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How To Pick Up Women In Nightclubs And Streets

2008-06-27T05:14:00.000-07:00

By: Thundercat
Question From A Reader:

Dear Joseph,

I am a student and I wanted to know how to pick up women in the most crucial areas with plenty of chicks. Here are the situations first: - The Nightclub where the music is so loud, where there are too many people with little or no room to move, and the girls are dancing with themselves. The main idea is that it is very hard and almost pointless to begin a conversation in these areas. How do I do it?

Second: - How do I pick up women who are walking along the street maybe going somewhere. Like I am in school, how do I meet a girl who is walking down maybe to her dorm or somewhere else? The point is where I’m from people do this to women all the time. But here in America, it’s almost considered odd because you pop out of nowhere and she’s not expecting it.

Finally, what do you do when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend? Should you leave her alone or continue your business on getting her. What if she is completely in love with her boyfriend, how do you win her over?

--Xion

My Response

Okay, I guess I'll try tackling each question in order...

First, Nightclubs ARE very tricky venues. Unless you're specially suited to the party-style nightlife, these venues will be a bit intimidating. And even if you are predisposed to this type of pick up, you will still have to deal with lots of opposition from other men.

That said, it's not impossible to meet women in nightclubs. But it will involve you to be a little more outgoing and aggressive than other venues.

First off, when I'm in a club, I tend to like to hang out in open-air areas where I can talk to other people easier. Patios and right outside the club can be good for this. Most clubs will have some form of outside area where you can hang out -- especially places like New York and Los Angeles where you're not permitted to smoke inside.

The dance floor can also be quite successful. If you like to dance, go out there and try dancing with the women who are dancing by themselves. If they're not into it, move on. If they are, it's PLAY time! =)

Also, keep in mind the time at which you're going to the club. Usually, the later it gets, the easier it is to pick up a girl (this is because as it gets later, people are more inclined to "hook up" due to alcohol, desperation, boredom, etc.).

Second, to approach women on the street takes a bit of skill. In America, people do tend to be a bit more personal than in other parts of the world. My best advice in this respect is to actually follow the girl for a bit and see where she's going. If she stops off at a coffee shop or a bus stop, or whatever, THAT is the time to approach her! If it looks like she's going somewhere you can't follow her into (like her home/dorm, for instance) then you'll have to take the chance and try approaching her cold. But make it a fast approach and include a time constraint ("I know you're on your way somewhere, this'll only take a second..."), get her number as quick as you can, then move on.

Finally, when it comes to the "boyfriend" thing, that's a matter of individual taste. Some guys don't want to mess with that, others don't care. The thing is, most women aren't THAT dedicated to their boyfriends, so it's not as big of an obstacle as you might think.

The important thing to do in this situation is to try and "read" the woman. Sometimes, a girl will tell you she has a boyfriend when she really doesn't because she wants to politely reject you (and sometimes she really does have a boyfriend and wants to stay faithful to him). If this is the case, you have to look at the signals she's giving you to see if she's actually into you or not.

If a woman does like you and IS in fact into you, she will usually with-hold the fact that she has a boyfriend. And if she does bring it up, she wants you to take the lead and "sweep her off her feet" so she won't have to feel guilty about cheating on him. So when that's the case, it's time to pump up the aggressiveness on you're pick up.

If you want to learn how to read a woman, check out my book The Art of Approaching, I devote an entire section of my book to this. I go into great detail on how to spot the subtle signs a woman gives off to let you know she's interested in you, and how to use this to your advantage!

There's no better time to improve your love life than right now! Check out The Art of Approaching and see what kind of difference it will make in your life.

Wishing you success!

Joseph Matthews

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-pick-up-women-in-nightclubs-and-streets.html

Four Keys to Overcoming Your Nervousness Around Women

2008-06-26T09:51:00.000-07:00

By: John Alexander

Standing at the magazine rack thumbing through Cosmo, she has the most gorgeous face you've ever seen. Her hair is silky brown. Her skin looks so radiant and so incredibly soft. You would be on top of the world if you could pick her this girl up.

You feel the fear deep in your gut.

You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it, you wouldn't know what to say. You feel so nervous and fumbly that you would reject yourself if you were her. So you shy away from even approaching her in the first place.

Does this situation sound familiar? If so, keep reading.

The first thing for you to realize is that all guys get anxiety about approaching women. I know I certainly do.

But what separates you (and me) from the rest of the guys is...

What You Do About Your Fear.

Most guys let fear paralyze them... not just about chicks, but about other things in their life like their career... which is why, unfortunately, most guys will never find the success that they want.

First, look at where your fear comes from. The problem is inside of you. It's not with the chicks.

If you're thinking about rejection, then that means you're making your approaches with a certain outcome in mind (I'm just guessing, but I think if you're like most guys, your goal is getting chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid).

Try this instead... approach without having any expectations. No goals.

Let me tell you about a problem I used to have. I'm inclined to be an introvert, as I discuss in my book , How to Become an Alpha Male .

So to overcome my shyness, I would force myself to chat up everybody, no matter who they were... hot girls, ugly girls, fat girls, old people, men, children, people walking dogs, etc.

I would talk about neutral topics with them, nothing to do with picking up chicks.

The net result from all of that was I became really good at approaching people.

After that, however, I made a mistake. I said to myself, "Since I'm so good at approaching people and have become an outgoing person, why am I wasting time talking to anyone other than hot chicks?"

So then I limited the people I talked to... and my anxiety about talking to random women swept over me once again. It was as if I'd never had all that practice chatting up strangers in the first place.

At that point I realized it was because I was outcome-dependent. Because I had thoughts like "I'm going to try to lay this chick" in my mind... before I'd even opened my mouth to say "hi"... and so I would crash and burn. It sucked.

Here's something I want you to try. Whenever you go out, talk to three people, but do it just for practice. Don't do it for real.

Because it's just for practice, don't limit yourself to just talking to hot women. In general, I've found that elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are easy to talk to.

If it helps, set up a time limit for your practice interactions, like that you'll talk to the person for 30 seconds and then you'll get out of the conversation. (Say something like, "Well, I'm on my way to meeting a friend. Good chatting with you." And then walk away without making a big deal of it.)

Once you've done your practices and feel warmed up, then you can chat up hot chicks. Again though, do it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind. For example, if a chick passes by you in a hallway, just say, "Hey, I need a quick female opinion on something." (Then ask about something that you genuinely want a female opinion on.)

Remember though: have no outcome in mind. So it doesn't matter if the chick responds rudely.

In fact, when you reach a point that you've chatted up lots of women, you'll find that eventually rude responses on their part mean nothing. You'll have an attitude of "ha, how original... I've had tons of women give me that exact same 'clever' rude comment."

I've been rejected hideously, time and time again. One chick screamed "Go away!" at me before I could even get out my initial sentence.

Another time I thought it was amusing when I approached a group of two girls, just for practice, and right after I said "hey," they both turned their backs on me in unison, as if they were synchronized dancers!

Now I just look back on all of that and laugh.

My point is that the more you approach, the more you'll reach a level where you notice that most people act in the same, predictable ways. It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety.

Think of it as trying to build a house. You put down one brick at a time and cement it. Brick, cement. Brick, cement. It'll take a long time, but eventually, the walls will be up (which means you've finished the hard part).

To get a bit more psychological, there's really no such thing as "being nervous." You don't "get nervous," like it's some kind of flu virus that invades your body.

All feelings of nervousness come from within. You have a certain series of thought processes that you go through. You say things to yourself. (When you think thoughts like, "I would reject myself," it sets you up for failure!) You picture the chicks rejecting you. You feel tense in your body. And so on.

So what you can do to break this is to identify it for what it is.

Notice your negative thoughts and change them. Instead of thinking, "Oh my God, this chick is going to act like a bitch to me because I fumble my words"... think, "It's awesome that I'm making this approach, because if this chick rejects me, that means I've gotten her out of the way and I'm one step closer to finding my dream girl."

Notice where you feel tense in your body, and then let your muscles relax in those areas. For me, I feel tense in my jaw and face when I'm nervous. So when I relax my jaw and facial muscles, it alleviates a lot of my tension.

I'll wrap it up for you by concluding with this advice:

1) Be social for the sake of being social. Nothing else.

2) Remember that the only way to get over your fear is by doing the thing you fear. The more you do it, the easier it gets, because your attitude about the experiences will become, "Been there, done that, it's no big deal."

3) Recognize your bad thoughts and force yourself to replace them with good ones.

4) Ease the physical tension you have in your body when you feel nervous.

John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha Male ... a seduction success guide for men. Learn to permanently overcome your shyness and anxiety around women.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/four-keys-to-overcoming-your-nervousness-around-women.html

How to Get a Woman to Treat You the Way You Deserve

2008-06-25T08:14:00.001-07:00

By: John Alexander

You know the scenario. You begin dating a woman. After the first date, all you get is a peck on the cheek.

Second date, you get a lips kiss. Third date, you hold hands. It's a very sluggish process.

You can't comprehend why it has to take so long to have sex with the woman. After all, you're buying her meals. You even splurged on some beautiful flowers.

In short... you're being extremely nice to the woman. So what's the trouble? Why won't she have sex with you?

It comes down to human enthusiasm. People behave in ways that cause them to get rewarded. They stay away from behaviors that cause them punishment.

So the reason why guys often have problems getting laid is because they reward bad behavior. A chick will lead them on and then make it obvious there won't be sex that night, yet the guy rewards her by cuddling with her.

A better answer would be to punish the bad behavior by being a lot less interested in cuddling with her. Never undervalue the power of getting up from the couch and walking out the door.

Remember, to produce the full enjoyment out of life and to have women be attracted to you, you need to be an alpha male. That means being powerful. So make sure you get treated the way you deserve to be.

Did a chick do something (like have sex with you) that deserves rewarding? Then go ahead and do something nice for her. Take her on a date to a fancy restaurant. Buy her filet mignon and Don Perignon (if you've got the money).

Does a chick just string you along, telling you nice things that she would do for you if only she didn't have a boyfriend? Then take out your attention, and go talk to other girls instead of her.

Frame all of your actions towards women in terms of punishment and reward, and you'll be treated the way you ought to (or else you'll move onto another woman who WILL treat you right).

John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha Male ... a seduction success guide for men. Learn more advanced tips on how to develop the mind set of an alpha male to find the success with women that you desire.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-get-a-woman-to-treat-you-the-way-you-deserve.html

How To Get Rid Of Shyness - Step By Step

2008-06-24T06:49:00.000-07:00

By: Joseph Matthews
Question from a painfully shy guy:

Hi Joe,

Your article are wonderful. Hats off to you man.

The major problem I face is lonesomeness. I like this girl who lives in my apartment building, but I can't talk to her because I'm too timid.

It's like this with everyone. I don't even have any friends because I'm too shy to meet people. And when I talk to girls, I don't get the responses I desire because I get too anxious and don't know what to say.

The other day, I ran into the girl from my apartment building. By luck she was waiting for the elevator when I came in and there was no one else around to make me nervous.

She is so gorgeous. Seeing my chance, I used one of your tips and started to look at her eyes and try to make eye contact, but she looked to the side so I couldn't even see her face.

When she did this, I got worried and took the stairs instead of waiting for the elevator with her.

When I read your emails, I get a lot of nerve. It took a great deal of enterprising on my part to even look at the eyes of this girl.

Because I'm too shy to have friends who can help give me advice on this, and because my attempt at meeting this girl went poorly, I'm terribly unhappy.

I'm writing to you with a serious wound in my heart. Help me! What can I do?

Waiting for your advice...

With regards,

Jay

My Response:

First off, I just want to point out that you are putting WAY too much value on women.

Way, WAY too much.

It sounds like you are rejecting yourself in your psyche before they have a possibility to get to know you.

See, for guys who don't know a lot about women, they seem to be something more than just another person.

They are the source of sexual bliss.

They are the source of justification.

They are unique.

If you have ever had the idea "If only I could get a girl to like me, everything would be different!" ...

Then you have some very out of reach views about the opposite sex.

Here's the funny thing...

You weren't BORN shy.

Shyness is not an innate trait.

It's something that is LEARNED.

It's a talent that is DEVELOPED over time.

In short: Shyness is UNNATURAL!

Human beings, by nature, are social creatures. We're raised by parents, have siblings, etc., so it's natural to want contact with other human beings.

Any feelings that make you act different to this desire are opposite to evolution.

They are DANGEROUS!

They are trying to deny you of a basic human need -- contact with others.

When you fall back on the crutch of being "shy," what you're really doing is training yourself to do something that's intrinsically HARMFUL to you!

Being afraid of others is the comparable to having an irrational fear of food. Food is something you NEED to live! And if you're afraid of it, you're going to suffer.

In this case, if you were dying of hunger because you're afraid of food, would you rather die of hunger, or would you prefer to FORCE yourself to eat, in the face of the fear, in order to survive?

This is the same dilemma you must face when confronting shyness.

Would you rather suffer emotionally from loneliness and fear?

Or would you rather compel yourself through the fear and enjoy human company?

I'm hoping you decide to FIGHT the fear.

And I'll help you do it.

Do you want to know the single best way to conquer shyness?

You can do it by simply MEETING PEOPLE.

Keep reading, because I'm going to tell you, step-by-step, what you have to do.

Go out EVERY DAY to meet 10 women. It doesn't matter what they look like, how old they are, whatever, as long as they are WOMEN.

Walk up to them and say:

"Excuse me, can I ask you a question? It will only take a second

If they say "No thanks," just shrug it off and say "Well, thanks for your time."

If they say "Yes," respond:

"I need some female guidance on something. My little cousin's (or niece, or whatever) birthday is coming up, and I need to get her a gift, but I don't know what little girls would like. Can you give me a suggestion?"

Then when they give you the answer, say:

"Thank you very much. My name is (your name). What's yours?"

When they give you their name, end it with:

"It was a pleasure meeting you (her name). Thanks for the suggestion."

And then WALK AWAY.

That's right. You don't have to hang around and chit-chat. You can just walk away.

Simple, right?

You might be frightened to do this at first, but just keep in mind that you're only asking them a QUESTION.

Nothing more.

You're not trying to get a phone number or a date. You're just trying to break through your barricade about meeting others.

In short: You're re-training yourself to fight through your shyness!

Do this to 10 women every day. You're not asking them out or anything, you're just asking a question and introducing yourself.

If you keep doing this, you're going to observe a few things:

Meeting people isn't terrifying. In fact, it can be pretty fun!

Most people will want to be engaged in conversation, and may even ask you questions or try to employ you in a conversation in return.

The people who don't want to talk to you aren't worth your time. It's the ones who DO want to talk to you who are worth while.

Now, this is only part of the resolution to finally overcoming your shyness for good.

For a absolute run-down of how to build your confidence and conquer your shyness forever, you simply must, must, MUST check out my ground-breaking ebook The Art Of Approaching.

In it, I break down the act of confidence construction in such a way, even a three year old infant could follow it.

And what's even more is -- IT WORKS!

Don't believe me? Download the book right now and see for yourself:

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Remember that I offer a full money-back guarantee on my product, because I know that what's in it will work well for you! I stand by my teachings 100%. So if you get my book and decide it's not for you, you can get your money back -- no qu*estions asked!

There is *no* risk on your part. Either you improve, or you get a refund.

I guarantee it!

Wishing you success,

Joseph Matthews

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-get-rid-of-shyness---step-by-step.html

Pick-up Success - More Places and Techniques

2008-06-23T10:39:00.000-07:00

By: Derek Vitalio

More girls, more places, more more more!

Camera Pick-Up

This is different from the more advanced camera technique, in that it’s about meeting a girl using your digital camera.

There are a couple variations, and they can work just about anywhere – although bars and scenic spots are best.

The first way, you offer to take a picture of a group of ladies to take a shot of some ladies setting up for a photo and trying to figure out who to ask. You know the situation. So now you’ve got confidence and a sparkle of gallantry going for you.

Now you want to have some playful conversation – like the previous technique, you set them up a bit, move them around, perhaps slightly hands-on, but not too much, and only in a natural I-do-this-with-everyone way. After you take the first shot, make a joke about the faces they make, have them do it again. Get them laughing and enjoying themselves – this works especially well in a tourist spot with ladies just out having a good time, no schedule.

Learn a little bit about what they’re doing, find out their next plan. If they don’t have one, invite them along to join you. If they’ve got an idea, nothing works better than “Yeah, that’s a nice spot… but I know a better one which isn’t in the guide books. I’m actually heading that way soon, if you want me to show you the way.”

Or, you can take it a whole different direction, and ask THEM to guide YOU. If you’ve made them laugh enough during the photo shoot, they’ll likely invite you along. If not, say “I know (or heard about) this great place to grab a coffee and relax. I’m going there at 4 – why don’t I meet you there? Lots of good restaurants and bars for later in the evening in the area too.” Odds are they’ll be more than happy to join you.

Second technique, same as the first, but get one of the ladies to snap your picture – then offer to do the same for them, get playful conversation going from the start.

REMEMBER, EVERYTHING hinges on having a lady enjoy her time with you. These techniques, they’re just openers to get the ice broken – your success is entirely about your banter and playful aura - creating attraction. These are great ways to open a lady or group, but you’ve got to know what you’re going to do with them BEFORE you start to have a chance to bring it further.

Ok, the third and most advanced version is to ask a girl to take a photo WITH you. This gives you an excuse to give her a squeeze, get a kiss on the cheek (girls love this, although they usually resist at first), strike a funny playful pose – and of course come up with an excuse why the first one isn’t any good and you’ve got to do it again.

NOTE: Don’t overdo the retakes – once, maybe twice, they’re fun. More than that, and you seem like a clingy guy who can’t think of a better way to hold her attention.

One More Question Pick-Up

This is something you use for a woman who’s got a huge wall that she just refuses to lower. Every time she brushes you off, say “Ok, I’ll leave you alone, but real quickly let me just ask one more question…” and make it as funny, fun, and playful as you can.

The trick here is to slowly melt away her guard. If you pick your targets carefully, you should see her gradually warming to you Her protests should get more feeble, and at the end she might say something like “You’re fun, but I’m REALLY running late now and I’ve GOT to go.”

No problem. Set up a rendezvous and she’ll be all yours.

Again, be careful with this technique. If you’re using it and the girl is getting more and more frustrated and curt, cut your losses and run. Pull this with the wrong lady – and the wrong lady might just mean someone having a shitty day – and all you’ll do is piss her off and provoke some nastiness out of her, as she’ll believe it’s the only way to get rid of you. Choose wisely friends, because this is a POWERFUL technique – there are only two ways to get out of it, which is to give in or to fight, so don’t use it all the time, and don’t use it to create a fight.

Palm-Reading Pick-Up

You probably already know enough about this one you don’t need much more tutoring, but one key to remember:

After you know a few basics, you can casually drop your skills into a conversation and have the girls asking YOU to read them. Study for awhile, hold for awhile, just like the training says. Then say “Hmm… I see something interesting about you here.”
She’ll immediately ask “What?”

“I don’t know if I should tell you…”

“What is it? WHAT?!!”

Now answer with something easy and generic, and she’ll start filling in the gaps. Agree, and talk more about what you see in relation to what she’s telling you. This is exactly what the pros do, and she’ll believe she’s got a spiritual guru holding her hand. Not a bad start, eh?

Bookstore Pick-Up

This is easy – and fun, because you often get an intelligent class of woman in bookstores.

Hang out in the sections women are often in – this includes new age, sex, romance, art…

Notice what the girl is reading – and say “(Book title). I was interested in that book – is it any good?”

She might ask why you’re interested in the book, and you can say “Well, I’m interested in that subject area.” Guess what – so’s she! Now you’ve got a topic to talk about at length, and from there you can easily shift to the bookstore coffee shop or a nearby one. Works like a charm.

Derek

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/pick-up-success---more-places-and-techniques.html

Women are Just People

2008-06-18T23:26:00.000-07:00

One of the most important thing I learned about talking to women is that women are just people. All the excitement about not knowing what to say, anxiety, awkwardness, etc. would not be a subject if you see women not as people to amaze but just people like you and me. If you overlook the fact that you're trying to impress a woman and understand that you're having a conversation with a real life human being, I don't think you would have any problem talking to any woman at all. You can talk to a perfect 10 and attract her by showing that you appreciate her as a person and not just the fact that you think she's hot.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/general-tips/

You Can Generate Attraction Regardless of Your Looks

2008-06-18T00:14:00.000-07:00

by Joseph Matthews

It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their belief
of being too ugly to attract women.

This insecurity comes in a variety of shapes and sizes. For instance:

They could be too old.

Some men assume they are too fat.

They could be too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

Many men feel hopeless when it comes to attracting the woman they desire, because of such feelings.

But fortunate for all of us - this simply isn't the case.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 - Women are only attracted to good looking men.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

As a general rule of thumb, I like to say: It's important to look good, but it's not important to be good looking!

Is there a difference?

Well, you can't help if you're good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE power over how you
present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you prepare yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.

Myth #2 - Women Think Just As Men Do

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

Take for example that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

To you, it was clear as day.

To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

Naturally, we practice this manner while summing others up.

Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to decide by visually appraising her whether you think she is attractive.

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

This assumption is a mistake.

Women have a different set of values when determining their attraction than men have. This does not mean they have no care as to the attractiveness of a man; they just do not use
physical characteristics as a means of judgment as men do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They're attracted to men who make them laugh. They're attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 - Women Notice A Man's Uncertainty And Insecurity

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves - our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline...

We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be.

And because we see it, we believe everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren't
very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they're not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.

Do you know that most women are not aware of your insecurities and only notice them when you call their attention to them? So forget about your insecurities rather than trying to diffuse or dismiss them by calling the attention of others as to why you may think you are ugly.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

In order for your positive traits to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 - Good Looking Men Have It Made

That women instinctively generate towards good looking men is one of the most misleading myths out there.

Those men have their own set of troubles with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.

Attraction is the art of magnifying the emotional connection that a woman feels for you, when you are around, this relationship will only occur when you are around her, therefore to feel those feelings she will want you to be around her.

When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be mismatched, a jerk or a bore.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience bliss, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

You don't have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to relate
with them.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

Sexual attraction is not only making a woman feel good by being around you, but arousing their passion as well.

This aspect naturally leads to seduction.

As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/attract-women.html

Steps for a Successful Seduction

2008-06-16T23:35:00.000-07:00

By: Derek Vitalio

Okay, let’s quickly review the internal organs of the seduction steps.

Seduction Step 1: First, open the girl or her group.

Seduction Step 2: Second, build your social value to the girl through stories, routines, social proof, nonverbal sexual cuing, leading her peer group, and so on. You can also decrease the girl’s social value through value zingers and ignoring her.

Seduction Step 3: Third, once you have social value and receive a few green lights from her, screen and accept her.

Seduction Step 4: Fourth, isolate the girl away from her friends.

Seduction Step 5: Fifth, build bond and connection with the girl.

Seduction Step 6: And sixth, instant date her right then (ideally to your apartment), get her number or schedule a time to meet.

You’ll want to progress through the seduction steps – open, build your social value, screen and accept, isolate, and build bond and connection, and scheduling your next time together - in basically that order.

Where a lot of guys go wrong is that they SKIP some of these critical, core seduction steps – and consequently fumble the seduction even though they do everything else right!

Now I’m going to show you WHAT happens when you skip seduction steps – and WHY girls are less likely to sleep with you if you do.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/steps-for-a-successful-seduction.html

How to Approach Women

2008-06-15T19:59:00.000-07:00

by: Simon

Here's the attitude you should have if you really want to be
successful when it comes to dating and meeting women.

Firstly, take all the things that your mom & dad ever taught you about how to
treat and date a woman and do the exact OPPOSITE!

It's not a secret anymore that even though a woman persistently says that all
she wants is a nice, sweet, and caring guy in their life, often times they're
actually lying to themselves – without them even realizing it!

It's true!

Seriously.

In the movies, yes, the girl always falls for the nice guy, but in real life,
especially more so if you really want to be able to be with as many women as
possible in your lifetime - the nice guy road will get you nowhere and you'll
end up getting nothing but rejections.

I'm not going to go into the details on the 'why' part of it because most of
you might have already known about it.

But what I AM going to talk about today is why do women, specially attractive
ones can act rather 'bitchy' and rude sometimes and how you can effectively
pick up one - with ease.

First of all, you have to understand that attractive women, they get 'hit on'
one way or another at least 10 times a day everyday- consistently.

Now at first it may all seem happy and nice with them receiving all the
attention from the guys, and sure they can be all cutesy and polite to them
whenever they're being approached but after a while, it all tends to get rather
annoying and aggravating - merely because they're hearing the same ol' lines, howlings
and perv stares over and over again.

Exact words from a woman's mouth - not mine.

So what they do about it?

Well in order for them to 'save time', they would then be strained to be more
'to the point' or as we like to call it 'bitchy' to the guys that approach
them.

Why must they be so mean?

Simply because they HAVE to.

You see, if they weren't mean enough, guys who are normally thick-skinned will
not get the point and they'll keep on pursuing UNTIL she says a firm no.

Makes sense?

How do I know this? Well, to be honest with you, it was purely by chance. I
didn't get any of it at first until I started to really mix with women.

Sometimes, it's really good to have close girl friends because you might find
out a LOT from them. I now begin to see it all
from THEIR perspective now...

How to approach a woman?

Now, I've noticed that most guys (the majority of them actually), whenever they
approach a woman, they constantly start off by saying something like 'Hi there,
you're gorgeous, oh by the way, my name’s John, what's yours? I'd like to get
to know you, bla blabla..."

Heard of such a line before?

Or probably something along these lines?

Now, think about it. If you're a girl and you get asked the same question about
5-10 times a day, do you think that there’s a high chance that you'll get
immune to it?

Of course you would!

And I'm not guessing here because I had a girl friend who once told me the same
thing that I'm telling you now!

It's just too 'typical' for them to receive such lame, everyday 'pick up'
lines.

Best thing is, do you know instead what they would rather hear?

Try this:

Go up to her, and just give her a humorous compliment on something she LEAST
expects to get a compliment on (NEVER compliment her looks, she's immune to
that, remember?), you can compliment on her funky hairstyle, her heels, and her
big ears -- anything.

Just as long as its something she LEAST expects to hear from a guy.

Using humor is always good in picking up women. Humor added with a bit of
spunk, along with a spot-on mocking tone and body language will definitely seal
the deal for you -- and get her interested.

Surely.

Think about it.

This works. :-)

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-approach-women.html

How to Become the Alpha Male that Gets Girls

2008-06-10T23:52:00.000-07:00

by Derek Vitalio

Men who are not as easily manipulated by women’s sometimes
confusing, annoying, or even rude behavior cause women to feel attracted in a
very powerful way.

An alpha dominant male who she can’t manipulate is instantly attractive to any
woman.

Their state is relaxed, calm, of low energy.

Relaxed…

Alpha dominant males always remain calm in the face of possible anger. They
don’t let anything phase them. They allow any perceived or overt insult to slip
by and turn it around on HER.

They simply don’t react in the same way a beta man would.

Many times, unshakeable men naturally recognize these fits of hers, and you’ll
see a sly smile on his face.

An alpha dominant male has no problem putting them in their place, and do so
accordingly. They just never lose their temper while doing it. Think of James
Bond. He NEVER loses it. He always remains cool.

Anything James Bond does is done with a slight smile and/or sarcastic smirk.
Women cannot help themselves around a man who acts this way.

Women can’t help themselves around a man that stands his ground and revels in
HER femininity.

This type of man trusts himself. He’s cool about the whole thing.

When you get good at this, women will use even more types of unconscious, and
sometimes conscious testing tactics to bait you into an argument or friction to
see how you react… to see if you’re the real thing.

Sometimes, for you, the solution to these testing tactics can be as simple as
ignoring any conversational thread that’s aimed to bait you into arguing.

You have to remain in complete control. It isn’t about who’s right or wrong. If
she gets out of line, you have to steer her in the right direction with your
reactions.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-become-the-alpha-male-that-gets-girls.html

Tips for Curing Approach Anxiety

2008-06-10T00:29:00.000-07:00

by Alex Coulson
Today I want to talk about a simple and effective (yet somewhat DANGEROUS) technique that allows you to instantly approach beautiful women in everyday situations without fear or nervousness.

You've never heard about this 'controversial' technique before. How do I know?
Because it's my own creation, and I've never revealed it, until now.

But before I do, you need to understand WHY this technique works so well. Let me explain ...

This technique is so effective because it utilizes one of the greatest psychological motivators there is.

"The Fear of Loss"
Here's how it works: In life, just because you WANT something (like a hot girlfriend or a fancy car) doesn't mean you'll go out and get it, right?

Why not? Because most of the time our own FEARS hold us back.

So how do we overcome our FEARS and get what we want out of life?

The answer is: Make fear work for you and NOT against you. Wouldn't that be nice for a change?

Here's how: Let me explain a disturbing scenario.

If a mad-man kidnapped one of your family members, held a GUN to their head and said:

"If you don't approach 3 beautifulwomen today, then I'm gonna SHOOT them!"

Would you do it? Of course you would!

You'd do it without hesitation, wouldn't you?

And would you be SCARED of approaching women? I doubt it. You'd be SO focused on saving another person's life that you wouldn't even have time to feel "approach anxiety" right?

So the above gun-to-their-head story was an extreme example of how the "fear of loss" principal works. But it wasn't real.

Now let me give you a REAL tried-and-testedmethod you can use to approach women without fear - using the "fear or loss" principal.

Here's how it works: Invite a supportive friendto meet you in a place with lots of women around.(Like a shopping mall, grocery store, etc).

Then hand your friend $100 in five $20 bills.(if you cant afford $100, then use a smaller amount, like $50 in five $10 bills).

Say to your friend: "My goal for the next2 hours is to approach and talk to FIVE attractive women. Each time I approacha woman, you give me back $20 (or $10).

If I successfully approach five womenwithin the next two hours - then I get all of my money back, if I don't, then you get to keep my money. Got it?"

RULES: If I approach a woman and she slaps me, pokes me in the eye, or kicks me in the balls - it doesn't matter. My goal today is just to approach, nothing more.

And that my friend, is a fantastic way to get over your fears of approaching women.

Now go out there and do it!

Your Friend,

Alex
Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/

Kissing Tip

2008-06-03T11:31:00.000-07:00

Kissing Tip

You've probably heard it before... or even used it but for those of you who haven’t there are 2 things I like to do when kissing a girl that do a great job of gaining attraction and raising your value.

1) Be the first to end the kisslet this happen by moving your head away, or even pushing her away with your hands; this shows her that you’re not completely desperate to choke her with your tongue.

2) Fake the kiss (used this recently, worked like a charm)for example...if your going your separate ways... walk up to her go in like your about to kiss her,,, come close... stop and back away.... this just teases the hell outta them. Honestly I don’t even know if this is a certainty... but I worked well for me. If you don’t believe me, try em yourself)

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/general-tips/

Two Quick Tips...

2008-06-02T10:18:00.000-07:00

Here are two quick tips on how to seduce women... enjoy!

Leave Something There

After you've closed the deal and successfuly gotten back to her place, if you like her, it's always a good idea to leave something there. Maybe leave a shirt, a peice of jewelry (nothing expensive for obvious reasons), etc. This gives you a great reason to go back over there and is a great way to get her to call you back.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/seduce-women-tips/leave-something-there.html

2 Steps Forward 1 Step Back

One of the best things you can do when seducing women is a little method I called "2 steps forward, 1 step back". When you are with a woman, start to escalate things. Maybe place your hand on her hips, or go in for a kiss. If you begin making out, stop abruptly and keep talking about what you were talking about before you started kissing. Then gradually start building back up again. This time perhaps you make out with her and you reach your hand under her skirt for a little "play". After a few seconds, stop abruptly and go back to what you were doing. This builds SO much sexual tension and will eventually get her BEGGING for you.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/seduce-women-tips/2-steps-forward-1-step-back.html

Cool First Date Ideas

2008-05-28T10:17:00.000-07:00

I have received a TON of emails asking for some ideas of romantic places to take women for a first date. The problem is- you dont want to be romantic on the first date. It looks like you are trying too hard. Try keeping it fun and light. Here are some great first date ideas from theplayersociety.com.

Cool and Fun First Date Ideas

Musuems
Pros: Museums are (usually) really interesting and kick ass. They can be cheap in most cases, and provide for LOTS of opinionated conversation.

Cons: Lots of walking, lots of talking. If the date turns sour, your pretty much fucked

Notes: Go to a GOOD museum! If you can, look up reviews and ask people who've been before. Don't go to a dull museum without much color, go to one that has a lot of color variations, interesting things (like fossils), art, etc.

Zoo's
Pros: At first glance, zoo's may look a bit cheesy and uncomfortable for a first date. Well, assuming the weather is perfect, a trip to the zoo can be one of the best first/second/third dates you can possibly go on. It allows a perfect mixture of communication and entertainment. Just keep it light, and make sure it's not too cold or to hot. Usually zoo's have on-location resteraunts so it's a perfect oppurtunity for more interaction as well.

Cons: Some zoo's are more expensive then other, and if the weather turns you're pretty much shit out of luck.

Notes: Girls go moist over cute animals.

Drive-In Movies
Pros: Drive-In Movies kick ass. They provide the entertainment of an actual movie, but with more seclusion and privacy for "fun".

Cons: Could be abunch of kids around or something gay like that.

Notes: A LOT of people who think they know something about attracting women will tell you "ohh nooo, movies are bad for a (first) date, blah blah." Drive-In Movies are the exception. They are really fun, and they are DIFFERENT! That's what it's all about.

Comedy Club
Pros: Comedy Clubs are a great place for a great first date. You sit around with your woman, and just laugh your asses off for an hour or so. This is great for "Anchoring". Just like the concert, whenever she will think of you (if the person you went to see was actually funny), she will automatically think of you and how much of a good time she had. This will send all those feelings of humor and well-being back to her and she will relive the experience. If that doesn't seal the deal, then knowing that most comedy clubs serve alcohol should!

Cons: Sometimes people just aren't funny. There could also be a tought time talking (possibly).

Notes: Make sure you pick a comedian thats funny!

Winery
Pros: Winerys are great for first dates for three reasons. Alcohol, Alcohol, Alcohol. Haha, just playing. However, alcohol is a common feature at winerys, it's also usually accompanied with GREAT scenery, and great food. You hardly see these now a days, so you will definitely get points for it being a rare date.

Cons: Depending on the type of person you are, alcohol could be a problem.

Notes: Winerys aren't for getting drunk. They are for relaxation and tasting. Make sure you keep that mind and try not to drink too much.

Coffee/Tea Shop
Pros: It's a great, laid back type of atmosphere. In fact, it's SO casual, most women won't even assosiate it with a first date. Why is that so good? It cuts out TONS of barriers. When women conciously think they are on a first date, they put up barriers like: "no sex on the first date," "gotta play hard to get," etc. It's also cheap if your a broke college student

Cons: It's becoming more and more popular now-a-days so it might become the next version of "dinner and a movie." I doubt it though.

Notes: You might want to work on your conversational skills before trying this one, because thats all that there is to do. Work on transitions, keeping the conversation light, fun, and you should be golden.

Concert
Pros: Concerts are a great idea for first dates because of what it involves. It's pretty much just an hour or more of pure adrenaline. Why is it good though? Guys NEVER take girls to concerts for first dates. It's a great place to "break the routine". It's also good because of the psychological affects it has on women. If you take a woman to a (kick ass) concert, she will always and forever remember it. So, from then on, everytime she thinks of you, she will be reminded of all the good, fun, and exciting feelings she felt when she was with you at that concert.

Cons: It can be loud, and crowded. This could cut down on conversation between the two of you.

Notes: Try to pick a band/artist/genre you both like.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/date-ideas/

The Basics of Body Language

2008-05-25T13:59:00.000-07:00

The following article from theplayersociety.com outlines the basics of body language for seducing women. Learn to use body language to your advantage when it comes to picking up more ladies.

Body Language Basics for Seducing Women
By Tiffany Taylor

Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried out over 50%of your message comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and lessthen 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.

What does this mean to you?

It is MORE significant to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, andHOW you position yourself and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at leastinitially).

You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be able to really getany woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same winningtechniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contactetc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.
Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting women. Later in thecourse we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to READ hermind and know what she’s thinking. This article is about YOUR body language.

Body language basics:
1. Smile
You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are afriendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible. Especiallywhen talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her know that youare confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the bestway to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you cantell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big smile. Practicesmiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people smile back andat how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, fakesmile ;)

2. Eye contact
As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or evenlooking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. Ifanything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonderwhy her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention andsubconsciously TRY to get you to look!

When talking to her, try to uphold eye contact. Not too much because it canbe intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of thetime you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t starelike a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look away or areslightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have alittle more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They saythe eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that.There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staringinto each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.

Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Benatural.

3. Upright posture
Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men withstraight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruiseetc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy,and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and sayslots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthenyour back muscles making it easier to maintain.

Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.

4. Gesticulate with open palms
You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almostcertainly copied from this course).

I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good oneto use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing topicking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a fewother verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance ofgetting out of speeding fines!

Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make apoint (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, agirl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you haveopen palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palmsfacing the sky and smile as you talk.

It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honestand telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, makingher think you are being straight with her, is important.

This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to workeffectively.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/body-language/body-language-basics-for-seducing-women.html

Dealing With Other Guys

2008-05-23T20:05:00.000-07:00

Who has not had the problem of trying to pick up a lady while dealing with the other guy? This practical article by Christian on theplayersociety.com highlights exactly how to handle that sometimes awkward situation....

Dealing With Other Guys

In college (and the rest of the world for that matter), becauseof the tribe state of mind we encompass, there is a constant contest among menfor superiority. Expect it. Even your boys will try to give you shit and it’susually unintentional, but you might as well know how to deal with it when itcomes. Like, my buddy Ken and I were out the other night and he kept doing thisthing where he’d lean on my shoulder while I was talking to girls. He gets waymore then his fair share of girls but he was just trying to show me he could messwith me. The first time he did it I just turned around as if I was looking forsomeone, then the SECOND time he did it I told the girl that she and I shouldgo get shots. He knew what was up and I love the guy to death but once youstart being a serious pimp (and I know that you guys are well on the way)you’re going to have to know how to deal with this

So Christian taught me something huge that day about AMOG’ing.This is jargon for “alpha male other guy” aka when another guy tries to showyou up in front of a potential lay or girlfriend. It’s a stupid phrase butwhatever, it works. Christian’s not a huge guy but I’ve never seen someonebetter at amoging, and we were talking about what he does and what I’ve beendoing and I think we broke it down better than I’ve ever seen.

Basically, if another guy is messing with you, you have to doone of two things:
- Break rapport if he is trying to build it
- Build rapport if he is trying to break it

And you always do this from an alpha standpoint. So if the guyis trying to build rapport, you have to be “too cool for school”, like maybeyou humor him a little bit, but you’re mostly just giving him shit. And if theguy is trying to break rapport, you need to build it from the standpoint ofbeing alpha nice. Some examples might help:

Let’s say you’re chatting with a girl, you leave her for aminute, and then you come back and there’s some dude there. As you get backinto the conversation, he tries to box you out. He’s breaking rapport. So youneed to be the superior man, ask him his name, compliment him a bit aboutsomething (DON’T ask him questions except for his name), then as he keepstrying to fracture the rapport, you’re trying to build rapport with him ANDwith the girl from the perspective of being the fun, super-social guy. It willmake this guy look like he is just out for pussy and not to have fun and willincrease the amount of social value in her eyes. You can even call him on it ifyou want.

On the other hand, I’ve had it when guys try to break into myinteractions and they’re trying to build rapport. Like, they’ll be asking a lotof questions, but they do it from the point of view of humoring me. So in thosesituations, you need to break rapport and be a bit of a dick. So what I was trainedto do was to mirror them, ask a quick question or give a quick complement, thenstraight away break rapport and be like “so, why all these questions?” Or justindicate that you’re not interested in talking to them and edge them out.
Again, do this from an alpha angle.

5 Ways to Make a Great First Impression With Women

2008-05-21T11:14:00.004-07:00

This is another great article written by Gambler on theplayersociety.com. It is short, but following these 5 quick tips will add a lot of mileage to your game!

5 Ways to Make a Great First Impression With Women
By: Gambler
Any seduction starts before you even speak to a girl, she is making an instant judgment about you as soon as she catches sight of you out of the corner of her eye. Women are much more subtle than men and can make this judgment without you even knowing. Here is how to make a great first impression:

Look like you are enjoying yourself.
Most men do not enjoy themselves in bars and clubs, they stand shoulder to shoulder, checking out the women and making the occasional comment to each other. They don’t look like they are enjoying each others’ company and are just out to meet women. This creates a bad first impression. When you see people having fun, you want to join them and you have a better first impression – they appear friendlier, safer, and nicer. Even if you are not having fun, look like you are. Look happy to be in the place and try to have higher energy than those around you. Animated body language, a smiling face and exaggerated reactions are ways to look like you are having fun.

Do not stare or obviously check out the girls.
Don’t stand shoulder to shoulder with your friend, stand opposite each other and subtly check out the girls over each others shoulder. This is what girls do! It separates you from all the other guys.

Be the fun sociable guy.
If a girl sees you standing around bored and then you approach and put a smile on your face, it seems fake. If you are chatting with the bar staff, talking to men, having fun with friends, and generally being the fun sociable guy, when you talk to her, she will be much more receptive because you have demonstrated that that is how you are with everyone and that your natural character is that of a cool person that likes to meet people.

Don’t dress generically.
The rule here is that your clothes should be comment worthy. If a girl cannot say: I like your jeans/shirt/shoes/jacket, then it means it is either ugly or generic. You don’t need to wear outlandish stuff but it should be something that shows you have some personality and aren’t just part of the masses. If you are on a budget, the most important things are the shoes and jacket.

Be Well-Groomed
Women notice small details. Clean your nails, iron your shirt, wash your hair, trim your nose hair. Little things can completely put a woman off.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/5-ways-to-make-a-great-first-impression-with-women.html

How to Approach Groups of Girls You Don't Know, and Get Them to Think You're Great

2008-05-20T10:39:00.000-07:00

This article by Tiffany Taylor needs little introduction. It is a great guide for making an approach.

How To Approach Groups Of Girls You Don't Know, And Get Them To Think You're Great
By: Tiffany Taylor
For this example I’m going to use women at a bar. I will be going into lots of other techniques for non-bar pickups too but for the moment, we’ll stick with this.
(Note: In fact, I even recommend you try my top places for picking up that are not bars – they are WAAAAAAAY better than ANY bar and you’ll see an enormous leap in your success rates with women.)
As you know, women don’t usually go to bars on their own. They go in groups of two or more.
Approaching GROUPS of women can be extremely intimidating and if you don’t know what you’re doing, you can fail BADLY with groups and like a pack of wolves they can rip you apart. I’ve seen men get cussed at, totally ignored and even drinks poured over them.
But if you do the approach RIGHT, then your success with a group of women can usually yield great results.
Whenever I suggest approaching groups of women I get LOADS of guys looking at me as though I’m from another galaxy. I realize that lots of guys probably don’t have the initial confidence to simply walk up to beautiful women they don’t know. Don’t worry, this can be easily fixed. I’ll give you some simple tips here.
SIDE NOTE: If you have a major confidence problem then don’t worry, I have an advanced 155-page E-book called HypnoDate which almost completely goes into increasing your confidence with women – and it works through the power of self-reprogramming so it doesn’t matter how shy you are, this thing WILL work for you. It’s a bonus product in my site member’s area that comes with my book at no extra charge.
INCREASING CONFIDENCE EXERCISE IN THE MALL
Step 1. Walk around the shopping mall and when you catch a woman’s eye, smile at her – more often than not, she’ll smile back. To start with you can do this just with shop employees. Even if they don’t WANT to smile, they almost certainly will. Good practice. And you might even brighten a few women’s lives a little.
Step 2. Once you’ve gained confidence in making natural eye contact and a smile with staff, you could move onto other women in the mall. I’m not suggesting big weird freak smiles, just nice, normal friendly ones. A lot of women will smile back at you.
Step 3. Here’s where it might seem a little weird, but this really does help and practice and repetition will make this lots easier. Just say “hi” with a smile to women (and men if you like) as you stroll around the mall. It will feel HORRIBLE at first if you are not confident but slowly, after an hour or two, it’ll seem easy.
After you’ve smiled and said hi to 20 or 30 women, you should start to experience a good feeling (as long as you don’t quit on your first negative response – this will happen and will happen when you’re approaching women to pick them up – you HAVE to learn to step out of your comfort zone if you want to be successful with women).
One of my male friends did the “smile at girls in the mall” technique and he in fact ended up meeting the girl of his dreams and is still with her 3 years later – how’s that for effective!
There are loads of other techniques you can do to construct your confidence, most not quite as scary as the mall one. I go into others within my book…
Right, let’s assume you now have the confidence or at least the guts to approach women you don’t know in a bar (Again, I don’t just go into bar pickups in my book, in fact, I think the best places to pick up women are NOT in a bar – I think it’s everyday places where you’re not fighting over them with other single guys).
Firstly, let’s suppose two girls are sat together at a bar. One is the ‘ugly’ one and one is the hot one (the one you like the looks of and would like to get to know more).
You see the girls. Go up to them and talk to them NOW! Don’t waste time. Within 3 seconds of seeing them, approach them. Some people call this the 3 second rule and I must say it really does seem to work.
If you see her and like her, it’s best not to think too much about the approach, or you’re more likely to work yourself into such a condition that your approach will be ineffective or you’ll just pussy out altogether!
(Don’t worry I’ll tell you WHAT to say when you get there in a future lesson). So within 3 seconds, go TALK to her!
ALWAYS, ALWAYS approach a woman from the side or an angle from the front. !!!NEVER from behind – IMPORTANT!!!
If you go up to the group at the bar and approach from behind you will INSTANTLY raise a negative response, and they will be put on the defensive - for understandable reasons. ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS go in from the side...

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-approach-groups-of-girls-you-dont-know-and-get-them-to-think-youre-great.html

How to Tell if a Girl is Attracted to You

2008-05-19T10:16:00.001-07:00

We are going to take a slight detour today. Rather than tips on how to pick up women, we are going to highlight an article on how to tell if a woman is attracted to YOU. If your name is Brad Pitt, its pretty much a safe bet that that hot girl at the bar IS "giving you the eye." For the rest of us it is not always so obvious. This article comes from theplayersociety.com and is a great tool for knowing if she really is interested.

How to tell if a girl is Attracted to you
By: Gambler
We are surrounded by women all the time and some of these women are attracted to us. So many men question whether a woman is attracted to them or not. Women are much more delicate than men in the way they show their attraction. But once you know the signs, you’ll always be able to tell if a woman is attracted to you. One of these should be sufficient to act on, more than one and it is an explicit “go” signal! Here are the ways women show that they like you:

If She Wants to Speak to You:
-She points her feet in the direction of you when standing up.
-She smiles, or looks away embarrassed when you hold eye contact.
-She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed.
-She adjusts her posture – sits up straighter and tucks in belly.
-She faces you with her hips/legs while sitting down.
-She opens up her body language to you while standing.
-She brushes up against you pointlessly when she passes.
-She looks at you two times before approach.
-She twirls her hair when she notices you.

If you get one of these signals, go in and start a conversation with her. Your next objective is to take the interaction to a point where she wants to have a conversation with you. It might happen instantly or it might not. If you have approached without any of the above invitations, you should look for some of the below to know that she is attracted to you.

If She is Interested in making the interaction longer:
-She asks you questions
-She asks your name.
-She gives extended answers to your questions.

So now you know whether she likes you to the point of wanting to talk to you, but how do you know if she wants to get physical with you?

If She is Sexually Attracted to You:
-She strokes her neck when in conversation with you.
-She peeks at your mouth.
-She tilts head to the side when speaking to you.
-Her pupils dilate.
-She giggles too much at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny.
-She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish.
-She holds eye contact with you and doesn’t glance around the room or at her friends. Note – if she is anxious and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested.
-She is relaxed with you touching her and invading her space.
-She shows enthusiasm to leave her friends and stay with you.
-She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her.
-She looks at you in a dreaming kind of way.
-She asks if you are single.
-She says your name in conversation.
-She leans in to you.

Now that you know all the ways that a girl can show that she is attracted to you, you will be able to make the move and will stop having missed chances. It will increase your success rate by a huge amount.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-tell-if-a-girl-is-attracted-to-you.html

How To Approach

2008-05-16T23:01:00.000-07:00

Here is a great article on how to approach women. To most guys the approach can be the most intimidating part of meeting beautiful women. Take some of the guesswork and out of approaching women and put some confidence in your game using this article:

How To Approach Women
By: Simon
Here's the attitude you should have if you really want to be successful when it comes to dating and meeting women.

Firstly, take all the things that your mom & dad ever taught you about how to treat and date a woman and do the exact OPPOSITE!

It's not a secret anymore that even though a woman persistently says that all she wants is a nice, sweet, and caring guy in their life, often times they're actually lying to themselves – without them even realizing it!

It's true!

Seriously.

In the movies, yes, the girl always falls for the nice guy, but in real life, especially more so if you really want to be able to be with as many women as possible in your lifetime - the nice guy road will get you nowhere and you'll end up getting nothing but rejections.

I'm not going to go into the details on the 'why' part of it because most of you might have already known about it.

Just in case you still don't know why, you can read and listen all about it here in my newly released "Instant Attraction Program"

But what I AM going to talk about today is why do women, specially attractive ones can act rather 'bitchy' and rude sometimes and how you can effectively pick up one - with ease.

First of all, you have to understand that attractive women, they get 'hit on' one way or another at least 10 times a day everyday- consistently.

Now at first it may all seem happy and nice with them receiving all the attention from the guys, and sure they can be all cutesy and polite to them whenever they're being approached but after a while, it all tends to get rather annoying and aggravating - merely because they're hearing the same ol' lines, howlings and perv stares over and over again.

Exact words from a woman's mouth - not mine.

So what they do about it?

Well in order for them to 'save time', they would then be strained to be more 'to the point' or as we like to call it 'bitchy' to the guys that approach them.

Why must they be so mean?

Simply because they HAVE to.

You see, if they weren't mean enough, guys who are normally thick-skinned will not get the point and they'll keep on pursuing UNTIL she says a firm no.

Makes sense?

How do I know this? Well, to be honest with you, it was purely by chance. I didn't get any of it at first until I started to really mix with women.

Sometimes, it's really good to have close girl friends because you might find out a LOT from them. I now begin to see it all from THEIR perspective now...

How to approach a woman?

Now, I've noticed that most guys (the majority of them actually), whenever they approach a woman, they constantly start off by saying something like 'Hi there, you're gorgeous, oh by the way, my name’s John, what's yours? I'd like to get to know you, bla blabla..."

Heard of such a line before?

Or probably something along these lines?

Now, think about it.

If you're a girl and you get asked the same question about 5-10 times a day, do you think that there’s a high chance that you'll get immune to it?Of course you would!

And I'm not guessing here because I had a girl friend who once told me the same thing that I'm telling you now!

It's just too 'typical' for them to receive such lame, everyday 'pick up' lines.

Best thing is, do you know instead what they would rather hear?

Try this:
Go up to her, and just give her a humorous compliment on something she LEAST expects to get a compliment on (NEVER compliment her looks, she's immune to that, remember?), you can compliment on her funky hairstyle, her heels, and her big ears -- anything.

Just as long as its something she LEAST expects to hear from a guy.

Using humor is always good in picking up women. Humor added with a bit of spunk, along with a spot-on mocking tone and body language will definitely seal the deal for you -- and get her interested.

Surely.

Think about it.

This works. :-)

[About the Author]: Simon Heong is the publisher of the Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the "Instant Attraction Program" -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE program revealing the most intimate secrets on femaleattraction techniques and dating strategies.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-approach-women.html

Good General Tips

2008-05-14T11:02:00.000-07:00

This is an article off theplayersociety.com that was written with every man in mind. It gives good general tips for more success with the ladies. These are not gimmicks- this is solid advice for all guys looking to do better in the love department.

How To Improve Your Skills With Women
By: Christian
Finding yourself trapped on the path to getting better with women? Good. I had lots of stumbling blocks too. I’ve discovered that becoming unstuck is always a matter of addressing one of the following seven issues:

1.) Beliefs - do you believe you can do it? I spoke recently at a conference in Germany about - what else? - dating. My topic was something like Dating the Girl of your Dreams. The first problem I had for the audience was “how many of you actually believe that you will date the girl of your dreams?” A lot of guys get into the “getting better with women” thing thinking it’s simply a new set of skills to be learned (more on that shortly). Way more important than their skills, however, are their beliefs.

2.) Motivation - do you want it badly enough? This is a huge problem that I see with boot camp clients. They only want really hot girls who they're not experienced enough to pick up these hot women, and they lack the enthusiasm to approach girls just to get in practice. Lack of Motivation also strikes in many other forms, from depression to genuine dispassion.

3.) Raw Potential - could you do it? Most of us possess the potential to be good artists, but give up around fifth grade. But not too many of us have the intellectual capability to comprehend particle physics beyond, say, Brian Greene’s explanations. And a tubby, big boned chunk of lovin’ isn’t going to appear in a Victoria’s Secret catalog. String-theory and underwear modeling aside, though, there are many examples of people who transcended their God-given limitations, usually through outstanding force of will and belief. I believe that we're all genetically wired to be able to meet women - it’s really a matter of transcending social conditioning, and then, constructing the right...

4.) Skill Set - do you have the essential skills? No matter how much you believe that you can put up a dog house, your progress will be limited if you don’t have some fundamental carpentry skills. You typically take a class, read a book, or find an apprenticeship to help you learn some skills and address this issue.

5.) Resources - are the right tools at your disposal? To continue with our dog house symbol, the best carpenter in the world couldn’t make much if he didn’t have a saw or a hammer. A lack of resources classically becomes obvious very quickly - this is where we have products and tools and boot camps to get better with women.
6.) Execution - do you put everything to work? Are you able to successfully channel your beliefs, motivation, potential and skills into something that goes somewhere? Failures in execution are common, and often the result of poor organization of people, time, priorities and/or resources.

7.) Commitment - will you follow through? Getting started on something, whether a relationship, a friendship, or even a business, is always great fun. But if you can’t see it through to its rational end (or merely commit to being a part of the journey), it won’t get very far.
Whenever I’ve found myself stuck on something, I ask myself which of the above sticking points has got me. 95% of the time, it is motivation.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/articles/how-to-improve-your-skills-with-women.html

The Dreaded Friend Zone

2008-05-13T09:32:00.000-07:00

Here is a quickie from theplayersociety.com on how to avoid the friend zone. It has happened to all of us on more than one occasion- here is how to prevent it from happening again...

Avoiding The Friend Zone
The single worst situation ANY man can be in is the infamous friends zone! It is possible to avoid this, but it is something that must be done quick. The biggest mistake that most guys make is coming across as too "safe". This means that the woman feels they can pour their life story out to this guy and he will just sit and listen and try to comfort her. You do NOT want to do this. So, the easiest way to avoid the friend zone is to (as soon as possible) eliminate the "safety" factor. This could be by placing your hand on her lower back while you're talking, maybe some flirting, or even a joke at her expense (as long as it doesn't make her cry and it's light hearted, you're golden!).

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/general-tips/avoiding-the-friend-zone.html

4 Easy Tips for Picking Up Ladies

2008-05-12T10:34:00.000-07:00

Here are 4 easy tips that most guys will find to be extremely helpful. These tips came from www.theplayersociety.com and are amazingly easy yet effective.

Palm Reading
An old trick you can always use is the palm reading trick. You don't even need to know what you are doing, you can bullshit the whole entire thing. Take her hand and start making funny predictions. This gets in some good kino, and is an easy chance to make her laugh. One prediction I like to make is that 5 years from now, I see her doing my laundry. Now heres a twist. If you have a wing, tell him to start talking to you right when you grab her hand. Just talk to him while holding her hand and lightly stroking it, like you are doing it unconciously. She will definately notice. Once he is done you can continue palm reading. This is really good kino.

Store Pick ups
I just realized this. I would meet chicks all the time at malls and department stores. But I wouldn't have to chase down a single one of them. How did I do that? Glad you asked. They were employees. You can go into any department store and just stand around pretending to check out clothing. It's usually her job to APPROACH YOU. Instead of saying that you don't need help, ask lots of questions and randomly practice your cocky and funny routines. Notice a chick in one of those jewelry, watch, or sunglasses squares in the middle of the mall. Stop and look over her items. She'll ask if you need help. And just talk away. You'll definately build up confidence. If it goes really well, ask her for her number. Quick Tip: Go to the spots where female employees will be more likely to APPROACH YOU. Practice your game. Build your convo skills/confidence. Ask for their number, if you think you did well.

Pick-Me Ups
If you are new to the game (and relatively young) here is what you do. Go out to a mall far from where you live, where you know absolutely no one and will probably never see any of the people again. Approach women there. Just ask for the time, or just say hello and smile. Eventually you will become comfortable, and be able to actually approach and hold a conversation. If you fuck up, who cares, you won't ever see that person again. If you are on vacation out of state, you can go crazy with this one.

Rainy Days
This trick is really basic but makes for a good opener...If you know there will be rain showers on any given day, have an umbrella with you when you are out. Hot chicks don't like getting their hair wet.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/pick-up-women-tips/

Two Great Tips

2008-05-08T11:14:00.000-07:00

These two tips are easy to read and are definitely worth your time

Get Some Gum Boys
Ok today I made a cool new little trick. I was unwrapping a stick of gum and was about to throw away the wrapper when for whatever reason, I folded it back up so it looked like there was gum still inside. So this gave me an idea. Write a note and stick it in the gum wrapper, fold it back up and give it to a girl.I was too damn excited about this one, so I jotted down a message on a piece of paper, and folded the wrapper back up around it. Haha, so later today, as soon as I could, I approached a girl and ran normal game. I eventually had to go (didn't tell her this, I really had to I was in a rush) and asked her if she wanted some gum. She took it and I was out of there before she opened it.The message was like: AIM: KemoOPSorry about the gum, maybe if you are a good girl you'll get some next time. Haha, maybe not the perfect message, I'll see if I get an IM. I thought it was a pretty fun idea though. Sorry if this is an old one too. Tell me what you think guys, and I'll tell ya if she IMs me.

Be The Exception
Listen guys, you dont have to be off the chain to get a girl, especially if they're not HB9+. I was just reading the shoutbox and macksta asked how to game a shy girl. Knowing the game gives you advantages, you can comprehend the situation and come up with something that will hopefully work. If you run into a super cold HB 10. Negg her hARD. Make her realize she's gunna need more than looks to get your attention and some more of your time. Likewise, if she isnt as good looking as some other girls then switch things up. You dont have to go through a lot of the bullshit you do with a higher caliber girl. Show some intrest, give her some attention, still keep the same pricipals but drop the heavy stuff. Girls have majour insecurities to wether your realize it or not. Back to the question, shy girl, why not give her some attention. She might just open up and not be as shy. Conclusion: Some people go overboard with there game, some people cant escalate. Do what the other guy beside you isnt doing. Be different.

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/pick-up-women-tips/

World Class Tip for Picking Up the Waitress

2008-05-07T16:30:00.000-07:00

This is one area we could all use some help in- picking up the hot waitress. It is something that has intimidated everyone at one time or another. I picked this article because it is quick and offers some great insight on just how to get her back to your place!

Working the Waitress
Ever have a sexy waitress serving you and your friends, but you never knew what to say? Your game was probably awkward, but it’s a great opportunity to try anyways!
She will always have to come back to your table and you could always find an excuse to talk to her. But imagine what a sexy waitress would get asked at every table: “How long have you worked here.” “It must be hard being a waitress.” “Do you get hit on a lot while working here?” Yeah, probably all the time. The trick is to make her forget about her job. Most waitresses hate being a server. Yes, even that fine blonde chick at Hooters hates serving men… But they do tip well. So what do you do? Of course being cocky and funny will always work wonders, but you should also try to take the waitress out of her zone. Ask her something that she will have to debate with you. For example: “Is Miracle Whip a mayonnaise or a salad dressing?” “If Jesus were alive, do you think he would want to get married?” And whatever she says… Disagree. I guarantee you that she will come back time and time again, spending pointless minutes of her time trying to convince you otherwise. Make her laugh with your stupid theories and make her have fun at her already boring job. It’s really not that hard. Before you leave, shoot my favorite closer at her. “Hey (Waitress’ name), you seem like a lot of fun. We should hang out sometime.” Number close, leave a good tip, and leave. Or….. If it is late and you are drinking, ask her to take you home… This has worked wonders for me if I know that I have played my game properly. This is just a small sample of how to work the waitress, but remember. Make her have fun at her usually boring job and she will want to spend more time with you! It’s almost easier, because you don’t have to show her a good time at an already exciting place like the club. Go for it guys, I hope you liked the quick tip. Check Please!!!

Source: http://www.theplayersociety.com/pick-up-women-tips/