Acuity PUA

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2009-02-12T18:10:00.001-06:00

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Outing Outline

2009-02-08T20:36:00.007-06:00

It's occurred to me that maybe my style of practicing game isn't all that efficient for getting better. My typical sarging outings are very unstructured and mostly just depends on how many sets I feel like approaching. Listening to Brad P's advice, I've decided to implement a "goal" for every time I go out, which follows:

Approaches: 10 sets (variable)
Warmups: 3 sets
Blowouts: 2-3 sets
Attracted: 3-5 sets

From those 3-5 attracted sets, I will get numbers from the ones whose logistics are bad and try to SNL the ones who have good logistics. In day game I'll insta-date the attracted sets with good logistics and perhaps meet up the same night for clubbing or hookah.

If I do ten sets and I don't at least have 3 warmups, 2 blowouts, and 3 attracted, I'll keep doing more until I do. But logically there's really no reason for that to happen although, as you can see from my current sets done to #close ratio, I can stand to improve a lot in this area.

This weekend didn't go entirely according to plan, although I'm fairly happy with it. Last night a friend got us kicked out of Lizard Lounge literally within the first ten minutes after entering because he was too horny for underage drinks. Today (Sunday) I didn't have the car to go do day game so there goes that plan. Total tally for this weekend was like 20 sets and 4 number closes (one of which was a sub-30 second stop-and-go from the car). I'll be doing some dates on Tues and Thurs of next week, with more sarging practice on Valentine's weekend as well.

I believe my momentum is back. Hardcore sarging time is here once more. Starting in March I'm going to put myself on a 30-day plan again, much like last October when I think I saw the most tangible improvement to my game. Anyone who cares to is welcome to join me.

Day Game Blowouts!

2009-02-07T15:26:00.006-06:00

Went to Northpark today and got blown out for 5 out of 5 sets! 4 of them were direct openers like usual, 1 of them was an on-the-spot opinion opener delivered with FAR too much energy. I think I'm approaching with club-level intensity which is kind of freaking the poor daytime girls out.

There was this one absolutely stunning blonde girl who I opened directly while she was walking. I think I was even a little bit AFC about it, because I was actually really taken aback by how good she looked. She smiled, said thank you, then walked off. Soft blowout, but DAMN she was fine.

Nevertheless I accomplished my objective, which was to open any girl that I want to meet and not let any sets pass by without at least saying hi. I'll keep working on this throughout this month and maybe it'll be more habitual.

I'm feeling myself get back into the love of game! It's really a huge thrill and the unpredictability just makes it better. More practice tonight at Lizard Lounge.

Negative Conditioning

2009-02-07T01:49:00.012-06:00

There's something I've been thinking about over the past few days.

Back when I played piano, my teacher would always tell me that it wasn't enough to get something right just once. This is because, although you've practiced it right one time, you've practiced it wrong many more times before you got it right. The idea was that you had to offset the times that you got it wrong in order to really improve - and not just get it right once.

Transfer that idea to pickup and, specifically, approaching. For every girl you approach that you see, of course your approach anxiety goes down as you train yourself to approach attractive girls whenever you want to meet them. However, every time you don't approach an attractive girl or a group of attractive girls when you want to, you're actually negatively conditioning yourself to hesitate whenever you want to approach. In other words, you're actually strengthening approach anxiety and making it worse when you want to approach but don't.

In order not to waste your hard-earned approaches, be sure that every single time you decide you would like to meet a girl or a group of girls, that you at least go up to them and say "Hi", if nothing else. Wing it from there if necessary. I must do this in day game tomorrow - even if I get blown out 20 times saying "hi" and don't get a single close, I will still be happy if I manage to do it to every single attractive girl I realistically want to meet. I will write a report afterwards to report on whether I've accomplished this. We'll see!

I'm almost past this threshold, I can feel it. Just one final spurt of effort and I'll be at the next stage.

February Beginnings

2009-02-05T09:18:00.016-06:00

I've recently been wrapped up in a book I'm writing which will be finished and released online by mid-February. It has to do with Asian American men and their unique challenges in the Western dating world. I've matched some specific community principles with the special upbringing, attitude, and culture of Asian American guys in a book designed to relieve Asian men from the sometimes unbearable pain of sexual poverty and social obscurity. Why is it that there's a bigger ratio of beta Asian guys than beta white, black, or Hispanic guys? I aim to correct that injustice with this book.

I've also joined Muay Thai which is kicking my ass three days a week. I have sore muscles that I didn't even know existed.

However, I'm starting to get in the rhythm of juggling my activities and still having free time left over. When using my time effectively I continually surprise myself with what I can get done given legitimate time constraints. It makes me jealously regret the luxury of time I had in the past that I'd wasted playing computer games.

In any case I've still been somewhat neglecting my sarging duties and associated biological imperatives. This weekend is fairly open as things go, so I'm going to give myself a jump-starting jolt of sarging goodness. Once I'm past the momentum threshold it's easy to keep going. Here's the plan:

Thursday (tonight): 7pm Day Game until 9pm when mall closes. 9pm-10:00pm Identity Exercises at home. Start driving to Purgatory at 10:00, come back at 1:00-2:00 AM. Solo if necessary, although I think Solace is being Date Auctioned there... haha.

Friday: Clubbing from 11:00PM. Will either go to Karma Lounge with friends or Lizard Lounge solo. Lizard Lounge is great for practicing game, but I imagine Karma Lounge would be better for actually gaming. I only recently discovered Friday night is college night at Karma and I'm itching to go, but I don't want to go to an unknown and social-circle-heavy venue alone. Sue me.

Saturday: Day game from 1PM. Solo Lizard Lounge club game at 11:00PM. Usually I wouldn't go out 3 nights in a row to high-energy clubs, but I will force myself to this weekend to get my momentum back.

Sunday: Day game from 1PM.

I aim to accumulate around 40 solid club game sets and 20 solid day game sets. After this weekend I will also be following the sarging schedule on the sidebar. See you in the field.

Direct Direct Game

2009-01-24T16:07:00.024-06:00

I went out with some friends yesterday to a hookah place just to chill, hang out - sarging wasn't even on my mind. Nevertheless, whenever I push my comfort zone I'm pretty happy about it and so I'm going to write about it.

There was this fine exotic-looking waitress there wearing this hot mini-top and tight jeans. I have no idea what her nationality was, but it looks like a cross between Russian, Middle Eastern, and Asian. I ended up going super-direct, something which I almost never do and have never had work, ever. For example:

Her: "Hey guys, how's are you doing?"
Me: "Woa! Better now that you're here! You're cute... get over here."
...
Her: *puts on a sweater*
Me: "Hmm... you know what? You probably should take that off again or else I'm leaving.
...
*she fixes our hookah*
Me: Woa, how'd you do that?
Her: Magic fingers...!
Me: I'd like to see that sometime.

Et cetera. Pretty stupid stuff, but she was laughing and going along with it and having a good time. Sure, it might just be because she wanted a fatter tip, but she hung around our table quite a bit more than others and gave me a lot of, um, IOIs. (It was interesting to watch, too, because the other girl with us was obviously uncomfortable when the waitress was at our table.) Yes, so she Indicated her Interest to me in many different ways. Which was awesome because I never knew that such a direct style could work so well.

I put it down to this:

1. It takes some balls to say that kind of stuff to a really attractive girl, and she probably doesn't get that too often.
2. I was non-needy even when I was delivering such direct lines. I think this is key. If you come off as creepy or needy when you go direct it will most certainly not end well. If you're just having fun, though, and calling it like you see it, it seems fine.
3. I was still leading the interaction and, in retrospect, making liberal use of push/pull. I wouldn't focus on her all the time. Instead I'd usually be chatting with my friends even when she was hanging out with us at the table.
4. I am pretty good at banter and wickedly awesome in general.

In the end, it's kind of like returning to cocky and funny. You take what you want, but you don't need it and you're certainly not going to chase around after it.

It was fun doing truly direct game and it kind of gave me a brainsplosion as well. You can do ANYTHING and have it work, as long as you believe in what you're doing and you respect yourself.

Lizard Lounge Saturday

2009-01-19T17:13:00.002-06:00

I went to Lizard Lounge on Saturday night with Zen. I was pretty tired, but it was still pretty fun. Usually I try to set goals for myself, such as "I'll open 10 sets today" or "I'll approach any cute girl I see", but I only set one goal for myself Saturday: approach someone within the first minute of getting into the place. I did so, and although that first set I ejected far too early even though they were somewhat receptive, it got me out of my head. The first set is always the hardest.

I never had too much luck in Lizard Lounge (it's the only place I can go on certain days) partly because I'm not into the whole rave/jumping up and down/vapid ADD drug girl scene. Also, it's really fucking loud in there, louder than the other nightclubs I usually go to. You can literally feel your eardrums rattling around... it's scary.

Saturday was fairly good, though, especially considering my recent regress. My approach anxiety was pretty well managed. I got my first number in what seems like forever, and my confidence in my game is pretty much restored. Funny thing is, I used boring situational opinion openers, and they still worked.

I think I'm still focusing too much on the opener. After all, it's just starting off a conversation. I know I accidentally insulted two of my sets on the opener because I was trying to tease them too much, which just came off as really mean. They're just people, interact with them like people, and that doesn't mean insulting them for the purpose of "being different". Just feel good and flow!

Anyways, I'll be splitting my time between sarging and assorted other life activities. Too much stuff to do, too little time! Will post thoughts after sarge outings.

Fuck!

2009-01-13T22:06:00.004-06:00

It's harder than I thought it would be to get back into game. I always mean to go out every day but then another obligation comes up. Or I "am too tired from work". Or I "just don't feel like it". Or, in the case of a Asian HB8.5 that I just for some reason could not approach at the mall, "I'm just not feelin' it right now". Fuck!

Fuck hard or easy. Fuck "not feeling like it". Fuck the fact that there's no girls at work. Fuck poker, fuck DJing, fuck flash games, fuck writing and reading, fuck fiddling on Facebook waiting for a "notification" or reading a fucked up love note. Fuck reading about marketing, time management, 4 day workweeks. Fuck my eagle necklace that I can't find!

After all, what really matters in life? Can one be fulfilled solely with monetary success, good work ethic, influence, and contribution? Can a man ever be truly happy about his life without full control over his love? No way! Fuck me in the ass if I'm going to go down living with a mediocre or even slightly above average life with women. No matter how successful I may or may not be at other parts of life, I'm NEVER going to feel completely fulfilled knowing that I had failed to achieve the genetic imperative stamped within the reptilian instincts of each and every red-blooded sane man walking the earth: Fuck hot girls, and fuck as many of them as possible.

It's mostly about the chicks, of course. I like sex, I like hot chicks, and I like when they meet. But even more than that, it's a challenge for myself. Fail this challenge and all of a sudden I'm giving up on things that I've already set my mind on? Fuck that! I've already declared I'm going to be great with women. I will be and will do whatever it takes to get there no matter how long it takes.

Let's think about the options I have.

On one hand I could achieve a life with plentiful quality sex, where I am the selector and I have a few to choose from. I constantly meet new girls without too much effort and I can feel satisfied with my dating life. As such, I can focus my full energies towards my many other projects and contributions to the world. After a few years this decadent life of flagrant carnal ecstacy gives way to meeting a woman whom I feel I can spend the rest of my life with. I may or may not choose to, but the fact remains that this is my choice and that I control my life and my decisions. Of course I will have my ups and downs, but at least I retain the ability in any situation to walk away and find other high-quality women to sample. Even better, my entrepreneurial career is unhindered by relationship-induced emotional tilt and I'm free to focus my full creative energies on how to grow my business rather than control my girl. I reach my mid-40s fully secure in myself, satisfied with my dating life, expanding as a person, and succeeding professionally. I may or may not be married, although I probably will be by 40, but it'll all be on my terms. If I do have a wife and kids, they'll be the focus of my life because I'll have already gotten the rest of life out of the way with no regrets. I'm not chasing tail because I'm a winner at life, and not too many people can claim that.

On the other hand, though, I could continue down my road of mild improvement with women, until my lack of breakthrough success causes me to decide that I'd much rather focus my energy on business, hobbies, or work because it'd be more effective there. I succeed as an entrepreneur and meet a few girls along the way at clubs and malls. It's alright, but I'm always looking for more action because I'm not quite satisfied with my lackluster love life that consists of shagging 6s and 7s and the occasional gold-digging 8. This causes my professional focus to waver and I'm not able to achieve as much as I would be able to. When I hit 30 I find a pretty girl who I think I'm in love with, and as such my emotional balance is thrown askew and my career focus is even more shaken. I eventually get married with this decent girl whos vag nonetheless gets old, with whom I raise a nice family who I am fairly proud of. I continuously struggle between focusing on my business and focusing on my new family, and at some point find that I must sacrifice my own personal ambitions for the good of my kids and wife. We still have enough money, but although we are living comfortably, seeing my white picket fence for the 200th time eventually forces myself to ask the question I had put off for a dozen years: "What if I wasn't mediocre?"

I'm not judging - an average, comfortable life is great. But fuck me if I'm going into life with all the advantages that have been given to me, including supportive parents, intelligence, ambition, and an strong will, and NOT making the absolute best of it that I can just because I expected to improve much faster than I did. Maybe I don't learn as fast as I thought.

The second scenario turns into the first with just a little more work. You always feel like quitting the most when you're almost there.

I end this now. We all know how important it is to handle this part of your life, no matter what your professional ambitions. Probably one of the hardest things to do in the world is to change yourself. If you fail to do this, you take the easy route but relinquish control of your life to circumstances and chance. If you succeed, you can truly feel proud of yourself because deep inside you know who's in control of your life: YOU.

Approach Anxiety Revisits

2009-01-09T15:42:00.008-06:00

So yesterday I went to Purgatory after not seriously gaming for a while. For some reason, I had a BALLS-load of approach anxiety and didn't have too much fun. I only did 4 sets, 1 of which was a complete blowout, 2 partial blowouts, and 1 went okay except eventually the bouncer fucked me up. More on that in a sec.

I don't know what it is. Before that 2-week-long flu I had, I would have almost zero approach anxiety in most cases. Although I would still pass up some pretty eligible sets now and again, I would still have balls big enough to cold approach 8-sets, squeeze in with girls without being asked, and start talking to girls other guys were afraid of. Now I feel like a complete chode for lack of practice.

Part of the process, I guess. Regression, progression.

What I've determined is that most of the time my attract game is pretty solid with girls who I'm already "in" with, i.e. a date or hangout or even just meeting them from social circle. In fact, I don't really think about playing game with them, I'm just my usual self and it works because I'm a badass. The problem is with cold approaches I think I telegraph way too much interest in the beginning ever since I decided to go exclusively direct in club game.

Having said that, I'm never going back to bullshit indirect night game again, because I know direct works. I've done it successfully before, many times. I'm just not getting the spark back right now.

Although it was pretty cool yesterday. There was some sort of secluded tent-place set up alongside the dance floor with a rope blocking out the entrance. It all looked real fancy and exclusive or some shit. There were two pretty cute girls smoking hookah inside. I accidentally made direct eye contact with one of them while looking at the tent and so was pretty much obligated to go up there. Chatted a bit, then ducked under the rope and sat down with them in the tent. One of them clearly wasn't interested but the other one was pretty cool with it. Chatted for a while, but then bouncer comes and is like "who the fuck are you!" I'm like... "Casanova?" He snarls and kicks me out. Damn. It was pretty fun anyways.

My other obligations are wrapping up, so after this weekend I will be able to focus all-out on cold approaching again. As I stated before, my objective until March of this year is to get to the point where I am capable of approaching any set I choose, or at least not let fear get in the way of my desires. There'll be an action plan by this weekend that I'll follow through to the end of February.

I'm not sure how my day game is going to hold up, since I haven't done that in a while either. I'll see tomorrow.

New Year, New Game

2009-01-02T08:33:00.001-06:00

It's the start of a new year! Looking back to January 1st, 2008, I'm a completely different person now - I'm more motivated and more secure in myself as a whole. Since starting to actively sarge a few months ago, I've accumulated around 360 sets, and these helped me enormously in self-confidence. Because of this I've begun to realize that truly learning how to become a naturally attractive man consists purely of changing yourself; that lines, techniques, and gimmicks are only designed are only crutches, where true mastery comes from a complete change in yourself as a person.

My goals for pickup in this year is clear: By New Year's next year when I turn 21, I plan to have my pick of the litter in women. In other words, I'm planning on working my ass off on it until I'm satisfied that, if I stayed that skill level with women my entire life, I'd be happy.

I kick off the new year with a renewed interest in my own approach anxiety. Now, some people say that approach anxiety goes away after set 300. I've passed that milestone and no, it absolutely does not go away. There are many times in both club game and day game that I just completely freeze up and don't approach, and I'll admit this. I'll say that it really isn't "approach anxiety" at this point anymore, but rather more like "approach reluctance". In other words, although I don't get a physiological reaction to the thought of approaching anymore (sweating, sinking stomach, tenseness, flushing), I still have certain psychological barriers that sometime prevent me from approaching.

I've been trying to adopt the "I see it, I want it, I'll take it" mindset with regards to life in general. I think pickup is a good place to start applying this philosophy, but it does require balls. Therefore it'll be my overriding goal for the months of January and February to completely adopt this mindset when opening women: if I see her and I find her attractive, I'll have no qualms about opening her barring extreme circumstances. I plan to have 200 more sets in by the end of February.

I'll leave the other stuff for March and beyond, seeing as how it's easier to improve if you open more sets, and it's easier to open more sets if you're not afraid of doing it, and you become less afraid of doing sets the less afraid you are of doing it. Yeah. Rock on!!

FR: Day Game and Psychedelic Lizards

2008-12-22T21:29:00.021-06:00

This weekend was a nice little bonding experience with Zen. We went and did some shopping and day game, admittedly in that order. We also hit up Lizard Lounge for a Darude appearance (the guy who did Sandstorm and like, nothing else). Historically Lizard Lounge has been a dry venue for me but it was actually pretty fun this time.

OK, so day game. As always when day gaming with a wing it's much easier than going solo. I still have to do my solo shit soon. Anyways, this marked the first time that I started out completely out of state and still managed myself to get back into it. I open with the most random shit now, and it usually works. Whenever I do my direct openers it always opens without being weird or awkward or anything too. Whatever, I'm still not perfectly comfortable approaching girls in the day, as much as I would love to believe I am. I need more experience in this area and I'll continue pursuing this aspect of game. No closes but a good experience to get back into the game.

There was also a pretty fucking funny encounter with another PUA type at a cafe. My friend had previously told me a story where he met a "PUA-in-training" (his words) at the same cafe. But get this: he was wearing a FACEMASK as a peacock item. Like the type you see surgeons wear. As if he had SARS or some shit. When I heard the story I was like, what the fuck.... Anyways, so me and the same friend (Zen actually) are lounging around when he points to a guy behind me and says "Dude... remember that story about the facemask PUA? THERE HE IS!!"

I get all excited and turn around and find he's with some girl. We're pretty bored, so I go up to them, wink at the girl, look the dude square in the eye, and ask "Hey guys, quick question... so who do you think lies more, guys or girls?" The guy immediately screws up his face and points at me and is like "NO! PUA. You can't do that... this is my cousin!!! You're totally a PUA." I laugh and his cousin of course doesn't know what's going on. I ask her if she knows what a PUA is... the guy gets kind of quiet. After all, it takes one to know one. I could imagine how I would feel if someone I was really close to knew a part about me that I didn't want them to know, so I didn't spill the beans on him, it'd be a pretty dick thing to do. Then of course when I told him that I was looking for his reaction for my own amusement instead of trying to pick up his cousin per se, he of course thought I was trying to "befriend the obstacle". Whatever. I should have used the line "Who lies more, David Bowie or my jealous ex-girlfriend?" That would have been fucking awesome.

It makes me wonder, how many other pickup artists have I come across in regular life who I did not know was a pickup artist? I can say one thing for sure though. Every single one of the guys who are good with girls that I've met outside of the community... are naturals. I'm pretty sure not a single one of them are PUAs, which may tell us something about the community and its "attrition rate". For every 1 true player in the community, there's about 100 wannabes and 1000 dropouts.

Anyways, Lizard Lounge was pretty fun. Everyone was on something, but Zen and I stayed sober and hit on all the high ADD girls on X. Fun times. It's the first time I actually truly had fun at Lizard Lounge. The environment is so fast-paced that it's great practice for being physically dominant, directing, and getting comfortable with your body. Lizard Lounge could probably be one of the easiest place to pull with the right kind of game. I did like 10 sets at LL.

Yes, I've been not achieving my goals and I'm not happy about that. I think I kind of ran out of steam after my last two month's super-sarging marathon. Being sick for two weeks really took the wind out of me, I guess. Anyways, I'll still be going out sarging and making goals to achieve. I also have been looking frantically and unsuccessfully for my phone. I'd prefer finding it to buying a new one because it means I will lose contact with almost every "gamed" girl, which sucks, and also the replacement costs $500. I may just have to bite the bullet.

More hardcore marathon-style sarging to come after New Years. Got a lot of family-related stuff to do until then so won't be hardcore sarging, although I may still go out here and there. Later.

FR: Purgatory

2008-12-19T08:17:00.123-06:00

I did my first 7 sets for the month at Purgatory and feel pretty good about it. My 2-week break turned out to do more good than harm because it flushed all the random shit that was caught up in my head and enabled me to start with a clean mind and fresh outlook on my game. I feel less approach anxiety now than I did even two weeks ago which might be due to either my good state or the outcome independence brought about by the lack of a phone - I couldn't get a number even if I tried to, so I just didn't care about trying.

I would have done more sets if I had not gone with two friends and some social circle. That's one thing about going with a social circle group that I have mixed feelings about: while it's a lot more fun than going alone, it's also a lot less productive in terms of getting pure cold approach practice. It acts as an easily accessible comfort zone when one gets tired of the uncertainty of approaching random strangers. That being said, I'm still content with my performance after a few weeks' absence.

There was this ug who brought me all the way across the room to the bar to buy me some sort of 10 dollar drink except then "discovered" she didn't have enough cash and wanted me to pay for both of them. What a prodigious ho-bag of enormous magnitude! I basically just walked off and the bartender got all pissed because she already made the drinks. Too bad, shit happens - especially to ugs.

Other sets here and there with varying results. I have become much less outcome dependant and I truthfully don't get much approach anxiety in many situations anymore, especially when I'm in-state. (That being said, in tougher situations like closed-off mixed sets I still do get pretty bad AA.) I'm also much more spontaneous and I can come up with random shit off the top of my head. To improve, however, I need to be both more persistent and escalate sooner, i.e. take her to the dance floor sooner.

As a person I'm becoming more outcome independant in general. I've been consistently saying random bullshit both for my own amusement and just to see how chicks will take it. It's quite fun and, dude, I've discovered that it simply doesn't matter what you say as long as you appear perfectly congruent and comfortable with it. You can pretty much get away with anything, including pretty fucked up stuff.

It is also now so much easier to adopt and display a cocky-funny and asshole-ish persona because of my increasing comfort in both sets and regular social situations. It's true that in order to use tools like cocky-funny or push-pull effectively, one has to possess at least a modicum of social comfort and situational savvy. This may be why cocky-funny came hard to me before - you can't credibly accuse a girl of wanting your body if all you're thinking about is how not to screw this set up. It's also imperative to really become the character you're representing, i.e. a cool dominant guy who feels free to communicate on his own terms. In my case I've always been a natural pseudo-alpha, previously only amongst guy friends and more recently just in general, so it's not too far of a leap. Anyways, tonight even amongst the social circle I was more arrogant than usual and broke rapport with the girls probably more than necessary. I said some pretty fucked up shit and was really entertained for most of the night. Hey, I've been secluded for 2 weeks from contact with any human being except for my parents, so might as well come back in with a bang. Also I'm back in the mindset that pretty much all the girls whom I talk to within my social circle feel hopeless attraction for me because I'm such a badass alpha. I'm sure this is rational and perfectly healthy.

In life, though, there's a fine line between alpha and asshole, and God knows I've already crossed that line before. I don't care if I'm an asshole to girls sometimes, but I will be careful not to degenerate into a general all-around douchebag with an inflated ego and no game to back it up. I despise people like that until they get their shit together, if they ever do. After all, modesty is a virtue... as long as it's rooted in supreme inner confidence.

I'm back with a vengeance and going hardcore again. I have a bunch of non-related stuff I need to complete this weekend, but here's the weekend sarging schedule:

Friday (today): day game at Northpark mall. Lil Wayne concert at night with friends for fun not sarging, but may get some sets in anyways.
Saturday: Day game at Northpark and/or other places. Clubbing at The Mansion? Lizard Lounge? with Zen whom I totally know, like, IRL!
Sunday: (Solo?) day game.

I'm going for 20 night game sets (not including tonight) and 25 day game sets, and 7 day game numbers. I'm not gonna bother with numbers in night game, but I'll take a little sheet of paper and a pen with me out to the mall because I'm cool like that. Fuck technology.

Reinitiation Plan

2008-12-17T12:06:00.006-06:00

I've been MIA for the past two weeks due to a pretty severe flu. This is completely gone now.

I lost a bunch of momentum over my absence. Two weeks ago I could go on practicing sarging forever, but now I'm feeling lethargic and loathe to get out of the house. Time to change that!

Short term plan:

Tonight (Wednesday) I'm going to turn my house inside out to find my phone. If I still can't find it after that, I'm going to the Apple store tomorrow to get a replacement, which is a shitty $500. Hell, I need my phone to sarge, meet up with friends, and have some semblance of a social life, so dropping $500 on that is better than dropping it on... something else?

I think I will also play some Chrono Trigger on my SNES emulator... don't hate, it's one of the better games I've played.

Thursday night will be a Purgatory night and my first night sarging for more than two weeks. Hopefully I'll have a phone by then, but even if I do I'm not expecting anything - I'll just go in and talk to a bunch of people and have some fun.

Friday night I'm going to the Mansion to see Lil Wayne. There will probably be some hot sluttage there. I'm pretty sure both my friends that are going are gonna wear scarves Wayne-style though, so I may be at a horribly crippling disadvantage in slut-attracting.

Saturday and Sunday will mark the return of my day game goals. Since some friends are back from college I might go with them to the mall if they're up for it. As long as they actually approach, ahem. If they don't wanna I'll either call up some other wings or go solo like I planned to before I got sick. I might do something Saturday night, depends on how I'm feeling.

My goal for Purgatory on Thursday will simply to get back to where I was in terms of comfort with approaching and comfort in-set. I'll plan 20 sets that night. Afterwards we'll resume the regularly scheduled sticking point focus in both day game and night game. On a side note, during my absence from sarging, I found some really good porn, but it just doesn't compare to the real thing. TMI?

Me > Flu

2008-12-09T09:28:00.004-06:00

Damn sickness is finally winding down. My throat still feels like I've been fellating a curling iron, but at least everything else is okay. I'll probably be resuming sarging this weekend after not having talked to a single girl for about a week and a half.

I've just watched some of that show Californication. The Hank Moody guy is pretty rad. He has some sort of aura about him - almost like whatever happens, he can handle it. He's unshaken by any circumstance. He cares nothing about what others think and just does and says whatever the fuck he wants all the time. It's an interesting character to model.

Okay, more FRs to come. I'm thinking that a 2-week break from PU after months of nonstop sarging was probably a good thing, now it's full steam ahead again.

Sickness Strikes

2008-12-03T18:50:00.002-06:00

I am sick and I feel like puking. Yesterday I slept for 12 hours and today I plan on sleeping for another 12. This week is now officially a rest week. Our regularly scheduled sarging will resume next week.

A break is probably good for me anyways. Ciao.

P.S. I have a new mid-term objective. By June of next year, get 1000 approaches in. Following the current trend of 100+ approaches a month, this shouldn't be a terribly big deal. Unless I'm sick the entire time.

FR: First Day Game Direct NC

2008-11-30T18:44:00.091-06:00

I just went out to the mall with Skepsis. We/I did about 5 sets, all of which went pretty decently. My vibe was really, really off, but I still had a fairly good day. Letting Skepsis open the first few sets got me out of my funk pretty quick.

I got my first direct day game number close off of a cute girl who was reading a book in a store. Tall, blond, slender, round blue eyes. I actually wouldn't have noticed her if Skepsis didn't point her out, and I'm glad he did. Rolled up with the usual "you're pretty cute" direct opener... she was like "ok..." and we went from there. I just talked more and mixed some cold reads in which actually fit pretty well because she was reading the Zodiac. Easy teasing and qualification, i.e. "are you actually caring like this book says you are? Name two things that you did this month that was caring," etc... it was fun. She guessed that I was 25 years old, I guessed that she was 23... and we both turned out to be 19, haha. Easy number close, we'll see how this one goes.

Skepsis also got his first direct open in on a moving one-set. It went really well especially for his first one. She had to run but seemed really happy about the fact he approached and told her she was cute. His vibe and body language is great. We did a few other indirect sets here and there, including a mixed set of two pretty fine Mexican chicks who didn't look Mexican. We got cockblocked by their tiny little sister who pulled them away, but otherwise I'm sure we could have continued on pretty well. Dot dot dot.

So, not bad. One thing though is that I have huge issues with state. Before Skepsis arrived and for a little bit afterwards, my state was shit and I couldn't open a thing. I am terrible at solo day game because my state is usually pretty bad when I go into a mall for the specific purpose of picking up girls. So I'm not going to passively wonder why this is or try to figure out the "reason" for it, but instead I'm going to take this next week to get this handled once and for all.

Here are the rules and goals:
1. I'm going to do 20 day game approaches by myself this week. SOLO.
2. I'm going to at least do 2 every day, with the exception of Tuesday because I have prior commitments then. EDIT: also excepting Monday because I have to work until very, very late.
3. They do not have to be direct unless it's a 1-set. Then I must go in direct.

By the end of this week I should have a much improved ability to handle solo day game. I know I've been bad about achieving my weekly goals so far, but what can I say? Setting high goals for myself and then only achieving half is better than setting them low and then achieving them easily. But I should be able to handle 20 day game sets in 5 days solo... it's not that many.

OK - off to play on the turntables. More coming this week.

The Bigger Picture?

2008-11-30T13:17:00.101-06:00

I've been slacking off in writing these field reports because in all my free time in front of the computer I've either been on the turntables or reading. I've finished The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand and it was thought-provoking in a way that novels usually aren't. I may come back to it later and reread it, but it was more of an intellectual kind of book that had little practical meaning to me right now. But I just started reading Richard Branson's autobiography and the first five chapters immediately made a huge immediate impression on me, even in the realm of learning pickup and seduction.

I can't be stuck at this phase forever. I'm not planning to be a great pickup artist, instructor, or guru. By the time I'm 21 I am planning to have this part of my life handled, to have a choice when it comes to women and be able to get what I want in this area of my life. That's all - I have no need to be a guy who specializes in picking up women for the sake of picking up women, or a guru who instructs others in picking up women. I'm not condemning the path for others, I just know that it's not for me.

I do know that learning pickup and seduction is a great character builder and a good challenge for yourself. It's actually less about learning how to handle women than learning how to learn, and how to push your own comfort zone. Both of these are necessary when expanding yourself as a person.

However, reading about Richard Branson has reminded me that there's a much bigger picture involved than just learning about seduction and how to get girls. Dude, it's natural and normal to be able to pick up girls in clubs, or to get one night stands, or to get multiple girlfriends. It's not something to be extremely proud of - this is all stuff that naturals like Branson do without batting an eye. It's all too obvious that he's treating random sex with hotties as a natural occurrence rather than something to be exalted and venerated. In the meantime he's focusing on other ambitions and getting in-field experience in life, which naturally leads im to be good at it.

So I'm giving myself until age 21 to get this part of life handled until it becomes natural to me too. I'm going to do whatever it takes, spend whatever money, and take whatever time is necessary to get this skillset under control, perhaps learning something about myself along the way. This gives me a bit over one year. After that time, this blog will shut down and I will retire from the community regardless of my skill level. I'm not going to strive for perfection in a craft that wasn't meant to be an end in itself. I've wasted 10 years of my life with video games; I won't waste the next 10 years with the pointless pursuit of self-validation from women. I need to exercise my ambition and actually make a difference in the world.

Anyways, back to earth. Did about 25-30 sets this week counting both day game and night game, so I'll count it as 27. Nope, didn't reach the objective. However, I can say that I'm becoming a lot less outcome dependant and far more comfortable when in-set. (I seem to be repeating this statement every week, which I guess is a good sign.) I also am becoming more naturally attractive even when not trying - attraction is no longer the exception.

I've noticed that I consider any day a success if I've managed to go outside my comfort zone for that day. I've recently been doing this less, and so I'm feeling less satisfaction and feeling less progress. Pushing your comfort zone is essential to succeed, and I will consciously do so as much as possible in the future.

My biggest outer game sticking point is premature ejection. I can open fine, but I eject a lot. Off the top of my head, I know Skepsis is great about sticking in-set and I'd love to have his persistence, although I think I can approach more readily than him. In any case, rock on bro.

Okay... more practice for me. Will go out later today for some day game. Posting FR later.

Blast from the Past!

2008-11-25T14:39:00.030-06:00

I was re-reading random old shit from my own blog. Dude, I've improved a LOT even though I may not feel it on a day-to-day basis. I remember my mindset as I wrote some of those posts, and believe me, right now I am unbelievably awesome compared to back then.

I just read this post in which I wrote I wanted to pass 300 sets in four months in order to get rid of approach anxiety. That was on July 19th, 2008 - almost EXACTLY four months ago. Since July 19th, 2008 I've done 304 sets... funny how that works out! Looks like I've accomplished my goal, and let me tell you, those 304 sets have literally changed me as a person. Unbelievable. I wonder how I will be at set 1000? (Maybe I'll randomly read this post at set 1000 and be like pssh, what a noob I was back then!)

Unfortunately I was wrong, approach anxiety has not gone away at set 300. Well maybe it has! I don't get a freezing up, psychologically fearful sensation when confronted with the notion of approaching a girl anymore. Instead, it's more like a mild risk-aversion instinct that can be quashed pretty easily, unless I am in some sort of really bad state. I remember months ago my approach anxiety was to the point where I literally sometimes could not approach, which is never the case right now. Also, now I feel very natural while in-set, whereas before I always felt on the spot and nervous, even though I'd never admit it.

So, yeah, I accomplished the objective that I'd set 4 months ago for myself. What's next? Maybe actually getting some action from cold approaches? :D Let's do it!

FR: "Twilight" Day Game

2008-11-24T23:05:00.000-06:00

Thank you, Stephanie Meyer.

I went to Stonebriar directly after work today in plain non-designer jeans and a plain black dress shirt. I planned to do a little bit of solo action but eventually Skepsis joined me, which was very welcome. Did 6 sets, no number closes.

I'm working on direct day game right now but today I still mostly did an indirect opener, although it's one I made up on the spot. It involves Stephanie Meyer's Twilight series (they just came out with the first movie) and I think I'm a lot more congruent with it because I'm using my own material instead of rehashing someone else's. It's not a great opener by any means, but it opened 100% today, which is all an indirect opener should do.

I did a couple of indirect sets before Skepsis arrived just to warm up. One involved a mom which I am proud of, because I am scared of moms. I actually also read a bit of Twilight while milling around in Barnes and Noble, and it was interesting how differently it was written than what I'm used to. For example, where a male author would write in his adventure book "Edward looked at me," fuckin Stephanie Meyer has to write literally a full page of flowery description and feelings in place of that simple subject-verb sentence. I'm not exaggerating - it's like what physically happens in the book is only secondary; the main parts are the feelings associated with the events. Welcome to chick porn, right? I was actually kinda into it ;)

I can't open sets nearly as well solo as I can with a wing. Anyways, Skepsis finally arrives and I do Twilight on a two-set of younger girls sitting in the food court. I'm mainly opening them just for experience, because they're way too young for me even though one's hot. Maybe if we're lucky they're 15-17 and they'd be old enough for Skepsis. It goes smoothly, I open without thinking about it, we both have good body language, young girls are easy as hell to open, we transition and sit down and start teasing, they give IOIs and toss their hair, etc. I like the girl sitting next to me, she's pretty hot, but she's jailbait, or a tidal wave as they say in California. (Ride it and have some fun, but in the end you're fucked.) So we're just talking with a few natural routines sprinkled in here and there. Skepsis gets up and tries to get the other girl to teach him how to tap dance, and I do my "age-guessing" routine on my girl. I guess 17, which is a good qualifying age to guess, and she bursts out laughing. "He thinks I'm 17!!!" Well, they're obviously not older than that, so Skepsis and I leave pretty much right afterwards. It would have been an easy number close, but no thanks.

I open up a standing set that's more my age with Twilight. They blast open. It's almost as if the ones who have read Twilight are too eager to share that it's a great book (and of course every girl around my age has heard of it). There's a dude there but he almost doesn't say a word the entire time. Very passive guy. I call the hot girl a vampire because she has dark eyes. We chat for a while and eventually I prematurely eject even though they were pretty into the conversation. I could just as easily have bounced the whole group to sit down somewhere "for a couple of minutes because I'm tired" as ejected, so I don't know why I did that. Oh well - more social courage next time around!

Opened a lone girl with direct opener "Hey I know this is random, but you're pretty cute and I wanted to come meet you. I'm Acuity." Soft blowout, but I feel good like I do whenever I open direct. Besides, she seemed distracted. Her loss!

Opened a two-set with Skepsis using Twilight again. They opened up at first but eventually there was some sort of awkward silence, which pretty much ended the conversation. I usually don't run out of stuff to talk about these days but I guess something was weird. They weren't too into it from the beginning unlike the other sets anyways.

That's pretty much it. I can say that Skepsis was really chill today and awesome in the sets even though he had a cold and had like 100 gummy vitamins swimming around inside. His body language and chill vibe is excellent. We're getting back to the mall tomorrow and I'm bringing my voice recorder and video camera.

I'm planning on going direct for any lone wolves I see, but I'm still going to go indirect for the groups and the mixed sets this week. Maybe later I'll do direct for groups too. So here's the goal count for this week starting with Monday and ending with next Sunday:

Goals for this week:
Day Game:
6/30 approaches
0/5 numbers

Night Game:
0/20 direct approaches

There's not as much night game this week because Thursday (Thanksgiving) I probably won't be going out. Also my faith in my night game has been shaken and I need to get back to the basics. Day game is starting to become fun though :)

I'm gonna achieve the goal this week...! I gots to! Just dance!

FR: Weekend report

2008-11-23T02:57:00.017-06:00

ORIGINAL POST (3am Sunday morning):

FR: Stuff
I'm pretty tipsy right now and I almost died from riding my bike back. I'm horny as fuck because booty call flaked. Good day game today, pretty terrible club game but it's okay because I went out with friends. Two of the friends that I just met today started making out and they're both chicks. Yeahhhhh huh some fuckin black gay guy tried to hit on me today. Fuck I want some pussy I need to get to the point where I can pull ass whenever I'm real horny like right now

Uhhhh

I think I did like
10 night game sets
6 day game sets
Dude my goal has not been achieved which is gay fuck
but I forgot what it was
time to sleep

Fuckin X on my hand is pissing me off

SOBER REPORT (2pm Sunday):

I had some to drink last night with a few friends apparently. I decided to give myself a break and so I had my first night of drinking semi-heavily for a few months. Now I remember why I stopped drinking a lot, I'll get to that later.

I forgot that I wrote a post last night! But I get on, check my blog, and there it is. I've included the original post above without any modification. Did I really almost die on my motorcycle? Why the fuck did I ride my bike?!? I do kind of remember riding the bike home and not feeling that abnormal about it, but that's fucking dangerous and not smart at all.

Anyways, what really happened is last night (Saturday) I went out to the club with a few friends, one of whom I just met, and the others save one were just in my social circle and not really close friends. Went to a club and I did my usual thing opening sets. I got blown out every way imaginable. Girls were just walking out on me all over the place. What the fuck? Why are these nights happening more and more? I was doing better a month ago.

I do like 10 sets and am like "fuck it" before I resign and just start grinding with the two girls they brought. We eventually bounce to a bar and some of us get shitfaced. The two girls are closet bisexuals and start making out and shit. My friend makes out with one of them. In my stupor I halfheartedly think about doing the same, but then decide it's probably not a good idea.

That's pretty much the entire night. I wasn't really too drunk, just like pushing the borderline between being drunk and tipsy. I can remember most of what happened last night although it is pretty hazy. I remember being real annoyed at the big fat X on my hand and furiously trying to scrub it off with water at home because I didn't have soap. I also remember being hornier than sin and pissed off like a motherfucker because I didn't hook any sets or get any action. I didn't feel like watching porn or beating it so I just went to sleep pissed off hahaha. Man. Gotta improve my game.

Today also reminds me of why I stopped drinking. Whenever I drink, the next day I feel a bit unmotivated, depressed, and antisocial. Right now I'm a little discouraged because this night game plateau is really fucking retarded... I'm not just staying at the same level but I'm actually regressing to not being able to hook sets anymore! My day game is getting a LOT better though... I'm having pretty cool interactions and it's a lot more chill than club game. I think it might be that I'm calibrating my energy levels for day game now and trying to use the same lower-key energy level in club game which doesn't work. Tune up the energy for club game and tone it down for day game.

I may go out for some more day game today, but it's already impossible for me to make my goal for the weekend. In fact I didn't even come close and actually this weekend was probably my worst weekend in terms of sarging in a month! That's some fucked up shit! Well, there's always next week. Same goal next week, except I'm modifying my schedule so that I'm sarging every day of the week instead of taking Monday and Tuesday off. Fuck relaxing!

Goals for this weekend (fuck!):

Day Game:
9/20 direct approaches
0/3 direct numbers

Night Game:
17/50 direct approaches
0/5 direct numbers
0/1 makeout

FR: Recorded Day Game and Solo Club Game

2008-11-21T08:36:00.278-06:00

I did 3 direct day game approaches today and about 7 club game sets.

Day game was very informative. I was with Just/Us. Although I didn't do any video, I did record my two longer sets with a hidden microphone and got a world of feedback. OK, so I quite literally cringed when I heard myself for the first time in-set. Apparently...

1. I sound VERY GAY when opening. After talking for a while though, I revert back to normal talking voice. It is pretty funny because you can almost hear the progression back into heterosexual tonality.
2. I talk WAY too fast in the beginning. It makes me sound hyper and nervous.
3. I talk too fast in general in sets, period.
4. I say "like" way too much, although this is more of a bad speech pattern than anything.
5. TOO high-energy. I think I need to scale back the energy level a bit especially in day game. My ideal should be relaxed, social, and happy, instead of hyper. Energetic is okay, spastic is not.

No wonder the direct day game isn't working as well as it should be! I need to calm the fuck down! If I were a girl and I had a guy come up to me the same way as I recorded myself going up to them, I wouldn't like me either. (Wtf.) Despite this, I still had two sets that went pretty well.

The opener I used today was "Hey, this is pretty random, but I have a rule that whenever I see cute girl(s) I have to talk to her(them). So hi! I'm Acuity..." I like that opener because 1. It's true and extremely honest, 2. it's scalable to groups of girls. I think this is going to be my new default day game opener. To switch things up I'll use the "Hey, I know this is random, but you're pretty cute and I had to come see what you're like" opener on girls who are alone or hired guns working in stores.

In the first set I willingly ejected after 5 minutes because the girl wasn't as cute as I thought she was. It was good warmup. The second approach was a moving 1-set and a major blowout - she probably had some serious shit going on at the time, haha! Me and Just/Us then saw this two-set of CRAZY FINE girls. I HAD to talk to them... Because I have this thing right now with honesty in sarging (I'm sure it'll pass ;) ) I was going to test out just how brutally honesty I could be by saying something like "Okay so I just saw you two from over there and I had to come talk to you because you're both REALLY fucking hot. (Are you nice too? Cold read bla bla you both look like bad girls, shit on their faces actually I don't know if I could hang out with you guys, etc)." So I tried to catch up by running after them but they elude me by sneakily ducking into an escalator. Lame!!

The third set was very interesting. Although after hearing myself I swore I sounded like I only had one testicle and slowly grew another one, the conversation itself was great. Zero awkward silences, good vibe, IOIs, she was asking lots of questions and talking a lot, etc. Even though I got literally every single mini cold read wrong. Oh yeah, good body language and GREAT eye contact - I'm getting so much better at this. You can just feel the sparks fly with good eye contact. It lasted like 15 minutes. I attempted to number close but she didn't go for it, which really stymied me at first until I heard the audio. (Yes, I really sound that bad.) I wonder what the girls think when I have non-needy body language, good eye contact, use push/pull, but sound like a fucking queen and then try to get their number? Talk about sending mixed signals, haha!

I'm going to listen over the recordings again tonight when I get home to find out anywhere else that I went wrong. and will probably do some more recorded day game today as well. I need to work on rooting the number so I have a reason to ask and also to reduce flakes.

I considered posting the audio footage up here but decided against it so homosexual men don't masturbate to my effeminate voice. If you want to hear how gay I sounded today either come wing me or I can show you the audio in person.

As for night game, it was honestly hard getting back into the vibe after a few days of not doing any sets so I guess my club game reflected that. I had an unusual amount of approach anxiety in the club and was definitely not in the zone. Although I tried hard to break out of my funk in the club several times I was ultimately unsuccessful. It re-enforced the importance of getting into state early on in the night instead of trying to playing it slow and taking it easy. I also want to work on being more outcome-independent and relaxed instead of being tense and reaction-seeking.

I think the bad night was caused by a combination of:
1. First time solo gaming in about 3 weeks.
2. Increased expectations and standards for myself, thus causing myself to freak out when unexpected approach anxiety hits
3. Inability to get in-state as easily because my comfort zone has expanded

No sweat, tonight and tomorrow night will be better for sure. I just gotta remember to be outcome independent, get into a social state early by doing 3 warm up sets ASAP, and have fun no matter what happens.

I'm also forgetting a lot of attraction stuff in both day game and night game. The ones I'm making use of right now are:
1. Extreme ballsiness, which usually gets me good initial reactions but won't be able to carry the interaction
2. My looks, which are beautiful
3. Actually, thinking about it, that's pretty much it. I may do a little push pull here and there but nothing to sneeze at.

The ones that I gotta remember to use:
1. Hardcore qualification questions after hook point. BE THE PRIZE.
2. More hardcore push-pull. Emotional ride, anyone?
3. Just be the motherfucking badass. Don't be reaction seeking and do what you want not what you think will get you the girl. If you do anything with authority people will usually accept it. Basically take initial ballsiness, mix it with outcome independence and a rock-solid frame, and extend it throughout the entire interaction.

Let's see how tonight pans out. I still don't know what I'm going to be doing but I'll figure it out!

Goals for this weekend:

Day Game:
3/20 direct approaches
0/3 direct numbers

Night Game:
7/50 direct approaches
0/5 direct numbers
0/1 makeout

Weekly Analysis

2008-11-19T13:56:00.010-06:00

Things I'm doing right:
1. Significantly decreased approach anxiety and higher level of confidence
2. More ballsiness
3. High energy, decent body language, good vibe upon approach
4. Decently outcome independent.

To improve this week:
1. Isolating/escalating after initial set and staying in-set for a longer time.
2. More attraction - push/pull and disqualification after initial hook.
3. Comfort vibing in isolation -> Club makeouts?

Focuses this week:
1. Night game - more attraction and transition to comfort.
2. Day game - More practice doing direct day game.

For the coming weekend my goals are:
- 20 day game sets with direct openers, 3 day game direct numbers
- 50 night game sets, 1 night game k-close, 5 solid night game isolates/number-closes

Tonight I have prior arrangements so I won't be able to go out and do day game as planned. Thursday (tomorrow) I'm going to make up for it with doing day game until it's time for Purgatory. I'll be using the audio recorder and, if I go with a wing, video camera. Friday night will be a generic club night with non-community friends. I need to figure out what's good on Friday nights.

Saturday night will be another club night. I already know what's going down on Saturday night so I'm all set. I'll also be doing day game on Saturday. Sunday will be another day game day. Between those three day game sessions I should have 20 day game sets under my belt and some pretty good audio/video for analysis.

Reading Books

2008-11-18T11:18:00.022-06:00

I'm going to read one (non-community) book a week. If this becomes too much to keep up I will scale back to 1 book every two weeks. I used to be a voracious reader but in recent years I've seriously neglected reading for some reason.

The most successful people I know read a lot of books. I think it's not just what the book contains that's beneficial, it's the unique worldview and open mind that you get when constantly being exposed to new ideas and new thoughts. Although I may read a few fiction classics, I will mostly focus on non-fiction works. If I feel strongly about a book I may post about it.

I've always wanted to read Ayn Rand so I've already ordered The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged from Amazon, they get here on Thursday. I'll start off with The Fountainhead and next week I'll do Atlas Shrugged. In the future I will get to Tim Ferris's 4-hour Workweek, Richard Dawkins's Selfish Gene and The God Delusion, Obama's Audacity of Hope, and some other books that I've heard great things about. Clinton? Krishnamurti? The Bible? I'm also going to reread Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill and Rich Dad Poor Dad by that Asian dude Kiyosaki. Maybe even some community classics like Art of Seduction, Red Queen, and Sperm Wars if I am so inclined. Oh, and also books about online marketing, business, and entrepreneurship of course. Any good suggestions on those?

I am also going to be reading some textbooks. That's right. I'm not in college anymore so I'm at a huge disadvantage when it comes to professional education, but I'll be damned if everyone's gonna be going around the business world talking about things I don't understand. The main things I'll focus on first is accounting because I'll need to know that for my job soon. I think I still have my old UT accounting book, I'll dig it up and start cracking.

I already am pretty strapped for time, but I think a lot of my time is actually being wasted instead of used effectively. For example, when I get home sometimes I just put on the earphones and get on AIM. Hours can sometimes pass this way. Although it's not usually as bad on the weekdays, on weekends I tend to slack off a LOT - just sitting upstairs playing random flash games or listening to music, chatting on IM, and checking Facebook or Dallas Lair literally every 30 seconds. I might as well sit there, listen to music, and open up a book.

Every Monday/Tuesday, when I write my weekly progress report to myself, I'll also include whether I've read my book for the week and a few short thoughts on it to keep myself accountable.

EDIT: Going to keep a list here of books I'm interested in eventually reading so I don't forget any.

~ Losing My Virginity - Sir Richard Branson
~ Pride and Prejudice - Jane Austen
~ Twilight - Stephanie Meyer... yes I know I know stfu already
~ How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
~ The Definitive Book of body Language - Allan and Barbara Pease
~ A Confederacy of Dunces - John Toole
~ The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida
~ Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets To Success, One Relationship at a Time - Keith Ferrazzi
~ Freakonomics - Levitt/Dubner
~ Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
~ Tipping Point - Malcolm Gladwell
~ Blink - Malcolm Gladwell
~ Sex God Method - Rob Bell
~ My Secret Garden - Nancy Friday
~ Choke - Chuck Palahniuk
~ Fight Club - Chuck Palahniuk

Video Cam + Audio Recorder = Good Times Ahead

2008-11-17T19:54:00.009-06:00

I purchased, with my fantastic Amazon Prime membership, two rather amazing items and received them via discreet brown-box UPS packaging today. I immediately hoard them into my room like a fat kid with Halloween candies, and proceed to rip off the packaging in much the same way. I feast my eyes on what lies before me.

Flip video recorder! Voice recorder and discreet mic that I can tape to my chest! The ultimate way to calibrate in-set is to watch from an outside perspective, so this will be fun. When I go out solo I'll have the audio recorder, when I go out with wings we can take turns manning the flip video camera.

I made a Youtube channel that I intend to post these videos on. I haven't yet decided if I'm going to edit out my face, the girls' face, or both. That would be odd. Maybe I won't even post them in public and will only share them with myself and my closer friends/wings until I'm ready to post them up.

Anyways, yeah. Expect some audio at least in the future!

FR: Direct Day Game

2008-11-16T17:47:00.149-06:00

I went to the mall with Just/Us and Skepsis today with the intention of practicing direct day game, something that I've never found success with in the past. I can think of only 3 other day game sets that I've done direct and they all ended pretty badly.

I am ruined from using opinion openers forever. Unless I do it perfectly and make up all sorts of pretense, it always seems really contrived. I'm found that I'm much more comfortable and congruent just going up to someone and start talking in night game. I also get MUCH better reactions when they know I have the balls to just roll up and start talking instead of resorting to a safe "opinion" question as a pretext to talk to them. A funny Austin story Zen told me yesterday about a mutual friend of ours further reinforced this belief. I'm now very comfortable with opening directly in night game but, to be perfectly honest, day game direct was a scary concept for me. It's something I wanted to work on today.

So anyways, we get there and I gotta eat something cuz I'm a fatty. Me and JU meet up with skepsis at the food court and I start eating stuff and we chat. Skepsis has changed since I met him a few weeks ago. Maybe it was just because he was tired, but it almost seemed like he read a little bit too much material about "alpha male" behavior between then and now. With certain people you get a really positive energy when around them, with some people you get a neutral vibe, and with others you get a negative vibe. It was the latter for him today. Hopefully this is just a temporary development (I went through the cocky god-complex phase for about a year! Actually, I was about his age) because he definitely seems like a chill dude when he's not trying so hard to explicitly dominate every interaction and be "cooler than thou".

Enough about that, onto the sets! Lots of jailbait everywhere but I tried to avoid that. I opened a cute Asian girl standing outside of a store with "hey, this may be random but you're pretty cute and i just wanted to come see what you're like". It didn't go too well. I stuck in there for like 2 minutes but then she was like "hey, my mom's standing right there" so I eject. On the initial approach it didn't really seem like she was all that happy to see me. I think my body language is tight enough but I'm coming in too low-energy.

Skepsis opens a two-set right before he leaves and I don't hear what happens but he ejects. As me and JU are walking around we notice that the exact same two-set are walking 50 feet behind us. I thought it'd be funny if I went up and used the exact same line as skepsis, so I did. I was right. It was pretty funny - their faces were like "what is going on!! why do all these guys want to ask us about clothing stores!!" before I was like "Yeah, just kidding, he was our friend, I just wanted to see how you'd react." It went pretty well for a few minutes, lots of IOIs, but then I called them lesbian and they got real embarrassed and jetted. Weird! They probably actually were lesbian, nothing else makes sense. The exact wording I used was "oh so you're one of THOSE, huh?" which in retrospect is kind of mean if they're actually gay. Lame.

Third set was a hired gun who was alone inside of some sunglasses place. I decide to be more high energy when going in with my direct opener, and it actually worked out really well. She was a cute Persian girl who looked and acted older than she really was. I was like, "hey, I'm not here to buy anything, but you're pretty cute and I just wanted to see if you're nice too." She was like "of course I am!!" Although I still need to calibrate my day game direct opening more, at least this one opened without her becoming all weird about it. We chatted for like 10 minutes and I eject without attempting to number-close. I don't know why. It should be easier to attempt to number close with direct game, wtf! Somehow it didn't feel right though, so I just left on a high note, having made some progress in my day game objectives. Next time I'll stay longer and plow! Also, this time I didn't try any attraction material, I was just vibing and talking off the moment. Next time I'll focus on stronger sexual eye contact, sexual state, and qualification statements.

Those are the only sets I did today. It was pretty dead at the mall. For some reason I have a lot of anxiety about opening in front of moms. Maybe it's because my mom is such an alpha female that I'm projecting it on all the other moms, I don't know. The only thing I do know is that even the meekest-looking moms scare the shit out of me. I have issues, huh? Hahaha...!

My approach anxiety is significantly decreased now even during the daytime. It's true what they say about just needing to get in a bunch of sets - becoming comfortable with opening in clubs naturally led to me becoming more comfortable in day game as well. I have no sticking point analysis for today, because I think all I need to improve my direct day game is to deliver my direct opener better and do it more often.