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I miss having a complete love connection with a woman - 6 min - VIDEO

2009-06-27T04:59:00.001-07:00

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I miss having a complete love connection with a woman - Shakti - Bueaty - creativity - Freshness - Freedom - Inner and outer path - Real! - Dont rely on someone to manifest these qualities for you - tantric sex

Accuse her of anything - TIP

2009-06-23T05:55:00.001-07:00

That's another great teasing approach:

Are you stalking me?
Are you flirting with me?
Are you really planning to eat this olive? I think I saw it first!
You are here just for the free buffet, right?
Are you on a hunt tonight?
Are you always that open with a guy you never met? I would be careful if I was you...
My friends say that it is challenging for a women to be both prety and smart, do you think that's true?
Etc.

Test! Try! Experiment!

To your power!

Play the sexual attraction game - TIP

2009-06-23T05:43:00.000-07:00

That's in fact the only game you want to play when dating.

If you trigger that sensation in a woman, this is it! You win!

That's how you score!

Why?

Because sexual attraction is EXACTLY what she wants to feel.

It's not like you try to rob her from something she does not want to give you!

On the contrary, she WANTS to feel sexually attracted to you because when she does, it triggers a whole avalanche of energy and biochemical reactions throughout her body.

This is EXACTLY what she wants to experience.

That's the reason she puts make up on, prepares herself and goes out.

For her, meeting a guy who does not own his sexual power and confidence is a waste of her time.

She feels like she is missing her chances to experience what she wants to feel.

So, getting her to be sexually attracted to you is one of the most precious gifts you can give her.

She expects you to be a master at this!

You think that all this dating game is about you getting what you want?

Wrong!

It is about you giving her EXACTLY what she needs!

That's a turn on, right?

By the way, don't think that there is anything shallow about what I just said.

This quest for pleasure, connection, emotional and physical satisfaction is one of the key calls in life.

People crave for that experience and touching it is EXACTLY like being blissed by mystical gold.

This connection she can experience with you IS bliss.

It dissolves distance between the two of you and connects her with you within a unified field of energy.

Believe me, behind your quest to master your dating skills, there is a much profounder picture.

This is only the beginning!

Go for it!

Can I try some pickup lines on you? - TIP

2009-06-23T05:37:00.000-07:00

"I think that pickup lines are lame and stupid..."

(Of course she will agree with THAT one! ;))

"I just need a confirmation from you and see how you actually respond to them... "

"Would you be offended if you don't know me, I approach you and say...?"

"What is a better way to approach you then? What would be the thing that would touch you in a guy that comes to you out of nowhere..."

After that... Let the teasing game begin!

"You are joking, right? In fact you just saw him coming out of this flashy red hummer - Every woman is attracted to guys because of their money or social status - Would you mary a politician?..."

Enjoy!

So, where is your tribe? - TIP

2009-06-23T05:35:00.001-07:00

I don't know why, that's an opening line I really like!

Try it out!

"What? that was my tip??? - This is it?"

"Yeah! This is it!"

Enjoy!

5 types of dating environments you want to master - TIP

2009-06-23T05:26:00.000-07:00

Some guys might be really good with chatting her up but make a mess of it once they get intimate with her.

It might be their kissing style which is too pushy, or simply lack of grooming or personal hygiene.

To be a master at this game you need to master 5 types of environments:

Social events - Private parties - People already know each other.
Public settings - Streets - Malls - Cafes - Clubs.
Virtual spaces - Internet - Dating sites - Texting - Email - Phone.
One on one dates - Restaurant - Dance floor - Her place - Your place.
Sex - Light intimacy - Kissing - Making out - Oral sex - Intercourse.

It's ok if you are not perfect with all of them.

For instance, you might not like too much emailing and prefer chatting with her when you meet.

That's ok.

Remember though that being REALLY bad in one of these area can totally blow your game and be a massive turn off.

To your power!

How to keep an interesting conversation going - TIP

2009-06-23T05:17:00.000-07:00

You can use this on first dates or when you meet her casually for a drink.

One of the keys is "open ended questions".

What is it that you find the most exciting about your life right now?
If you could shift one thing in your existence, what would that be?
What was your high today?
Etc.

Open ended questions mean that she needs to answer by more than yes or no.

She needs to share her opinions, ideas, insights or experiences.

Be a good listener.

Many guys make the mistake of jumping as soon as she says something they recognize.

They go like: "Unbelievable!!! The exact same thing happened to me the other day... I was in the subway and..."

Hooooo! Hooo! HO!

What happened right there?

She was in the flow of sharing and you blocked her, took all the attention to yourself.

Don't make that mistake!

You need to spend 60% of your time listening when you are with her.

That's what gives her value.

When she shares something ask her follow up question like:

Tell me more...
What happened next?
How did that really make you feel?

You see? You are interested!

She likes that!

Enjoy!

How to demonstrate your higher social value - TIP

2009-06-23T05:04:00.000-07:00

Women are attracted to you because of your level of power in various areas.

Social power is one of them.

They measure your value in their inner scale and make an instinctual decision to date you or not.

This decision is PURELY instinctual.

It might look rational but it is not.

Women do that totally subconsciously.

They make their decision first, might rationalize it later...

The way to demonstrate your higher value is not to brag of course, it is to give colourful details about your life without her even noticing that you share these details.

Here are some hints:

Show her that you care about human and animal life... "Saw this baby cat the other day... Couldn't leave it there... Took it to the vet see what they could do..."
Show her that you are connected and that your social circle values you: "My friends want me to take off to one greek island this summer - It's a party place and one of them has a holyday house next to the gorgeous creek - It's like paradise"
"My team recommended I try this place... Prety cool! Love it so far"
"Yeah - that's Jen... She can't stop teasing me..."

These are all examples that show that you are socially connected + respect life.

This last one is an essential one because she needs to feel safe in your presence.

She needs to be sure you are NOT some form of freak that will turn out to be a serial abuser the moment she knows you better.

More on indicators of higher value in another post.

To your power!

How to get her number easily - TIP

2009-06-23T04:54:00.000-07:00

A possible key is to invite her casually for something:

My friends are throwing a cool event this week end - write your number, here... I'll call you tomorrow with the details.
By the way, write your email next to it as well, in case I can't reach your cell.
I'll be in town next Friday visiting a friend - You like ice cream, right?
Etc.

Have a pen and a small card ready when you ask her for her number. Point to the paper and hand her the pen.

It's almost impossible to refuse when you do it that way.

Another way to do it is to enter her name as a new contact in your cell phone - hand it to her and say something like:

Looks like my phone wants to talk to yours...

Don't be formal with this thing.

Don't mention the word date!

It has to stay on a totally natural, fun and casual note.

One more thing: don't ask for permission:

Don't say something like: "Can I have your number?" It screams insecurity and already calls for rejection.

Instead hand her your pen and point with your finger to the paper where she has to write her number.

This is it!

Enjoy!

Have a few teasing scenarios ready - TIP

2009-06-23T04:51:00.000-07:00

When you approach, her, think: light, humor, confident, teasing.

You need to have a few teasing ideas in mind so that you are not caught by surprise.

I have a few videos on my channel about this, so go and check them out.

The key here is to be prepared before hand.

The teasing skill is an attitude you develop by trying different approaches.

Any opportunity you have, start teasing girls.

You will see that it's a super easy way to break the ice.

Enjoy!

How to approach a group of women - TIP

2009-06-23T04:44:00.000-07:00

That's a situation you will often face in social or public settings.

You need to open the group or the set.

Usually an opinion opener works really well:

Hi! My friends and I were wondering... What's the real trendy color for women this season? He said it's black but I see girls wereing red everywhere...
Quick question... Do, you behave with your boyfriend the way you behave with your girlfriends? I mean do you tell him the same type of intimate and gossip stories you tell them?
I am testing a theory - If your sun sign is lion you have 80% chances of being blond - What's your sun sign...
Etc.

Once you ope the set and chat with a few girls, don't focus on your target. She is so used to be the one who gets all the attention in her tribe that she will wonder why on earth that guys is not attracted to her.

It challenges her.

Try it!

Would you date yourself? - TIP

2009-06-23T03:36:00.000-07:00

That's a key question you want to ask!

It will tell you exactly what to give up or remove to make yourself more attractive to women.

It can have to do with grooming, conversation skills, character, body, ambitions or career path for instance.

If you score low in any of these fields and believe that it is a deal breaker when you approach a woman, then do something about it!

You can take this one step further and give yourself a mark: 0-100%

The question is: How attractive are you?

You can ask as well:

How attractive are you to yourself?
Would you date yourself?
Yes? No? Why?

If you find something that kills your chances, stop looking for excuses and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! NOW!

To your power!

Connect her with her network! - TIP

2009-06-23T03:31:00.000-07:00

Here is what you can say:

"There are a few really cool people I would like you to meet..."

You introduce her to your network.

Women want to feel connected.

They don't want be left out!

They want to invited when something happens.

When she realizes that you have connections, good friends or a supprotive social network, this demonstrates your higher social value.

This is one of the key attraction triggers.

It does not go as far as being the ABSOLUTE leader of your group but it is in same direction.

You have a tribe! ;)

Let her see that being with you will connect her, not isolate her!

To your power!

Power up your social skills! - TIP

2009-06-23T03:20:00.000-07:00

When guys start on the path to mastering dating approaches, they don't realize how much these skills are simply about increasing your social power.

What makes you attractive to a woman is the way you stand in life and social situations.

The best way to develop these dating skills super fast is to multiply your social power:

You chat with anybody.
You are friendly and open.
You connect easily.
You activate your social network.
You connect people with each other.
Etc.

Many men approach the dating scene with a predator self absorbed attitude.

They withdraw their social flow until they see a woman they are really attracted to.

Before that, they give nothing, radiate nothing.

They don't want to be distracted from their prey.

I want to suggest a totally different approach:

Connect with anyone, not just women you are attracted to.

Social presence is a super attractive quality. It simply shows you care for other human beings.

Besides chatting up a girl when you are already socially "flowing" is much easier than starting from scratch.

In other terms, all this connecting and openess is like a warm up.

It makes you ready to hit a higher note when the moment is right.

Another advantage of activating your social power ANY time is that it multiplies your opportunities to meet women.

People will invite you and want to be around you because you are fun and outgoing.

Enjoy!

One key secret to connect with a girl is to give her value - TIP

2009-06-23T03:05:00.000-07:00

That's a big one!

Be a selfless value giver!

When you understand the impact it has on your approach strategies, it can radically multiply your level of success.

Giving her value does not mean throwing at her lousy random compliments.

Giving her value means that you totally get her!

She likes that!

She wants to be understood, felt and seen!

Can you imagine how frustrating it must be for a very attractive woman to never be complimented on her smartness, but always her looks.

It is very diminishing when guys ONLY see the shell and not what's inside.

Giving her value means that you see her inner strength, beauty, refinement and you let her know in subtle way that you understand her fully.

You don't step in with a victorious flag that you plant on her territory! No!

You rephrase something she just said and take in a small notch further.

You describe EXACTLY something about her she never fully understood before.

The reason why a woman will be attracted to you is because you open new windows in her life.

You "open doors" for her.

You can be like some form of gateway which helps her fulfill her destiny.

These can sound like big words and if you are only interested in your next one night stand, I can imagine that your reaction sounds like: "what the F****"

Now, if you want to take this connection with women one step further and understand the deeper role you can play in their lives, realize that we are each other's karmic agents.

We trigger possibilities in each other's lives.

When you have the opportunity to help a woman unleash her destiny, that's one incredibly valuable experience.

This is a vast topic I might come back to another time.

For now, simply remember that there is more to interacting with women than "pick up" and "sexual validation"!

The story goes MUCH DEEPER than that!

You are on the right track!

To your power!

Opener ideas for social situations - TIP

2009-06-23T02:53:00.000-07:00

You have literally an infinite number of ways to start a chat with a woman you never met.

The best of course is to be able to improvise or prepare your own

If you are looking for a few pointers, here are some ideas you can start with.

There is this male predator walking around in this party - I thought I would come and warn you...
Did you hear about the party of the year? It is happening this Saturday at... - What? you haven't been invited yet?
Quick question: Your birth sign... - Pull out this weekly horoscope in a magazine - give her body language signs like thumbs up, look worried, disapointed or surprised while you check the predictions for her sign...

Big difference between openers and pick up lines.

An opener opens a discussion - What we have there are potential starting points.

Enjoy!

Own your space! - TIP

2009-06-23T02:48:00.001-07:00

This is about body language and attitude.

Confidence is a skill you can practice by simply taking the right posture, physically and mentally.

When you enter a social space, this edge in your character shows instantly.

In the begining you can fake it.

The funny thing though is that once you practice the confidence posture, the quality itself becomes part of you.

Smiling a lot eventually makes you happy.

Positioning yourself with confidence eventually makes you confident.

Try it!

She's already with someone - How to get her out of your mind - TIP

2009-06-23T02:44:00.000-07:00

Get rid of her number, text messages and emails.

Go out and socialize.

As soon as you increase your social power, you will see opportunities coming to you very fast.

Even if you feel this incredible potential with her, or you experience a very special mement, realize that this type of synchronicity is everywhere once you start opening your eyes to it.

Your world is full of potential exciting connections and she happened to be just one of them.

This is it!

Enjoy!

Body language signals - How does she express that she is attracted to you - TIP

2009-06-23T02:38:00.000-07:00

This one is obvious but here are some clues:

She smiles to you.
She gives you flirty looks.
She listens to what you say.
She laughs.
She touches your hand or arm.
She expresses herself in a lively way and doesn't seemt o hold back.

Now, attracted means just that: there is potential - There is chemistry.

You can build it up and solidify thsi connection even further through your actions and attitude.

If she expresses no signs of attraction, this can change within minutes. It is not like it's fixed.

Many women might not connect with you at first and after a couple minutes of chatting, you see them opening up.

Enjoy!

How to overcome the "She's out of my league" self defeating mind set - TIP

2009-06-23T02:14:00.000-07:00

Women are simply human beings and you might be surprised by how friendly and open any woman is when you chat her up.

Of course, they don't like jerks, guys who arrass them, invade their space or are super insecure.

That REALLY turns them off.

If you approach her with confidence and presence, use humor, are friendly and genuinely interested in hearing her opinion, she is actually touched.

In the sea of potential boredom and uninteresting events, she can recognize a spark when she sees one.

The exchange she has with you will be one of the key highlights of her day if you are skilled at this.

The first step is to realize that this "she's out of my league" self defeating attitude is mainly in your mind.

It is a simple lack of confidence on your side.

The key is to have lots of practice.

remember that the guys who are really good often claim thousands of approaches in social environments.

Let me ask you a question: how many women did you apprach in the last week? Month? Year?

How skilled would you be if instead you would have approached 10x more? Don't you think you would be 10x better at it as well?

How do you become good at swimming? Do you read a manual and hope that you will break records as soon as you jump in the water?

Of course not!

How do you become a master at connecting with any woman you want?

You simply do it a lot!

Being attractive to any woman is a skill you can gain and you need to train it a lot + stay active in that field.

Practice is what gives you this edge and eventually kicks out any doubt in your mind.

The trick is to relaize that any woman is within your range, no matter how pretty or attractive they are.

Enjoy!

Aproaching women randomly? - What to say? - How to act? - TIP

2009-06-23T02:02:00.000-07:00

Approaching women randomly for instance on the street or in public places is the most challenging context for guys.

Why? Because there is no physical proximity with your target and they are not in the socializing flow when you approach them.

In the challenge scale, this one is a 100%

Approaching women at parties or clubs for instance is much easier: that would be a 50%

Chatting with a stranger at a social even would be a 20%... Even much easier.

So, random approaches?

The most effective ones are opinion openers:

I was looking for a top for my sister's birthday...
Cool place to have lunch around here...
I am totally lost in this city...
Etc.

Once you start chatting, follow up with more questions. If she isn't evading you and you keep the tone friendly and teasing, the next step is to ask her for her number as there is a party this evening at a friend's place and you want to invite her...

You can as well mention the fact that you will need a virtual tour guide again soon and you would be honored is she would give you the opportunity to contact her if needed.

Women are not stupid, ok?

They know that you chat them up and that what you have in mind could be in fact to have a date or a drink.

However, most women will be touched when they see that a friendly open guy is interested in them.

You are smart, friendly, ougoing, good sense of humor, she likes that.

To your power!

Say something about her that shows you get her - TIP

2009-06-22T02:06:00.000-07:00

The moment she realizes that you SEE her, it gives her emotional proximity.

Remember that we are now in the comfort building stages.

She feels sexually attracted to you but the emotional connection she needs to be able to get intimate with you is not yet there.

She needs to feel safe and connected.

This connection happens the moment you say something she totally identifies with.

She knows you are on the same page when you say:

"I totally get you!"
"I know exactly what you mean... You are saying that..."

In this last example, you take her words, rephrase and offer her a new angle she did not see before.

Another way to connect is if you tell her something about her life which is spot on!

If she mentions her kids, you can say:

"Some people think that having kids is a burden but man, I am sure that they are the most precious thing you have in life..."

Or on other topics:

"It's in these moments of intense clarity that you get these flashes of ideas! Don't you love it when you know EXACTLY what you are supposed to do next?"

"Women stay too long with abusive guys... If a woman finds herself in threatening situations, she should never give in. Step out at the first sign of threat! You did the right thing, girl!"

"Bosses rarely understand the potential you have. You are excited by all this creatice power and ideas you want to express - You deserve a boss who gives you some space and values you input, not someone who shuts you down"

I know... These examples are about serious topics, but you get the point, right?

You can apply the same idea to deeper aspects of her dreams, emotions, life desires, longing to be thrilled every minute of her life.

She needs to know that you are on her side!

Here is an advice for you:

This is not about coming up with some ready made line you will use on any girl, ok?

The ideas I give you here are like themes.

If you want to be good at it, you need to improvise with these themes.

It is like playing an instrument. If you simply play the notes, it won't sound good at all.

You need to ad emotion, variation and your own input.

Doing that takes some practice.

The goal for you is to reach at least some level of success with these techniques and this won't happen unless you decide and accept to experiment a bit with them.

To your power!

How to get a woman to open up to you - TIP

2009-06-22T01:49:00.000-07:00

In the comfort building stage, you are nurturing the energy unit you create with her.

During that stage, she sees that you are safe and that she can emotionally connect to you.

She sees emotions, feelings, impressions.

This flow of energy between the two of you is what she's looking for.

If you hide in a distant tower of mind rigidity, it makes it impossible for her to connect.

She wants to feel you and the reason she feels you is because you express emotions.

No emotions = No connection

So, how do you express emotions?

Well, you show her that you are touched by what you see around you.

Use expressions like:

I like that!
I love that!
Exciting place!
Fun people!
I like your radiance, smile!
Etc.

These are all expressions of emotions, right?

They say that you thrilled.

At this stage, there are three key mistakes you can make:

The first one is to fall into the "sensitive" category - There is a BIG difference between expressing emotions and being too sensitive - Sensitivity can quickly lean towards weakness.
The second one is to be too loud and overpower her - Stay suble and match her energy level - You can easily appear as a space invader if you overflow her with too much excitement.
The third mistake is failing to give her a sense of security - Some guys express emotions by being rude or agressive towards their environment - For a woman, the risk of ending up with a guy who is emotionally or physically abusive is always there. If she sees you verbally harrassing your others, her sense of safety with you is instantly detroyed - Not good!

With these nuances in mind, express through your words and attitude something that says:

"I am a male! I am alive!"

To your power!

First attraction, then comfort - TIP

2009-06-22T01:38:00.000-07:00

You can engage too fast in having a connected conversation with a girl.

The key is to first exude confidence and power.

If you try and retreat within the comfort of a one to one connection with her and you do that too fast, you don't give her the opportunity to see you "from the distance".

This oveall view she gest from you first is what triggers sexual attraction.

Building comfort with her comes after.

First, you need to express the signs that let her see that you are a sexually attractive guy.

Start first by being centered, own your space, express your social connection to the room.

Don't over focus your attention on her or you will appear that you are looking for a way to exit the overall social sphere.

If you enter the room and go straight to her, you might rob her from the possibility to see your "role" within this social context.

Imagine instead that she sees you interacting with women, she sees you connecting with friends, she reads confidence in your body language, she sees total emotional power in your smile.

All these trigger the first levels of sexual attraction towards you.

Once this first degree of connection is established, you can go to the next stage and start building emotional intimacy with her.

That's the comfort building stage where she realizes you are a safe guy and she can relax in your presence.

Enjoy!

Why a woman gets sexually attracted to a guy - TIP

2009-06-22T01:21:00.000-07:00

You heard that before, right?

Confidence!

Now, in this post, I want to take this one step further and give you a few extra hints about the dynamics of attraction.

Sexual attraction is PURELY instinctual.

There is ZERO rational thinking involved in it.

A woman might say that she doesn't want to get attracted to you and still, if the right ingredients are there, she will feel totally drawn to you.

It is like that because attraction is a cave behavior.

It is purely tribal in its essence and has to do with vitality, protection, procreation and survival.

Nature programmed women to look for the mate who has the highest chance of giving her children and protecting them.

Women might not know that and still the instinctual triggers become totally obvious when you start noticing them.

So, how does it work exactly?

SEXUAL ATTRACTION = HIGH VALUE

A woman gest attracted to a man because of:

His networking and social power + "rank" within his social circle.
His male energy, health and vitality.
His ability to be a protector.
The emotional or energy connection she feels towards him.
The fact that other women are attracted to him. This acts as a confirmation to what she already feels. If other women value him, it means that he MUST express the qualities above.

You have of course many more ways to put this and you can as well ad new ingredients if you want to.

The key though is to understand that sexual attraction IS like a recipe.

If you express these qualities, sexual attraction naturally happens.

If you don't, women won't feel aroused when they interact with you.

If you want to know THE quality that summarizes all that?

It is POWER!

All the qualities I mentioned above are simply various expressions of power: social power, financial power, body power, emotional power.

That's a simple way to summarize it.

Enjoy!