Give Me Sugar!

Nature's Credit Card

2009-06-23T11:53:00.000-07:00

Sugar daddy types and those who feel compelled to pay for the special attention of women may be interested in some elements of this post I made about wanting to use nature's credit card to get what I want:

On the Golden Girls, Blanche referred to buying things with her body as "using nature's credit card". I wonder: what is the percentage of women who 1) want things and 2) immediately scan the room for men who can provide the means for procuring the things that they want. I imagine it's pretty high. It seems perfectly natural. And of that number, how many would use "nature's credit card" to seal the deal?

Valentine & St. Paddy's Day Soxy Stuff

2009-02-02T16:04:00.000-08:00

Wondering what to get me for Valentine's Day or my birthday on March 17th? Hosiery (socks, legwarmers, tights, thigh highs, etc.) is always perfect. In fact, SockDreams has pages of stuff THEMED to match Valentine's Day and St. Patrick's Day if you want to narrow down your choices just a bit.

Two Massages this Week

2009-01-11T16:55:00.000-08:00

On Friday, I enjoyed my second massage that week. Professional, one-hour massages that I paid to enjoy in a spa. It seemed excessive -- two massages in the space of five days -- but it felt SO GOOD!

I hate to admit this, but I still feel guilty about "indulging" myself and my body through massage and other things people consider frivolous luxuries. I *know* I shouldn't feel guilty about it -- I DO NOT WANT TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT -- but I do. I feel like I need to defend myself and I worry that other people are judging me for treating myself to things that feel good. Here are some of the lines I feel like I always need to have at the ready, or things that I say whenever I mention to anyone (online or offline) that I've gotten (or I'm about to get) more massage:

I know I can't afford it but it's ten dollars off this week. * After all of the hours I spend sitting at the computer working, massage is a necessity to help prevent headaches; I can't afford to have more headaches! * I'm not using OUR money, I'm using extra money I earned from talking to my wanker on the phone. * I know, I'm so *lucky* to have time and money to get massage; some people don't even have three meals a day or work so many hours at three different jobs they never get to spoil themselves that way! * I know massage seems like a luxury, but really it's THERAPEUTIC, just like getting exercise or taking medicine when you're sick.

GiveMeSugar.com is therapeutic, too. It's a project I started for fun but also to confront & deal with these messages of shame that are burned into our brains saying we don't DESERVE to feel good, to possess beautiful things, to have time and stuff all to our individual selves.

When I tell people how much massage I'm getting (not nearly "enough" -- I don't think I could ever have TOO much massage), it's almost like I have to apologize for trying to feel good, as though somehow it's only acceptable to spend an hour having your body rubbed by someone you hired if you insist that you only did it because you feel really, REALLY bad. Like you're not allowed to take care of yourself unless you're totally sick.

I should not feel guilty about giving myself pleasure, or obtaining pleasure from other people who tell me it pleases them to provide it, or from paying someone money to give me pleasure so that I am free to enjoy it rather than obligated to reciprocate or try to guess what the person wants in return. I shouldn't feel the need to demonstrate to other people ways that I've denied myself, scrimped, saved, or worked a million hours to "earn" the right to feel good. I shouldn't feel the need to compare myself to those who are less fortunate than I am and protest that I recognize I'm no more worthy than them, I'm just blessed (and certainly don't DESERVE to be). I shouldn't be limited to only having the NECESSITIES in life. I shouldn't have to explain to people that what I do IS work or list a bunch of sacrifices I've made in order to qualify for pleasure. And neither should any other woman. I actually DETEST hearing women minimize their worth like that, apologizing for behaving in ways or experiencing things they supposedly don't have a RIGHT to do or have or feel.

It's not paranoia that makes me feel judged, it's the truth. Since the advent of the internet, women and especially teenage girls have been judged extremely harshly for "taking advantage" of sugar daddies. Girls with wishlists and webcams and paypal accounts and online donation/tip jars and mailboxes rented under pseudonyms have been criticized, lectured, demeaned, patronized, and blamed for all kinds of stupid things. For getting what they want "the easy way". As though what they provide in return is necessarily "easy" or as if there's something inherently wrong with gaining something without giving up more. As though you should refuse when someone offers to give you something. As usual, women are told we're at fault for benefiting from the weaknesses of men. For upsetting the balance where we're only supposed to be AFRAID of (or submit to) what men want to thrust upon us rather than exploiting it in calculated, unapologetic, gleeful ways according to our own rules. There are men who want to tip the balance back in our favor, too; people who see the system and society's standards as skewed and upside-down and want to restore us to our natural position in which we have what they want, and they pay to (try to) get it. While it may seem dysfunctional to some, it's just a response to and part of the greater dysfunction in the world.

The world growls at women who show pride or a sense of entitlement, "What, does she think she's SPECIAL or something?" "There are a million women just like her; what makes her think she's SPECIAL?" Women shouldn't have to apologize for recognizing that they are special and behaving accordingly. And yet, we do. *I* still do. So as an exercise in overcoming that, you may buy me massage and spa time ranging from thirty minutes to a whole day of indulgence:

You may also send cash -- MY FAVORITE -- or a gift certificate to my favorite spa straight to my snail-mailbox:

Trixie Fontaine
1240 W. Sims Way #7
P0rt T0wnsend, WA 98368

If I could buy the whole world a massage, I totally would! In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy as many massages as you will buy me. And practice not feeling guilty, instead just reveling in every pleasurable moment of having my favorite lesbian massage babe rub hot oil all over me!

Cotton Candy

2008-11-28T12:11:00.001-08:00

I just brightened up the front page of GiveMeSugar.com with a sweeter, less-foreboding look. Unfortunately I don't have time to do more with it, but it's a start.

I'd love to get the site functional in time to be lavished with gifts for Christmas, but I'm not sure that's a realistic goal or efficient use of my limited time. We'll see though . . .

Put my Mouth on THIS!

2008-07-24T13:41:00.000-07:00

I've experimented with a couple of cheap microphones for podcasting and recording sexy stories for members of my site, and neither of them have created sound worth celebrating. As a result, I've been less than enthused about recording my voice. Recently I got a tip from a friend regarding this relatively inexpensive (less than $100) microphone that's gotten rave reviews from podcasters and singers alike:

If you'd like to buy it for me, you can do so HERE from my top-twenty wishlist. You can purchase it either as a gift, or if you'd like I can set you up with a six month membership to my site in return. I would really appreciate it as I can't justify spending the money on it when we need new hard drives and other essentials, but at the same time I can't justify making recordings with shoddy equipment which means those who like hearing my voice are really missing out.

If you purchase it and want to get a membership in return, just email me with proof (or include a note when you buy it on Amazon with your email address) and I'll write back with your username and password.

Buy Me a Laptop, Get a Lifetime Membership

2008-07-24T12:50:00.001-07:00

Update 8/1/08: OFFER NO LONGER AVAILABLE THANKS TO DR. ASPIE!!

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I'm in dire need of a new laptop so I can chat and blog from bed (or maybe even from coffee shops, the way people seem to like to do). I can't justify buying one myself, though, not because it isn't important but because we have so many MORE important things to buy first.

This is actually a great opportunity for someone out there to purchase a lifetime membership to my site for about the same cost as a monthly membership; in effect, you could pay Dell around $22 every month if you buy it on their payment plan.

Here's the bare minimum of what I want:

Inspiron 1525
Intel® Pentium® Dual Core T2390 (1.86GHz/533Mhz FSB/1MB cache)
Memory:
2GB2 Shared Dual Channel DDR2 at 667MHz
Integrated 2.0M Pixel Webcam

Color: In order of preference: ruby red, espresso brown, flamingo pink, midnight blue

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If you're interested in juicing it up more, I'd say more memory for faster performance is at the top of my list. Don't bother getting any of the anti-virus programs they offer since they're all resource hogs; I will buy my own that I trust and works properly. Of course, you're welcome to select a more powerful and/or lighter machine: as long as it works, has the built-in webcam and is a pretty, shiny color I will be extremely happy. I will also be extremely thrilled if you buy me a Mac.

SHIP TO:
Trixie Fontaine
1240 W. Sims Way #7
P0rt Townsend, WA 98368

and email me with proof that you're the one who purchased it and I'll send you your username and password that will last FOREVER!

Again, this is a great deal for anyone who knows he (or she) wants to maintain a membership to my site (actually, you will get network to ALL our sites, including Delia's and AmberLily's) for a long time. Think of it as an alternative payment plan for membership rather than a gift from which you'd get nothing but my appreciation. ;) And you'll get to see me using it, all shiny and red (or brown or blue or pink) in bed with me or outside or in public as I happily clickity clack away on the keyboard. It's almost like a part of you would be seen in public with me! Trixie and the laptop you got her, out on the town . . .

Gift & Card Video

2008-02-09T20:12:00.001-08:00

I'm not expecting many gifts for Valentine's Day, if any, but assuming I do get at least one of them, I will post a video here featuring me unwrapping/opening them and thanking the senders (in a way that protects their privacy, of course, by only referring to them by their first initial or name, if it is a common name, or their online nickname or other preferred way of being addressed).

My birthday is coming up in a month (March 17th) so I am going to make sure I let everyone know how special I want it to be and devote some time on cam and in chat specifically to my sugar daddies. More details to come!

Victoria's Secret Wishlist

2008-02-09T19:56:00.000-08:00

Many guys enjoy shopping for gifts at Victoria's Secret; it's familiar and erotically-charged for them. Despite some challenges with their wish list system, I've compiled a new one especially for you: CLICK HERE FOR MY WISHLIST!

There seems to be a limit to how many things you can put on your list which means I wasted a lot of time compiling a wide array of items that I then couldn't even share on my wishlist. Lame. But perhaps it's all for the best, as now I am limited to choosing to share jut a few that caught my eye. There are heels, sexy dresses, satin panties, and more.

FYI: these are just ideas; feel free to select anything you'd like to see me wearing and shoot for these sizes:

SHOES: 5
PANTIES: small or medium
BRAS: 34D or 34DD
TOPS: medium
DRESSES/PJ's: small or medium, size 6 or 8 ish (it sort of depends on the cut of the thing).

Inexpensive Gifts I Love

2008-02-08T23:16:00.000-08:00

I love inexpensive, thoughtful gifts. Even things other people would think of as trash because they're free or less than $2. I've made lists like this in the past, but it never hurts to repeat some of my favorite "cheap" things:

*bookmarks (even the free kinds, especially if they offer a window into a fan's location)

*socks (I don't know why ANYONE would complain about receiving socks as a gift!)

*paperback books, even/especially used ones (I might not read all of them, but I enjoy getting them)

*garter belts (size medium); they're sexy, intimate, easy-to-fit, and I *always* can use more of them in as many colors as possible (vintage WELCOME; Fredericks always has a wonderful, colorful, large collection of modern garter belts -- oftentimes on sale, while other specialty sites are better for finding six-straps, classic & fetish styles, etc.)

Note: if you are inspired by the garter belts to buy a complete set, I like bras that are a 34DD (or 34D) and panties in a small or medium.

*rubber bouncy balls

*UNSCENTED candles

*writing implements

*music (burned mix cd's welcome)

*postcards/cards

*panties (whenever you're in a department store and feel like making a sweep through the panty section you'll almost *always* find tantalizing bargains; it takes three minutes to buy a fistful of cheap panties and I can *always* use more of them in all different colors or styles; it's impossible to go wrong).

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The bottom line is that I do NOT equate low price with low class or poor taste; I am perfectly happy to receive stuff bought on sale, second-hand, or handed-down (when appropriate; I don't want second-hand sex toys or used hosiery, for example, from strangers).

A person will find their way into my thoughts more quickly by sending frequent small gifts than infrequent EXPENSIVE gifts. Of course, a person who send gifts both frequent AND expensive is the main contender, but that in no way makes the inexpensive gifts meaningless.

SO cute!

2008-02-08T13:09:00.000-08:00

Another Valentine (or any time) idea:

Go for a size MEDIUM in this case. There are also two other color options: hot pink leopard and red/black but the one I posted in the picture is my favorite.

I think outfits are sexy that are made to look as though the top is being pulled DOWN and the hem is being pulled UP, like the fingers of God trying to reach out and sneak a peak.

Valentine Pajamagram?

2008-02-08T11:14:00.000-08:00

Now is the time when we're all being bombarded by advertisements to get your someone-special something-expensive, like a diamond engagement ring (to show your love, right?) or . . . a PAJAMAGRAM!

I'm in need of a flattering (yet cozy) robe, so this would do the trick nicely:

If you're watching me on my spycams, it would be easier for you to see me wake up every morning and don the red robe you got me than it would a diamond ring. In that respect it's a very practical gift, for you AND for me.

If you'd like to make it a matching set, I like the long red gown OR the short set.

A size small would be best.

Hot Little Black Gloves

2008-02-03T23:29:00.000-08:00

Oh God. Spotting a super-sexy pair of SIZED gloves available in a small almost makes my mouth water:

Sometimes I can't resist buying gloves even though they are too large for me. In this case, I simply can't afford the luxury myself but I WANT them VERY MUCH. I want the leather to be tight and make my fingers sweat. So hot!

I can't help also mentioning that they offer another pair of gloves, with even MORE leather; so much I can almost SMELL it. What a treat it would be to receive one or both pairs of these black leather gloves!! Size SMALL please!

A Pile of Money

2008-01-29T14:48:00.001-08:00

From dancer RiverCityKitty:

THIS IS WHAT $472 IN SINGLES LOOKS LIKE

My main phone wanker and I often talk about piles of money and his interest in seeing visual representations of how much wanking money he has spent so this post caught my eye. Also, it just makes me happy to know that money made a colleague very happy.

Bossy

2007-12-23T16:59:00.000-08:00

Here's one of my favorite bratty, spoiled, in-charge videos: Kelis doing "Bossy". She perfectly represents the whole too-hot bitch-goddess archetype that fuels a lot of sugar daddy fantasies.

Sorry this isn't embedded here: it's a link to the video on YouTube:

Kelis, the song and video have that special sound and look that make me drop everything and just STARE at the tv, intrigued, inspired and aroused. Plus there's just enough comedy in it to keep it in the realm of good, clean fun.

I love those sassy little moves she does with her hands.

Dalia's Dunyavi Gypsy Dance DVDs

2007-12-15T21:50:00.000-08:00

I would love to get Dalia Carella's two instructional dvd's and the cd. Years ago I was able to borrow Volume 1 on VHS from my bellydance teacher to prepare for a little community performance, and I *loved* it.

One of the things I like about the style is that she's researched the dance of the Rom and it's not a style that a lot of people in the dance community are familiar with so there's a little less pressure to try to be fucking awesome at it they way there's all that goth snobbery surrounding tribal fusion, etc. It's an enjoyable way to dance and has a lot of that haughty upright confidence plus a lot of kicking and skirt flipping which is really fun.

It's a very commanding dance style, which is well suited to someone in my special position.

Mirrored End Table

2007-12-09T21:16:00.000-08:00

I've been lusting after this for a long time:

I'm also fond of this:

I think both of these pieces would be lovely in photo shoots, and just for enjoyment.

I'm not so keen on Urban Outfitters' clothes, but I do love their whimsical wall art, furniture and bedding.

Hot Brown Ankle Boots with Buckles

2007-12-06T12:51:00.000-08:00

I'm in love with these boots:

I definitely want them in brown because the contrast between the lighter brown leather and the darker brown cloth looks fantastic. I'm also fond of the rounded toes; I know pointy toed-shoes are sexy, but my feet just look better in round toes.

Anyway, I'd love to shoot in these shoes if someone out there wants to have them sent to me.

Mail gifts to:
Trixie Fontaine, 1240 W. Sims Way #7, P0rt T0wnsend, WA 98368

Realistic & Veiny

2007-02-19T19:38:00.000-08:00

I don't have any good "realistic" dildos, and one (or both) of these would fit the bill perfectly:

I'd probably use the 6" more often than the 8", but I could certainly use a more impressively-sized realistic cock for webcam shows (and on my boyfriend's ass). The "ultraskin" material of a silicone/pvc blend appeals to me, too.

They're on sale right now so I don't know how long that link will last.

Back in the Sugar-Saddle

2007-02-18T19:21:00.000-08:00

Inspired by a Tiffany star pendant I saw the other day, I'm reviving my sugar daddy blog. It never actually got off the ground in the first place (I actually have two domain names I've been meaning to develop especially for the purpose of cultivating sugar daddies and exploring the phenomenon of gifting) but I'd like to indulge in the role of . . . . of . . . well, it's hard to describe in just one word and do justice to all of the forms the role can take. Sugar baby?

We'll see how it goes . . . oh! I suppose I should show you the pendant I like so well:

Of course, it's just TOO much to ask for at $4,000 but I do *want* it, and it gives you an idea of what I find appealing. With my bustline it doesn't hurt to draw some attention towards my deep cleavage, highlighting with diamonds the lavish cost involved for a man thinking about trying to approach my sweet, creamy jugs.

Ionic Hair Dryer

2005-01-10T10:48:00.000-08:00

Tourmaline II Ionic Hair Dryer & Diffuser

Little Tubs & Jars of Cream

2003-08-22T09:02:00.000-07:00

I have always loved lotions and creams. But as I mature my desire for high quality skincare (especially in fanciful packaging) is becoming richer. I would love to have tons of jars and vials filled with gooey, silky, creamy, smelly stuff to gently smoothe into my face, to slather all over my skin. I want to have a skincare regime . . . isn't that what all beautiful women engage in, morning, noon and night? Anti-wrinkle serums, sweet smelling balms, gently perfumed moisturizers, refreshing cooling spritzers, and decadently expensive creamy "bee cum" as one character calls it in the glamorously trashy Hollywood Wives.

I love the early scene in All About Eve when Margo is in her dressing room seated before the mirror holding court while she's smearing cold cream in circles on her face. She doesn't look beautiful at that moment . . . but she's powerful, she's pampered, she's oh-so-tired of it all, she's admired, she's IT. She *is* the queen bee.

The "beauty regime" involves giving yourself the royal treatment . . . because you *have* to . . . for your public. It's part of your job.

The only way to communicate that I am high on the totem pole . . . that it's really a job to be beautiful and that men *need* for me to do my job in order for them to understand their own job in this world . . . is to have the proper tools to do my job. The proper skin treatments are essential tools. Here are just a FEW of the concoctions I'd love to add to my beauty regime:

Nice 'n creamy for my dollface!

It's not always about the product, but brilliant retro packaging to look good among your toiletries.

Ahh yes - this tub says "glamour girl!"

The teeny tiny bottles are the most important!

Yes, you read correctly: it's so expensive because
it's made in a monastary, one tub at a time.
click picture to buy
Mail to: Trixie Fontaine, 1240 W. Sims Way #7, P0rt T0wnsend, WA 98368

This is part of the mystery of femininity eluding men and the poverty-stricken. The closest a guy can get to the little jars and vials full of magic potions is to buy these necessaries for a lady.

I Covet These

2003-06-13T13:15:00.000-07:00

Oh please Daddy!! Can I have these? Before summer is over? They're even on SALE!

Hungry for "Love"

2003-06-13T13:09:00.000-07:00

I feel guilty admitting it but I'm so hungry for love. In the form of sweaty wrinkled dollar bills pried from poor bastards who can't resist giving me their last dollar. In the form of thick crisply-delivered from an atm machine stacks of cash from men who get hard blowing their wads on me. In the form of sexy shoes to flatter my petite feet. Pedicures slathering luxury on my soles. Carefully scented skin care products. Fine fabrics draped against my soft feminine skin. I want to look as pampered and perfected as God wants me to be. I want my body to be a temple swaddled in the adoration of men.

I want it. There I admitted it. I want your money. I want your gifts. I want you to take pleasure in surrounding me with trinkets, baubles, so many shoes I need an extra closet. I want a new leather handbag with a smelly leather wallet chubbily padded with your money. I want to show it off when I go to stores . . . show off the money you gave me. Everywhere I walk I'll belong to you just a little bit. And you will own my smile of delight. My comfort. My repose.