tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6272246.post-18719458850971232302007-04-12T01:40:00.000-07:002007-09-03T18:53:33.348-07:00The Beware List represents my lifetime experience of how people behave if they're evil, sociopathic, manipulators or major depressives, especially when they're about to screw you; folks like these follow very consistent patterns, so if you pay attention, and don't discount the warnings out of misguided loyalty, you can stop them cold. This post contains the latest installment of the list; to read entries 1-70, see my posts of 5-31-06, 7-6-06, 8-31-06, 10-6-06, 11-19-06, 1-10-07 and 2-27-07. Beware of anyone who:<br /><br /><br />71) Has no problems with someone being attacked, but cries “foul” if the victim fights back, especially if they outfight the attacker.<br /><br />This is a sure sign of someone who doesn’t hesitate to attack and feels entitled to get away with it; only chronic evildoers think that evil behavior is ok, and only the scariest sociopathic ones object to victims fighting in their own defense.<br /><br /><br />72) Expresses intolerance and an ugly attitude towards any group of people for whom they don't have proof of MAJOR wrongdoing, and/or fails to see such an attitude in others as a reason to not associate with them.<br /><br />Anyone who'd have such dislike of a group of people based on nothing, whether it takes the form of bigotry or just contempt of those who post on a "rival forum," will just as easily dislike, and abuse, YOU based on nothing, and in general is either evil, a psycho, or too stupid to be involved with.<br /><br /><br />73) Thinks that, no matter how monstrously someone behaves, all they have to do is say “sorry” and they should be totally forgiven, and thus that the victim can NEVER reproach them, demand reparations, or even express their anger/hurt.<br /><br />Only the most chillingly evil and sociopathic types believe that their victims should be denied the basic human right to express pain and confront the ones who caused it. With the hypocrisy that's typical of wrongdoers, they'll react to any wrongdoing (real or imagined) done TO them with vicious counterattacks or crazed melodrama, AND will totally ignore any apologies given to them, however heartfelt.<br /> <br /><br />74) Believes that there’s a statute of limitations to their bad behavior, such that, if a certain # of days (weeks, etc) have passed, a misdeed is magically erased even if nothing has been done yet to “settle” it.<br /><br />This is a sure sign of a frequent wrongdoer; this person can screw you over repeatedly and if the last time wasn't in the recent past they expect you to treat them as if they've never done you wrong... and will see YOU as bad if you have a more sane view of things.<br /><br /><br />75) Thinks that being their friend means that you always have to do whatever makes them happy, and so considers anything you do that makes them UNhappy a “betrayal” and just cause for outrage (although they of course exert no effort to keep YOU happy).<br /><br />This person has no clue that adult relationships are NOT supposed to be the same as when their mommy circled everything around them while expecting nothing in return, and may also be a manipulator, albeit a clumsy one; you'll NEVER be able to please them long-term unless you're an absolute doormat... and why would you want to?<br /><br /><br />76) Tells you they believe that friendship means you give unconditional love.<br /><br />GOOD people assume that treating their friends (lovers, etc ) well, and behaving decently in general, will always be a condition of being loved; only evil people need to be loved unconditionally... even though they don't GIVE unconditional love in return. In addition, it's usually a red flag when someone feels the need to announce how friendship should be; it means that they're NOT following the standard rules like you are... and will make you pay for it eventually. <br /><br /><br />77) Uses “depression” or “going through a bad time” as an excuse to be overly-demanding, show no caring about you or your life, or otherwise treat you badly.<br /><br />It's perfectly acceptable for someone who just suffered a major loss to focus on themselves and their pain such that they don't bother to consider other people's feelings, but when someone behaves protractedly in this manner, and isn't losing a loved one every month to justify it, they're a master manipulator trying to persuade you to let them walk all over you.<br /><br /><br />78) Has no consistent definition of what's “good” or “bad” in a relationship, but expects you to know how they’re seeing things at any given moment and act accordingly.<br /><br />This person is either a clueless depressive who confuses friends with their mommy or a manipulator determined to keep you guessing and trying desperately to please them.<br /><br /><br />79) Can’t handle being disagreed with, even if you have more info on the topic than they do, and so starts a fight and/or goes stalking off if you hold firm in your assertions or opinions.<br /><br />Manipulators love this tactic, but it can also indicate that someone is a depressive, overly aggressive, or seriously immature; not a good bet in any case.<br /><br /><br />80) Does the “fire and ice” routine EVEN ONCE (this is when they give super-intense attention and then back way off for no reason).<br /><br />This can indicate a psycho or extreme flake, but 99% of the time it's used by manipulators to take control of the relationship by making you chase after them.<br /><br /><br />I hope these warning signs will help you prevent people from sticking it to you; remember, they can only get you if you LET them.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/6272246-1871945885097123230?l=omniverse.blogspot.com'/></div>Omnihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01535142570254270177noreply@blogger.com