and not lose all his hair? He’s got a winning strategy. How does any corporation grow beyond it’s owners and become something more than they ever envisioned? Strategy.

I learned about myself an amazing strategy, and it works for me in some things, but in other things it’s not been very helpful at all, so I changed the strategy for some things, while retaining the old one for the things it worked great with. At first it seemed a little mind bending as my mind wanted to use the old practiced strategy for everything, but then I saw the benefits and I started working more and more with the new strategy and wow, now I can see even the old strategy would work better and more consistently using the new one!

And it's just behaviors, just learned process's and what if there is a better way and what if you can know what that is and utilize it in your life quickly and effortlessly?

Life is easier than we think and often we think we have to work hard, play hard to get ahead…but as you look around there seems to be more and more guys like The Donald around; having fun, enjoying life and running a lot of business through his companies without an obvious amount of stress….why not do what they are doing?

Didn’t you learn systems at university? So what stops you from learning new things now?

Tips For Personal Stress Release:

Use one of our MP3's or CD's to go to sleep at night. You will sleep deeper and your brain will allow itself to reset during each night, instead of sleeping lightly and tossing and turning!

You should notice a difference within a few days.

Benefits: Sharper mind, clearer thinking, easier to process, less distractions, easier to focus, less errors, sharper timing….

Less stress response to daily small things and noticing rather quickly that even the big issues don’t really bother you as much

While doing two jobs at once, you will need to plan additional care for self:

**Key: What are you doing for yourself, every week? At least one time a week something just for you that you really love…

When was the last time you just spent a day in bed, reading, eating, sleeping a “down day” where you weren’t SICK at home?

When doing multiple jobs you will need extra rest, and sleeping is key, as it restores cells in the body – especially the brain - the MP3 will give you deeper sleep and this is really helpful however, you also need to do some things for yourself that help you feel like your life is not all WORK.

FUN – plan some fun that you like, not getting together with friends, but stuff you want to do, that takes NO WORK on your part - but just is fun for you. If you can’t think of anything, remember a time when you felt great, felt happy, felt lighter and full of happiness – what were you doing? Then do that. If it was on a holiday somewhere – then what were you doing when you felt great, replicate that at home. You don’t need location, you need the activity that makes you happy.

EXERCISE: when you are really busy this seems to be the first thing out the door, or left at the door. I’ll exercise when I have more time. And yet studies show in a critical time this can assist in many areas of bodily function to improve performance and mental power. It aids in breathing, and relaxation and allows for the release of endorphins (the feel good chemicals of the brain)

Take a look at Obama, he’s 24/7 on the trail right now and he’s exercising every moment he gets shooting hoops. Cardio is good for the brain as well as the heart. Don’t make it big exercise, or difficult to do, just like Obama, he’s exercising in between the speeches and the meetings, so maybe 20 minutes three times a day. – Walk the dog, jog around the block in the morning before you shower for work, walk around the block at work during lunch…. On a daily basis this will add up and you’ll start to have more energy, less difficulty breathing and less of a “weight sitting on your chest”. Watch guys like this they are amazing at managing their own strategies….and we can learn from them.

You can use the MP3 at work. Just close the door to your office and listen to it once or twice while at work Simple like that! This will improve your performance at work tremendously, and it feels great! You’ll be clearer in meetings and more focused when working.

Don’t Multi Task A new and very relevant KEY to brain function!

We used to be proud of our ability to multi task, however, they have discovered now, the short function/focus of multi tasking causes long term focus problems and issues with completing tasks and projects. That feeling of “what was I doing?” is a result of having too many balls in the air at one time. Start something, finish it. Then start something else and finish it through. Avoid trying to do several things at once. It burns brain cells and the other way creates them, and strengthens synaptic connections… who knew?

KEY to good business and market planning is to diversify. Same for a person running a company(ies)

Diversify = delegate. As you delegate you add time to your life, and add life to your time! Set up delegations that work, so people are accountable to you and you are not chasing them. This is good training for raising kids too, just as an aside - Teach accountability, I think it’s going to be a new buzz word in business right away! As you teach accountability monitor your own too!

These are starters and I know as you read them you’ll be saying to yourself “darn I knew this, of course, this is right, oh sure I know this one too”Just get started one day at a time, and realize that you can do it all, just not all in the same moment!

Add Leverage: Your wife and family need you, your unborn children and yet to be imagined grand children need you. And I know that’s all too far in the distance so think of it this way:

Your company and the people that work there have placed a lot of faith in you, they also believe that faith in you will mean that when you are asked to do difficult tasks and attend to the details of their bottom line as the company grows, expands and develops you will have the good sense and strong character to know during these times you have to invest in your own physical & mental health and take care of it so you can continue to be there for them and not keel over. Hiring top people also means you know they will be able to manage stress in their lives as well as use their solid brain & training to figure out the moves that will keep the company in solid growth.

If nothing else, know that your employers have that kind of faith in you, and get after off loading the stressors you so you can give them the qualities they hired in you.

And these tips just might save your life too!

Kathy & Harry Nichols, provide one on one sessions for men & women in business today facing the challenges and developing new strategies that are both helpful and resourceful. They are part of the successful team of professionals at Just Be Well Global!

"Magic in Practice" is pure Magic in Birth!

2008-10-28T02:18:00.004Z

I help women have babies, using NLP and Hypnosis.... And the results are incredible whether birthing at home, in hospitals, water birth or in taxi's... birth is possible without the drama and lamenting we've seen over the past decades!

Magic in Practice, the book by Garner Thomson and Dr. Khan is a gift! I was astounded that birthing "professionals" had no idea about rapport building, or suggestibility in a birthing mother. They had no knowledge of Fractionation and that the labouring mother has indeed established herself in a very deep self induced hypnotic trance through the labouring process. That bright lights, constant interruptions of the mother interrupt this delicate chemical balance in her.

From Dave Elman's text on Hypnosis, his incredible chapter on preparing for Labour & Birth is really all any mother needs to her from her care provider and she'll have a great birth! In fact, Elman quotes his stats from the 1960's as being 90% of cases using hypnosis and trance were experiencing little to no discomfort during birth!

I go a little further, my line up is:

Healthy Baby, Mom labouring for an average of 7 hours, baby and mom bonding during the entire labour and birth, easily attaching and breast feeding, and the finale: In tack Perineum!

Using NLP and Hypnosis I uncover these deep structures and assist a woman out of alignment and out of rapport with TV, MEDIA & negative priming of the medical model, so mothers come to believe in their body, themselves and their baby and have established clear pattern interruptions for those that would dissuade them otherwise. I detail visually and kinesthetically the experiences they will have and add to it, auditory affirmations that guide the woman every step of the way, with a volume selection she has control of.

Accessing their own deeper structure I draw on personal strengths, illicit the areas of fear that are truly irrelevant to their individual births, because they have not happened to them yet! I teach them how to move out of rapport with anything that does not fit their inner image of that calm and peaceful birth. As care providers we call all learn this process, because it’s just positive priming! We’re doing it anyway and understanding the resultant effect of negative priming versus positive priming is what my program is all about.

Based on the work of Richard Bandler & John Grinder who asked a simple question that pointed us all in a different direction:

Instead of "what's going terribly wrong here" they asked "how can we achieve excellence?"

That's what I did within the Birthing Model. I stopped asking what was going terribly wrong and started looking for Magic in Birth!

Very soon thereafter it showed up! Magical Birth! Can you believe it? In 2008 and we have the skills, the inner neurology and the DNA within women to achieve magical birth!

I asked my mothers to stop looking at the "fear packets" out there. I taught them how to move themselves out of rapport with anything that would offer this kind of negative priming during the pregnancy or birth. I asked them to practice relaxation and breathing, and taught both parents about Mirror Neurons and then we had fun with connecting to baby prior to the birth to ensure perfect positioning during labour and birth. ..every time!

I started them thinking and looking at what it might be like if they breathed through the birth, visioning their infant gently making its way into the world. If they held a constant inner dialog of "this is working perfectly" and smiling through each long deep breath focusing on becoming a .....

MOTHER!!!! ????

Wait a minute, maybe that's what's really causing the stress loads here! And sure enough it was, when birthing the woman cannot see herself as the mother of the infant that is about to enter her world!

The Maiden enters her metaphorical birthing pool never to be the same again! Her psyche recognizes the time as initiation, and her dreams show her a landscape of imagery that can be both vivid and real. She is about to change ...forever, as is her own mother and her own grandmother and the line shifts as far back as we can see.

Joseph Campbell (The power of Myth) suggested "Wherever something is coming in, look at what is GOING OUT"

We know the infant is soon to arrive, and is coming in and often that is enough to distract the medical teams from the real work....because this is not what's really going on... this is not the question we apply to the mother....what's going out in her? The maiden is going out, motherhood is coming in....she is about to give birth to herself as a mother.

She is no longer, never again, not this lifetime, the maiden...oh she could be married, but she now has a different role in this world, and no matter how many babies she has, every time she enters the birthing pool, she faces herself again. Often second time moms are struggling with the new infant coming in, and the time lost for the older child. It's underlying theme is still the woman is again about to give birth to herself as the mother of this new child.

“However it remains a choice point and when the brain bi-passes the prefrontal cortex, the reasoning part, and shoots directly to the ancient brain, the flight or flight hormones often take over our choices for us. Then it needs more than reason, and it takes about 1 hour to reabsorb the catecholamine through the system. That’s a long time during labour, often too long and our choices are removed for us.

Michel Odent, the famous French OB said:

“Pay attention to the injustices and cruelties done to an infant at birth by society and you are witness the values of the society itself.”

We are now entering a new phase in humanity. At a very deep core level we all get this….be kinder to each other. Death is an illusion, so is separation and abandonment, however, we continue to feed ourselves regular installments that reinforce our addictions to negative priming

Kathy Welter-Nichols,
Author: MY BIRTH My Way NLP: As a birth model for change....releasing 2009

NLP : A Birth Model for Change

2008-10-28T02:07:00.003Z

NLP: A Birth Model for Change -

WEBINAR at www.consciouswoman.org hear the latest and greatest on the results for 2008 births using this methodology and parents ecstatic about the results and their experience!

Next presentation December 2008

www.consciouswoman.org and sign up now for this upcoming webinar:

Here what others are saying about the webinar:

"Great to hear Kathy, wonderful" Heather from Australia

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"This was easier than I thought, and so terrific to be connected to people all over the world! It's awesome". SJ

Get The Life You Want

2008-10-13T15:52:00.007+01:00

It has been a while since Richard Bandler had a book published so I was looking forward to getting my hands on 'Get The Life You Want'.

Now many books by Bandler are based on transcripts of seminars, think 'Using Your Brain' or 'Frogs Into Princes', both co-authored by John Grinder. Either that or they are the early 'Magic In Action' books, hard to read (in my opinion), and not much fun.

So What's This Book All About?

It's divided into sections, with the text written (or probably spoken, by the way it reads), and each section is aimed at dealing with a specific human 'issue', like, say, 'interview nerves'. Then typically there is a submodailty style exercise for you to do to integrate the 'trancey' words of the man himself.

The Exercises

Now some people will find the exercises easy, and some people will find them less easy, and they take a fair bit of practice in any event so my advice is this. If you find them easy then go ahead and do them, If you don't then find an NLP Practitioner who is comfortable enough with them and capable enough to be your guide.

Play

For goodness sake play with the exercises, treat them as a game, for as Bandler once said, 'what happens when people take things seriously is they end up taking things seriously'.

Or Just Read The Book And Ignore The Exercises

That's what I did. I just read it, and then read it again. I spoke to a couple of NLP trainers who said they thought that it was all a bit too basic but firstly this book is aimed at the general public, and secondly, the hypnotic language that RB uses throughout the text is far from basic. It may look straightforward, and is ever so easy to read, but it's far from 'basic'

Will It Sell?

'Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming' is not a nice snappy title like 'I Can Make You Rich', so it probably won't sell as many copies. Which is a shame, because although there's nothing wrong with Paul McKenna's books, 'Get The Life You Want' is so much better.

In my opinion

Stop Panic Attacks: Hypnotherapy For Panic Attacks

2008-08-08T21:27:00.001+01:00

To view on YouTube go here Help To Stop Panic Attacks

Over the last dozen years or so I have seen countess people to get them to stop panic attacks, and as I look back in my mind it’s a question of which stories to share with you.

Panic Attacks And The Businessman

The first that comes to mind was a very high-powered businessman who ran scores of companies (literally) and was in charge of operations whose combined annual turnover was well into the billions. This man had had some kind of virus which had brought on (so the doctors had later told him) shortness of breath, sweating and so forth. When this man experienced those symptoms in a meeting he worried about them (powerfully, he always thought powerfully), thereby making the symptoms worse (shortness of breath, tight chest, dizziness) and within minutes he had collapsed with what everyone thought of at the time as a heart attack.

Panic Attacks Can Sometimes Seem Like Heart Attacks

So an arsenal of super-qualified medics put him through batteries of tests and let him know, to his relief, that he hadn’t had a heart attack, he had had a panic attack.

The Fear Didn’t Go Away

Unfortunately, the knowledge that it wasn’t a heart attack didn’t help him. ‘What if I have another panic attack’ was the thought, and the idea of having a panic attack, the fear of having one, went round and round in his mind. He was OK, he discovered, if he was in familiar situations with people he knew. He was not OK, he found, when he had to go to meetings with people he didn’t know.

Which was, in the main, his job.

That and going out onto the trading floor as the ‘corporate figurehead’ were things he had rapidly learned to dread.

Control And Program The Imagination To Stop Panic Attacks

Panic attacks almost always involve an overblown imagination, or thinking in a very big way, and as I said, he was a powerful thinker, so when he applied his large imagination to the idea of panicking, he was able to produce a substantial amount of adrenalin and fear.

So it was just a question of giving him a sense of perspective, literally getting him to shrink down and distance the thoughts of panic until they didn’t trouble him. It took me two or three hours to do this. Which is not as quick as Richard Bandler sorted a young lady who lived in constant panic for a good reason – she had been on the bus that had been blown to bits on 7/7. For a short article on this by Richard have a look at this - www.happinessmagazine.co.uk - you have to sign up for the first issue but it doesn’t cost anything.

For more information on how I work with people to get them to stop panic attacks go here – Hypnotherapy To Stop Panic Attacks

Debbie Williams, NLP Trainer and part of the JustBeWell.com network, has just released a combined NLP and hypnotherapy recording set – Stop Panic Attacks and you can get this on this website and also here Stop Panic Attacks, from the USA based online shop www.selfhelprecordings.com - the recordings carry a sixty day guarantee,

Stop Compulsive Lying: Hypnotherapy For Lying

2008-08-06T09:15:00.001+01:00

Stop Lying: Hypnotherapy And NLP Can Really Help You

To view this on YouTube go here Stop Compulsive Lying

One of the most damaging of all personal habits is that of compulsive lying, and through the years I have seen a large number of people who have, to use their own words ‘ruined their lives’ through persistent and often outrageous lying.

Everyone Lies

Well, OK, probably not everyone. Many people, however, will have told a so-called ‘white lie’ once in a while. I myself have occasionally been guilty of telling someone on the phone that my wife is ‘in the bath’, or out shopping, to avoid her having to speak to someone that, at the moment, she didn’t want to speak to. I am not perfect. Who is?

Two Types Of Compulsive Lying

The first ‘type’ of compulsive lying is that kind where someone exaggerates their ‘achievements’. So someone might, for example, make up stories of all of the glamorous places they have visited, people they have met, illnesses they have had, cars they have owned etc etc etc. Usually, of course, this is done from a desire to be accepted, or to be liked or admired and usually, of course, the person gets found out eventually and end up being much less liked and much less admired.

Compulsive Lying To Prevent Bad Feelings

In a ‘clinical’ setting, the most common sort of compulsive lying we get to deal with is that of the person who makes up a lie, often ‘on the spot’, to stop the other person thinking badly of them. Then they have to tell bigger and bigger lies to cover up the first lie and it all spirals out of control.

Compulsive Lying Is A Habit

A bad habit it can be, I’ll grant you. It is still a habit though, and habits can be changed. Hypnotherapy and NLP are brimming with techniques to help people to change habits, to get them out of the automated old responses. In this case, the mind can be trained to ‘automatically’ feel comfortable telling the truth.

Hypnotherapy Can Help People To Stop Lying

If you are one of those people who has suffered from the habit of compulsive lying, because it does usually involve suffering, or if you are the partner of someone who has lied to you time after time, then you need to realise that it is possible for you to change, and the treatments is often very quick and very effective. For further information on how we treat this issue go here Stop Compulsive Lying

Self Hypnosis To Help You To Stop Compulsive Lying

For whatever reason, some of you may not be able to visit a hypnotherapist or NLP trainer for help with this problem. If this is you then you may well find assistance by listening to a good self hypnosis recording. Debbie Williams has just released a new suite of hypnosis and NLP recordings to help and they are available here Stop Lying Self Hypnosis and here Help Stop Lying. They come with a full sixty day guarantee. They are very good, but if you do buy them please make sure you listen repeatedly for best effect..

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