Deaf Tea Time

Karma

2008-11-02T17:15:00.000-08:00

I am a firm believer of the laws of Karma. What goes around goes back to you. I learned the hard way as a young adult. A lot of things I did wrong came back to bite me on the butt. I paid the price and learned to respect the laws of Karma.

However, what does one do about someone who acts like a victim when s/he is not? S/he goes on and on about it as if s/he is a victim. S/he is like a sexual predator who says, "It is not my fault I am like this. Someone made me that way. It is their fault I am that way." A predator acting like a victim. This describes this person to a T.

So, how do we go about this? Pretend we didn't hear her/him? Rub it in her/his face? Talk to her/him about it? Exact a revenge upon her/him? Reject her/him? What? It'd be nice to hear from Candace McCullough from ACS to see what she has to offer on this. From my position, I could only offer the ideology of Karma. Think before you act. Think how you do will come back to you. Think about how you like to be treated and treat others accordingly.

The latter applies to the case in point. The insults thrown upon others freely could not be how the person wishes to be treated by others, correct? So, why does the person inflict insults and belittlement upon others? I can only assume he/she actually likes being insulted and belittled? It is actually hard to swallow, but really, could it be so?

Is it really because s/he truly believes s/he was made that way by other people? That s/he is truly a victim of her/his upbringing? A vicious cycle? Or is the physiology of the person responsible? In other words, is it in the genes? Or what??

All I know is, I learned from my life experience and modified my behavior. I only can assume some people are not capable of correcting their behavior. Some just keep repeating the same things over and over even after getting bit in the butt by the laws of Karma. Is it because s/he is too dense to realize it is Karma or ....just is incapable to see the reality of what is happening? Does s/he distort the truth to fit his own reality? In other words, s/he actually thinks s/he is a victim...that everyone else is mean and vicious to her/him for no reason, that s/he absolved self of any wrongdoing?

This goes for cyberbullying. It has been a problem on DR for a long while now. There have been some disciplinary actions taken by Tayler Mayer who banned certain individuals from DR and DVTV. Those cyberbullies were WARNED to stop or it would turn around to them one day. It's happened. It is called Karma. As I said, it is hard to swallow that they were victims.

Respect the laws of Karma. What you do to others will be undone upon you. It is simply a golden rule in the matters of life.

Historical Map Shows Us How Deafhood Latched Onto DBC

2008-07-13T15:09:00.000-07:00

An unexpected source showed me an obvious historical map that showed me how Deafhood was led to latch onto DBC for political gain. Now what can the deaf community do about it?

The unexpected source: DerSankt's guest UK vlogger: http://blog.benvess.com

To refer to MZ's Transparency: http://blog.deafread.com/mishkazena/2008/07/08/dbc-bilingualism-audism-and-deafhood

To refer to Intregrity at Aidan's site: http://deaffilmblog.blogspot.com/2008/07/patti-durr-dbc-nad-striving-toward.html

Sorry. It looks like my link button is corrupted. All I can do is type the URLs.

Why Is DBC All Bark But No Bite?

2008-07-10T18:24:00.001-07:00

A simple analysis will reveal why.

Update: I encourage you to view Dr Hocokan's vlogs! First time see his face - finally connect his name to a face! And I am impressed with his calm demeanor.

Sorry - wasn't able to upload the vlogs so all I can do is type out the link:
www.dbcfacts.com./ (the ./ is important - it takes you to the vlogs, not the text version).

DBC: Restrategize Counterattack On AGB

2008-07-04T14:23:00.000-07:00

Revisit the original mission of promoting ASL for Babies and Children and away from oralism.

DBC: A Parallel To Our American History

2008-07-04T13:41:00.000-07:00

In honor of our July 4th celebration, an offer of an anaology of a parallel in history of DBC to the American Revolutionary era.

Pssst! AGB Is Very Afraid!

2008-06-26T17:53:00.000-07:00

Powerful message behind AGB's request to close off the walkway between DBC's hotel and AGB's Marriott hotel.

A Septic Tank Misadventure

2008-06-22T22:03:00.000-07:00

A CODA indirectly assisted my mother in a rescue of a septic tank misadventure.

Communication Barrier Or Parenting Style?

2008-06-09T15:39:00.000-07:00

Jamie Burke's post about teenage CODAs and their communication barrier with their deaf parents prompted me to vlog about the differences between the topic and parenting style.

CI/ASL & Culturally Deaf "Divided" By Values, Not By Labels

2008-05-05T18:10:00.000-07:00

An attempt to distinguish between the two groups to justify DeafSide and to dismantle the misconception that there is a controversy on DeafRead because of DeafSide and/or CI posts/blogs.

DeafSide Due To A Divided DeafRead?

2008-04-27T22:45:00.000-07:00

An analogy using my students as an example to make a case in point the title above.

DeafSide: Thanks, Tayler

2008-04-27T11:15:00.000-07:00

Sending sincere thanks to Tayler Mayer for departing his ideology of what DeafRead should be and starting up an aggregator. We need our own space, and he felt us.

Thumbs UP

2008-04-20T22:00:00.001-07:00

"Sweet Nothing In My Ear" has my double thumbs UPs. Well made and very wise decision not to include into the movie "the winner." The message of the story is the family needs to stay together for the sake of the child. A parent shouldn't make a decision based on their own fears. Dan Grisham was grieving for the hearing baby he once had and Laura Grisham was scared of losing Adam once he is CIed and speaks. Both had their own agendas and the movie was not about Adam at all. It was about the journeys of the parents, their inner struggles, their selfishnesses, their dreams, trying to fool themselves into thinking they wanted the best for Adam but the reality was they wanted something for themselves.

This is the journey many hearing parents experience when they have a deaf child.

I was hoping Dan and Laura might unite and ASK Adam what he wanted but it did not turn out that way - they wisely left off when Laura and Dan made their confessions and agreed what was the best for themselves was each other, and was not necessarily about Adam.

As always, Phyllis Frelich and Ed Waterstreet brought quality to the movie. I think were Phyllis younger, she would have made a better Laura, but MM did an excellent job, nonetheless. Jeff Daniels was full of surprises...he did a decent job.

Deanne Bray was a surprise cameo! Always good to see her on screen.

MM Has It Right!

2008-04-20T13:11:00.001-07:00

CNN featured an article on tonight's airing of "Sweet Nothing In My Ear" with MM, Noah Valencia, and Jeff Daniels, a well known actor with a long list of blockbuster movies.

In this article, MM's character is 100% ASL - a challenge for MM who finally admits to being not an ASL user. She admits she speaks, lip-reads, and signs in English to deaf people. Pretty much the same roles she played in all of her movies - she spoke mostly and sometimes signed. These roles she played in her old movies were a walk in the park. Not much of a challenge for her.

In this one, her character is 100% ASL - a novelty for MM. She understands the concept that ASL has a very different system of syntaxes than what she is used to...thus a challenge for her since she does not sign in ASL - never has. She grew up in mainstreamed public school and was educated through interpreters. She socialized with general student population along with small group of deaf students in the Resources program. She grew up immersed in English.

Linda Bove, best known for her appearances on Sesame Street, was on site to instruct Daniels to learn ASL and to coach MM to keep her ASL-authentic. That included keeping her mouth motionless.

....to quote MM, "I have a very tough crowd watching me."

How very right she is! We all will be watching, MM!

TV Storywriters' Challenge

2008-03-30T22:29:00.000-07:00

Tonight's Cold Case TV show left me cold! I issued a challenge to the storywriters!

I want to add what I did not say in my vlog...the deaf actors did a GREAT job. I especially liked the part where Carlos communicated by his SK with the detectives. I was thrilled to see Bob Hillerman, Andy's dad - hadn't seen him in ages. I forgot the name of the traveling theatrical group he was in back in the '80s. Anybody remember??

A Visit With Firemen

2008-03-19T18:28:00.000-07:00

A breakdown in communication led to a visit with local men in blue!

Braille and ASL Analogous

2008-03-18T19:19:00.000-07:00

The parallel history of Braille and ASL and it's impact upon a commentor on Amy's blog offered a strong evidence of how attitudes of the parents of the blind and of the deaf are similar.

Sponsorship Donor?? What's UP With That??!!

2008-02-06T19:07:00.000-08:00

Guess who is on the sponsorship donor list with AGBell??

Bob's House: Was or Was Not??

2008-02-03T20:49:00.000-08:00

PepsiCo's Enable site on Bob's House had a small but key word that we all probably missed which may explain why most of us did not catch Bob's House commerical during the Super Bowl game.

Discord on DeafRead

2008-01-29T18:37:00.000-08:00

There has been a definite discord among readers, vloggers, and bloggers lately. Why?

Validity of Great Schools Website Scores

2008-01-20T23:05:00.000-08:00

Burke Outspoken posted on her blog information using the Great Schools website's standardized test scores to compare the performance levels of the schools for the deaf. Great Schools site is not a valid source to measure performance levels when comparing state to state - it is valid only for in-state comparsion because states vary in their benchmarks.

Two Chuckles Of The Day

2008-01-04T01:25:00.000-08:00

Two true stories in the life of a deaf man in the 1950s.

Lawsuit Against Deaf School Valid?

2007-12-26T00:12:00.000-08:00

Does the lawsuit against the school for the deaf have merit? The lawsuit itself is quite perplexing for single key reason: IEP.

Mischievous KODAs II

2007-11-18T17:08:00.000-08:00

A sequel to JohnABC's vlog on his mischievous KODAs.

Here is the picture of Wes with the black eye and buzz cut after I took him to the hair salon. The indentation around his neck was under his chin and is not visible from camera view. You can see the bald spot around his ear from the hair scissors.

Deaf Education: David VS Goliath

2007-11-08T20:28:00.001-08:00

Swedes were a David who managed to infiltrate a Goliath of a system for their deaf citizens. Although Americans are a little bigger in our David, our Goliath is even bigger; however, the American David still could win!

MSSD 7: Dangers of Dorm Environment

2007-10-13T10:37:00.000-07:00

To those who lived in residential school dorms, the MSSD 7 controversy is a familiar story. The familiar story being the downside of dorm living. How structure and environment of a dorm setting lend itself to this kind of occurrences. Read more about this where a mother posted on behalf of her son who was one of the MSSD 7.