tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-358327052009-10-14T12:53:57.526+11:00Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.auBlogger84125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-80214306852942769762009-03-13T22:31:00.004+11:002009-03-14T17:26:09.800+11:00

Adoptee Rights Demonstration - Philadelphia, USA - July 21, 2009.PLEASE PASS THIS ON - it rocks!!!(also head over to YouTube - and add some stars - favourite the video - pass it onto friends)US adoptees should be allowed their Original Birth Certificates just like the rest of the US population.Australia has allowed it - why can't they????Thanks.Poss. xxx

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-75264067377407111512009-03-09T17:10:00.002+11:002009-03-09T17:16:28.919+11:00

Today - finally - after 2.5 years - I received an email from one of my brothers.I sent my 3 sibs a letter - 'outing' myself - 2.5 years ago - that created a huge storm for my mother - and was the reason behind my father contacting me behind everyone's backs.My mother scared everyone else - so from them I only heard silence - and it hurt my soul.But today - I have the BIGGEST smile on my

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-23551200644354609622008-12-17T11:28:00.003+11:002009-01-23T10:33:23.830+11:00

Pass on the word -Adoptee Rights Demonstration - Philadelphia, PA, USAJuly 21, 2009Here's the blog - http://adopteerightsphilly.blogspot.com/It's time for US Adoptees to have access to their OBCs.Thanks.Poss. xxx

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-2717634088689590522008-12-15T09:36:00.004+11:002008-12-15T09:48:39.418+11:00

Harlow's Monkey alerted me to the above report - featured at the Schuster Institute For Investigative Journalism website - with an interactive world map of where the babies come from - and where the babies are shipped to.The full article by E.J.Graff can be found at Foreign Policy website.Let's hope that more reports will come out like this one.Sadly - I think - too many that are desperate for a

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-54179196867419241742008-11-19T00:12:00.002+11:002008-11-19T00:15:28.097+11:00

Another great post - this time by Gershom - at Anti-Adoption Blog.It's called - "Why would anybody who was raised in a loving home be unhappy about being adopted?"How I missed it - I do not know!!!It's good.Go!!!Poss. xxx

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Go HERE and read a post on "The Anti-Adoption Confusion".It's good.Thanks.Poss. xx

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-72595787760874831102008-09-07T23:17:00.005+10:002008-09-09T13:21:30.640+10:00

The adoptee (almost human) that wrote the wonderful and heartfelt words from my last post - What An Adoptee Wants To Know - has a website - Adopted-Abused - for those adoptees that ended up in abusive adoptive households - and they have a survey running for those that lived through such pain.A message from almost human -"Please, if YOU or SOMEONE YOU KNOW has been adopted and abused, we are

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-14268515702362057832008-09-07T13:02:00.004+10:002008-09-07T13:39:10.645+10:00

Question on Y!A -" When and if you met/meet your real mom, what did you want to know?"Answer by 'almost human' -"to her i will ask, "what were the circumstances behind my conception, birth, and relinquishment? I want to know the beginning of my story and be able to tell my children about this history, so they may have a stronger link to their heritage."secretly my heart will be bleeding and i

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-1985994781135179162008-08-16T12:27:00.009+10:002008-08-16T20:19:05.635+10:00

I've only discovered recently - that Origins NSW/Australia now has a new web site - and it's well worth the visit. (yep - I'm a little slow on the uptake - it's probably been up for a while now - but I've finally changed my links - so don't forget to change yours!!)There is a great summary of research - which ALL prospective/current adoptive parents should take the time to read.The research

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-68429468312351320392008-08-15T12:41:00.005+10:002008-08-16T14:07:04.058+10:00

Thanks to all my wonderful well-wishing peeps!!!My father called! And it was good!!!He just wanted to touch base - apologised profusely for not getting in touch so much over the past few months.He's working on a letter about medical history info. (I don't know how much the letter will contain - but he's doing his best - even finding out what meds his wife/my mother is on now - and he wants to

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-35974174554419142412008-08-13T21:11:00.003+10:002008-08-13T21:28:04.746+10:00

This afternoon I received an email from my father.It's been quite a while.I guess it's hard when you're keeping contact with your first born a secret from all other family members.Really - I'm just glad that I haven't been forgotten.He's putting together a longer letter for me - about family and medical history.I don't want to get my hopes up too high - but it's good to have some contact once

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-54472887044521734092008-07-29T20:58:00.005+10:002008-07-29T21:35:33.004+10:00

Dear Mother,This little girl always wondered about who you were.This little girl always wondered what you looked like - and if she looked like you.This little girl always wondered why she was given away.This little girl always wondered if you were thinking about her.This little girl always worried that she had done something wrong - even though she was always told she was special and chosen and

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au19tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-31048605054755082412008-06-20T12:10:00.008+10:002008-06-21T00:38:42.165+10:00

I'm kind of over the 'angry', 'bitter' and 'ungrateful' titles - that have - yet again - been bandied around the internet in the last 24 hours.(hell - I hear them every single day - but a certain post led me to write this post today - I won't link - as it was more because of a comment I read to that post that really got me heated - and I just needed to have my say!)I get VERY defensive when AP's

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-77634324525729348762008-06-18T13:14:00.005+10:002008-06-18T13:37:07.570+10:00

This picture just spoke volumes to me today.This is what genetics feels like to me. (especially since I've finally met my bio sis after 35 yrs - who looks like me, laughs like me, has the same talents & habits as me, reads the same authors as me, thinks like me - is a part of me).My adoptive parents certainly added some diagonal lines to my mix - because to an adoptee - nothing is cut and dry.But

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-51411865880755492832008-06-11T11:13:00.004+10:002008-06-11T11:40:53.444+10:00

A wonderful first mum blogger - Suz - has written today about letting go of wishes - titled - 'Giving Up Wishes' - please do go over and read if you can.As usual - dear Suz has got me to thinking - but from the point of view of an adoptee - and the hopes, dreams and wishes of an adoptee who WANTS to find their first mother - who WANTS a reunion of sorts.You see - I'm not getting those hopes,

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-19311632085509389842008-06-09T00:09:00.007+10:002008-06-19T23:26:15.805+10:00

A question about 'healthy motivation to adopt' & ethical adoption - was posed to me earlier this week.The points below relate to both those that are considering relinquishing a child - and those that are wishing to adopt.* Adoption should be for the benefit of the child - and not the benefit of the adult.(first and foremost)No child WANTS to be separated from their parents.Adoption should never

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-7355930150059850492008-06-07T14:20:00.005+10:002008-06-11T11:51:04.205+10:00

On behalf of the Adoptee Rights Demonstration - please help if you can - Have you ever wanted to help out with the Open Records movement, but weren’t sure how to get involved? Maybe you’re not able to make it to the protest, or better yet, maybe you’re joining us and still want to help out?This is your opportunity to get involved!Every Friday(7 in total) from now until the protest (July 22, 2008)

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-51232830761189914052008-06-05T22:25:00.007+10:002008-06-11T11:50:25.209+10:00

Help if you can - heck - get there if at all possible.It's time to be heard - please pass on........For more information, please visit http://www.adopteerights.netHello everyone!July 22nd is fast approaching! Here is the update for the Adoptee Rights Day demonstration in New Orleans. We will be posting frequent updates so folks will be in the loop with schedules and what the plan of action is for

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-89890570402240428132008-06-02T11:47:00.004+10:002008-06-02T12:01:44.075+10:00

On Saturday, the adoption blogging world lost one of it's most beautiful souls.Dear Julia - lost her battle with leukemia.She was waiting for a bone marrow match - that never came.She was only 25.She may have had a better chance - if only she hadn't been an adoptee.You will be greatly missed Julia - but you will never be forgotten.Your words gave strength to many. Poss. xxxxx

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-7580017508980877042008-05-06T09:20:00.003+10:002008-05-06T09:35:26.506+10:00

I removed a whole heap of posts about my story - as I was paranoid.As a searching adoptee I want to put my story out there - but now I've found my family - I'm so scared that any of my words could break the fragile links that I have in place with family I long to know.I cling onto the hope that I will one day get to know the family that I was separated from soon after birth.And I'm so so scared

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-80998623614845524932008-03-26T23:09:00.003+11:002008-03-26T23:13:19.304+11:00

A 15 year old girl wants to give her child up for adoption - and is OK with the adoptive family sending her the occasional photo - and telling the adoptee they're adopted when they hit 18!!My response - What's best for this child - number 1 - is to be parented by you.If this can't be done - (I understand you are young - but parenting is not an impossibility) - then -What's best for this child -

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-16217320217152981402008-01-06T16:43:00.002+11:002008-07-29T23:31:03.926+10:00

Yes - I've been a little quiet. (sorry)Life has been busy - and I've had much too much to think about of late.BUT - I just had to let you all know.Just two days before Christmas - I received the best present I could ever wish for.A photo of my bio Mum and Dad.(Shot 8 years ago - taken out of a frame - scanned & emailed to me by my father - without my mother knowing!! Yes - I think he's pretty

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au38tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-76431586975467209952007-12-06T16:09:00.000+11:002007-12-06T16:21:48.497+11:00

In April this year - I wrote about Baby Evelyn Bennett and her mother Stephanie - called - Bring Baby Evelyn Bennett Home.Well - my dear adoptee blogging friend - Amy - has shared with me an update on the situation - and I'll share what she wrote here -Do you remember this case? It involved a seventeen year old girl, Stephanie Bennett. She was molested by a family friend. She got pregnant as a

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-46902250187095131682007-12-06T09:50:00.000+11:002007-12-06T10:01:15.323+11:00

Paragraphein, a first mum in an open adoption, has written a brilliant post about the real reasons behind the sealing of all adoptee records.After much research over the past few years - I've come to understand who sealed records really protect - but I could have never articulated the lunacy behind the laws as well as this.It's NEVER been about protecting the child's first mother. NEVER.Please go

Possumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01868324445518687576kalthofen@aapt.net.au0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35832705.post-49889518025130555312007-11-08T20:48:00.000+11:002007-11-08T20:57:53.245+11:00

Nicole, over at Paragraphein, has put together a wonderful slide-show of the faces of first mums.So often, society is too quick to label first mums - saying they are crack whores that can't possibly look after their children.Reality - so many are just never given the support they need to parent their child - and too often greedy adoption agencies and adoption lawyers are too quick to take away

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