Enjoy Life - Overcome Anxiety Naturally

How Effective Are You?

2009-06-03T05:42:00.000-07:00

"Effectiveness is the measure of truth" is one of
the major principles of Aloha philosophy.

I picked up the little pink booklet on Aloha
philosophy by Serge King when I was in Kauai
several years ago. At the time I was not happy
with the money I was making. So I eagerly read
every word looking for answers.

When I read this principle I was dumb founded.
My reaction was, "You mean to tell me, I am
not being effective because I am not being
honest? No way!" I simply could not wrap my
mind about this idea. Where could the lack of
truth be in my life?

Well, after a year, I began to see more clearly. I
was able to take responsibility for my lack of
money and see the places where I needed to be
more honest.

Sometimes the honesty has to do with your
emotional health and your purpose in life.

How truthful are you when it comes to standing
up for the vulnerable, emotional part of you?

How truthful are you in admitting that you are
scared when you are scared?

How truthful are you in admitting you need help?

These questions will get you started on going
deeper into your effectiveness. Effectiveness really
is the measure of truth.

When you are not being effective in any area of
your life. Seek ye your deeper truths.

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BE EFFECTIVE IN relationships.
Learn to open your heart by being honest
about how you feel. Opening the Heart guides
you into knowing and expressing your true
feelings. Be effective in your relationships.
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BE EFFECTIVE WITH MONEY: Learn how to grow
your small business into a successful practice.
Hands-On, Creative Marketing Workshop
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Authors and artists also welcomed.
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How Clearly Do You Say What is in Your Heart?

2009-05-07T18:07:00.000-07:00

The Vibrant Moment: Remember to be clear!

Tools from The Center for New Psychology
Publisher: Doris Jeanette
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How clearly do you say what you mean?
How clearly do you say what is in your heart?

Clear communication is at the heart of your business
success and your relationship success.

Relationship breakdowns occur because you do
not clearly communicate the feelings in your heart.
Your strong emotions pass by without expression.

Your business can also fail because you do not clearly
communicate the valuable service you have to offer
others. When you are not clear you miss the mark in
connecting with your clients' needs. Many times you
do not even know this happening.

So my message this week is about getting clear.
Crafting your business message so it clearly
communicates your unique gifts to humanity is
just as important as speaking clearly the feelings
in your heart to your beloved.

Know what is in your heart and express it clearly
with affect and effectiveness.

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KNOW WHAT IS IN your heart by feeling the
emotional energy inside of you. Opening the Heart
audio and e-book guides you into knowing and
expressing your true feelings. Learn how to open
your solar plexus and heart.
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GETTING CLEAR: Learn about tag lines, elevator pitches
and niches. Holistic Health Marketing Workshop in
Center City, Philadelphia June 6th. Spend all day
with me getting personal feedback and help in
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Authors and others also welcomed.
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holistic psychologist, Doris Jeanette, a licensed
psychologist with 33 years of experience teaching
people how to read and use energy to unlock and use
their human potential. She is author of "Opening
the Heart," "Overcoming Anxiety Naturally" and 14
other self help products. Her Holistic Psychology
Mentoring program is for people interested in learning
how to sense energy so their effectiveness becomes
dramatic.

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What Green Gift Did You Give Earth Day?

2009-04-22T07:40:00.000-07:00

What did you do that made you a greener person this year? Tell me. Post your comment below and feel proud of yourself. Earth Day is a day for you to celebrate your gifts to Mother Earth. Give yourself credit for what you did that made your home cleaner and healthier.

I had to think long and hard on what I did this year that made me a greener person. Growing up on a self-sustaining farm set me up for green and nothing but green.

I don’t have a car, never let water run down the sink while I brush my teeth and don’t use my air conditioning in the hot Philadelphia summers. Don’t get me wrong, I am reasonable; when clients arrive I turn on the cool air in my comfy office.

I can proclaim that this year I did not burn a single fire in my fireplace. I read a few years ago in the Sierra Magazine that wood burning was one of the worse pollutants. So sadly, I cut back my romantic, delightful fires.

This year I did not burn any wood. The dead wood I bought to center city Philadelphia from my NC farm in the back of my rental car is still sitting there in the bin.

For next year I plan to stop using the garbage disposal. Can anyone tell me a small, effective garbage transformer for center city living? It must not attract rodents.

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Movies, Mental Illness and Anxiety Help

2009-04-08T14:52:00.000-07:00

The arts exist to help you feel your emotions, to
make you care and to rise you up to a higher
level of functioning. If you want to know more
about the newly released films that can help you,
follow me on twitter. I covered the Philly Film Fest.
http://twitter.com/DorisJeanette

Connie Stevens wrote and directed a movie about
her life events at the age of 10. Saving Grace B.
Jones is one of the most powerful movies I have
ever experienced. It exposes a subject everyone
else wants to keep in the closet. Mental illness.

Young folks will not remember Connie Stevens,
the singer and starlet. However us older folks do.
And you all will be mighty surprised at her brilliant
movie on mental health, trauma and resiliency.

How American society still treats people when they
have emotional problems and mental health
problems is horrific.

In older societies, intuitive, sensitive people became
the medicine woman, the shaman, and the Delphic
oracle for Alexander the Great.

Traditionally, the oracle at Delphi first belonged to
Mother Earth (Gaea) but later was stolen by Apollo.
This tells us everything.

Mother Earth is the keeper of sanity. Mother Earth is
the keeper of reality. Your relationship to her is the
difference between being sane and being insane.

We became anxious, depressed and crazy when we
lost our connection to Mother Earth.

Check out your energy connection to Mother Earth.
Get your feet plugged in and keep them there for sanity.

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NATURE WORKSHOP, the best way to connect to
Mother Earth is to join a small group of sensitive people
as we learn new ways to plug our feet into gravity
and drop our body down into the sand. Come play
with body and energy awareness exercises
all day at Cape May, NJ on May 3. You will get grounded.
Readers get a big discount by signing
up before April 20th. Send in your check for $100.00
to Doris Jeanette
503 S. 21 St, Philadelphia, PA 19146.
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For those of you who cannot get to Cape May,
consider the Overcoming Anxiety Naturally online course.
This course was made to teach you how to get grounded
and stay grounded. Lots of body and energy exercises to
keep you plugged in. You can get mp3s or CDs.
Check it out at
http://www.drjeanette.com/anxietycourseonline.html
I have been redoing this course so that it has 12 lessons
instead of 6. So the price will be going up soon.

Reduce Anxiety by Feeling Your Emotions - Movies Can Help!

2009-04-03T19:03:00.000-07:00

Movies help you express your emotions in healthy
ways. If you want to know more about the newly
released films that can help you, follow me on
twitter.
http://twitter.com/DorisJeanette

I am covering the Philadelphia Film Festival. Read
about world premiers and other cool stuff.
Get the scoop on great documentaries and films
to watch for and catch on public television.

Here are some thoughts about when a soul decides
to leave the material confines of the body and earth.

What I suggest may be true and it may not be true.
However keep an open mind and see if it fits you
and your experience.

I am comforted by the thought that the soul does make
the decision when to pass over and that nothing is a true
accident. The result is, I can relax and let my soul lead
the way.

My focus changes, my job is not to fret or be scared about
when I am going to pass over. Nope, my job is to listen
to my soul and follow.

So how do you listen to your soul?

Emotions are the pathway to your soul. Last week I was
sad about other people passing over. Sadness is a soul
quality, it is not depression. Sadness is a real emotion
that feeds the soul and makes life deep, rich and
meaningful.

The closest I have ever felt to another human being
was in deep, profound sadness. Soul to soul.

The energy of sadness needs to move through you to
nourish your cells and feed your soul. If you deny or
exaggerate your sadness it will cause you serious problems
in the future. This is because the sad energy will get
stuck somewhere in your body and create stagnation.

If you depress or avoid your sadness you create mental,
emotional and physical problems.

The third audio in my emotional health guide, Opening the
Heart is called, When You're Hurting.... It was made to
help you stay in your sadness so it moves through you
and does not get stuck.

Emotional energy moving through your body is healing and
will transform your life into more vibrant moments and
more joy.

Listen to Gloria Lintermans, author of THE HEALING POWER
OF GRIEF: The Journey Through Loss to Life to help you
stay in grief. On Live at the Edge, internet radio.
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REACH YOUR SOUL: Order the emotional guide,
Opening the Heart, which teaches you how to stay in
sadness so it takes you to your soul.
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Smack Your Lips! New Anxiety Treatment

2009-02-06T05:55:00.000-08:00

This post is taken from The Vibrant Moment, Dr. Jeanette's free weekly newsletter which reminds you to be alive, meet your needs and have fun along the way! Sign up at http://www.drjeanette.com

The Vibrant Moment - Remember to smack your lips!

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Publisher: Doris Jeanette

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Energy, Emotions and Effectiveness Tips and Tricks

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Are you meeting your oral needs?

Oral needs are one of your most basic
emotional needs. Oral needs are also
one of your most basic pleasure needs.

There are many wonderful behaviors and sensual
activities that can meet your pleasure and oral needs.
However, in terms of being healthy and good for you,
kissing is at the top of the list.

You can kiss the air, the mirror and someone else.
You can even make smacky sounds with your lips
like babies do. Try it now if you are alone or with
someone who loves you.

Tell them this is your New Psychology Prescription from
Dr. Jeanette. Smacking gets more vital energy moving in

your body, your lips, mouth and throat chakra. The Dr.

ordered it and there are absolutely no negative side effects!

How cool is that?

So here is your Valentine's Day prescription:

Smack your lips for three minutes, three times a day,
for the next 10 days. Take your first dose right now
if you didn't smack your lips already. Smack away!

Did you smack your lips?
Or are you uncomfortable at the thought?
Did your Inner Critic come out and make fun of smacking?

Pleasure is still a forbidden, hidden
"No-No" in our world.

You can't give too much pleasure to someone
else or you are a "sinner." "Oh no, not that!"

If you give pleasure to yourself you are "perverted."
"Oh no, not that!"

If you receive pleasure from someone else you are
"bad, bad, bad!" "Oh no, not that!"

Enough of this madness.

It is time to accept and love your need for pleasure
and oral satisfaction.

You can do your part to dramatically reduce the
unhealthy habits across the globe by learning to meet
your oral needs now in healthy ways. Just think, all
the people who smoke cigarettes will cease the

unhealthy habit of smoking as soon as their oral

needs are met!

So let us free our oral needs and bring them to the
light of the conscious mind. Let us admit we have
pleasure needs and make way so we can enjoy
fulfilling them. Just in time for Valentine's Day.

To start meeting your oral needs, smack your lips for
instantaneous good feelings. Smacky, smacky, smacky!
See how good it feels?

Then make pleasurable sounds in your mouth as you

smack your lips...OOOO, eeeee, AH...AHA...AH...
hum...hum...feel and notice where you vibrate when you
make the sounds. Yummy...

Remember: Smack your lips for three minutes, three
times a day for the next 10 days.

Isn't' this fun? Meeting your oral needs will also
reduce your need to overeat and stuff your stomach
so that you gain weight. Meeting your oral needs will
keep you from being overweight in the first place and
from gaining the weight back once you lose it. Pleasure
is a wonderful way to lose weight.

Are you getting the hang of meeting your oral needs?
I hope so.

Oral needs are all about how you feed yourself, nourish
yourself and empower yourself. Oral needs are about
fulfilling your need for pleasure.

Back to kissing. If you practice the exercise above, it
will improve your ability to be a good kisser. Subsequently,
when you come together with a person you want to kiss,
you will be more relaxed. You will be able to kiss slowly
enough to allow yourself and the other person to have
some degree of oral satisfaction and pleasure without
getting anxious and making your lips tense.

Anxious lips are cold, hard and sour.

Relaxed lips are warm, soft and sweet.

If you remove your anxiety out of kissing you will

have lots more fun and you will meet your

emotional needs too!

On Valentine's Day have fun meeting your

emotional needs in healthy ways-- with or without another.

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LEARN TO RELAX your lips to achieve oral satisfaction:
Order the "Overcoming Anxiety Naturally" online course
which teaches you how to relax and stay relaxed long enough
to meet your pleasure needs.
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on Feb. 9th gets a bonus 15 minute private phone session

with me worth, $50.00. Get ready for Valentine's Day.

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Free shipping until the full moon. Get your heart ready

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If you enjoy The Vibrant Moment, please forward it
to friends and colleagues. It comes to you from
holistic psychologist, Doris Jeanette, a licensed
psychologist with 33 years of experience teaching
people how to read and use their own energy
to become empowered. She is author of "Opening
the Heart," "Overcoming Anxiety Naturally" and 14
other self help products. Her Holistic Psychology

Mentoring program is for people interested in learning

how to sense energy so their effectiveness becomes

dramatic.

For weekly encouragement sign up for The
Vibrant Moment at www.drjeanette.com.

Emotional Health and Sexual Health Help in Time for Valentine's Day

2009-02-02T11:01:00.000-08:00

Check out my article featured for Valentine's Day at ezinearticles.com called, "Kissing Meets Your Pleasure Needs." Share and pass on this emotional health, mental health, physical health and sexual health information to your family and friends.

The article gives you some tips on how to improve your kissing, meet your oral needs and pleasure needs. The is nothing like empowering, fun loving, emotional health and sexual health tips in time for Valentine's Day.

Look for the featured article on kissing or google "Kissing Meets Your Pleasure Needs," by Doris Jeanette.

Posted by Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.
a trained sex therapist for 33 years
Check out Dr. Jeanette's Sex and Love Columns at http://www.drjeanette.com
and learn to meet your emotional needs by listening to, reading or studying, "Opening the Heart." Visit: http://www.drjeanette.com/tapes.html

How to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions

2008-12-16T16:29:00.000-08:00

Now is the time of year to evaluate

2008. Take a look at what made this year great.

Ask yourself, "What was the one self improvement
behavior which made the most difference in my life?"

What action did you take that raised your personal
growth to a new level this year? If you feel like
sharing your success please post it on

the Enjoy Life blog.

Get ready for 2009. I know you want to make this

year even better than 2008. To help you reflect,

learn and grow join me for a no cost teleclass to

focus on how to create more personal success

in २००९.

Answer the question above as you enjoy the holidays
and join Jan. 6th for a no cost teleclass to help
you review 2008 and reach your New Year's Resolutions.

Email me for phone number and code:
drjeanette@drjeanette.com

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"16 Secrets to Relaxing

During a Recession," please be my guest:

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Do You Believe In Angels?

2008-12-02T15:07:00.000-08:00

Do you believe in angels?

Have you ever been visited by an angel?

Once my second grade teacher, Miss Dark, rushed
toward me as I was sitting relaxed in my classroom
chair. I was in the middle of answering her question.
She grabbed me and pulled me up out of my chair
and shook me violently by the shoulders। Her behavior
scared this shy, little, farm girl, to death.

Right after this trauma I thought I saw, sensed, felt
an angel way up high on the ceiling in the classroom.
Was it my imagination? A dream? A wish? Or was the
golden angel sending me much needed love and
reassurance. Yes, I felt love from this being and
comforted by her presence.

What I experienced was real, but I could not
explain the facts or source of this loving energy.
I forgot about the vague, golden angel on the
ceiling almost as soon as I sensed her. She did
not come back into my conscious mind until I
began to study energy, light and human
consciousness more deeply after I finished
my psychology post doc at Temple Medical School.

As an 8 year old I finally figured out Miss Dark was
furious with me for counting on my fingers. I did
not know using your fingers was not allowed. Fingers
seemed handy and reliable!

I still count on my fingers. And I open heartedly
welcome the golden energy of love from the angels.

You can learn to feel the gold.

My colleague and friend, Elise Kerns, can help you
sense this divine energy.

Here is a win- win. You can feel good about
giving to a worthy cause, The Huntington's
Foundation, while you learn more about angels.

The benefit is in honor of Bill Fox, a Philadelphia
area man who died from Huntington's, last
December.

Sign up now for Elise's Angel tele-class.
Tell her I sent you to play with the angels.

An Evening with Angels

Presented by Elsie Kerns

Date: Sunday, December 7, 8-9 p.m.
Where: Call in or listen as a webcast on your computer.
Donation: $22.00 - to benefit The Huntington’s Foundation
In Memory of Bill Fox ~ 1940-2007

Click here to sign up and play with the angels:
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If any of you want to share your angel stories
please post your comments below.

Assertiveness Training in Philadelphia

2008-07-24T09:36:00.000-07:00

Assertiveness Training is a Behavior Therapy approach which was very popular in the 1970's and 1980's. I was trained in Assertiveness Training at the Behavior Therapy Unit at Temple Medical School in 1975.

If you want to learn more about Assertiveness Training and its benefits sign up for the free newsletter, The Vibrant Moment. You will receive Assertiveness Tips along with other juicy ideas and exercises to help you become strong, healthy and happy.

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Heart Health and ADHD Drugs

2008-04-23T09:49:00.000-07:00

A woman in rabbi school came to my office. She said, “I do not know what life is like without drugs. I have been taking a stimulant since I was a child. Can you help me?”

Can you imagine what your life would be like if you spent 20 years on a stimulant? Can you image what damage the drug for ADHD has done to your heart, nervous system and body? Imagine taking a drug for ADHD for years.

Drugs of any nature are dangerous for children, especially stimulants. Whether you are 7 or 70 there is no doubt about the damage a stimulant can do to your heart.

Children who have behavior problems need discipline, not drugs.

Children with behavior problems need parents who show up and set healthy, safe limits for them to push against. The children need parents who are assertive, relaxed and emotionally strong.

Learn more about the dangers of ADHD and labels by reading Dr. Doris Jeanette’s article on ADHD drugs are bad for children and ADHD and Labels.

Visit here to learn more about healthy, safe ways to reduce anxiety, relax, be assertive and emotionally strong।

Visit here to learn more about Doris Jeanette as an expert on alternative, safe solutions for anxiety.

Can You Read Body Language?

2008-04-01T14:24:00.000-07:00

Did you know that your body movements, your lack of movements, and postures reveal more about you than anything else in the world?

Psychological research shows that 80% of communication between humans is non verbal. Verbal people do not like this but it is true anyway.

The days of psychological tests are gone for people who can read body language.

Art Fennell Reports, a CN8 News Television show, recently used me as an expert on body language for the candidates' wives.

Some body language experts use a set of rigid rules to determine what so and so means. I do not. I use the energy in the moment to know the truths being revealed in the moment.

When you read a photograph of a person you are reading a real moment caught in time. What you see is valid for that moment.

When you read a person in front of a camera you are reading someone who is posing for you.

When you are reading the person you are having dinner with, you are tuning in to what they are feeling about you and about themselves.

The body does not lie. Your body does not have the ability to lie. Even when you try to lie and hide. An aware person can see you are lying and hiding!

This means it pays to know what you are communicating to others. In addition, it is extremely valuable to know what the people around you are really communicating to you.

Do not listen to their words, in love relationships or politics, pay attention to the non verbal communication.

Read the energy and information that is present-- right in front of your face-- if you want to know more and make better decisions.
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"Hear Your Body Talking "CD

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Is Dr. Phil “Cool”? Or Does Anxiety Drive the Ego?

2008-01-13T15:06:00.000-08:00

Dr. Phil has never been an example of a professional who could honestly help people. One wonders how Oprah could make him famous in the first place. His advice does not empower people or help them believe in themselves.

I wonder how people could be so fooled by him for so long, including Oprah. Her judgment with men appears to be questionable.

The people who have embraced such condescending advice from Dr. Phil all these years must be looking for something besides emotional health, mental health and empowerment!

Dr. Phil is not an example of what I want to see more of in this crazy world. He is not relaxed, open and loving.

People who think they have the answers for others are driven by anxiety. Underneath every single self righteous person is an insecure person.

My heart goes out to a young woman, such as Britney Spears, who is acting out her pain in the limelight for all of us to see. Her insecurity is more obvious to people than Dr. Phil’s.

With more awareness of energy and emotions, you can see the insecurity in people who put themselves up on a pedestal. Look for the body language and tension in the body.

Look and see through people such as Dr. Phil. Anyone who acts like they have the answer and you do not-- is not a healthy model for you.

Do not seek advice from others unless they empower you and help you believe in yourself. ‘

Dr. Phil does not know what is best for you or Britney Spears. Even if Britney Spears does think he is "cool." She has a lot of growing up to do to become emotionally healthy.

Being out of control, such as Britney, is not cool and being in control, such as Dr. Phil, is not cool.

When your ego is gone, your anxiety will diminish.

For more information about anxiety visit www.drjeanette.com.

What Secret Does 2008 Hold For You?

2007-12-19T09:35:00.000-08:00

Success?

in your relationships?
at work?
at play?

What about self actualization?

This was the year of The Secret. An excellent example of effective packaging and marketing which got lots of buzz and attention.

Did you spend money on The Secret? Did you practice what it teaches? Did you get results?

The law of attraction is as old as anything you could think of......

Been around a long time but this was the year The Secret hit the scene with fresh, newness.

I would love to hear your comments about The Secret. Did you pay any attention to it? If so, did it worked for you or not. Did you get results and what were they?

I would love to hear what you think about The Secret.

For those of you familiar with the law of attraction, I would love to hear what you know about it.

Could anxiety be the cause of violence in teenagers?

2007-12-07T15:57:00.000-08:00

If adults, teenagers and children do not deal with the high levels of anxiety in their body and nervous system in a healthy fashion, violence can be the result.

Some people act out their judgmental attacks on others and some people act in their judgmental attacks on themselves. Some people do both.

Let us look at a teenager in Omaha, Nebraska. Suppose he could not take the negative thoughts about himself any longer. Suppose he was looking for a way to stop the attacking thoughts. Suppose he become violent first against others and then against himself. Violence can take many forms such as suicide or killing others.

Anxiety is the source problem for many symptoms. Anxiety is caused by self rejecting, judgmental thoughts toward the self.

As our society becomes more anxious, we can expect to see more violence unless something is done to reduce anxiety. Drugs do not reduce anxiety, they mask the problem. The only way to reduce anxiety is to deal directly with the out of control energy before it does harm to self or others.

Depression or Anxiety?

2007-12-01T14:14:00.000-08:00

Anxiety and depression are quite different. One is a mental state of moving too fast and the other is a mental state of moving too slow. The solution is to flow with your real emotions which move in and around your body in a healthy, vital fashion. Anxiety and depression are the result of avoiding your real feelings and emotions. For more about natural ways to reduce anxiety and depression visit drjeanette.com

Holiday stress? Did you get anxiety attacks?

2007-11-25T08:25:00.000-08:00

Holiday stress? Did you get anxiety attacks before, during or after your family visit?

Don’t let the holidays get you anxious and stressed out. Take positive actions to find your strengths and use them to empower yourself. Holiday stress and anxiety attacks do not have to ruin your life.

Read how to stop a panic attack and find your inner strengths so you can overcome your anxiety। Take actions to self help yourself to success. Learn to overcome anxiety and relax into your body and the field of gravity.

Face Your Real Fears to Reduce Anxiety

2007-11-24T13:14:00.000-08:00

Anxiety is caused by avoiding real fears and other real feelings. Therefore when you start to face your real fears your anxiety diminishes.

Learn to tell the difference between a real fear and your irrational thoughts. Then you can stop scaring yourself with your irrational thoughts and deal with the real events, people and situations in your life.

When you know how to deal with reality, there is no anxiety. Best to approach anxiety from the source so you get permanent relaxation and solid self esteem.

To learn more about the difference between a real fear and your anxiety visit: http://www.drjeanette.com/anxiety.html

Anxiety Help, Natural Treatment

2007-10-25T10:03:00.000-07:00

Anxiety is like static on your radio band. Anxiety is learned and can be unlearned. Tune your radio to some good music or a good talk show instead of static. Or better yet turn off the radio for some peace and quiet.

I developed my original anxiety treatment with the women who did not respond to Cognitive Behavior Therapy. In the 1980's, my referrals came from Beck's Cognitive Behavior Therapy Institute. I live across the river from Penn and my best friend was the Director of the Counseling Center who knew about my work with anxiety, learning research and feminist therapy.

The last study I read in 2007 reported a 80% recidivism rate with CBT. The reason Cognitive Behavior Theory is limited is because no one enjoys having to think all the time. When you think, you are in Beta brain waves. Beta brain waves are limited. Give me some alpha, delta and theta please.

You do not want to have to think about what you are thinking. You might not even want to think at all!

Turn off your radio and have some fun and pleasure. Set your thoughts free......Get into your body and enjoy letting go of thoughts....umm, umm good.

There are safe, effective ways to reduce anxiety and keep the static low enough so you can enjoy life and achieve peak performance at work and play. The anxiety outside of you is not going away. The anxiety inside of you can be reduced.

Your power lies in your ability to move beyond your brain and your thoughts. Just because everyone else is anxious, doesn’t mean you have to be!

Get more information about anxiety help the natural way.

Anxiety and Fear Since the Shootings

2007-04-23T16:20:00.000-07:00

If you are not safe sitting in a class room, where are you safe?

We think we are safe if we do the right things, be good and be careful. But we are not really safe anywhere no matter how “right,” “good” or “careful” we may be.

Out of control events and behaviors can occur anywhere at any time. 9-11 turned America's world upside down. School shootings and everyday violence can happen anywhere. If we are not safe sitting in a class room, where are we safe?

The answer is, "Nowhere." Safety is an illusion. This is the reason humans have so much anxiety. This is the reason children get so scared and so anxious.

The real world is scary.

If you do not experience anxiety and fear, you are not in touch with what is going on around you. Or inside of you.

There is a huge difference between unhealthy anxiety and healthy fear. In order to take care of yourself, you need to know the difference so you can response properly in the moment to what is really happening around you. To learn more read about Anxiety and Fear in the free library at drjeanette.com

If you are auditory, check out the free internet radio show on Overcoming Anxiety Naturally at "Live at the Edge."

Get ready for the real world. Be prepared with inner security. Emotional health gives you an inner sense of safety. With emotional wellness, whatever is happening outside of you cannot turn your world upside down.

Valentine's Day Gift - Reduce Anxiety for Sexual Health

2007-02-04T07:09:00.000-08:00

Overcoming Anxiety Naturally In Time for Valentine's Day

by Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

It is Valentine's Day and you feel relaxed and loving. As you move closer to your partner and touch her with love and desire, she stiffens up and moves away from you.

Quickly she gets involved in some activity. It could be attending to the new baby or cleaning up the dishes or looking out the window. Or perhaps he starts talking about something else, anything to distract. You say to yourself, “OK, it's not a good time” and accept it like a mature adult.

What if he or she continues to move away from you over and over again? Time to face the truth, your partner is rarely loving and relaxed. A new father, recently wrote me about his wife’s lack of interest in intimacy and sex. Unfortunately he is not alone. Many women and men suffer in silence with a partner who avoids sexual intimacy.

So what is going on ? The reason there is such a scarcity of good lovers in this world is due to a real problem, with a real solution.

If your partner avoids loving, sexual encounters, I would bet my 30 years of clinical experience in sexual health, he is too anxious to slow down and be with you. Anxiety is the major, bottom line, real problem. Anxiety is the major block to good sexual health.

There are 9.1 million Americans, 18 to 54, who suffer from anxiety disorders. This makes anxiety the most common mental health problem in the USA. Here is a link which tells you how many people are diagnosed with anxiety disorders in your country.

These numbers do not include the millions who have not been labeled with an official diagnosis. The millions who have trouble sitting down and relaxing under a cherry tree all afternoon long in the sun. The millions who cannot rest their body and mind so they can enjoy the moment, the day, the light and sexual health activities.

Here are 8 Signs of Anxiety

1--Breathing stops up high in your chest

2-Thoughts are obsessive, racing or telling you all the things you should do

3 -Physical body is too tight and tense or too fat and loose

4-Unable to sit still and be in the moment without activities such as reading, watching TV, talking

5-Not aware of your physical body

6- Not aware of the area around your body

7- Hyperventilating - gasping for air though your mouth

8- Startle response to any situation in your environment

When you let your anxiety take over and ruin your day, you are feeding fuel to all your other problems. Your anxiety is sure to get worse with each passing day, resulting in serious mental health, emotional health and physical health problems. Anxiety totally destroys sexual health. Nervous energy not only diminishes the quality of your life, but it causes many major physical diseases which cannot be easily corrected.

Legal or illegal anti- anxiety drugs are dangerous and psychotherapy is extremely limited in its ability to relax the body and nervous system. You need effective, safe anxiety help which teaches you to relax and get turned on. There are real solutions available for overcoming anxiety naturally. Valentine's Day and your sexual health are at stake!

8 Ways to Overcome Anxiety Naturally

You can Learn to:

1-Consciously breathe fully into the bottom of your lungs

2-Calm your mind by taming your out of control thoughts

3-Pay attention to your emotional needs and meet them

4-Practice sitting still in silence without any activity such as reading, talking

5-Get and give physical touch to self and others

6-Look around you and pay attention to what is outside of you

7-Breathe through your nose and shut your mouth to stop hyperventilating

8-Reduce chronic anxiety with daily relaxation practices

For specific step by step anxiety natural help take the new, affordable online course, Overcoming Anxiety Naturally.

Couples need to share time together relaxed, hanging out by the lake, doing nothing. Then loving touches, without expectations, can spontaneously manifest and bloom, making your Valentine Day a memory of Love instead of a memory of anxiety and avoidance.

Overcoming Anxiety Naturally, is a new, affordable anxiety online course offered by holistic psychologist, Dr. Doris Jeanette

For more anxiety natural tips sign up for the weekly version of Dr. Jeanette's holistic psychology newsletter, "The Vibrant Moment"

Review Last Year - Show Up This Year

2006-12-28T15:38:00.000-08:00

The Vibrant Moment--Review Last Year- Show Up This Year

Greeting Vibrant Moment Seekers,

If your physical body and emotional body do not reflect back to you--a Big Difference from the body and emotions you had last year, this means you are not growing toward your soul's desires.

Each year is a step forward toward your purpose in life.

Self improvement is not permanent until your physical body reflects the changes. You may think you have changed, but if you cannot see a difference in the mirror, the energy is not there. You must see your energy field radiate out more love and light when you look in the mirror.

Others can see you, feel you and sense you. So take a loving look at yourself.

I do not want you to waste your precious life another moment in mundaneness and ordinary consciousness. You have innate talents, skills and abilities which need to be used for the highest good. If you are not using them, they are being wasted.

Emotional health is not achieved until your body relaxes to allow more vibrant energy to flow though your flesh. We are incarnate after all! This means in- the- flesh. The way to get more juicy energy flowing though your body is to let go ofold, thought patterns, false beliefs, projections and conditioned responses. Then you have more peak experiences and vibrant moments au natural.

Your body reveals the truth about your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Your body does not have the ability to lie. Read Dr. John Diamond's book, "The Body Doesn't Lie" for more information.

So take stock of your body and emotions. Admit the truth of what you see in the mirror. Review this last year with love and laughter and kindness toward the self.

Do not judge what you see. Or you get stuck in judgment and this takes you no-where! Or even worse, your judgment might take you into depression and anxiety. So beware, review this last year, without judgment.

To learn exactly how to sneak pass your self judgment and cuddle up with self acceptance study, read, listen to "Opening the Heart- Your Emotional Guide to Self Esteem." 3 self help audio tapes, CDs or ebook. Get emotional guidance, holistic psychology information, and as a bonus, the sounds in my voice touch your soul, heart and nervous system directly--- forever changing your body and emotions.

Click here to hear an audio clip of these self help tapes.

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new year desires get lost.

This is what you feel like doing when you are full of joy. I really do carry my stuff on top of my head.......an old womanly trick.
Hear Sandra Yancy, CEO of ewomennetwork and I shooting the breeze about what it takes to be successful with your business on "Live at the Edge" internet radio show. For starters, you got to "Show Up." This applies to all self help success. You have to show up and take action. Otherwise, you are powerless. You cannot succeed at work or play.

Post your comments about Sandra's show or any other interesting radio interviews, such as Peter Shepherd's Mind Development on Live at the Edge Blog. Speak your mind, heart and soul. Ask for what you want and you get it.

So by all means amp up your life with some serious self improvement so you can Show Up This Year.

Here are some specific suggestions:

1-Take action on the things you read in The Vibrant Moment newsletter. Don't just read about something, do something. Order something, buy something, take action. Get education in the areas you need to know more about for success.

2-Follow the free advice and suggestions posted on my free radio show even if you are not single, "Tips for Singles" on "Live at the Edge.' If you use any of these tips you get on the self help success track. Then.....next year at this time you are sure to notice a Huge Difference between your body and feelings from last year. Even those of us in a relationship need to stay centered in our power to stay on our own spiritual path.

3-Show Up for yourself, Be there for yourself. Stop avoiding and Show up. This is huge, try it and see what happens. Just show up.

4- Let something touch your heart and soul. A person, a moment, a color, a feeling, a sound- consider allowing my voice to touch your heart.

5-Use your Mind to set in motion this year's intentions. Imagine them, see them and then put some energy behind them.

6- Sign up for your free holistic psychology, mind body spirit newsletter:
Get two free gifts, "How Colors Affect Emotions" and "Emotional Intelligence Test and Emotional Intelligence Definition"

Next year can be the year when you turn the corner.

Become the person you know you are inside. Become your authentic, real, spiritual self in the real body.

Aloha,

Sounds like I am ready for some warmer weather and blue water.

Doris Jeanette, copyright, January, 2007

Get Labeled with ADHD or Get Help with ADHD?

2006-12-18T12:53:00.000-08:00

By Dr. Doris Jeanette

First, I would like to thank Dr. Keith Scott-Mumby for sharing his point of view about my article on ADHD where I applied a universal law to the labels that medicine and psychology stick on people. Another thank you to Peter Shepherd for sharing his thoughts based on his mind development work. Open dialogues improve communication and knowledge for all of us. I welcome comments from readers -- shoot me an email at my email address with your comments. Or post them on this blog.

Secondly, you need to know I have spent 30 years bringing into focus a New Psychology. My approach offers people who are interested, a new paradigm. I have never been satisfied with the current effectiveness of psychology or medicine. See and study the huge difference between the New Psychology and the Old Psychology.

The New Psychology has a holistic approach, which means it addresses the mind-body-spirit as one, whole, energy system. We do not focus on symptoms, such as allergies, ADHD or schizophrenia. As Jay Haley said," Schizophrenia is no excuse for anything!" Neither are allergies or ADHD.

The New Psychology goes to the root cause, the source, the beginning. The bottom-line is where we focus, looking for effective solutions. We help each adult or child use more of their natural talents and inherent abilities. Activating a person's unique skills and innate strengths is the remedy for imbalances in the whole mind-body-spirit system.

It does not matter what symptom or label a person has, the solution is to build up the authentic self, the inner core so that a person's energy flow is stronger and healthier. This improves all physical health, emotional health and mental health.

To achieve success, a person learns to tell the difference between the energy of the authentic self and the energy of the maladaptive, learned self. If you want to learn to differentiate these energies, study and work with the self help tapes, cds and ebook, "Opening the Heart". This knowledge empowers you to self help success.

This is yet another reason, besides the reality that energy follows thought, to question the labels placed on you by medicine or psychology. When you take on a label, such as ADHD, you enter a very sticky place that is hard to shift energetically. Your true identity, your authentic self, is replaced by an outside definition, ADHD.

To say that a label must be received in order to get the help you need, is faulty thinking. This false belief goes back to when men decided to stop killing the witches. Over 300 years, 7-11 million women were killed. These medicine women had effective herbs and knowledge about how to heal the body and mind. This zealous elimination of medicine women was the moment medicine lost its way and it has yet to recover.

This historic slaughter gradually began to cease because Johan Weyer convinced the authorities that witches were crazy. Here we have the beginning of the distorted thinking. If you are crazy, then we do not have to kill you. We must proclaim you crazy, so we can stop killing you. Does that sound logical? Of course not.

This type of thinking is still present today in the way a label such as ADHD is considered to be necessary in order for the Dr. to help him. Does that sound rational? Of course not.

While we are fortunate Johan found a way to break up this out of control, hysterical behavior in 1563, we need more rational arguments today. Let us look logically upon our past. The so called witches were not the ones who were crazy. No, the men who believed these women had really been sleeping with the devil were full blown psychotic.

Everyone needs help. I frequently say, "I need all the help I can get." However, I do not need any diagnostic label in order to get my needs meet. I am sure medical doctors need all the help they can get. Every adult and child in this world can get the help that is available by seeking, asking and receiving. ADHD labels are not a prerequisite.

The root cause of most physical, mental or emotional problems is some sort of inhibition. Stopping children's natural healthy energy from flowing in the first place is the beginning of symptoms such as ADHD, allergies and hyperactivity. The major aspects of the real self that we inhibit are body movements, emotional expression and sexuality. If you want to learn how to achieve healthy emotional expression study, “Opening the Heart.”

With any stimulus - whether it is a behavior, a person, a germ, a food - you have two choices. You either avoid the judgment, which is likely to make you weaker. Or face the irritation and meet it as an equal. Avoidance behaviors weaken your body and energy field. This statement is based on the huge body of learning research that exists on classical conditioning, operant conditioning and modeling.

It is not hard to learn how to notice your body and how it responds to stimuli. Or to notice your children and how they respond to their environment. Child with ADHD or other labels need help from adults because they do not have the power to change their environment.

If you do not know how to sense your own body, you can learn and teach your children. Start by studying the self help CD “Hear Your Body Talking।” Your body knows what makes you stronger and what makes you weaker. Applied Kinesiology research is also well documented.

See for yourself if your muscles become weaker when you think of yourself as a person with ADHD or schizophrenia. Try it and see. Thinking of myself as a person with allegories certainty does not make my muscles stronger.

Allergies are not the source of ADHD or any other problem. Allergies are a symptom of a deeper problem. ADHD is the symptom of a deeper problem. The source is the place the New Psychology or holistic psychology goes to for solutions. We want to improve self esteem, build up vital energy in every cell, especially in the nervous system and brain. We show people how to relate effectively and equally to physical reality.

Therefore, my advice to those who want a new paradigm is to focus on the source. Solve your concerns at the mind body heart level.

My message to you is loud and clear. You are strong, physically strong, emotionally strong and mentally strong. You have the inner strengths you need to succeed. There is absolutely nothing "wrong" with you or your child.

If someone labels you mentally retarded, ADHD or borderline personality, take yourself to task and become the best you that you can be.

If you are missing a chromosome, have strange DNA or chemistry that others are not knowledgeable about - believe in yourself.

Do not believe in medicine or psychology or authorities who think they know more than you than you do. Your inner voice is the only authority to listen to, and listen deeply.

Seek help from others, because everyone need experts to help us though our bumpy lives. Use Keith, Doris, Peter and other experts to help you - as needed. It is not for us to tell you the answer or give you a label.

Our job is to help you recognize, love and follow your own inner knowing. Otherwise you are lost at sea without a paddle.

Doris Jeanette, Psy.D., is a licensed psychologist, Director of the Center for New Psychology, author of the self help tapes, CDs and ebook, "Opening the Heart" and host of the radio show, "Live at the Edge."

Give Up Guilt to Enjoy Family More

2006-12-12T09:44:00.001-08:00

Enjoy Your Family More When You Give Up Guilt

by Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

Guilt is the worst experience known to humans.

It ties us up in knots and makes us feel unworthy and miserable.

Contrary to what most people think, guilt is not a real feeling.

Guilt is the result of thinking you have done something wrong. You think you have done something wrong because you judge yourself or someone else judges you. A child does not "feel guilty" until someone tells her that she has offended someone or hurt someone's so called "feelings."

Psychologically "feeling guilty" is a conditioned response, not an authentic feeling. In other words, you are taught to feel bad and thus guilty when someone judges you. This judgment can be about anything, such as how you dress, how you move, how you think, what you do.

For example, you go home for Christmas and the first thing your mother says is, “You’ve gained weight.” If your psyche and body go into a defensive mode you experience her comments as critical and you experience judgment. This triggers off self judgment, and the result is guilt. You think you did something wrong for eating all those cookies and gaining all that weight. Needless to say, the more guilt you have the more you eat.

People, cultures and societies over the centuries have used guilt, shame and blame to control their children. The Jewish culture is famous for developing guilt to a high art. I was full of guilt myself so the southern American families have obviously used it very successfully as well!

Guilt is used to condition children to behave as expected. When you "feel guilty," you think you have done something wrong and are judging yourself.

The result is your energy becomes totally tied up in knots and pulls you in different directions at the same time, with no resolution possible. Yuck.

Guilt is a lose, lose situation. You have committed a "sin" and you need to be punished. Pretty awful stuff. So of course being the "good person" that you are, you punish yourself for being so bad by making yourself miserable. No matter what you do, you feel bad. It is a losing battle, an inner conflict where you lose no matter what you do. Ugh.

If you look at guilt objectively, it is easy to see this no -win situation is crazy. Guilt is unhealthy and makes you sick. Your mental health, emotional health and physical health suffers. Never, yes, never trust guilt! If you have done something you sincerely regret, apologize and stop doing it. Otherwise
dispense with guilt. Do not let guilt ruin your life.

So how do you get rid of guilt?

Become conscious of your mental judgments toward yourself and stop making judgments against yourself. Do the same with others and their judgments of you. You will find you have been conditioned to think badly of yourself for many, many healthy behaviors, activities and enjoyments.
The only way to resolve guilt is to stop making yourself or others wrong. It is simple, but hard to do because we have been trained to judge everything and everybody.

You will experience relief as soon as you forgive yourself or forgive the other person. Forgiveness is really nothing more than giving up your own judgment about something. Learn more about how to do this and achieve emotional health when you listen to or read "Opening the Heart- Your Emotional Guide to Self Esteem."

Try this exercise.

Stop using the word "should" or “should not” for a month and your life with change.

There is no right or wrong, good or bad in emotional health reality. There are plenty of experiences to learn from and you can learn from each mistake and each success you participate in.

Get out there and enjoy learning and living and growing. Toss guilt out. Trust yourself and love yourself. Create the life you want and the relationships you want.
Try a guilt free way to live and your family holidays and family dynamics are sure to become lots more fun.

Dr. Doris Jeanette is a licensed psychologist who has pioneered a new, holistic psychology which offers self help solutions to multicultural people around the world. She is a radio show host, coach, speaker and columnist. For more information about healthy family dynamics and breaking free from guilt read or listen to, "Opening Your Heart- Your Emotional Guide to Self Esteem." Self Help tapes,CDs and Ebook at http://www.drjeanette.com/tapes.html

Relationship Advice For Singles During the Holidays

2006-11-21T11:27:00.000-08:00

The Vibrant Moment --Tips for Spiritual Singles Surviving the Holidays

by Doris Jeanette, Psy.D.

If you find yourself suddenly single for the holidays, or if you have been single for many years, traditional celebrations are the perfect time to do some successful self improvement. When you end a long term relationship, or he or she ends the relationship for you, there are emotional relationship issues you can address. Your increased awareness of how you relationship to yourself and others enables
you to attract a more suitable soul mate in the future.

Look inward into your heart and solar plexus area for answers. You need to fall in love with your emotional self because this precious, child like part of you energetically goes straight to your soul. Focus on building up your self esteem and stop looking outward for answers, approval or love.

If you have been single for a long time, this means you need to look inward and deeper so you can see what issues are keeping you from opening up and trusting a partner. The soul longs for company and this longing needs to come to your conscious mind, so you can fulfill your soul's purpose in being here. You may not want or need a sexual relationship, but you do need deep connections with people at the soul level.

Look below to your root and second charka for answers. You need to stand on your own two feet, learn to trust gravity and connect deeply to Mother Earth. Focus on improving your ability to take care of yourself in the physical world and in emotional relationships with others.

You can transform the old, conditioned responses you learned from your family by becoming more aware of your emotional energy. For example, when you learn the difference in energy between "feeling sorry" for yourself and feeling the real hurt inside your heart, you have the information you need to move forward. Feeling sorry for yourself goes in circles and into the "pity pit", not a place with love and light.

On the other hand, feeling your real hurt opens your heart and solar plexus, so more love and energy can move in and out of your body and energy field. This difference is huge and you can learn to notice the difference in yourself. For more information about the different energies and how to navigate though your emotional territory, order the self study guide, " Opening Your Heart- Your Emotional Guide to Self Esteem."

When you look inward for your strengths and learn to count on yourself, you feel better and can find purpose and meaning to your life. There are many benefits of being single so use this time to your advantage by focusing on personal growth and engaging in activities which help you feel loved during the holidays. Here are my suggestions to help you not only survive the holidays, but enjoy them.

12 Ways to Survive Being Single During the Holidays

1-Send your inner critic out in the cold, stop judging yourself for being single, alone
or unhappy, this immediately improves your mood.
2-Bless your time alone as a gift, it can help you improve your self esteem for the rest of your life.
3- Get to know your own desires and needs, make a list of what you want to do before you die.
4- Express your feelings creatively - Hum, Write, Dance, Paint, Rest and Play.
5- Enjoy little things about your own company, especially your sense of humor- laugh at yourself and the situation.
6- Indulge yourself, do exactly what you want to do when you want to do it.
7- Spend time with friends and family members who care about you.
8-Spend time around people at coffee shops, book stores and talk to people.
9-Open your senses and sharpen awareness of your body.
10-Listen to harmonious music that makes you feel good.
11-Spend time in nature relaxing, walking and breathing.
12- Listen to and read self help tapes, CDs, ebooks which teach you to feel good about being yourself.

For more tips like these and ongoing weekly reminders to fulfill your soul's purpose, sign up for Dr. J's free holistic psychology, mind body spirit newsletter,
"The Vibrant Moment"

copyrighted, 12-06, Doris Jeanette, Psy.D, licensed psychologist

Dr. Doris Jeanette is a licensed psychologist with 30 years of experience as a relationship and emotional health coach. She empowers people in person and on the phone, in all parts of the world. Author of "Opening Your Heart - Your Emotional Guide to Self Esteem" which guides you into your inner strengths so you create healthy relationships with self and others. Available as tapes, CDs or ebook.

Listen to Dr. Jeanette's internet online radio show, "Live at the Edge." She will talk to you in more depth about Singles Surviving the Holidays and her library of shows is full of interesting guests to help you succeed with your soul's purpose.

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