Braddock's Love Systems Blog

Hollywood......

2008-09-30T23:03:00.002-05:00

Last Month......

Avoided a Hurricane in Miami
Broke my collarbone in London
Hooked up with an Australian pop singer in London
Mr. M and I locked ourselves in the War Room/Mr. M's kitchen to finish our Inner Game seminar
FINALLY Finished text and phone game
I'm moving from Oklahoma to Los Angeles Thursday night
Superconference in a few weeks!!!!!!

Jesus H!!! I finally have 5 minutes to breath. Now that I'm close to caught up it's time to go Supernova on some pickup stuff. I highly suggest you come to the superconference to see what we have been working on.

-Braddock

10 Game.....

2008-09-18T21:26:00.007-05:00

I'm in London with Mr. M. Mr M and I are putting the finishing touches on our Inner Game Seminar. We are launching it at the Love Systems Super Converence in October. I honestly can't fucking wait to teach this. This has taken Mr M and I over a year to put our notes together but it would cheapen what we've done to say it only took a year. My own notes have are a combination of 3 years of notes and at least 5,000 sets. We have literally almost had a fist fight over the content and spent so many hours on the phone discussing content its ridiculous!!

I've also spent my time in London finally puttint he finishing touches on my portion of the Phone and Text Game book that Savoy and I have been working on. (He is going to KILL me for taking so long....but trust me guys, it will be worth it).

Two nights ago I went out with Vercetti and a few other instructors. Not going to say which girl, but, I cold approached and closed one of these.

Would never have happened before I discovered Love Systems.......

Drama Fanatic

Kiss our collective American asses.....

2008-09-17T11:12:00.002-05:00

Alain Bernard of the French Swim Team: “The Americans? We’re going to smash them. That’s what we came here for.”

Michael Phelps: "I'm sorry could you repeat that? I couldn't hear you over my 8 Gold medal's clanging together."

Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp)

Pickup Game Video

Golden Rule of building a new social circle.....

2008-08-29T19:21:00.008-05:00

In our Social Circle Mastery seminar Mr. M and I call this the "Golden Rule" for starting a new tree. Go for respect first and popularity second. It's easy to gain popularity. It's brutal to earn back the respect that you gave away up front. This applies with guys and girls.

Sometimes you may try to appease an asshole of the group or try to 'go along to get along' by doing what you think is popular, but the truth is you are only digging a deeper hole. This goes back to the old David D quote of, "Trying to trade status for acceptance and approval." (We've all messed this one up). I know lots of guys who are popular, but are nowhere near acquiring a power broker seat within their social circle. Guys in the power broker seats date the hottest and most women in any given social circle.

This does not mean become the lame try hard guy who tries to play leader all the either. That will get you opposite of respect just as fast. You can easily gain respect without trying to be the leader. Just be real and act out of your own intentions regardless of what the group says or does without being to rigid either way.

Fuck this could, and may, turn into a 10 page post someday, but for now simply remember the golden rule of building a new social circle.

Respect first, popularity second. When you get good, you go for both at the same time.

Few of the things I think of when I think of respect. I'm sure there are many more....
1. Strong Boundaries
2. Don't give people any more respect than they earn.
3. Honesty at all cost.
4. Authentic at all cost. (Fuck what everyone thinks)
5. Shine by actions, not by words.
6. Abundance mentality (With everything)
7. People must earn your praise. Your praise is as rare as Gold. You don't hand it out unless people truly deserve it.
8. You are never jealous. (See number 6)
9. Only laugh if something is truly funny. (No courtesy laughs) Yet, you would never withhold laughter.
10. You like, but don't need others validation.
11. Apologize rarely, but it means a lot when you do.
12. Keep your secrets. Why would you share them with people who don't matter?
13. "Don't spend major time with minor people." -Deleanor Roosevelt (I.E. Negative, people who make excuses...etc)
14. It's hard to get "in" with you. You are nice to everyone, but you don't get close to just anyone. They have to earn it. “Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.” -George Washington
15. Your time is precious. Don't let people disrespect your time, yet expect you to respect theirs.
16. Don't ask advice from the weak. Better yet, don't ask advice from anyone who isn't living the life you want to live.
17. Never lean or leak emotionally on other people. (May be the quickest way to lose respect. People who are not self reliant are disgusting!) This does not mean you can't ask favors or advice. This means you are emotionally fragile and need others approval to know you are ok.
18. Never change your beliefs, values, sense of humor, or bend the truth in the face of value. (Read this one 100 times. Most important. Every time I have broke this law I've hated myself for it!!! Anytime someone breaks this law around me, I've hated them for it.)
19. Has no problem teasing or qualifying people of high value, because you don't consider them higher value. You just consider them people. People with high and low value characteristics.
20. Favorite David D quote......Learn to say "No" a lot. Also, be ok hearing "No."

Have a good holiday weekend!

If you are going to the lake, wear your arm floaties

-Braddock

Fantasy Football Has Begun!!!!!

2008-08-28T21:47:00.007-05:00

These posts are copied and pasted from the message board of the league I play in with my best friends back home. My team name is FullFrontalMaleNudity

Post 1: MY DICK
(The Ladies Delight)
Aug 3 11:13pm
Cant wait to meet all your asses.

Post 2: KI????
(Cobra Kai)
Aug 11 10:21am
Change your name Colby! You worthless fuck. You didn't even spell it right...

Post 3: How bout my name?
(FullFrontalMaleNudity)
Aug 11 5:34pm
Suck My dick!

Post 4: Re: Ki???
(Cobra Ki)
Aug 11 11:09pm
Wow thanks John Crease, sorry i didn't lay on the couch jerking off to Ralph Macchio...Although I had the name first, I'll be the bigger man.

PS blow me

Post 5: League Dues:
(W/Another Man's Nuts)
Aug 12 8:30pm
If you did not pay last year, you must pay double this year. Let's vote on a league fee...Post your thoughts.

Champ

Post 6: Re: League Dues:
(My lil Ponies)
Aug 13 5:35pm
agreed I want my money from last year...What about fifty...William Wallace killed fifty men...fifty.

Post 7: Re: League Dues:
(W/Another Man's Nuts)
Aug 15 9:50pm
You are a good man. A thorough man. But you should listen to reason: reason says, have a wife and kid on the way, $50.00 may be pushing the wallet a little. Diapers and formula can get expensive in these trying times of economic hardship. I would hate to take food out of the baby's mouth and put those hard earned greenbacks into my hookers and beer fund. Just a random musing.

Champ

Post 8: Re: League Dues:
(KngDonkofPunchstania)
Aug 17 12:32pm
lolol good form, good form.

Post 9: Jason's name sucks dick
(FullFrontalMaleNudity)
Aug 18 1:24am
Jason's name sucks dick. Marcus Aurelius had a dream that was Rome....."Lady's delight" is not it.... I never thought I would see the day when Jason had, hands down, the worst name in the league. If Jason isn't going to take this league serious and pick a name that is actually funny or at least condescending, then I say he loses his freedom of choice.

We all liked Tuckmycockbtwmylegs. That was both funny and condescending. I say he has to switch it back or at least try again. That being said, I feel the rest of the names in this league fucking suck as well. I just expect more from Jason being he is slightly less mentally retarded then most members of this putrid league. Way to cut the last thread holding what little respect I had for you.

P.S. I don't want to start beating a horse that died three years ago, but I feel I must bend your ear and remind everyone to really.... really...... work hard this year to keep the trades league friendly. I really can't emphasize how important this is. Leagues get torn apart when this golden rule is not respected. Thanks for your time. (Cory please read this post to The Godfather, being as he can't read).

-Artist formerly known as 8InchOakRoot....Out

Post 10: No Defensive Back This Year
(W/Another Man's Nuts)
Aug 24 8:14pm
We will refrain from drafting a DB this year. Don't ask questions b/c they won't be answered. I said so. Commish. 2007 FFB Champion.

Post 11: Suck a dick. Lick a cunt.
(The Ladies Delight)
Aug 25 12:47am

And eat my fucking shit. I tore through this mutha fucker like an F5 Tornado last year only to have sweet victory SNATCHED from my talons by a Jason, an evil doer. This year I'm leaving a trail of carci (that's plural for carcass) in my ultra-violent and possibly homoerotic wake.

I see I have the luxury of using my beloved cousin as the first stepping stone, in week 1. Braddock, your post delivered a deep burn, but it was really only a red herring to distract me from the fact that you owe me $100. Best pay me! Who you think you are, Ron O'neal or somthin?!?!?

- The Ladies Delight

PS - AKA Beef Curtain
PPS - My changing of the name had nil to do with any peer pressure. Beef Curtain came to my attention only recently, and would have been implemented regardless. Thank you.
PPPS - Games and jokes aside... guys, he is right about the trades. All this just isn't fun if they aren't League Friendly.
PPPS - Adam and John... sweet god give your names a face lift. The old gals are tired!!!

Post 12: Also...
(The Beef Curtain)
Aug 25 12:57am

I need to add The Godfather that last PPPS with Adam and John. Cause I'm pretty god damn sure I've had to look at Reckless Abandon for multiple seasons now. I would also like to replace the sentence "sweet god" from that same PPPS with either "sweet shit", "sweet fuck" or "for fucks sake". The beginning of my post was really swear heavy, while the end was not and I needed to balance the equation. That should help the flow of the reading.

Thanks, Beef Curtain! (Formerly: Lady's Delight)

Post 13: Cobra Kai
(3rdTrimesterAbortion)
Aug 26 1:13pm
When I said change your name, I meant change the motherfucker not for you to correct the spelling of it you illiterate fuck. You've pissed me off now. I'm now changing my name from 3rd Trimester to a full on, partial birth abortion.

Fuck you all.

Post 14: LMAO!!!!
(FullFrontalMaleNudity)
Aug 26 7:27pm

This is the kind of message board I want to be part of. AP your picture made me puke (his league photo is of a 500 pound woman in a cheerleader uniform) and your name made me laugh so hard I was crying..

Jason's balancing of the cussing in his last post also made my jelly shake pretty fucking hard as well. Also, we are glad to see the peer pressure worked. (Appreciate the shout out to the league friendly trades. God knows it's important). Keep up the good work.

I know you are all morons and it takes literally hours to write one post and you have major headache, but it's well worth it.

P.S.
Adam = use to swab the poop deck in the navy, yet tells everyone he was a Marine.

Jarrod = (A weekly bye) Win the first game then lose 15 straight just like every year.

John = Doesn't know football. Has an anger problem.

The Godfather = fat ass redneck fuck. He'll be mailing his draft in this year being as he doesn't know how to use a computer. "And in the first round, The Godfather takes Marvin Harrison." GOD!!! I'm considering picking him, just because I can't stand how lame it is that you pick him.

Jason= Cum Dumpster. "Hey guys, look how diesel I am." Sooo tired of hearing that.

DR = (See also Matt and The Godfather's comments)

KJ = He's going to try to draft Freddy Addui in the first round because he thinks fantasy football means fantasy soccer.

Trades = Keep them League Friendly

Braddock (Aka Fullfrontalmalenudity, 8inchoakroot, aka big punisher, aka young fresh) = League Champ.

Love this song....

2008-08-27T19:33:00.001-05:00

Inner Game......Sense of Entitlement

2008-08-21T01:50:00.006-05:00

Having a sense of entitlement is important in life and in game. Do you think you deserve hot girls at a deep level? Do you think you deserve success in life?

A good friend and mentor who is great at life and great with women thinks and talks like this. While this is just a snap shot and sounds arrogant or over reactionary on the surface, it's actually not. It's not about thinking you are better than people or that the world owes you something. It's about going after what you want without regard for what others feel or think about the situation. It's not something he says daily, in fact it's pretty rare, but it is a good example of how his mind works and how his belief system is so deeply rooted in himself that he truly does not accept people putting him in a box or telling him what he 'is' or 'is not' capable of.

(After countless polite head nods and attempts to change the subject)

Random Asshole: "Well most people... bla bla bla... so you should...bla bla bla..."
My Friend: "Yeah? Well fuck you, I'm not most people. "

(Awkward silence.....Random asshole shuts up)

Good Talk,

-Braddock

Advanced Game......How to pass a shit test

2008-08-07T17:24:00.003-05:00

Free bootcamp seat winner!!!!

2008-08-06T11:33:00.010-05:00

Because this guy is easily my biggest fan and he knows my material like the back of his hand, I've decided to give him a free seat at the bootcamp location of his choice.

After watching this video it's obvious that he has studied our phone and text game product. I don't remember Savoy and I releasing it yet.....Fuck, it must have leaked!

Although I don't appreciate him stealing our Text and Phone Game product, it does feel good to know that he enjoyed listening to Tenmagnet, Cajun, and myself on Jealousy Plotlines CD!!!

I think we can safely assume all of the following are true:

He isn't wearing anything from the waste down in this video

By state and federal law he is not allowed withi n 200 yards of any school property.

He drives a scary van with no windows in the back

He has not had consensual sex he didn't pay for in let's say.....ever.

Under his trailer he has a giant pit he keeps tourists in.

He has a dog named Precious

He loves Nascar deeply and has a plan in the works to assassinate Jeff Gordon

His 30 mg of anti psychotic meds is about as effective as throwing a cup of water at a forest fire.

His mail order bride escaped from her cage earlier this year, hence the bitterness.

His favorite opener..... "Hey guys, quick question......Does this rag smell like chloroform?"

Glorious combat with The Godfather......

2008-08-03T01:22:00.021-05:00

The Godfather

Vs.

Braddock

(For those of you out there who are not platinum members or are new to Braddock's Blog, The Godfather is one of my close friends and mentors. He's 5 years older than me. I've known him since my senior year of high school).

The Godfather lives across the street. Yesterday I walked in his house and......

Braddock: (Walking right in). "Yo! You ever hear of locking your fucking door?"

The Godfather: "Fuck you. Come in here. Sit down and try this. I Got 48/50 and 50/50. None of these pussies could beat that and you damn sure can't. Kadin only got 43/50 and 45/50 and AP only got 40/50."

Braddock: "I'm literally going to get every one of these and I don't even know what we are playing yet. You guys going out with us tonight? I talked to Jeremy and he said there are going to be a shit load of girls at Xbar."

(The Godfather never says yes on the first invite......ever. You could literally have live surveillance of the venue on a big screen and super models could be scissoring on the floor and he would still pretend to be unimpressed and interrogate you about the venue, the girls, your source, the type of music, how it was last time, who's going, who's driving, what time are we coming back....etc...etc...etc. You never know if he's going until you are walking out the door. He's like a hot girl. He likes to collect 302 options and then take the best one.......Or..... he is just a dick!!!!!)

The Godfather: "How credible is your source?"

Braddock: "Jesus! I'm seriously fighting a deep urge to break a chair over your head right now. There are literally 3 fucking venues in this one horse town. If it sucks we will walk across the street. You in?"

The Godfather: "We'll see. Sit down and play this game and quit stalling."

Braddock: "If I beat you, then you are going. No backing out."

The Godfather: "Shit, if you get God damn 40 on each I'll go, swear to God."

Braddock: "Done. Move fucker. Go iron a shirt and start getting ready. I'm bout to lock it up. See if you can find a shirt in your closet that doesn't make you look gay."

(The game is two tests. Each test has pictures of 50 division 1 college football helmets and under each you have to type the name of the school the helmet represents).

(If there is one thing our hero is good at, it's games that revolve around random useless information. Let's just say that if useless trivia were a sport and I had a jersey, the number would be 23, they would retire it early, and it would be in the rafters somewhere).

Savoy referring to a section of a club he was dominating last L.A. Bootcamp....

Savoy: "See this area right here.....See this? This is my office."

Braddock's office = The Categories Below.

(In Braddock's office he has a heavy pimp hand and that hand is law)

Catch Phrase
Trivial Pursuit
U.S. Sports Trivia: With a strong emphasis on college football, college basketball, pro baseball, pro football, pro basketball. (Fuck soccer)
Relevant Movie Line Trivia: (Relevant = Don't know Indy films) Movie line trivia from 80's up. (Starting around The Breakfast Club era)
Jeopardy
College football by EA Sports on PlayStation or Xbox 360

For the bet with The God Father number 6 on the above list is the most important. In college at least 1/3 of my day revolved around my roommates and me picking the most random teams we could on PS2 college football and playing drinking games where you had to drink based on how many points the other guy scored on you. We played countless epic games between teams like Idaho vs. Alabama Birmingham. Soooo....needless to say, I know the helmets of the shit teams almost better than I do the good schools.

Who could have predicted that those 4 years of college drinking games would pay major dividends years later? I essentially trained for glorious combat with The Godfather for over 4 years!!

Ok, so to make a long story short....

After doing the proper stretches and calisthenics, I sat down at the computer and made short work of both tests only missing 1 out of 100. I missed Southern Florida!?!?!?! I knew it was in Florida, just couldn't think of the damn name....

Horse head in The Godfathers bed....That's how I roll! Gotta speak in terms he understands.....

(Shaking his head jaw dropped)

The Godfather: "You little fuck. This is bullshit. Who the hell knows Eastern Michigan and Western Kentucky without even pausing to think? I actually played college football and don't know those.......Fuck this."

Braddock: "Look, you mess with the bull, you get the horn bitch. Go get dressed. I'll be back to pick you guys up at 9:30."

The Godfather: "God damn you."

A lessor man would have respectfully stopped at 40 with his goal met....

I've always been the guy who gets pissed off when they put the second or third string quarterback in and then run the clock out. I hate the idea of sportsmanship. I literally threw up a little in my mouth at one of my little cousins soccer games when I found out that the parents had voted and decided that the league shouldn't keep score as to protect the kids feelings!!!! Jesus H! Parents that think like that wonder why there kids are pussies.

(Think this kid feels better cause they don't keep score?)
As if I didn't already FUCKING HATE soccer.......which I did........the whole 'we don't keep score' episode was the icing on the cake. (Sorry Kev : p)

I think that in any competition where the combatants are over the age of 5 years old, the winning team should attempt to score 300 points with the intention of crushing the other teams self esteem.

(On a side note: Until more long term testing is done and 'ALL' scientists worldwide can unanimously agree that high dosages of steroids are dangerous to small children, then I'm not going to throw the baby out with the bath water. I say let's give it a shot. I mean look what they did for Jimmy....)

Ok, I'm getting a little off topic here, sorry. Back to the point......

The Romans would have understood what I'm talking about. They invented running up the score! The Romans would go into enemy cities and kill all the soldiers, but that was only the beginning......stopping there would have been for pussies.....just killing the soldiers would have been the equivalent of putting in the sophomore quarterback and taking a knee to let the clock run out.

No no!! That's not how the Romans roll .......... The Romans would kill the men, rape the women, sell the children, burn the crops, and cover the fields in salt so nothing would grow there for 100 years. Now that's a blow out!! That's how you run up the score!!

The Romans understood the importance of striking fear into the hearts of the wicked. Sometimes you have to set the tone. As that one self help book put it...... what's that book called again........you know, the really old one........O yeah..... The Bible!!!! Yeah the Bible says it best, "The streets flow with the blood of the non believers."

In today's glorious tail children, The Godfather represents the "non believers," so his blood had to be let. Not only did I get the necessary 40 helmets to lock the Godfather into going, I went for the pride obliterating bitch slap by beating his high score. He may never be the same. The below picture was taken in The Godfather's office moments after serving the crushing defeat.

The Aftermath....

The God Father was good on his word and he came out with us. By the end of the night beers were drank, hands were shook, babies were kissed, dragons were slain, entire cities were put to the sword, girls were chased, and memories were made.

Here are the links to the football helmet quizzes if anyone wants to play:

Click Here

Until next time kids remember that if you want Braddock to breed with your mother, girlfriend, wife, sister, or cousin you save 10% on his stud fee if you are a platinum member of his blog. Now that's savings!!!!

-Braddock

-The End-

Learn from the best.....

2008-08-02T15:19:00.003-05:00

Orlando.....

2008-07-31T15:27:00.003-05:00

21 and Under Convention....
I only had time to stop by Thursday. I showed up just in time to catch the tail end of Dream's inner game speech. It was solid. I wish I would have heard that info when I was 21.

I spoke for about an hour on college game. I couldn't remember how long I was expected to speak so I prepared about 5 hours of content. 5 hours of college game, hmm........ future product?

I love speaking about college game because it's definitely my bag. Several of the principles Mr. M and I developed for our Social Circle Mastery seminar were born out of my college experience.

I like speaking to the younger guys. They have a lot of energy and they are fired up to learn this stuff. It's impossible not to feed off of that when you are speaking. I'm a little jealous. I wish I would have found this stuff when I was a freshman in college. Jesus! On second thought......maybe it's better that I didn't. I would probably be the baby daddy of like 30 kids.

I spent most of my speech trying to hit the highlights of what I wish someone would have told me when I started college. I also spent a fair amount time trying to MURDER the sacred cows of classic pickup dogma. I think the worst thing that a young guy can do on a college campus is run around trying to emulate what he learned in The Game. (I Love The Game it changed my life) but trying to develop a super hero pickup persona has it's time and place, but a college campus is not one of them. As a matter of fact that is the worst place to try and develop one.

At Love Systems we advise college guys and anyone gaming within the confines of a small social circle to learn the basic structure outlined in Savoy's book Magic Bullets, but to ditch all the lame old guard community dogma including but not limited to, peacocking, ALWAYS trying to control the frame, opening every set, having 300 DHV stories, and amoging guys for no reason.

I teach guys that in college game and in Social Circle Mastery you are much better DHV'ing by first getting your sub communications under control and second by letting other people observe you in multiple high value situations. The ultimate DHV is creating a 'Buzz' about you. In Social Circle Mastery we define buzz as having people talk about you when you aren't around. This trumps in weak DHV story you might develop.

DHV stories.....

In the words of Chris Rock.... "You ain't got to lie to kick it."
DHV stories were developed for cold approach because you have one shot at making it happen in cold approach so you don't have weeks or months to develop 'Buzz.' Therefore, you have to tell DHV stories in order to convey your personality in 30 minutes or less. This is why cold approach is such an art form and why it is so tough.

But in social circle or college game you run a high risk of looking insecure, like a braggart, or like you are lying if you constantly look for places where you can slide in a DHV stories.

"But but but, Braddock, I have this friend and he tells the best stories and girls love him and and and he says cold approach, frame setting, and deep comfort are the be all end all of game! He's the SELF proclaimed best ever!"

Yuck. Don't care. Ask him for pictures of these girls. I'm telling you from first hand experience if you want the hottest girls in your social circle, running fast paced cold approach game is the WORST option. It's not even the second or third best option. If you have access to a stable of hot girls you are going to see on a semi regular basis, RUN SOCIAL CIRCLE GAME!!!!!!! Fuck your friend.

"But..but...but...Braddock you teach cold approach. Why do you knock it so hard? You are hurting my feelings and making my friend upset."

Awww tell your friend I'm sorry. I promise not to hit on any of his 5's or 6's. I actually love cold approach. I have spent the last few years of my life mastering it. I would never try to convince someone not to learn it. If you travel, live in a major city and don't frequent the same venues, or are not in college it may be the only means of meeting women you have. If that is the case then social circle game is not possible for you. I understand. I have mastered both because I think cold approach is a blast but I have realized that it doesn't have to be a way of life.

Hunting vs Farming...... Evolution of society

I like to think of cold approach as hunting and social circle game as farming.

Hunting...
It is a necessary skill all men should posses, but in a progressive society it slowly becomes more of a sport or a right of passage and less and less of a means for survival. When you are hunting you have to kill something every time you are hungry. Sometimes it's the biggest best trophy animal of the herd and sometimes it's the disease ridden runt. You may have to take what you can get because you don't know when you will eat next. Every time you go out and don't kill something you become hungrier and hungrier. When you could be spending that time laying inroads for access to bigger better hunting ground, you aren't even thinking on those terms because you are starving!

Farming...
When you farm you do a lot of work up front followed by intermittent maintenance. Then when you are ready to harvest you come back and pick the best crops and throw away the weaker crops.

Omnivore...
When you combine the two this is true power. You have a harvest of crops growing, but you can go hunting for fun to see if you can find the trophy of the herd.

Basically......... LEARN BOTH!!!!!!!!!

Clubs in Orlando....
Really impressed by the girls in Orlando. I like tan blue eyed blondes. They were in no short supply of these girls. I stayed with one of my best friends Silver Back and he is really connected in Orlando so he took me to a club called 23 and the Oak Room. I learned a lot from him on just how quickly you can move into a new city and make Social Circle Mastery work. He moved to Orlando just a few months ago and already has access to any club he wants, is dating a really hot chick, and knows tons of value connectors in Orlando.

He was already good at cold approach when I met him, but seeing him combine the two was really validating for me. Quizzing him on what exactly he does and how he has added his own spin to Social Circle Mastery is going to make the seminar even stronger.

It was also nice running into my boys from Miami. I spoke at their laior a few months back and it was nice running into them again.

Until next time remember kids, playing with broken glass is one thing, eating it is another, but who am I to judge?

-Braddock

Help with text game.....

2008-07-30T14:11:00.002-05:00

Originally Posted on the attraction forums

Ok, so I texted her and at first I did well, but I am just as confused as I was left before ......I would like some advice on what to do next and or how she is feeling right now, so I know what steps to take next.

Here is the whole TEXT conversation

Me: Hey "My Boo"haha, whats up?
HB9: Lol! u found my number! did it take u that long
Me: Haha I bet you do that with all the guys.
HB9: No first time
Me: Haha I was telling my friend about this weekend, I had a blast!
HB9: And 4 having boys up in ur bed
HB9: I had fun too. still hate me?
Me: Nah, Why would I be mad at you?
HB9: Im a terrible beer pong partner
Me: Your no worst than Derrick(my roommate) at beer pong haha but WHAT ABOUT GUYS IN MY BED!?
HB9: I dunno, its fucked upMe: Explain
HB9: NopeMe: Is that a term or do you mean like literally? Haha its hard to keep up with you xD
Me: OMG I get it now hahahahah
HB9: Get what silly?
Me: Haha anyways, so we should prob do it again sometime.
HB9: Ya we should cuz ur kinda funny
Me: Ok, I got something going on saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? hahahaha
HB9: Sorry no sister. so wats this thing goin on saturday?(20-25min pass)HB9: HELLO
Me: Sorry at work lol. I dont like making plans to far in advance. I will call you thrusday with more details.
(1 hour passes)
Me: Sound good?
HB9:Sure.

My Response:
This is weak sauce man. She is giving you plenty of compliance. You can feel in her responses she is on the fence about you, waiting to see where you are going to lead the interaction. You are totally playing it safe with every text.

How would you text this girl if she was a 6 who had a cool personality, wasn't hot enough to date, but you wanted to keep around cause you might bang her someday if you were ever drunk and she was a last resort?

I'm not saying you would get all dirty on her, but you would challenge her, be playful and push the envelope. Yes, there are situations when you don't want to do this, IE when a girl is giving you little or no compliance, but the above texts are plenty of compliance.

Example.....

HB9: I had fun too. still hate me?
Me: Nah, Why would I be mad at you?
HB9: Im a terrible beer pong partner

If you are wondering where there was a window to show a playful side or show a little edge, this is one of them.

I wonder how she would have responded if you said something like this...

HB9: "I had fun too. Still hate me?"
Me: "Probably, for what?"
HB9: "I'm a terrible beer pong partner."
Me: "Yeah, you do suck. I definately picked you cause your hot, not for your beer pong skills. My back hurts from carrying our team. Me=Jordan You=Steve Kerr"

Ok and this is also weak sauce....

Me: Is that a term or do you mean like literally? Haha its hard to keep up with you xD
Me: OMG I get it now hahahahah
HB9: Get what silly?
Me: Haha anyways, so we should prob do it again sometime.
HB9: Ya we should cuz ur kinda funny
Me: Ok, I got something going on saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? hahahaha
HB9: Sorry no sister. so wats this thing goin on saturday?(20-25min pass)
HB9: HELLO
Me: Sorry at work lol. I dont like making plans to far in advance. I will call you thrusday with more details.
(1 hour passes)
Me: Sound good?
HB9:Sure.

I want you to read this again, but you read as if you are HB9 and "your" responses are from a girl you know you could have, but don't necessarily want. Can you feel the power shift when you do that? Can you feel how you are chasing?

Next thing that needs improvement....

Me: Is that a term or do you mean like literally? Haha its hard to keep up with you xD
Me: OMG I get it now hahahahah
HB9: Get what silly?

I feel like this was an attempt to bait her into something sexual. Am I right? If I am this is not very good man. For the next month or so don't worry about trying to get girls to talk dirty. My advice is that you work on being playful with girls and promise yourself that you won't chase. Playful, flirty, and push/pull. Don't become some asshole who has a mean joke for every sentence, but play with it for a while and find a nice middle ground.

Was this trying to take things sexual? Don't do it like this. She was nowhere near going sexual. When a girl goes sexual it is usually more overt and there is usually more of a hint that includes you. She was being general and non sexual.

Then in the end I feel like you are trying to be smooth and challenging, but it just doesn't come off that way at all. It sounds like you really don't have something cool, but you hope you can get her to come without telling her.

Me: Haha anyways, so we should prob do it again sometime.
HB9: Ya we should cuz ur kinda funny
Me: Ok, I got something going on saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? hahahaha
HB9: Sorry no sister. so wats this thing goin on saturday?(20-25min pass)
HB9: HELLO
Me: Sorry at work lol

Up to here you are fine!!!! Now just tell her what exactly is going on Saturday or tell her you will call her this weekend and let her know. Don't try to be smooth on something simple. She is just trying to collect options for Saturday. You can be smooth and mysterious if a girl already wants you. It means shit if a girl is on the fence or has only moderate interest.

(20-25min pass)
HB9: HELLO
Me: Sorry at work lol. I dont like making plans to far in advance I will call you thrusday with more details.
(1 hour passes)
Me: Sound good?
HB9:Sure.

Ok, the reason 1 hour passes is because you made it sound like the next time you will communicate is Thursday, which is fine. Just call her Thursday with plans and lose the "I don't like making plans this far in advance" crap. If that were true then you wouldn't tell her you have something 'planned' for Saturday. That's where you sound like you are trying to be smooth or trying to play hard to get, but it's actually just weak.

Minus that "I don't make plans in advance" stuff it was fine, but then you chase HARD with..... "Sound good?"

Me: Sorry at work lol. I dont like making plans to far in advance I will call you thrusday with more details.(1 hour passes)
Me: Sound good?

Why is this chasing? Because you tried to sound smooth, busy, challenging, dominant, whatever you want to call it with the "I'll call you thursday with more details" as if you are waiting to here back from Brad Pitt and Paris Hilton about where the big party is going to be, but then 1 hour later you are so worried abou what this girl thinks that you just have to make sure she didn't take it the wrong way so you say... "Sound good?"

See why that is weak sauce? It contradicts the whole image you tried to play. Drop the image from now on. Because here is the deal. If you randomly insert some image or some challenging text, but then contradict it every other text she sees you as weak.

The key is to drop any and all images and just be playful and challenging from the start. Then when she asks you what you are doing this weekend or you ask her and she is compliant be relaxed about it.

Good example, maybe something like this.....
Me: Ok, I got something going on saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? hahahaha
HB9: Sorry no sister. so wats this thing goin on saturday?
(20-25min pass)
HB9: HELLO
Me: "Fighting terrorism, rescuing children from a burning orphanage, you know the usual. lol But after that my friend Mike is having a barbeque for the UFC fight. Should be fun."

Until next time remember kids, milk has an expiration date for a reason.

-Braddock

Supernova......

2008-07-17T00:11:00.009-05:00

The last few months has been crazy for me. Mr. M and I launched our Social Circle Mastery seminar in June, Savoy and I are working on a phone and text game product (which is fucking unreal), and Mr. M and I are putting the finishing touches on an Inner Game Seminar which, in concert with the Social Circle Mastery seminar, has taken us over a year to piece together!

I'm really proud of this stuff. I should take pictures of my office back home. It looks like a schizophrenic and a 3 year old are sharing this place. I have about 300 post it notes stuck on everything, 20 notebooks with random scribblings everywhere, that only I could decipher, and shelves of books each ruined with highlighter and mini post it notes. This is quite the adventure trying to guide girls away from when they open the door to the bat cave. I can't tell you how many times I would be reading something or typing something and look up and the fucking sun was coming up. I have also spent about half my day over the last year either reading emails from Mr. M or typing them to him on these topics.

About once a week I will type up all of this madness, take it to Kinko's, and put it in spiral binders so I can take it on the plane with me. I literally have shelves of spiral binders from Kinko's. The girl at Kinko's knows me by name!

Mr. M upon seeing my 5 spiral binders in London:
(Said in a condescending Australian accent while shaking his head)

Mr M: "God damn Braddock what the hell is all that?"

Braddock: "It's a fucking space ship. What the hell do you think it is? It's stuff I'm adding to our Social Circle Mastery notes you dick."

Mr. M: (Still shaking his head) "Has anyone ever told you that you kill ants with fucking atomic bombs? Cause you do."

Braddock: (Flipping him off)

The Don trained me as an approach coach. I probably helped him with 25 or 30 of his bootcamps so he knows I do shit like this, but I've turned it up a notch since working on Social Circle Mastery, Inner Game, and Text and Phone Game.

The Don after seeing my giant Inner Game spiral:

The Don: "lol What the fuck is that? How can you possibly need that many post it notes on one notebook?..... You crazy fuck."

Braddock: (Flipping him off)

All the manic scribbling and hours of mind numbing reading have been worth every second. Social Circle Mastery is off the chain and I can't wait to launch Inner Game. I love Social Circle Mastery because its easy to apply, yet if guys will follow through on what we teach their social lives will never be the same.

Working on this Inner Game seminar has changed my life in so many ways. It's forced me to question every belief I've ever had and look at and confront my deepest insecurities and character flaws.

It's been really hard physically and psychologically, but I wanted it to be that way. Mr. M and I would have launched this sooner (we've had most of the content for months) but we wanted to make sure we were living the things we planned on teaching. Not just spouting off some shit we read in a book and telling other people it was good for them.

I can't stand the idea of teaching anything that I am not living or that I can't do personally. I fucking HATE "get like me" guys who aren't putting their money where their mouth is. They talk all kinds of shit and tell stories that sound sexy about sleeping with tons of girls and having lifestyles that sound out of this world, but you meet them or watch them and their 'true' results are laughable. Ugly ass girls, shattered inner game, and ZERO lifestyle. I could give a shit if they are exposed or not or if they are truly living the lifestyle the preach about. However, I think it sucks for guys who look to them for hope or who look to them as a benchmark for success. They are chasing something based on what some asshole is lying about. Feeling bad about themselves wondering why they are struggling so hard to find the same success as their hero.

I feel good about what we have developed because it's not theory and it's not ego based bullshit designed to make us sound cool. The content comes from real 1st hand experience. I know it works because we field tested it over and over to make sure it was repeatable. We decided not to add anything to the seminar unless that technique could give us each comparable results on separate continents. (Mr. M in Europe and me in North America).

Alright, I'm to tired to rant any longer. I've got to finish packing so I can go to sleep. I can't remember the last time I slept in my own bed for more than 3 days in a row! In the last two months I've been in London, Amsterdam, LA, and Chicago.

I've got some great stories for you guys and some great video of live pickup I plan on posting soon. I'm heading to Denver tomorrow to run a bootcamp and then next week I'll be speaking at the Under 21 Convention Thursday and then I'll be running my own Orlando Bootcamp Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.

Under 21 Convention
(12pm to 8pm, July 24th - 26th)
The Under 21 Convention in Orlando. It's going to be sick!

They have put together an all star cast of speakers for this event. If you are going to be in the area you would be crazy not to drop in and check this out. It's only $100 dollars to attend. It's rare to get that level of information at such a low price. I will be speaking Thursday. I have put together a presentation with some great content for college game and social circle game. Hope to see you guys there.

To sign up:
e-mail support@under21convention.com . Put attending in the subject line and please state how many people will be attending with you that will NOT be e-mailing the staff themselves

Anymore questions about the convention? Click here

Until next time kids remember, "You're moms not a whore she just crushes a lot."

-Braddock

How to dump girls gently.....

2008-07-13T12:36:00.000-05:00

Text game.....

2008-07-09T20:54:00.002-05:00

Helicase sent this to me yesterday.

Soul has taken over my blog today.....

2008-07-08T20:18:00.003-05:00

Soul has taken over my blog for today. I will do a violent overthrow of this tyrant later today or maybe tomorrow. It depends on how quickly I can:

Accumulate the necessary resources and man power.

Finish my motivational speech to the troops. You have to be careful what you say when you are writing a speech trying to persuade a bunch of men to embark on a suicide mission. I'm thinking I'll start the speech off with a joke just to kind of set a relaxed tone, we'll see.

Find his weakness.

Until then gather round kids and let London Soul tell you a story.......
-Braddock

From Soul

Thanks mate, you are a strange strange man!

Same Day Lay: The 18 Year Old Virgin

I’m not really one for writing detailed LRs, but I wanted to break this one down just to demonstrate what is possible in Day Game. It’s also a good reminder of how far I’ve come. To think that a few years ago I couldn’t even imagine talking to a beautiful young woman in the cold light of day, let alone sleeping with one on the same day I met her, is incredible.

There are two themes to this story that are important for developing your skills with women (and indeed, improving any area of your life): Experimentation and Persistence.

Whenever you get good at something, you will find you periodically reach a plateau in your skill level. At this stage, you need to experiment and start trying different methods and techniques. In this case, I wanted to experiment with daytime physical escalation. I normally advocate that my students avoid serious kino (physical touching) in Day Game until they are on a date with the girl. But I was curious to see whether I could kiss girls quickly in the daytime and still seduce them.

The second theme is persistence. It is important to realize that when you think something should be possible, you need to be persistent in order to achieve it. 99% of people don’t have enough determination and will give up too soon. But if you really believe something can work and you persist at it, eventually you will crack the secret. That’s how I originally got into Day Game.

The Holland Trip & Real Man Conference 2008

SmoothDoc from the Dutch Seduction Lair invited my good friend Dr Yen and me to visit him in Holland to give a talk to the Dutch Lair. I’d never met this guy before, but was completely in awe of him when I did. He’s putting together the Real Man Conference 2008, which is an international summit for guys wanting to improve their skills with women and is taking place in Amsterdam on the 20th and 21st September.

What really impressed me about SmoothDoc was his devotion to the event. He’s not even sure if he’s going to make any money from it. He already has the lifestyle he wants: a lovely house in the suburbs, a flash car and a loving and beautiful wife. He tells me he is putting together the conference because it is his dream. He equates it to seeing a beautiful woman on the street and thinking, “I have to approach her, I have to try.” For him, this conference is the same deal. There’s nothing I respect more in a man than determination and integrity.

Experimentation

Hanging out with Dr Yen is great. He came to one of my London lair talks about half a year back and has now become a good friend. It’s amazing when you teach someone something and then you watch as they develop it and improve upon it until they have their own unique style.

Dr Yen is a powerhouse of sexual energy. Skinny with bleached blond rock star hair, he is the Italian Stallion of the modern era. He tells me about pushing physical escalation boundaries on the street at night and how this helps him to filter out the girls that aren’t going to go home with him.

It sounds intense but exciting. I normally make it a rule not to escalate physically with a girl in Day Game until we’re on an instant date. But I have started to wonder how fast and far I can push things physically in the daytime.

I am doing a few street sets the first day I’m in Amsterdam when I spot a beautiful girl wearing sexy, big sunglasses sitting at a table outside a coffee shop. I go over and run one of my standard direct openers, “Excuse me, you are so gorgeous I had to come and say hello” – she opens up like a can of beans. A few minutes later, I’m taking her number and trying to establish a logistical plan for spending more time with her.

She tells me she’s going to Paris early tomorrow morning, so I’m thinking either I try to sleep with her this afternoon or when she’s back from Paris a day later. I have to get back to Dr Yen, so I take her number and leave. A little while later I meet her at the station for a few minutes and just think, “Fuck it, go for the kiss.” It’s broad daylight and I’ve interacted with her for all of four minutes, but all I can think about is pushing things as far and fast as I can.

I look at her, start giving her my seduction eyes, lean in slowly to kiss each cheek, pull back, and then pull her in to kiss me on the lips. There’s tension and some resistance, but my lips touch hers. There’s more resistance, so I add in some tongue and her resistance falters. She is mine.

I try texting and calling her to meet me when she comes back from Paris, but she flakes. Damn it. I conclude that I pushed too far in the initial interaction without having good enough logistics to continue it. The rapid daytime makeout needs modification, but I am determined to make it work.

Persistence

Next up is a Chinese girl with a loose green top that doesn’t leave much to the imagination. I open her on the street and start touching her arms and hands immediately. There is resistance, but I keep talking and making her laugh. I tease her by saying that she wore those clothes on purpose so that I would approach her.

Once I’ve got her giggling, I convince her to come have a drink with me. Something about her top and billowing breasts possess me while we sit there in the hot sun, and suddenly I turn into super kino escalation guy. My hands are ALL over her and at first there is resistance, but then she starts to enjoy it and keeps saying, “This is so crazy!” I keep going for the makeout, but there is even more resistance. I am fighting through it like a trooper. I start kissing her neck and whispering all the naughty things I want to do to her into her ear. It’s about 3pm, broad daylight outside, and I’ve known this girl for all of ten minutes.

I convince her to come to my hotel room another twenty minutes later. Then I have to wait until Dr Yen gets out. While he is getting ready, I build some meagre comfort with the girl. When Yen leaves, I caveman her onto the bed. There’s more resistance and ultimately she refuses to have sex with me. Damn it. This time I had the logistics, but I didn’t have the comfort. With some seriously blue balls at this stage, I resolve to make the rapid daytime makeout work.

Reward

Yen and I decide to hit up the free music festival in The Hague. Festivals are awesome because everyone is always in such a good mood. I spot a beautiful young brunette girl on the tram over there, but she’s too far away to open.

We get off the tram and a few minutes later I notice she’s just in front of me walking slowly by herself. Boom! A girl walking slowly is always a good sign for a Same Day Lay; they’re typically in a slightly dreamlike state, almost waiting for something exciting to happen to them. It also means she’s not in a rush to go meet anyone either, which means you could be the person she spends the rest of the afternoon with.

One of the great things about Day Game is that once you get over your approach anxiety, it’s actually very simple and easy to strike up a conversation with a beautiful woman. In most situations you can either use a Direct or a Situational Opener and then transition off it with something interesting and/or funny. My goal is to make a girl laugh within the first minute or two of the interaction; that way she’ll completely relax and happily continue talking with me.

Dr Yen runs off to open some blonde girl in pink tights. I walk up behind the young brunette girl and tap her lightly on the arm from behind.

Soul: Hey, my friend has just gone to chat up that girl over there, so I’m bored and need company. How are you?

Her: Oh, ok [smiling]. I’m fine thanks.

Soul: So have you been to this festival before?

Her: No, it’s my first time.

Soul: Awesome, me too. I’m in Holland for the weekend, I love it here. Everyone is so cute and friendly. I love the Dutch accent too. It always sounds like you guys are talking with your mouth full!

Her: [Giggles]

Soul: Where are your friends? [I’m establishing logistics]

Her: I’m meeting a friend a bit later, but just thought I’d come by myself for a bit and wait until she gets here.

Soul: [*Ding ding ding* A girl walking around by herself is waiting to be swept off her feet] Wow, that’s brave of you to come to a huge festival by yourself. I really like that kind of independence in a woman.

Her: [Beaming smile] Thanks!

I continue walking and talking with her. Five minutes later I’m wondering whether I can kiss her or not. I always tell my students, “Don’t be someone who makes assumptions as to whether something is possible or not, be willing to test those assumptions with your actions.”

So I stop her, tell her that she has amazing skin, and stroke a lock of her hair back. No reaction. She just keeps on looking at me. It’s a good sign. I lean in and she reciprocates. We kiss, softly and gently at first, and then more voraciously. I learned my lesson from the previous daytime makeouts, so I pull away a few seconds later. I am not going to make the mistake of doing too much, too soon.

I take her by the hand and we keep on walking and talking. I run my standard comfort and kino escalation stuff – we sit down on the grass, listen to the music and I put my arms around her and stroke her gently. I find out all about her passions, her interests, where she has travelled, and what she wants to be when she grows up. I tell her a bit about myself, without giving too much away.

Girls don’t need to know all the details about you. They just want to see some evidence that you could be the kind of man they spend time with. What this is exactly varies from woman to woman, but there are certain characteristics that are almost universally attractive, such as passion, ambition, determination, adventurousness and integrity.

We keep walking and eventually meet up with her friend. I tell her that I’d love to spend more time with her and seed the idea of having drinks at my hotel later on in the evening. When you seed an idea like this early on, it achieves two things. It tests the water to see how they react to the idea and it makes it seem smoother later on when it’s actually time to move back to your place.

I start setting sexual frames as well to make sure that she understands (on an emotional level) that we are going to be intimate. I tell her I am going to kiss her delicious skin all over, and that she’s going to enjoy running her hands over my muscular, taut body. She is smiling and says, “That sounds nice.” It’s on.

I go catch up with Dr Yen while she goes off with her friend. I leave them to chill for a while, and then tell her to come meet me outside the festival. We get in a tram and head back to my hotel.
Once we get inside, she looks at me, and says, “I have to tell you something.” I’ve heard these words enough times to know what’s coming. “I’m a virgin,” she says.

I’ve been with plenty of virgins in the past, and I’m grateful to have learnt from my mistakes enough to give every virgin I meet a great first time. The old adage, “Leave them better than you found them,” is never more relevant than with a virgin.

Soul: [Big, warm smile] That’s ok. We don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to. I’m going to take care of you tonight, ok honey?

Her: I know. That’s why I came home with you. I just felt so comfortable with you. This is crazy. I’ve never slept with any of my boyfriends before. I always lied and told them I was waiting for the one, but I don’t think I was. I think I just needed someone to make me feel as comfortable as you have.

I look at her, smile, and lead her by the hand to my bed. I say, “Let’s get into bed,” and we take off our clothes.

I spend the next half hour making the softest, gentlest and most sensual love to her. Once I’m sure she’s enjoying it and it’s not hurting her, I shift up a few gears and pound her into the bed.

I get this text from her when she gets home,

“Hey Jeremy, how are you? I just wanted to let you know that I really loved spending time with you. This night was amazing, just as you are. I wish you and your friend a good time in Amsterdam. We’ll stay in touch. Xx”

It was a beautiful day outside and night had just begun to fall.

Alright mates, that's all for now,

Soul

Japanese Bug Fights....2 man enter.....1 man leaves

2008-07-06T22:48:00.002-05:00

RULES OF JAPANESE BUG FIGHTS

1. Two Bugs to a fight
2. Bug fights go on as long as they have to
3. No outside weapons in Bug Fights

http://www.japanesebugfights.com/user.htm

Early shows us how to be persistent ......

2008-07-05T23:51:00.002-05:00

Happy 4th!

2008-07-04T02:30:00.001-05:00

Email I recieved today....

2008-07-03T19:12:00.005-05:00

Email:

"Braddock, thanks for posting that thread on "Fuck Oneitus" (a while back, found it with some determined searching) I'm going through a really tough time right now and your little "rant" on moving on has inspired me like nothing else throughout this entire process!!"

Reply:

I'm glad to hear it helped you. That is one of the hardest things a man can go through, so I feel you man.

One piece of advice I wish someone would have told me....

Don't work to replace her or work to find a new girl to make you feel better. Don't look to find a hotter or cooler girl to make her jealous. That mindset just keeps you trapped in a prison of the past. All your actions are oriented in reaction to her. This keeps her at the front of your mind constantly.

Try to look at your life as if it was a book. If you were writing "your book", that relationship was just a chapter in your book. Let's call it chapter 4. That chapter is over. Now, who knows what adventures or stories will make up chapter 5 and beyond!

But you can't start writing the rest of the book until you stop reading and rehashing chapter 4. I promise it will get better and I promise you will look back at this as one of those tough battles that you wouldn't want to endure again, but you are so glad you did. It will make you stronger and it will be a catalyst to tremendous growth in your life.

Get away from that bitch, take down the pictures, stop letting friends talk to you about her, stop talking to other people about her, don't check her facebook or myspace. Every time you do that, you are no longer writing chapter 5. You are reading chapter 4 again, hoping it will end differently. Fuck that! You've read chapter 4, you know how it ends. Start writing chapter 5 and make it one of the best chapters in your book.

Good luck man! Thanks for the shout out,

-Braddock

Love Systems Live Demos......

2008-07-01T20:32:00.001-05:00

Dumped? Redemption........

2008-06-24T23:32:00.002-05:00

R.I.P George Carlin

2008-06-24T20:01:00.007-05:00

1. When cheese gets it's picture taken, what does it say?
2. When someone asks you, A penny for your thoughts, and you put your two cents in, what happens to the other penny?
3. If lawyers are disbarred and clergymen defrocked, doesn't it follow that electricians can be delighted, musicians denoted?
4. When someone is impatient and says, "I haven't got all day," I always wonder, How can that be? How can you not have all day?
5. I thought about how mothers feed their babies with tiny little spoons and forks so I wondered, what do Chinese mothers use? Toothpicks?
6. If a pig loses its voice, is it disgruntled?
7. Is a vegetarian permitted to eat animal crackers?
8. What if there were no hypothetical questions?
9. Frisbeetarianism is the belief that when you die, your soul goes up on the roof and gets stuck.
10. Some national parks have long waiting lists for camping reservations. When you have to wait a year to sleep next to a tree, something is wrong.
11. Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach him how to fish, and he will sit in a boat and drink beer all day.
12. Before they invented drawing boards, what did they go back to?
13. Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday.
14. Why do croutons come in airtight packages? It's just stale bread to begin with.
15. I have as much authority as the Pope, I just don't have as many people who believe it.
16. May the forces of evil become confused on the way to your house.
17. Have you ever noticed that anybody driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone going faster than you is a maniac?
18. If the #2 pencil is the most popular, why is it still #2?
19. I think it would be interesting if old people got anti-Alzheimer's disease where they slowly began to recover other people's lost memories.
20. Electricity is really just organized lightning.
21. Women like silent men, they think they're listening.
22. "I am" is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that "I do" is the longest sentence?
23. Men are from Earth, women are from Earth. Deal with it.
24. If all the world is a stage, where is the audience sitting?
25. Well, if crime fighters fight crime and fire fighters fight fire, what do freedom fighters fight? They never mention that part to us, do they?
26. Honesty may be the best policy, but it's important to remember that apparently, by elimination, dishonesty is the second-best policy.
27. I recently went to a new doctor and noticed he was located in something called the Professional Building. I felt better right away.
28. Why is the man (or woman) who invests all your money called a broker?
29. I'm completely in favor of the separation of Church and State. My idea is that these two institutions screw us up enough on their own, so both of them together is certain death.
30. There's no present. There's only the immediate future and the recent past.
31. At a formal dinner party, the person nearest death should always be seated closest to the bathroom.
32. As a matter of principle, I never attend the first annual anything.
33. The very existence of flame-throwers proves that some time, somewhere, someone said to themselves, You know, I want to set those people over there on fire, but I'm just not close enough to get the job done.
34. Death is caused by swallowing small amounts of saliva over a long period of time.
35. Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that.
36. I think it's the duty of the comedian to find out where the line is drawn and cross it deliberately.
37. The only good thing ever to come out of religion was the music.
38. Religion convinced the world that there's an invisible man in the sky who watches everything you do. And there's 10 things he doesn't want you to do or else you'll go to a burning place with a lake of fire until the end of eternity. But he loves you! ...And he needs money! He's all powerful, but he can't handle money!
39. This is a lttle prayer dedicated to the separation of church and state. I guess if they are going to force those kids to pray in schools they might as well have a nice prayer like this: Our Father who art in heaven, and to the republic for which it stands, thy kingdom come, one nation indivisible as in heaven, give us this day as we forgive those who so proudly we hail. Crown thy good into temptation but deliver us from the twilight's last gleaming. Amen and Awomen.

Social Circle Mastery...

2008-06-19T15:49:00.007-05:00

Social Circle Mastery: Revealing the Social Matrix,

Here is a taste of our new seminar. I'm really proud of this. This is what Mr. M and I have been working on the last six months. - Braddock

by Mr. M.Part 1: The Structure of Your Social Life

'Social Circle Mastery' is the foundation of “next generation” pick up and dating techniques. It takes us beyond relying only on “cold approach” to meet women and enhance your social life. (Cold approach is someone you don’t know and don’t really have any connection to). It has several purposes – to make it easier to meet and seduce “10s” (shorthand for top models, beautiful actresses, Playmates, and other women who are the elite of the elite, at least in terms of looks) – and also to better manage your social life in general and to understand the social dynamics that affect any group situation, such as school or work.

Background

Before I begin, Braddock and I have one confession – we were never intending to develop an all-encompassing system for managing your social life. We were just looking for new and more consistent ways to seduce 10s. Don’t get me wrong – the Love Systems approach that I teach at bootcamps around the world, that I contributed my best and most secret routines to in the Love Systems’ Routines Manual, that I wrote a chapter on Inner Game for the next edition of Savoy’s Magic Bullets, and that I contribute my newest insights to in the SeductionInfo.com advanced interview series – it all works, and it’s amazing. It’s a cliché to say that Love Systems changed my life, but it’s true. And every weekend when we teach a program, we change another dozen lives. As a cold approach system, it’s revolutionary and amazing and I am never going to stop doing cold approach.

But cold approach has inherent limitations. If I want a 10 tonight and there’s no 10 where I go out, there’s not much I can do. Even Savoy can’t seduce a woman who isn’t there. There’s luck involved, and we wanted to control the impact of chance. Chance isn’t always bad – sometimes random opportunities come your way, and if you have the skills to take advantage, it can be amazing. The seduction of the famous Playboy Playmate that I wrote about in a previous LSi is a perfect example – if you missed it, there’s a summary here.Anyway, back to 10s. On an immediate level, we use our social circles in two different but related ways:

As a source of beautiful women. Of course, this only happened when we learned how to find, join, and lead social circles that have these beautiful women in them. This is what led us to the MRB5 model, which I will get into below.

As “glue”. With any woman, there’s always a chance that her logistics (other commitments, friends, etc.) will prevent you from seducing her on the same night you meet her. We’ve all succeeded against heroic odds and those make the best stories, but the mundane reality is that, for example, the runway model you just met after a fashion show probably isn’t going to be able to go anywhere with you that night, no matter how good you are. By building and managing social circles in the right way, you can absorb her into your life and grow her interest in you without you actually doing anything. We call this “slow burn game”

It sounds easy in theory, right? The devil is in the details. It does take some work, with the lifestyle that Braddock and I and other guys who are using Social Circle Mastery are using, it’s so worth it.

Before I get into some of the specifics, I want to reassure you that before Love Systems I was not naturally great at social situations. I was never the popular guy in school and my social life since then wasn’t a whirlwind of activity. Braddock’s story is slightly different (and hopefully we can get him to tell it in an upcoming LSi) but the point is that you don’t have to be one of the naturally socially powerful people to succeed with Social Circle Mastery.

Having social circle mastery means that you have the lifestyle, the friends, the connections, the access to people/places/parties/events and the hot women in your social circle. Beautiful women should be plentiful, abundant and dying to be a part of your social circle and your life. It is a social magnetism towards your life. It also means having the ability to seduce women like a rockstar through this social circle.

The Basics: Social Dead Ends and Two Types of Connectors

Let’s begin with basics, the building blocks that will help with the more advanced Social Circle Mastery concepts. First, let’s define two terms or different types of people: ‘social dead ends’ and ‘connectors’. A social dead end is someone who adds no value to your life and generally brings you down – usually through things like negativity, inability to progress, or disinterest in evolving as a person. Many people who go through our exercises at the beginning of our Social Circle Mastery seminar recognize some of these behaviors in themselves. Human beings are imperfect.

A connector (our use of this term is inspired by Malcolm Gladwell in The Tipping Point, though obviously we’ve changed it to apply to dating science instead of to societal trends). There are actually a couple of different kinds of connector. A social connector is someone who has a particular and rare set of social skills. They belong in multiple social circles and introduce people to other people all the time.

A ‘value connector’ is a bit different. Such a person may be social - and is likely to be - but it doesn’t matter if s/he is a recluse. A value connector has access to scarce resources, where a social connector “only” has access to different social networks. A value connector may be a doorman or promoter who can get you into a hot venue. S/he might have access to parties, events, premieres, famous people, and so on. This gives you value as well, one step removed. Remember in Chapter 7 of Magic Bullets when Savoy goes through the eight qualities that are universally attractive to women, and how the book shows how can you demonstrate Status (one of the qualities) through your social circle as well as through yourself? That’s what we’re building off of here. Some people are both social connectors and value connectors.

Of course, we’re not talking about using people or a mercenary approach to friendship. Most connectors are interesting, positive and passionate people who inspire others around them. Surrounding yourself with high-value people will motivate you to make the best of your life as opposed to surrounding yourself with people whose own failings, insecurities and need to protect their ego justifies settling for the familiar and the routine. To paraphrase Napoleon Hill in his book Think and Grow Rich, when you hang around people who are excellent, you become excellent yourself.

Anyway, remember social dead ends and the two types of connectors. These will be very important in the next Social Circle Mastery articles.

The Structure of Your Social Life: the power of fifteen

Most people’s social lives can be mapped to a series of concentric circles. There is an innermost “core” of one or two close friends. Then comes an inner core of another 3-5 people and an outer core of another 5-15 people. These aren’t arbitrary numbers – this is how the human mind subconsciously qualifies social relationships. Doing both the academic and the real-world research to come with that was a pain, but it’s an important concept. The people in these cores comprise of the people who most influence your life. It has been said that ‘you are the average of the 5 people that you hang around the most’. This is partially true, but it is more accurate to say that most people are influenced by up to 15 people at a time, as different relationships ebb and flow in intensity.

Managing your core is crucial. Your objective should be to fill your core as much as possible with connectors. They should bring value to you and you need to bring value to them.

This will have an immediate impact on your dating life, whether or not you go for 10s. One of the insights from Magic Bullets is that women will judge you based on your friends. This is true for one night stands (if you are around fun, cool people and are the life of the party, you are immediately more attractive) and even more for longer-term relationships, since most women are interested in the social life and opportunities that you bring her to. A lot of this “immediate effect” dimension builds off of the great interview that Savoy and The Don did on Advanced Winging (download it now on Seductioninfo – it’s one of the best interviews in the series and if you ever go out with a wingman, it will improve both of your results immediately).

Taking it one step further, your social network should not only be attractive to women, but also be a source of beautiful women into your life. This is something we cover in detail in the Social Circle Mastery seminars and will figure prominently in future articles.

On a more advanced level, when you are introduced through friends to other friends, your pre-existing alliances often determine your social value and your relative value to the person to which you are being introduced. Don’t go saying “I don’t want to play that game”. Beautiful women are hyper-conscious of social value.

The key principle about your core is to bring value to peoples’ lives and they will bring value to yours. Be a connector and have other connectors in your life. If all the slots in your top fifteen are filled with negative people who don’t offer value or exhibit forward momentum in their own lives, then you might need to reassess the role that they play in yours. You can have friends you like and care about who don’t help you meet your goals in life, but these should not be the only friends you have.

Your top three cores (the approximately 15 most present people in your life) determine your social success –in terms of (a) social status (b) life orientation and (c) at least some degree life success. You can’t expect to fill these spaces with people who can’t help you reach your goals and then complain that these goals are out of reach.

Social Trees

The last concept I want to define in this article is that of Social Trees. Everyone is part of a number of different social trees. Examples of where ‘social trees’ arise include your workplace, your school, the guys that you go out with, your yoga class etc. Social trees are relative in value to you and to each other. For example, having a high position on a certain low value social tree (e.g. the leader of two geeky guys who each have no friends) is not as socially valuable as having a low position on a high-value social tree (e.g., the celebrity hanger-on who occasionally gets to sleep with beautiful fans). That being said, it is always advisable to be amongst the top of one tree. One practical use of this is on dates, which we often plan so that she can see you in a social environment in which you’re up at the top of the social tree (e.g., you’re throwing a party, so you invite her to come with you). You shouldn’t have to re-read Magic Bullets to know how powerful an effect that social status has on women.

Understanding trees is understanding social dynamics, and our techniques for “tree climbing” (becoming the alpha mate of trees), “tree jumping” (how to switch trees) and merging trees are part of the magic of Social Circle Mastery and we should touch on these in future articles.

Initial Insights

The goal of this article is to introduce the concept of connectors, dead ends, cores, and trees. With that as a foundation, we can get into some of the more insights and strategies for Social Circle Mastery (or when you come take the seminar, you will be able to hit the ground running from the first minute). Additionally, I wanted you to think of Social Circles as something you can manage, indeed master, as opposed to taking a purely passive approach about who ends up in your life.

As an exercise, I’d like you to think about your social relationships in terms of cores and trees. Map them out on paper. Ask yourself who is a social connector, who is a value connector (some people may be both) and who is a dead end. What is missing from your social life? Who might you want to cultivate? Are you bringing value to the connectors in your life?

Just by asking yourself these sorts of questions, you will already be taking a giant leap forward over most men.

We’ve got a couple more articles ready to go, so stay tuned for those in future emails. As well, Braddock and I will try to get to as many posts related to Social Circle Mastery over the next week or two as we can in The Lounge (if you are not a member of the The Lounge because you haven’t taken a bootcamp or seminar with a Love Systems instructor, we’ll also be on The Attraction Forums, which is open to everyone.