My Paige

Don't You Marry The Mormon Boys

2008-08-08T19:00:00.000-07:00

Over the past couple of months as I've been resting a lot, trying to keep my breakfast down and this baby inside where it belongs, I've had some time to catch up on my reading. The stack of books on my night stand has now dwindled to a reasonable half dozen, and I've crossed several "must reads" off my list.
Unfortunately, a lot of the books I'd looked forward to for a while, were . . . less than appetizing when I finally got to them. I'm sure this had to do with my real appetite at the time and the constant nausea I was dealing with. My usual pickiness tends to intensify with pregnancy. However, there were a few books that captured my attention and held it, transporting me from my misery for the time I spent with them. To those authors, I say a heartfelt thank you. Your talents and hard work became, for me, just what the doctor ordered when I needed it most.

There are three such books I want to blog about, and I'll try to spend a little time doing that over the next couple of months. These blogs are not intended to be thorough reviews, but rather a recommendation to friends for books I feel are worth both your time and money. As you might have guessed, the first book I'd like to tell you about is Janet Kay Jensen's Don't You Marry The Mormon Boys.

It took me all of a half page to become engrossed in this delightful, interesting story about Dr. Andy McBride and his ex-girfriend of sorts, Dr. Louisa Martin. Some quick backstory---Andy and Louisa met while attending medical school at the University of Utah. Though each had strong feelings for the other, there were some pretty intense obstacles in their way---like the fact that Louisa is from a polygamist family, and Andy's father is an attorney who prosecutes polygamists (ouch- love it!). The reader learns this, and a lot of other interesting tidbits through both Andy and Louisa as they each reflect on the past as they live their current, very different, lives.

By choice, Andy has landed in a small community in rural Kentucky. The chapters entailing his life there---everything from his home with the wrap-around porch, to the characters (and they are characters!) he meets---were so vivid I found myself yearning to visit. I love that the author spends time building his life there. From the funny---being awoken from a lovely dream about Louisa to find himself being kissed by a horse---to the poignant---his association and friendships with the local band and one of its members he is ultimately unable to save---I enjoyed getting to know Andy and seeing the details of his life.

While Andy is in Kentucky, Louisa is back at home in Gabriel's Landing, the small polygamist community she was raised in. Though her mother has passed away, Louisa has two other "step-mothers" and a very loving father. It was with both the blessing and financing of the elders in the community that Louisa attended medical school, and now she has returned, hoping to improve health care for those she knows and loves. But it isn't long before she runs into trouble. Louisa's knowledge doesn't mesh with the old ways of doing things, and her attempts to improve life---especially for the women of Gabriel's Landing---soon get her into trouble. But Louisa isn't the only one in her family struggling with obedience. Her father's refusal to force her to wed brings additional problems and repercussions.

Without giving away the ending, I'll just say that early on, it is apparent Andy and Louisa both still have feelings for the other. But for much of the book it seems that any lasting relationship will be impossible (ah, the makings of a good romance :D).

Overall I thoroughly enjoyed the twists and turns these intertwined stories took. I appreciated the time the author must have spent researching modern day polygamy, and I felt I had a good look inside what must be reality for many of those sects still practicing today.

I also enjoyed all the intricate details and subplots woven into the story. That Andy has a service dog due to past problems with seizures, was intriguing, as were the folks he met in Kentucky and their stories. I thought the author did a great job showing us Andy's life as a small town doctor and Louisa's agonizing struggles back in Utah.

One of my favorite characters in this book was, surprisingly, Louisa's father (and equally surprising, I really didn't care for Andy's dad). The author made him human, and his choice--to live the life he'd been raised in and committed to for so long or to do what he knew was really best for his daughter--was deeply moving. Though the story clearly showed many of the evils of modern day polygamy, it also showed at least some of its followers as kind, loving, and concerned parents.

As I read Don't You Marry the Mormon Boys
I discovered the author and I have something in common. We both enjoy writing long, complicated stories. When it comes to reading a good book, I've always thought, "the longer the better," but I actually felt a little differently this time. SO much happens at the end of this book, that I was left feeling a little dizzy (okay, so maybe that was the pregnancy thing), and I would have much preferred the author saved the events at the ending for a sequel---which I would have eagerly bought. As it is, the ending is surprising, to say the least, and I felt a bit too much happened. And yes, this is definitely the pot calling the kettle black here :D I've been criticized for doing the exact same thing with my own stories, but I didn't get it before now. Thanks Ms. Jensen for the lesson---and for the fine read.

Andy and Louisa are characters that will stay with me for a long time. And I have hope that maybe I'll see them in another book someday soon.

A Tale of Two Junes

2008-07-01T11:00:00.000-07:00

Over the last two blogless months, I've spent my time becoming intimately acquainted with the new floor my husband recently installed in our bathroom. Along with the floor, I've developed a love/hate relationship with the porcelain fixture that sits atop it. I love that it's there to receive what my stomach decides to regurgitate; I hate that I haven't dare strayed too far from it the past several weeks.

Our new floor is a nice, wide plank laminate that looks great next to the newly-installed beadboard and brushed nickel fixtures on the wall. However, I've found myself missing the twelve-years-old carpeting that previously covered the floor. Many times over the years we've lived in our home I have asked myself why on earth I chose carpeting for our master bath. The answer came to me this past month as I lay on our new floor---I was pregnant when we were building and moving into this house. Some part of my subconscious must have recognized that carpet would be much nicer to lay on when curled up in a ball of nauseated misery.

Fortunately our new bath mat from IKEA is a soft place to rest one's head while contemplating whether it is worth it to get off the floor and attempt to do something (anything---start a load of desperately-needed laundry for my neglected family, fix a meal for my surviving-on-mac-n-cheese kids---oooh food. Bad thought. Nevermind. I'm not going anywhere). I've also had plenty of time to contemplate the past year or so of my life, and particularly what I was doing exactly one year ago.

Last June I was getting my feet wet with booksignings and just beginning to get the sense that people liked Counting Stars. The (great) experience was tempered somewhat by the unexpected, early-second trimester miscarriage I'd had in May, and while I was thrilled to finally be published, I was still pretty sad. For a long time both my husband and I had felt like one more child was meant to come to our home, and the loss went very deep.

Flash forward one year. I'd thought (planned, hoped, believed) that once published I would---like my brilliant friends Annette Lyon and Heather Moore---have a book come out with Covenant each year. The manuscript I turned in last November had some problems initially, but I felt confident I'd worked those out some time ago, and though I knew I'd missed getting a June release again, I still had a vague hope for later this year. But, things don't always work out the way I think they should (a pattern repeated often throughout my life---I should get it by now :D). And here it is June, and still I wait to see if Beneath A Canopy of Stars will even be accepted. I'd be lying if I said this isn't discouraging, depressing, and downright frustrating. But I'd also be lying if I said it was hugely important right now.

Something much more important has happened---a late in life miracle, if you will---and it looks like we are going to be blessed with that one more child in our family after all. Considering the medical trials and prognosis I've had over the past year, this really is a miracle. And so I'll happily trade booksignings last June for lying on the bathroom floor this June. There's a time and season for everything, and if I've learned one thing throughout my life it is that you can have it all---but not necessarily at the same time.

And maybe, just maybe if I work hard and am very fortunate, June of 2009 will see me juggling feeding our baby between visiting bookstores again.

Back in Seattle Again

2008-05-07T09:45:00.000-07:00

Nine years ago this past April, my husband and I took our first trip to Seattle. A couple of important things happened on that trip with regards to my writing. The first was that I discovered my "hobby" could actually develop into something serious if I had the time to devote to it. This is how that discovery came about.

Dixon: I'm off to my conference now, dear. See you later. I'll come back for lunch if I can.

Me: (giving him lingering kiss by the door of our suite in downtown Seattle) I'll miss you.

Door closes; Dixon leaves. Without bothering to get out of my pajamas, I settle in front of my laptop, excited to write the scene that's been bouncing around in my head for so long.

Some time later . . .

Dixon: (entering room) Hi.

Me: (not bothering to look up from laptop) Hi.

Dixon: I, uh, thought we were going on a dinner cruise tonight.

Me: (still typing and still not looking up) Mm-hm. I can't wait.

Dixon: You don't have to. We're supposed to leave in a few minutes.

Me: (head snapping up) What?!

Dixon: (observing my disheveled hair and pajamas) So what have you done today? I take it you didn't go shopping or anything.

Me: (Scrambling to plug in my curling iron, get into my little black dress, and put on mascara all at the same time) No. I've been in Scotland in the 12th century all day. You see there's really evil Englishman, and he set this castle on fire and murdered this Scottish Laird's wife. So the Scottish guy had to get even, so he went down to England and set the English guy's castle on fire, but he didn't kill his wife, even though he could have. But the fire and trauma made her baby come early, and the little girl died. So now she wants revenge, so she goes to Scotland. Except she ends up falling in love with the guy who caused her all the grief, but she doesn't realize who he is until it's too late and---

Dixon: (looking at me with glazed eyes) I'm not so sure this climate is good for you.

Me: It's great! I wrote eight thousand words today.

And so our trip went. While the other wives who'd accompanied their husbands to the conference were out and about shopping, sight seeing, and sitting by the pool, I was content to sit in our suite (which had a most inspiring view of the Space Needle) and write all day. Something had clicked inside, and I was finally in my element. I was amazed and overjoyed to discover I could write for eight hours at a time, and it seemed as if about eight minutes had passed. For the first time, I felt like a real writer.

At night Dixon and I explored Seattle, and I fell in love with it. For a lot of reasons it deserves its claim as one of the most romantic cities. Then, during one of Dixon's free days, we rented a car and took a ferry ride out to the island of Bainbridge. During our drive around this enchanting, charming island, we passed a house with gorgeous landscaping, a white picket fence--the works. Sometime between seeing that house and the ferry ride back to Seattle, an idea formed in my mind, and by the time we drove our car off the ferry, I'd met Jane, Caroline, Jay, Peter, Mark and Madison from the story that would become Counting Stars. I could hardly wait to get back to our hotel and start writing it---except that I was in the middle of another story, and I knew I needed to finish it first.

Turns out it took me a very long time to finish my Scottish historical and get it to pass muster with the critique group I joined the following year. My "Seattle Story," as I thought of it, had to percolate for quite some time. So when I finally sat down to write it, I was relying on memories several years old. Fortunately I had some Seattle connections, and was able to fill in the blanks as needed. It was a magical thing when Counting Stars was published last year.

A couple of weeks ago, Dixon and I had the opportunity to return to Seattle. I was excited to go and revisit the places I'd written about, but I was also nervous they'd be different than I'd remembered them, and somehow the magic would change. I needn't have worried.

Shortly after arriving in the city, an eery sense of deja vu descended on me, starting when a Northwest Airlift helicopter flew overhead---heading toward Swedish Medical Center. Later, as we were riding the ferry, I watched as a young man with a ponytail braved the rain to stand out on the deck alone. When we were walking down mainstreet in Bainbridge, a brown haired young woman, who happened to be driving a Jeep, stopped to let us cross the street. I felt like raising my hand and calling, "Hi, Jane."

The orange rolls in the bakery were delicious, the island even more beautiful than I remembered. And my only disappointment was not being able to find the house we'd seen on our first visit. But I did see another---a larger home, still with white picket fence and gorgeous landscaping, and a large wooden play structure in back. It wasn't hard to imagine Jane, being the motivated character she was, disassembling the swingset at their rental and moving it to the cottage on Bainbridge. It was also easy to imagine that she and Peter would have added onto that cottage by now, as there are some changes coming in their family. Changes I hope to incorporate in the two stories I still hope to write about Caroline and Tara.

Visiting Seattle again was a wonderful treat, as time alone with my husband always is. It was also just the thing to get the imagination going, the ideas flowing. And with that . . . back to writing.

Season of Sacrifice--a labor of love

2008-04-22T14:00:00.000-07:00

I am a picky reader. Like the writer's depression I blogged about last time, being picky with my reading material is an unfortunate byproduct of writing. And the more I write and learn about good writing, the pickier I get with what I read. No longer can I simply read for enjoyment; instead I find myself analyzing the characters' actions, the dialogue, the motivation and conflict. It's really annoying---most of all to myself, because I really love to read. And there are a lot of good stories out there that are less than perfect--mine included.

While I still read a great deal, a book has to speak to me, touch me in some way if I'm going to recommend it to others. Today I'm happy to say that I have a great recommendation, a book I think should be read by every Latter-day Saint and those outside our faith as well.

Tristi Pinkston's Season of Sacrifice is a fictionalized account of her ancestors, Ben, Mary Anne, and Sarah Perkins, who immigrated from Wales, became faithful members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, pioneered their way through Hole in the Rock to settle the San Juan Valley, and finally entered into a polygamous marriage.

I admit to being presdisposed to liking this book. I'd heard its history--how one of the big LDS publishing houses rejected it because, though it was a well-written and compelling story, it dealt with the issue of polygamy. Rather than getting it published, the author refused to take out the storyline dealing with this sensitive and often taboo subject and has waited some time before being able to self-publish this story. Hats off to Tristi for hanging in there, and for sticking with what really happened to her ancestors. Their story is both heart-wrenching and eye-opening, and since reading it, I cannot stop thinking about Ben, Mary Anne, and Sarah who really lived and endured so very much.
Now onto the story . . . SPOILERS AHEAD!

The book begins in 1859 in Treboeth Wales with fifteen-year-old Ben Perkins and his father assisting in the rescue and removal of bodies from a coal mine collapse. It doesn't take long to see the harsh realities of life in this time period and coal mining town. Children as young as six are sent to work in the mines; accidents are common; health is poor. Those fortunate enough to avoid working in the mines, like Sarah Williams, work hard at home, helping run the household from sunup to sundown.

Throughout the first section of the book--sixty-eight pages--one trial after another befalls the Williams and Perkins families. Ben immigrates to America, leaving his sweetheart Mary Anne behind with a promise he'll send for her when he's saved enough money. To do that, he takes a job on the trail, driving a team of oxen. There's just one problem with this---Ben has never worked with oxen before. What was probably a very trying experience is a rather humorous part of the book.
The first day goes all right though,
Ben looked at the animals, and they looked at him. Neither were impressed. The second day things get ugly when Ben mistakenly hitches the wrong oxen to his wagon.

"Where's my ox? Somebody stole my ox!"
Several of the other teamsters ran over, looking around them. Ben came too, wondering who could be so thoughtless as to steal that poor man's animal.
"There it is!" one of the men yelled, pointing to Ben's wagon.
"Ben! Why did you take my ox?" The teamster, a man named Clint, yelled in his face.
"They look the same," Ben said. He didn't know that ox wasn't his. An ox was an ox, right? They were all big and ugly.

Unfortunately for Ben, the trip didn't get any easier, but he did save enough money for the rest of his family, along with Mary Anne, to make the journey to America. Mary Anne joins him, they are married and have two children, one of whom dies shortly after birth. A short while later Mary Anne is asked to take in a baby whose mother has died. Though at first she does not think she can care for the child, she finds her heart is not as closed as she believed, and she comes to love the little girl as her own.

With Mary Anne gone, much of the work in the Williams' home falls to her sister (younger by nine years), Sarah. Their father takes a mining job in Russia and ends up being gone three years--much longer than he or his family anticipated. In his absence, Sarah's older brother Thomas runs away to Australia, her mother has another baby, and they are forced to sell their home and move to a smaller one to make ends meet. Throughout all of this Sarah is seen as a patient, long-suffering and introspective young woman.

Upon her father's return, the family decides to immigrate to America both to improve her father's health and to be near her sister, Mary Anne, living in Cedar City, Utah.
Sarah faces the difficult decision of staying behind and marrying the young man who is courting her or leaving with her family.

Sarah stood for a moment on the steps of the Methodist Church and pulled a scarf over her head. The eastern breezes had brought fog from the ocean, and it hung thick and ghost-like over the town, wrapping itself around the tall steeples of the church. She loved days like that--days when the sun would peek through the clouds only occasionally, giving hints about what might be to come but not letting on too much.

As she ponders her choices and the subject of religion (unlike her parents, she has not been baptized) she eventually decides she must go with her family, leaving her homeland and her beau behind forever.

At this point in the story I felt like I had to catch my breath as so much had happened so quickly. And this is my complaint about this book (told you I was picky). Many huge, significant events are given only a paragraph or two while the author pushes ahead to the main story--what happened in Utah. Tristi is a talented writer (see the above excerpt), and I would loved to have seen more time and pages devoted to some of the events in these people's lives. However, having said that, and having read the entire book, I do understand what an incredible story she had to tell and I can only imagine the enormous task it must have been to tie it all together. The book does slow down for the telling of the journey to the San Juan valley, and it slows down even more during the last section titled, "The Sacrifice." And presenting it this way does make sense in that all the things these people went through---poverty, sickness, death, being separated from each other by an ocean, pioneering a trail through the desert in the middle of winter---pale in comparison to what they were ultimately asked to do.

The third section of the book is devoted to the perilous journey Ben, Mary Anne, their children, and several other saints (including Sarah) take from Cedar City to settle the San Juan valley. What was supposed to be a six week journey turns into six months as the group blazes their own trail, including the famous hole in the rock. The author's research for this section is meticulous, and I really learned a lot about the painfully slow and dangerous process of this expedition. My favorite part was the story (documented in the chapter notes at the end of the book) about another family on the journey, Stanford and Arabella Smith, who had to bring their wagon down the hole alone because no one remained behind to help them. Stanford later retells the traumatic experience to Ben and Mary Anne.

"I told her I feared we couldn't make it. She was calm as she could be. 'We have to make it,' she said.
"I told her if we had someone to hold the wagon back, we might succeed."
Stanford paused and rubbed his face. He resumed talking, his voice thick with tears.
"Belle said she would hold the wagon back. She told me she'd pull back on Nig's lines and that we'd leave the children at the top and come back for them. I worried we wouldn't come back, but she said we would. We wrapped the children up in blankets and set them on a snow bank. Roy, he's our three-year-old, sat down, and Belle put the baby between his legs. She told him to hold his little brother until we came back for them. She put Ada, our oldest, in front of the two boys and asked her to say a little prayer, and told them not to move and not to stand up." Tears ran freely down Stanford's cheeks.

The rest of the passage is too long to recount here (go buy the book!) but reading it brought tears to my eyes. I cannot imagine the faith these people had. And I wasn't even to the really gripping, emotionally-wrenching part of the story yet.

The last section of the book deals with the polygamous marriage of Ben, Mary Anne, and Sarah. This was difficult for me to read, and I can only imagine how terribly hard it must have been to write. I love and adore my husband and feel the same emotions from him, and I cannot imagine much worse than having to share that with someone else. One of the great blessings of living the gospel is our belief in the law of chastity. Latter-Day Saints (Mormons) have very strict beliefs when it comes to sexual intimacy. It is reserved for marriage and marriage only. How grateful I've been over the twenty years of my marriage, that both my husband and I followed this counsel in our youth. The intimacies between us are between us only; they are a sacred, loving, and binding part of our marriage. I truly feel sorry for those living the world's standards who do not have this blessing. And along these lines, I've always struggled with our church's polygamous past, knowing it is something I could not do. We are asked to love the Lord more than anything else, and to be honest I struggle with this when it comes to my husband and children. I am grateful the sacrifices I've been called upon to make have come in the form of sharing time and talents. My husband serves as a bishop, and there have been times I've hated to share him with that calling, times I selfishly wanted him home with our family. I don't doubt that is something I will continue to struggle with while he has this calling, though I try my best to be supportive. I know his love and service has blessed many people, and yet I yearn for the days when we were younger, life was simpler, and he was home by five!

As I read about Ben, Mary Anne, and Sarah, I could not help but make comparisons, and of course my little sacrifice paled in light of what they had to do. I have no doubt Tristi was inspired to write this part of the story. Her telling of it left me with much to think about and a deeper understanding and appreciation for what a polygamous marriage entailed. Every Latter-Day Saint should read this story, if for no other reason than to answer the questions often posed by those not of our faith. Should someone ask me about our polygamous history now, I would feel I had some appropriate and accurate answers. And while it is something I will never completely understand (one of those things I trust Heavenly Father will clarify and explain some day) I feel a greater peace with our past.

Ben first proposes the idea of a polygamous marriage to Sarah, telling her his patriarchal blessing (given years earlier) told him he would someday take a second wife. This has always troubled both he and Mary Anne, as they love each other deeply and are happy together. Aside from knowing this will hurt the woman he loves the most, Ben is also concerned with the practicality of such an arrangement.

He couldn't say the principle made sense to him. He couldn't even imagine how he was to go about supporting two wives--he barely had enough to care for one.

Mary Anne reacts much as I imagine I would, she is crushed, her heart broken, the trust between them shattered. That Ben would marry her own sister makes things that much worse.

"Nothing has happened, Mary Ann. He asked me a question, that is all."
"That's all?" Mary Ann rose and crossed the floor, her face in Sarah's. "He asked you to share with him a life that he has only shared with me. He is taking away a portion of himself and giving it to you. My children will do without a father for a period of time so he can spend it wooing you. And you think that's all?"
"That's not what I meant," Sarah said softly. "I meant that his actions toward me, and mine toward him, have been above reproach."
"I don't doubt that," Mary Ann retorted. "I know my husband well enough to know that he wouldn't say or do anything inappropriate. But the fact remains that while he's been married to me, he's been thinking about you."

Ouch. And well said. Mary Ann's hurt became my own as I read these passages. I felt her relief when her sister refused and returned to Cedar City. And I absolutely loved the comparison Mary Ann (and the author) drew with Abraham's sacrifice.

She badly wanted the Lord to tell him (Ben) he had done enough, that no more would be required. Hadn't Abraham been released from his heart-wrenching commandment? But even as she had the thought, she knew it was not possible in her own life. God had made a command, and Ben would strive to fulfill it at all costs. It was part of why she loved him. She never dreamed it would be part of why she hated him.

I tried to understand why both Ben and Sarah spent the following year grappling with the decision. I wanted Sarah to get on a boat back to Wales and marry the man she'd left behind. But she understood that to do so would have been to leave her faith, and the opportunity to raise children in the gospel, behind. Ultimately she chose her faith over everything else and became Ben's second wife---a marriage very different from her sister's I might add. I felt her hurt too, imagining how it would be on your wedding day, if, shortly after the wedding, your husband left to spend the night with and comfort his other wife. There wasn't any romance here that I could see, but rather a resignation to the harsh reality that there weren't enough men for every woman to have her own husband and to raise up a righteous family. And so incredible sacrifices were made.

Sarah's decision divided her family---her parents were hurt and hateful, accusing her of setting her cap for her sister's husband. Mary Ann was so wounded she too acted out of character, striking her sister and at first refusing to speak with her. I felt Sarah's hurt when she pled with Ben.

"Promise me," she said, her eyes filling with tears. "Promise me that the Lord will make it right."
"He will make it right," Ben echoed. "He always does . . . in his own due time."

For me right is one husband and one wife. And I still have hope a loving Heavenly Father will arrange that for these people in the life to come. But for the time they spent on earth, they had to learn to live with their situation. Eventually, unbelievably, harmony came to the home they shared. Feelings were mended. Love overcame the wounds. Personally, this is still something I don't think I could ever recover from. But in thinking about my life, there are things that have happened in our own family that, even now, I am not sure how the Lord managed to heal, and yet he has.

The fact remains that the early saints sacrificed much and brought forth a strong, righteous prosperity. I am grateful Tristi took the time to research and write one family's story in such a profound and moving way. It is a story that has forever altered the way I will think about some things, and it has given me cause to look into the stories of my own ancestors and learn from the experiences and sacrifices in their lives.

Michele's Three Step Guide For Beating Writer's Depression---or Lessons Learned From Green Gables

2008-04-07T06:20:00.000-07:00

Last week on the LDS Storymaker list, a very talented author asked others how they deal with the depression writers encounter---those times we feel everything we've ever written is garbage and we'd be better off flipping burgers at the local fast food joint. The slew of responses from many other talented authors showed clearly that a nerve had been hit. Self-doubt, depression, and times of downright misery are all part of the writing package. I've experienced them myself, and was in fact in the very throes of one last week while this email thread was going round. Instead of responding on the list I decided to blog about it---so those not yet published will know what they're in for and know they aren't alone!

Before I share my tried and true method for rising out of the writer's depression mire, I want to explain that I know and understand real depression. My two oldest children have dealt with this (and consequently, so has our whole family) for several years. Clinical depression is a very real thing, and sometimes both medical and psychological help are needed to deal with this condition. And it is a very real condition. As I've explained to my children in the past, just as diabetics need to take insulin to keep their blood sugar levels in balance, some people need to take medication to keep their chemical levels in balance.

Fortunately, beating writer's depression requires no medication---not even large doses of chocolate! Though many will disagree with me on this :D

Step 1. Be Sad

Last week I received an email from my publisher explaining they still weren't happy with my latest manuscript and wanted an additional rewrite, 80 pages cut etc. I was sad---really sad. And, as Anne Shirley (Green Gables, anyone?), I descended into the "depths of despair" in about two minutes. Writers, as a whole, are a pretty emotional lot, and I'm probably one of the worst. This is a real plus when you're writing an emotionally packed scene; it's a real negative when you're dealing with rejection. As I reread this latest rejection, I sat at my computer and bawled---thinking positive, reaffirming things like, "I'm never going to get this book published. That's it, I'm never writing again. I just wasted a year of my life for what?!" and, "it's probably for the best. Now I can catch up on the ironing."

In short, I was wallowing big time.

Some of my writer friends (Jeff) tell me I'm a pessimist, but really the opposite is true. I've experienced some pretty rough times in my life (and getting a rejection doesn't even make the list), and with every trial I manage to bounce back fairly quick. But first I wallow. And when I'm there---as my husband has learned---let me be. The first step to feeling better is to feel bad. The Lord gave us tear ducts for a reason---use them.

Step 2. Get Mad

I can only cry for so long---an hour tops, usually, and then anger kicks in. My thoughts now turn to . . . "Do they not realize I put blood, sweat, and tears into that manuscript?!" While I'm sure Anne found it immensely satisfying to tell off Rachel Lynde and crack that slate over Gilbert Blythe's head, I am a bit more practical in my anger. During my mad stage, I'll often crank up the stereo and run on the treadmill, or scrub the top layer off our floors or attack some poor, unsuspecting bush in the yard. This time, I was fortunate in that I had a project I'd been putting off for some time. Our bathroom wallpaper needed to be removed and the walls painted. Scraping off wallpaper and scrubbing the walls clean proved a very effective release for my anger. Rolling on the fresh coat of paint while I thought through things (more logically now) soothed the last of my irrational state away, and a few hours later I had a sparkling new bathroom to show for it. Later that night as I brushed my teeth and admired our freshly-painted walls, I couldn't help but feel a little better, as at least I'd accomplished something that day.

Step 3. Get to work

When I say work, I don't mean cleaning or painting (those things become luxuries when you're a writer), I'm talking about writing. If the project is at all salvageable, then get back to it and pour what blood, sweat and tears you have left into the thing. If it isn't---if you've literally been rejected by every agent on the planet---then maybe it's time to shelve it for a while and come back later when you can look at it more objectively. But until then, you've still got to work if you want to feel better. Since the time I last submitted something to my publisher (six weeks ago), I've worked on three different projects and finally settled into one. And while I really hope I can work something out on the manuscript giving me grief right now, if I can't, I'm ready to forge ahead with the next project. Write something that makes you laugh. Or start something completely new. Put pen to paper and begin writing one of the stories that's been nagging in the back of your mind for a while. You might be pleasantly surprised (as I was recently) at how quickly the idea blossoms when you start to write it.

Writers should never put all their eggs in one basket---or all their hopes into one manuscript. To do so is to really set yourself up for a fall. If you're a writer, you have plenty of stories in you. Now is the time to get working and get another one going (if you haven't already). Kind of like the game Parchesi, you need to get another man out and start moving him around the board.

Perhaps one of the reasons I love the Anne of Green Gables series so much, is that we see this same pattern in her life. She wallows. She gets good and angry. She gets back to work. After dealing with Gilbert's blow about, "high falluting mumbo-jumbo," and enduring the baking powder fiasco, Anne does not despair forever her dreams of writing. During a particularly lonely time, she gets back to work again and finally finds success.

Get back to work, and you will too.

What I meant to say

2008-03-25T08:50:00.000-07:00

My wonderful, supportive husband---this guy is the reason I write romance.

The ladies of the LDS Women's Book Review Podcast---Sheila,Hillary, and Shanda.

James Dashner and Brandon Sanderson. I know famous people :)

My most awesome editor for Counting Stars, Angela Eschler.

Josi Kilpack, winner of the Whitney for best suspense. Sheep's Clothing was terrifyingly real---especially for those of us with teens.

Annette and Heather, my critique buds. These ladies should have had their names on my trophy as well. They, along with the rest of our group, taught me everything I know about writing.

WARNING: This is going to be a long post (even for me, which is saying a lot). If you are a writer and haven't met your word count today, get outta here and come back later. If you're a SAHM whose children need food or a diaper change, please attend to their needs first. If you're at work . . . just make sure your boss is out of the office!

This past weekend I had the opportunity to attend the 5th annual LDS Storymakers conference. It was fantastic, and later I'll have to write a separate blog about the two days packed with great workshops and speakers.

The weekend culminated Saturday evening with the Whitney Awards Gala. As I mentioned a couple of blogs ago, I'd been nominated for two Whitneys, and I was looking forward to a great evening with my husband and a bunch of famous people. I didn't have any expectation of winning---as I was up against ladies like Rachel Nunes and Stephanie Meyers in the romance category and Jessica Day George (I predicted that one right) in the new author category. But in a way that took a lot of pressure off the night for me. I didn't worry about, "what if's," but I did want to look nice. And in that quest, I did two things---purchased new nylons (no wrapping my toes around holes tonight!), and set my hair in painful curlers and got little sleep the night before. I'd hoped for sexy legs and a classy updo.

Unfortunately, I had failure on both accounts.

Shortly before the Whitney dinner (and I mean shortly, cause people kept talking to me in the hall---which was way cool. An author can never hear too many times that someone loved her story) I went up to our hotel room and joined my husband who had biked up from Provo for the evening. I changed into my dress and opened the brand new nylons. I'd purchased the "long" variety because that was all I'd been able to find at the store during my fifteen- minutes-between-carpool-stop on Thursday. Though I'm nowhere near 5'8" as the chart on the back said I should be, I was hopeful that the nylons would work out all right anyway. They didn't. But instead of being too long, they were horribly short---the label confirmed they were mispackaged, as I'd guessed when they only came up to my knees.

My husband sat on the bed and held the top of the nylons. I walked backward across the room, pulling on the feet, attempting to stretch the things into submission. I put them back on and a minute later was waddling. Clearly this was not going to work out. Frustrated---and with about a minute before we were supposed to head downstairs---I ripped the nylons off, threw them on the floor and had a very two-year-oldish tantrum. Of all the nights! I was a little depressed as I looked down at my glaringly white legs (it's March---they haven't seen the sun in months). In addition to the white leg problem, I was also now without the benefit of the super control top---hopefully-hide-the-given-birth-four-times-abs-of-flab-problem---the pantyhose would have provided.

First lessons of the night: Holey nylons are better than no nylons, and open the package at the store.

I suppose baring my white legs and having to suck in my stomach all night wouldn't have been too bad, but my problems only began there. My hair wasn't cooperating either. Earlier I had pinned it up on top of my head---as Julie and Josi had theirs so stylishly done---but by ten a.m. I'd given up, taken it down and taken some Advil. Unfortunately, I get headaches easily, and it was a case of comfort over beauty. But that comfort left me with a head of messy curls that looked nothing like Jewel's smoothly styled ones. But again, I had no time to do anything about either problem, so away we went.

Lesson two: Go with what God gives you. I have straight hair, and you can bet I'll wear it that way (as my smart friend, Annette did) next year.

On our way downstairs I noticed my husband had a cut on his chin from shaving. His knee was also hurting; he'd done something to it on the bike ride up. So we limped along together (after two days in high heels, my feet were killing me), and I had the reaffirming feeling that we were made for each other.

It was a, "this is why I write fiction" moment. Things never quite turn out as I imagine them . . . Her hair trailed down in a riot of gorgeous curls as the tall, dark, handsome man beside her swept her up in his arms, kissing her passionately as the elevator descended . . .

Reality was we both made it to our table without tripping.

We soon forgot our woes and enjoyed our awesome tablemates---my good friend, Heather Moore and her husband, Rob Wells and his wife, and Dean Hughes and his wife. Fame all around me. It was very cool. Other famous people I was dying to meet, like Shannon Hale and Jessica Day George, flitted around the room. The yummy dinner was served, and I forgot all about my messy hair and white legs. My legs were, in fact, hidden by the long tablecloth, so I decided it wouldn't hurt if I took my shoes off too. Again, I'll always choose comfort over beauty---or in this case, basic etiquette.

At some point early in the program we stood and applauded, and I was careful to keep my bare feet under the table. As we sat down again, I had the thought that I should put my shoes back on. Of course I ignored this.

It was time for the winner to be announced in the romance category. I sighed to myself, feeling a little bummed that Stephanie Meyers wasn't in attendance. I wondered who would be accepting the award for her.

And then Annette called my name.

My husband smiled this awesome smile at me, and I realized I had to go up there and say something, and I didn't even know where my shoes were. Somehow I managed to find them under the table and get up to the podium.

Lesson 3: When at a formal dinner, always keep your footwear on, or at least where you can locate it without having to stick your head under the table. And when you hear those little promptings---LISTEN!

As I walked up front, I remember thinking that it was the coolest thing in the world that it was Annette who called my name. More than anyone else, this woman is the one responsible for me being there in the first place. She was the first one to read (I mean really read my writing---and it came back looking like she'd sliced open a major artery while doing so), and it was she who invited me join a critique group with other amazing writers, LuAnn and Stephanie. From there our group grew to include Jeff, Heather, Lynda, and James, and it just kept getting better.

I knew I wanted to thank these people, but the first thoughts that came to my mind were how many times I'd entered (at a mere $50.00 a shot) the national RWA Golden Heart Contest and never even been a finalist. How was it possible then, that I was a winner in a contest I didn't even enter, didn't have to pay for---and was in fact receiving money from? I'm never going to fulfill that Golden Heart dream now---published authors are not eligible---but the dream I was suddenly living was so much better. That's what I wanted to express and am afraid I failed to do so. This is what I meant to say.

I wish I hadn't waited so long to try, and dug my heels in against so much, the LDS fiction market. For years I never imagined this path, but since deciding to give it a try, I've had one great experience after another.

I should have known it would be this way. Annette, LuAnn, Heather, Stephanie, Lynda, Jeff, and James are all such great people. And dang smart too. I should have listened to them much earlier. I think I tried thanking them Saturday night, but I'm sure I didn't express enough how grateful I am for the way they so generously share their talents and time. When I started with our group, I didn't even know how to use quote marks correctly. I had imagination, but it ended there. How blessed I am that they didn't vote me out of the group that first month. If not for these wonderful people, I'd have never been published, let alone received an award for my writing.

Even after all of their guidance and my best efforts, my writing still needed something more. Enter Angela Eschler, my talented and oh-so-patient editor. I completely forgot to thank her, and all those others at Covenant who helped in so many ways. Forgive me, please! I've never had such a difficult time forming coherent thought as I did during those few minutes Saturday night.

But here's the thing about Angela. A great editor is much like a coach in being able to see what a project needs and knowing how to get that out of the author. If not for Angela, two of the scenes I get the most emails about would not be in the book. Originally, the scene where Caroline is breastfeeding her baby was cut. I begged for it to stay, and Angela went to bat for me, taking a risk with something a little outside the normal boundaries Covenant publishes. Another scene---Mark's tragic surgery---didn't even exist when I turned in Counting Stars. Angela knew something was missing and encouraged me to write more about this heartbreaking section of the book. I did and turned in a funeral scene. She sent it back and in her very non-demanding way, told me it wasn't quite there. I tried again---spent a good long time sitting at my computer, exploring Jane's feelings, dredging up some of my own sorrows, and crying as I wrote the chapter that ended up in the book. Aside from being a marvelous coach, Angela and the Covenant team were also very thorough. It really irritates me when I hear someone say that LDS books are not well edited. I cannot imagine any better editing than was done for my book. Everything was double and triple checked, and so many people, from the artists to the copyeditors, worked to make it the best it could be. A huge thanks to all of you---especially Angela.

Fourth lesson of the night: Even if you don't think you have a prayer of winning, think about what you'd say and who you'd like to thank if you did. Messy hair and white legs don't matter in the long run, but forgetting to thank important people does.

Finally I attempted to thank the wonderful man sitting a few feet in front of me. My husband Dixon is absolutely the best husband a woman---and writer---could ever imagine. He is the reason I write romance, the reason that after twenty years of marriage I still know what it's like to be madly and passionately in love.

Dixon has sacrificed an awful lot for me to pursue my writing dreams---and I'm not just talking about all that money we've dropped in pursuit of a Golden Heart. I'm talking about his time. Eight years of critique group at approximately thirty-five weeks per year, times four hours each of those weeks equals an astounding one thousand one hundred twenty hours that he's been running things at home so I could work on my writing. In addition to that, there are those Saturdays (several a year) when he sends me to the library for six hours at a time, while he stays at home, does laundry, helps with homework, and everything else that needs to be done. When I left early Friday morning to attend the conference, I left Dixon with a list including, getting our two teens out the door to seminary, packing four lunches, reviewing spelling words with our youngest, curling two daughters' hair and making sure they looked good for school pictures, driving six children to elementary school (and picking them up later), grocery shopping, preparing dinner, taking the teens to and from work, and helping with homework. Of course he did all that (and much more) without complaint. He is so awesome.

As I returned to my seat Saturday night, I remembered a florist's card I'd carried in my purse for several years now. It originally came with a dozen roses that Dixon bought me, following a particularly painful rejection from a national agent (she'd requested my entire manuscript, only to then reject it---triple ouch!). The card reads, "Michele, Don't give up!! It will happen. I know you can do it. Dix" He believed in me when I couldn't anymore, and I'm so grateful for that and for his unconditional love. Heaven knows I am not the perfect wife. But he always treats me like I am.

The day last spring when we picked up my box of books from Covenant was very much like crossing the finish line in the marathons he runs. Saturday night, he cheered for me, just as I cheered for him when he finished his first triathalon last year. It's the best thing in the world when we see the payoff for all the hard work we've put in. And no one else knows better than we do, how hard each of us work at our individual goals. Dixon isn't through yet---he's got Ironman dreams. I've got dreams too, and he knows them. How blessed I feel to be able to work toward them with such a great companion at my side.

And how blessed I feel to be surrounded by such great people and in such a wonderful place. Publishing in the LDS market has been the best experience. I'm excited and grateful to be where I am, and I can't wait to see what the coming years bring. There are so many talented people involved on all sides, that I think we're truly heading toward those days when we will see, "Miltons and Shakespeares of our own," as Orson F. Whitney predicted.

Finally, I meant to thank Rob, Stephanie, Kerry, James, Crystal, B.J., and Julie for all their hard work---for taking an excellent idea and making it a reality. I can't imagine the hours you must have put in, and I hope I can join your ranks in the future, helping with this great program. I'd love to be at the podium again next year, but this time opening an envelope and reading a name, making someone else's dream come true.

The Band Van

2008-03-19T13:46:00.000-07:00

Last Thursday night I'd just fallen asleep when I was awakened by my seventeen-year-old son.

"Mom! You gotta see this. Come quick."

The bedroom light glared, illuminating my son, hopping up and down in the doorway. Had he been about ten years younger, I would have ordered him into the bathroom at once. Instead, I left the comfort of my bed and donned robe and slippers to see what was up. Already a little leery of what that might be (recent experience in the form of a bazillion watt, six-foot tall amp weighing on my mind), I followed him to the front door and outside.

And there, gracing our driveway, was an old, ugly, Dodge van conversion---with teenage boys swarming all over it.

"What is it?" I asked, though I could clearly see that at one time it had passed as a motor vehicle.

"It's our band van," Spencer exclaimed. "Isn't it sweet? I just bought it."

"You what?!" I was awake now.

"I bought it from the Tongan family around the corner---just $300."

Feeling dizzy, I sat down hard on the step while Spencer continued explaining the intricacies of his van---the van that would now be parked in our driveway. The realtor we'd just listed our house with was going to be thrilled.

"Come see the inside, Mom." Spencer ran down the walk. After a minute I followed, determined to see it all---the bad, the worse, and the truly awful. The side doors opened as I approached.

"All the doors open and close. And it's only missing one window." Spencer's friend, sitting in the driver's seat, informed me. The van shook as his brother scaled the ladder on the back and beat on the roof.

"It's solid!" he shouted down to us.

I peeked inside. It was was dirty and smelly and---

"Isn't it sweet?" Spencer asked. "We already took the other two captain's chairs out, so we can redo the carpet. And we'll keep them out when we're transporting our equipment. But when we take road trips to Moab, the seats will be great."

I frowned as I eyed the couch in back. "Just who are you thinking of going to Moab with?" I looked around at all the boys and spoke in my sternest voice. "This is not going to be a van that's a rockin. No girls---got it?"

"This van's going to rock all right," Spencer's friend, Jordan said. "With music. The tape player even works."

"It's just for moving our band equipment, Mom," Spencer said. "And for taking road trips. It's perfect." He was practically glowing.

It was suddenly hard not to share his enthusiasm. His grin was infectious, and in his eyes I saw reflections of my own youth. I realized he was right. For him the van was perfect. He was feeling on top of the world, and for a few minutes, anyway, I understood why.

For a mere $300. he'd just purchased a good piece of freedom and independence. Not only would these wheels get him around town and beyond (or so he hopes), but they'd solve the transportation problem for his band. Now---when they're soon in hot demand---they'll be able to travel to their gigs.

I never had a band, never had musical aspirations like he does, but I did have a car and a lot of dreams as a youth. As I stood in my robe and slippers in our driveway, looking at "the beast," as the boys had already dubbed it, I was transported back in time to 1985, to the glorious day I got my driver's license and to the little Le Car my father purchased for me. I remember well the exhilarating freedom that little car brought me. I remember stuffing it full of girls and luggage and heading off to French camp the summer between my junior and senior years of high school---and getting grounded from my car when I returned home. Seems I wasn't supposed to drive that many girls, that far, on California's busy highways. I think I recall knowing this beforehand, but how could I resist driving my French car to French camp? I still remember pulling into the parking lot, my friends, standing up in the back, waving wildly through the sun roof. Good times. Fun memories.

I sold that little car to help pay for my freshman year at BYU, but when I returned home the next summer, my stepfather was very generous, letting me drive his Honda all over the place. I remember driving down to Marriotts Great America and getting lost at night in San Francisco on the way home. My friend from Colorado checked the door locks and hunkered down in her seat as we drove through some less-than-desirable parts of town trying to find our way to the Golden Gate. We eventually did and spent a couple more days in the city that week, exploring everything from Chinatown to Pier 39, Saks 5th Avenue, and beyond. Ah youth . . . when having fun was the central part of our life. School, work, marriage, babies, mortgages, retirement, and our own teenagers were all in the distant future. The present was the time for exploring the world and having fun.

How could I have forgotten?

I hurried into the house and called my husband's cell phone, bracing him for the sight that was to greet him when he returned home from a late night taking care of bishop responsibilities. Fortunately, like me, he isn't too old to remember how it was to be young and to have transportation---no matter how hideous (he drove a Maverick that had seen better days). And when he returned home, he spent some time with Spencer, listening as he pointed out all the fine features on the band van.

Since last Thursday, said van has undergone a few changes: carpet removed (and AC line accidentally cut in the process. Thanks, good neighbor for helping the boys repair it), and a free-for-all paint job(ie. all the various leftover paint we had in our garage) on the outside of the van. Teenage priorities being what they are, the boys are "tricking it out" before they pursue seeing if it will pass inspection. Once it does that, there's just one more detail Spencer needs to take care of to put the grand plan for the band van into action . . .

We hope he'll have his license soon.

Wart and the Whitneys

2008-03-11T10:14:00.000-07:00

A couple of weeks ago my daughter B (name withheld to protect the guilty) had the opportunity to go to the district science fair at the American Leadership Academy in Spanish Fork. This is the second year her project has made it to the district level, and she was pretty excited. I have to admit that, at first, I was not. The term science fair roughly translates to, "lots of work for Mom," and district level means, "more work for Mom." However, daughter B and partner did nearly everything themselves this year (aside from transportation and photography), and on the afternoon of the district fair, I packed them and the project into our suburban and headed south.

Once we were there, I had a good time, and the kids did too---repeatedly rehearsing their presentation, going to different Bill Nye-type science classes, watching a magic show, and eating pizza and hanging out with their friends. The event started at 4:00 and ended shortly before ten. I headed home around 7:00, when they went in for judging. Daughter B's, partner's dad took over from there. Hint to parents who may not yet have experienced, "the science fair"--Always have your child work with a partner. We've done this two years in a row, and it's been a very good thing. Nothing like splitting the stress with another set of parents :)

When daughter B arrived home later that evening, I wasn't sure if she was really my child or not. Normally she is easy-going and a source of great joy in our home, but the girl who walked through the door brought a storm cloud of out-of-control emotion with her. She marched up the steps, threw her belongings down and, with a scowl that stretched across her entire face, proceeded to unleash a tirade of anger and accusations, all directed toward an individual named Wart. When I finally got her calmed down, I discovered that Wart (name changed by my daughter) had won the only spot from their school to go on to the regional competition.

I was still baffled by my daughter's odd behavior. After all, she hadn't won last year, and it wasn't a big deal. I reminded her of this.

"But Emily won last year, and she's nice, so I was happy for her."

"Wart isn't nice?" I guessed.

"He's horrid, Mom. And he cheated. He bought his mice for the project at Petco, and one of the rules was that you couldn't buy animals at a pet store. Then he left them in the garage and they froze to death!"

"That's too bad," I said, silently wondering if Wart's mom felt the same way. After all, what do you do with three science fair mice, after the fair is over? If it were me, I wouldn't have been too excited about the prospect of three new pets. But still, my daughter had a point about animal cruelty.

"And that's not all," she continued. "He bribed the judges tonight. He bragged about it afterward."

This accusation seemed a little over-the-top. "The judges were BYU students---probably a pretty honest bunch. I doubt they were bribed with a candy bar or anything else. Wart was probably just teasing. Boys your age do that a lot, you know."

"I know," she huffed as the first tear slid down her cheek. "But I really wanted to win a medal."

Ahhhh . . . Now I got it. Daughter B, while easy-going, is also our most competitive child. Whatever she does, she likes to do it well, and she'll keep at it until she does. The nine medals and two trophies in her room attest to this. She's a bit of a perfectionist, something that has worried my husband and I on more than one occasion.

So I softened my words, put my arm around her, and comforted her as best I could. I reminded her what a great job she and her partner had done on their project. I told her it was an honor that she was one of a handful of kids who made it to the district level---two years in a row. I talked about the fun evening we'd shared together---free of her siblings---the things she'd learned doing the project, the fact that she was good at science. Her dad joined us, and we both told her how much we love her and how proud we are of all her accomplishments.

She went to bed a while later, somewhat mollified. And as I headed to bed myself, it struck me that the words of wisdom I'd just imparted to my daughter, were exactly how I felt about the upcoming Whitney awards. I also realized there were probably a few people I ought to express those feelings to.

For those reading this who may not know what I'm talking about, the Whitney Awards---named such for prominent LDS church member Orson F. Whitney---honor the best of LDS fiction. Counting Stars is a finalist this year in both the romance category and, best book by new author, category. That it's there in either of those is pretty cool, and I sincerely thank all the people who nominated it. It was kind and thoughtful of you, and I truly appreciate such great fans.

However, after reading all those other books that Counting Stars is up against, I imagine the Whitney award results will, for me, be somewhat similar to the outcome of my daughter's science fair. While I put my all into that story---laughed, cried, fell in love with the characters, pulled my hair out in frustration trying to make it all come together---it was just my best effort and not necessarily equal to someone else's best. For example, Stephanie Meyer's New York Times bestseller, Eclipse is also a finalist in the romance category. Whether you like what Mrs. Meyer writes or not (and I happen to like it quite a bit), if you've read her books, you will probably agree that she is a very good writer. If I'd been truly honest with my vote (LDStorymaker members each had one vote), I'd have chosen Eclipse for best romance of the year. But I'm not that noble :) After realizing I'd missed my deadline for a June release and would not be getting another check until next February, I decided I would go ahead and vote for myself, on the off chance that it mattered. I'm certain Mrs. Meyer makes a tiny bit more than I do with her writing :)

But when all is said and done, and the night is over, I imagine that I will feel happy for whoever brings home the trophies. I've read and enjoyed the entries and am happy to say there are no "Warts," only several well-deserving authors. I feel privileged to be listed among them, and I'm looking forward to an evening out with my husband and friends. Being a Whitney Award finalist is very much the icing on the cake to a dream come true. After spending seven years trying to get a book published, making it to "district level" the first time around is pretty amazing. But the real reward came months ago, when your emails and letters gave me what a writer dreams of the most---readers who love her story. I thank you for those letters, my trophy of words, that has become most precious and inspiring.

No more white Christmas

2008-02-26T09:43:00.000-08:00

I realize, since it's almost March, that I need to quit writing about Christmas related topics. And I will---soon---but for now, good news. I finally took the Christmas wreath off our front door. Progress!

This week's blog is actually about my WIP. And yes, I realize you're probably sick of hearing about that as well, but since it's all I've been doing (my family will attest to this), that's what you get. There has been progress on that front too; after a long, painstaking week of cutting words, I resubmitted the manuscript yesterday. Everyone cross your fingers that A. it gets accepted this time and B. it gets published sometime this year.

I'll keep you posted.

Back to Christmas stuff now. Every December I indulge in the solitary tradition of watching the movie White Christmas. I love this movie. Love the singing and dancing, the sweet plot, the fuzzy warm feeling.

This year it took me about a week and a half of laundry folding sessions to get through the whole thing because it's so long. As I mentioned, this is a solitary tradition, as the rest of my family (even my daughters who dance) have no interest in it. I've never really expected the boys (husband and son) to enjoy this sort of show, but I really thought my daughters would. After all, they've watched High School Musical approximately 300 times.

"But HSM has cute guys, Mom," my oldest tells me.

"And the songs are better." From my middle daughter.

"The dances are something we'd actually do."

"There's kissing."

I try to point out that there is kissing in White Christmas too, they've just never stayed around long enough to get to that part, but my girls have already left the room. Clearly White Christmas does not appeal to the up and coming generation.

Which, I discovered this past holiday season, presents a problem for me. As I sat matching socks and enjoying the show, I realized that I write an awful lot like the movie. Here's what I mean.

I like to start with a prologue---a dramatic event that happens sometime before the actual story begins, but will affect later events.

WC---We start on the front in WWII. We learn the beloved general is being sent home, and we see one friend save another's life (thus earning his gratitude and a place in his act for the rest of the movie). *Side note: this scene has about the cheesiest set I've ever seen. Hopefully I do a better job creating the images in my books!

In Counting Stars the prologue is at the hospital. Someone dies, babies are born prematurely.

After the prologue, it's time to introduce characters and present the first problem or conflict.

WC---Danny and Bing have a successful show, but they're driving each other crazy. One is a work-a-holic. His partner thinks finding a girlfriend is the solution, so he proceeds to set up his friend.

In CS, this first problem is Jane's still-single status. It is not the main problem this character is going to encounter, and in fact becomes quite minor compared to all she goes through during the story, but it sets the story up for the events that will follow. The same is true of WC.

Following the introduction of the initial conflict, the story slows a little as other, important characters are introduced.

WC--Rosemary Clooney and Vera-Ellen come into the story. Being a little sneaky about things, they finagle Danny and Bing into giving a critique of their sister-act. We see the potential for a double love match. And we enjoy some fun and funny dance scenes.

CS--We learn how desperate and lonely Jane is, and see her answer a single's ad and start a relationship with Paul. Multiple scenes with her friend, Tara, her family, and Paul build the story, albeit slowly.

The real conflict of the story comes to light.

WC--Bing and Danny's old general is about to lose his inn in Vermont to bankruptcy. The gang (Bing, Danny, Rosemary, and Vera) agree to do a show at the inn in hopes of bringing in some business.

CS--(SPOILERS AHEAD) Paul dies, Jane is left to care for his children, and she discovers she is co-guardian with Peter, Paul's estranged brother. Somehow she has to work out an agreeable relationship with him and maintain her ability to care for the children she has come to love.

The romance really takes off.

WC--Numerous song and dance scenes on the train and at the inn show the couples together and build their relationships. By the end of this section, we know at least one of these couples are made for each other (though they don't seem to know it yet).

CS--Peter and Jane fall head over heels in love. I take my time building a relationship between my two main characters. Romance novels that don't do this make me crazy. Love takes time and work, and I really like to show both. I tend to use scenes set at holidays to show passage of time. In CS I have scenes set at Easter, Mother's day, Father's day and 4th of July.

The big misunderstanding.

WC--through an overheard phone conversation (eavesdropping housekeeper) girl thinks guy is a big jerk, out to make money off the general's sorry plight. Without telling guy why, girl leaves. He is baffled. Meanwhile, the plot about bringing the show to the inn has thickened. It's the big time now, with a television plea for all of the general's men to come up for the weekend and join the party.

CS--Peter decides he should marry Jane before he returns to Iraq. He blows the proposal and we have a break up.

Big emotional scene.

WC--The girl finds out the truth, and now knows her guy is a genuine hero. The general is surprised when the men from his unit show up and salute him as he arrives (conveniently in his army duds--thanks clever housekeeper, you've redeemed yourself.) for the evening show. They sing. He gets a big cake. And I cry on the the towels I'm folding.

CS--Peter and Jane are married, he goes off to Iraq, Mark and Peter's simultaneous tragedy.

Happy ending.

WC--Miracle of miracles, it snows big, white fluffy flakes (the inn will be saved!) Everyone sings. Everyone loves each other. All is well.

CS--Peter's miracle. Jane and Peter are reunited. All the subplots are wrapped up nicely.

A little scary, isn't it? Without even realizing what I was doing, I followed this same pattern with the book I just finished. Only, to make matters worse, I added a suspense element. The result was a manuscript a little over 140,000 words long. For those of you not familiar with how word count translates to pages---it took more than a whole ream of paper (500 pages) to print it. And, side note here, can you see why I owe a debt of gratitude to the members of my critique group? "Sure we'll edit your manuscript, Michele. We don't have anything else to do for the next three weeks!" Thanks again, ladies!

But I knew there was no way this 140,000+ word manuscript was ever going to make it into a book. And not wanting to get it rejected before it was even read, I had to do some serious cutting. Painful stuff, for me.

As I said before I really enjoy all those song and dance scenes---even if they aren't moving the plot along a whole lot. But I can't write my novel the same way unless I want to be the only one who ever reads it. So it was with much difficulty last week that I hit the delete button several times. When I was finished, I had 15,000 words in a file of things I'd dumped from the story. Some cute, fun scenes had to go (including most of the one I posted here at Christmas time), but given today's fast-paced, keep me turning pages world, I know it had to be done. Worse yet, the book is still too long, and I suspect my editor will find other scenes that have to go as well.

The good news in all this is that I have a blog now! And you can bet if the story gets published, I'll post the deleted scenes here, so those of us who still enjoy the slow-building love story can watch every minute unfold.

True to the work

2008-02-18T09:30:00.000-08:00

If you've noticed a shortage of blogs lately it's because I've been a little wrapped up in a rewrite of my latest manuscript. After several weeks of this, I've decided rewrite is synonomous with a couple of four letter words---hard work!

I've never been a writer who gets it right the first time---or three---around, but for whatever reason, this current work in progress is taking ridiculously longer. Just when I think I've finally got a chapter right, someone will read it and find something I missed. Sometimes these things are little; more often they've been huge. Here's a sampling of the errors/issues I've addressed in the past couple of weeks.

Fifteen-year-old daughter (reading a scene for me to check for romance element)---"Your main character is probably not going to get this reference to Temple Square, since she grew up on the East Coast and she isn't a member of the church."

Me---"Good point, daughter. Thanks." Fix. Fix. Fix.

Husband (listening to me read an action scene to see if---as Rob Wells so lovingly puts it---it is "Holy Lame.")--- "Wait. Did you just use the word, revolver?"

Me--"Yes. I was trying to find another word for gun. Gun, gun, gun, gun, gun gets pretty redundant."

Husband---"They're not interchangeable, dear."

Me---"In this book about weapons, that Annette Lyon lent me, they are."

Husband (looking at book)---"Doesn't she write historicals? This book was published almost 20 years ago. No one uses a revolver now. These guys are going to be packing semi-automatics."

Me (sighing)---"Why did I think I could write suspense?"

Husband---"I know, let's go up to the gun show. Then you can see firsthand what I'm talking about."

Me--"Nice try, dear." Research, research, research, research. Fix. Fix. Fix. Fix.
No doubt the feds have me on some kind of watch now, since I've bookmarked websites about everything from Uzi's to how to make a bomb. If I disappear, you'll know why.

Brilliant writer friend and editor, LuAnn Staheli (referring to chapter where Sarah is singing a lullaby to get three-year-old James asleep)---"I don't buy this scene. Why is she sitting at the piano singing to him? He's going to bed isn't he? Wouldn't she just tuck him in and sing to him in his room?"

Me---(feeling really stupid) "Uh, yeah." Fix. Fix. Fix.

Editor, Angela Eschler (from part of thirteen pages of comments for revisions)---"There needs to be a reason Sarah goes to Seattle. Jane and Peter have to help her somehow, otherwise it seems like a contrived situation simply to bring Jane back into the story . . ."

Me---(banging head against computer) "Um . . . really good point. Why didn't I think of that?! Unfortunately it's going to require a major rewrite of the last twelve chapters!" (crying) "I should have stuck with quilting. It was a much better hobby." Fix. Fix. Fix. Delete. Delete. Delete. Delete. Fix. Fix. Fix. Fix. Fix. Fix. Fix. Delete.

And so it goes. It doesn't matter who reads for me, the pages always come back red. I know this makes for a much better book. I believe the whole, "great stories are diamonds mined from layered rewrites" thing, but it gets tiring. I'm so ready to start another story, to catch up on my laundry, to mop the kitchen floor. But it will have to wait.

My friend just emailed. She's got another 150 pages of my manuscript finished. There are a few places that need work. I'd run outside and scream, but fortunately I just finished reading an excellent article in the BYU Magazine. Written by our beloved prophet, Gordon B. Hinckley, it is titled, "True to the Faith" and has just reminded me that I want to be true to my work---no matter what that is.

Citing a recent article from Fortune magazine (Geoffrey Colvin, "What It Takes To Be Great," Vol.154, no.9) he reminded us that we, "will achieve greatness only through an enormous amount of hard work over many years . . .The good news is that (our) lack of a natural gift is irrelevant---talent has little or nothing to do with greatness . . . Nobody is great without work."

What a hugely comforting thought! The talent part definitely seems to be lacking right now, but it is possible that hard work might make up the difference (though I really hope it won't take years).

President Hinckley goes on to say, "In matters of honesty, there are no shortcuts . . .There is only simple, honest truth spoken in total candor. And I think there is nothing more honest than good, hard, work."

Though President Hinckley was referring to something far greater than a romance writer's struggles, his insights on honesty and work made a lot of sense. To be a good writer, I have to be honest with myself. If a chapter isn't the best it can be, I have to be willing to tear it apart and start again. I have to accept others' honest truth spoken in total candor. And I have to be grateful for it! Then I have to get back to work.

Southern Ladies Under Tremendous Stress

2008-01-29T07:49:00.000-08:00

I suppose, as we are almost finished with January, that I should blog about new year's resolutions or some such thing (and I will---in February or March, as soon as I get the Christmas wreath off my front door), but as I tend to work on the day or three late and about fifty dollars short schedule, today I thought I'd write about cool Christmas gifts.

We all know that giving and receiving presents is not what the celebration of Christ's birth is about. I also think most of us would admit to spending a fair amount of time, money and effort on this very thing. For me, I think the balance is in the process. If I'm able to enjoy the giving (ie. have time to plan, prepare, pick out etc. what I know the person will really love) then it is a joyous part of our holiday. The last minute dash through the mall has the opposite effect.Of course it is also very fun to find some neat surprises under the tree Christmas morning, as I did this year.

My husband and I had previously agreed---as part of our quest and commitment to be out of debt by May---that we would only exchange stocking stuffers this year. For those of you who might be considering this plan, it's a bad idea. We both cheated. I cheated in the form of a display case for his marathon finisher's medals. I'd wanted to do this for a long time, and there was no way something like that was going to hang from the fireplace. Dixon cheated with money spent, stuffing an ipod in the toe of my stocking. This was way over the budget we'd agreed on, but the gleeful look in his eyes as he gave it to me, told me he didn't particularly care what it had cost. It took me about an hour to decide I didn't either. I love this thing and wear it all the time---when I'm first up in the morning, puttering around half asleep getting breakfast for everyone, when I'm loading the washing machine, when I'm writing. It's so much fun, and I love him for getting it for me. It's nice to be spoiled once in a while.

My sister also spoiled me this year, with a beautiful necklace and set of earrings. Normally I'm not much of a jewelry person. I like it. I've just never taken the time to shop for things that go together and with the clothing I own. Then again, Sam's Club and the carpool lane don't usually call for a really put-together ensemble. But my younger, hip, fashionable, sister has an eye for this sort of thing and really blew me away with her beautiful present. Once more, it was fun to be spoiled.

The other thing I really loved this year were homemade gifts. My other sister, Deanna, went online to Shutterfly and made books with our family reunion photos. This is the coolest thing, and if you come to my house, I will insist you sit down and look through it. I have a feeling my mounds of scrapbooking supplies will soon be gathering dust---even more than they already are---as I venture into the world of hi-tech, professional looking memory books.

My mom also put her talents to use this Christmas, sewing retro aprons for each of her daughters. When she started, she had no idea that I'd been searching for patterns and aprons for months---since seeing a segment on Good Things Utah. I absolutely love aprons and, kind of like my ipod, wear one most of the day. As a big fan of the Fly Lady, I run around the house each morning doing the ten minute clean in each room, and an apron with pockets comes in handy. I also love to cook and bake, and often find flour on my shirt whenever I skip the apron. So just call me June Cleaver, but I'm hardly ever without one, and I love the retro, black and white, polka dot apron my mom made.

I love it because it's functional and darling, but I also love it because it's funny. Emblazoned across the front of the apron is the acronym SLUTS---short for Southern Ladies Under Tremendous Stress (though Mom changed mine to read SaltLake Ladies Under Tremendous Stress) written along the scallops at the bottom. My sisters thought this amusing, but I found it hilarious---because it's true! Who isn't under tremendous stress when it's time to fix dinner? As I mentioned earlier, I love to cook, but whoever planned dinner to be in the early evenings---when your kids have their homework spread out all over the table, when your son needs a ride to work, when your daughter needs to be picked up from dance class, when your other daughter needs a ride to or from a study group or YW activity, when your youngest and her friends are in and out the back door every five minutes needing help with their snowgear, tracking slush across the kitchen floor, demanding hot chocolate---was crazy. The hours between 3 and 7 are the most stressful of my day---every day. So I laughed hard when I saw this apron, and I wear it proudly, needing all the help I can get to keep my sense of humor intact while I try to fix the family meal.

I also think it would be very funny to wear my SLUTS apron while serving in the church kitchen at our next ward activity, but my husband isn't so sure. I'm pretty certain it would be a hit though---and I'd have requests for the pattern. After all, you can't tell me that those ladies aren't stressed out---serving dinner to 250, trying to keep the kids out of the desserts, trying to find just one serving spoon in the entire kitchen. A few aprons like mine might do a lot to lighten the atmosphere. Maybe we'd even get more people to agree to be on the activities committee.

All in all, it was a fun Christmas at our home. Over the break I assembled a Lego version of Hogwarts castle with my seven-year-old (which is now, lamentably, spread throughout every room in the house), played numerous games of Apples to Apples and Druthers, sang High School Musical Karoake with our daughters (okay, my husband sang too, but he wouldn't want me to admit that on a blog), and listened to classic "vinyl" with our son as he tried out his new record player. The gifts did what they were supposed to---made us all feel a little more loved and spoiled, and brought us together for some play time. And I'm thinking that can't be all bad.

What are your thoughts? Do you love the gift giving tradition or hate it? What fun and exciting things were under your tree this year? I'd love to hear about them and your holiday. After all, it's never too early to start thinking about next December :)

Don't Get out of the Boat!

2008-01-15T12:00:00.000-08:00

This past weekend my husband and I had the great opportunity to attend our stake conference and listen to Elder Holland speak. Elder Holland was visiting to reorganize our stake presidency, and in addition to hearing him speak, my husband was able to enjoy a ten minute interview with him. Guess there are some perks to being a bishop!

For those of you reading this who are not members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (also known as the Mormon church), let me take a second to clarify the above "church jargon."

In the Mormon church (often called such because we believe in a companion volume of scripture, The Book of Mormon, as well as the Bible) congregations are organized geographically into wards. Each ward has a bishop who presides over that ward and it's organizations---primary for children, youth programs, Relief Society etc. Several wards are organized into a stake, over which a stake president and his counselors preside. Area presidencies preside over several stakes, with the apostles presiding over and working with those presidencies.

The interesting and cool thing about this highly organized method of running things, is that all callings (positions or jobs) in our church are voluntary. No one gets paid; there is no compensation---except some hoped for heavenly blessings. No calling lasts forever(the exception being if an individual is a general authority---the Prophet or an apostle).Those serving in leadership positions did not aspire to be there (trust me on this one---being a bishop/bishop's wife was never on my husband's or my to do list!), and they often do not feel qualified. Fortunately, a willing heart and hands---along with some heavenly help---often makes up what an individual may lack.

And that's a lot of info. in a couple of paragraphs. In summary, it was a great and rare experience that we were able to hear on of the twelve apostles speak in our stake. Oh, and one more hugely important aspect of our religion is that we believe Jesus Christ's church is on the earth today, organized just as it was---as He had directed it to be---when Christ himself was on the earth. We believe that God has always and will always provide direction for his people through the voice of a living prophet and his apostles. This principle of revelation is something I have believed in for a long time. Hearing Elder Holland speak this weekend, made it impossible to deny. He is a man who knows and loves both God and his son.

Saturday night, Elder Holland spoke for nearly an hour---with no text in front of him, except his scriptures---about trials and hard times we all face. He began by talking about nearly every difficult circumstance a person may have to deal with in his or her life---death of a loved one, illness, divorce, financial problems, heartache over children . . . The list goes on and on. Elder Holland then proceeded to give some simple, yet profound, help and hope for those times in our lives. I want to attempt to share that advice here, because it was both uplifting and inspiring. And I'm sure someone out there reading this, could maybe use a little inspiration or uplift today.

First---we all feel broken at some time in our life. No matter what has brought us to that state (our own actions or one of the many things listed above), it is important to remember that God loves broken things, and he is prepared to fix them. Some examples Elder Holland gave---

-It takes broken clouds to make rain.
-It takes broken earth to grow grain.
-It takes broken grain to make bread.

We take the broken bread of the sacrament to renew our covenants and help us begin to be whole again. We may not feel good now, but we're going to be great. The thing God loves the most is a broken heart, and our broken hearts refine us into the great people we can become.

Second---"Endure, and save yourself for days of happiness ahead." Elder Holland attributed this quote to the poet Virgil. After reading it twice, he assured us that there will be times of happiness in our future, no matter how difficult or bleak things may seem right now. The downward plunge of the roller coaster is going to level out and even head uphill again.
We need to remember that right now, we are all of God. We are his spirit children. But someday we will be of him and like him, and that is not an easy path.

The last thing Elder Holland talked about is what we must not do in the midst of our trials. He pointed out that the first rule of sailing is, "don't get out of the boat---especially during a storm." Yet how many of us are inclined to do that very thing, to abandon ship when the going gets tough? I know I've been there a time or two myself.

Instead, in the middle of the storm is the time we need to stay in the boat, hunker down, and hang on tight. Referring to the story of Jesus calming the sea during a storm (see Mark 4: 36-40), Elder Holland reminded us that our only hope is He who has control over the wind and the waves. It is He who will see us through our difficulties, but if we leave the boat, we are left alone to flounder in the waves. Staying on board does not assure that the ride will always be smooth, but we will reach our destination. Elder Holland reminded us that the road to salvation has always gone through Gethsemane---again not an easy path.

But if Christ, with all he had yet to endure in his mortal life, could tell us to be of good cheer (see John 16:33), then we can be of good cheer. We can get up, go on, endure a little longer, and hang on for those happier times that will come.

I'm sure I haven't conveyed the smallest portion of Elder Holland's great and inspiring words, but I do hope that someone out there gains something from my notes and poor attempts at sharing them. There were many moist eyes last Saturday, several tissues dabbing at wet cheeks, a few laughs interspersed, and dead silence when Elder Holland pounded on the pulpit and told us, "Don't get out of the boat!"

It is a message I'll never forget, one I'm sure I will turn to during difficult days.
I hope, whatever stage you are at, whatever difficulty you may be facing, that you'll be able to hang in there and sit tight too.

Much Ado About . . . Annette!

2007-12-04T11:43:00.000-08:00

Today's post, a tribute to good friend and talented author Annette Lyon, is one that is long overdo. I've known Annette for about eight years now, and during that time I've celebrated with her when her first book was published, shared her frustrations when an amazing sequel was not, and learned much of what I know about good writing from time spent with her at our critique group.

To date Annette has five published books. Her first, Lost Without You is a contemporary romance about a widowed police officer, his young daughter, and the woman they meet who fills the void in their lives. It's a beautiful romance, and a story full of heart and hope. It's on my "frequent re-read" bookshelf at home, because I know I'll fall in love with the characters and become wrapped up in the story all over again each time I read it. If you haven't had the opportunity to enjoy this book, treat yourself to an early Christmas present and go find a copy!

Annette's second published book is also one of my favorites. She was under a time crunch with this one and did not read the full manuscript in our critique group, but rather trusted a few of us to edit for her. I remember being floored when she asked me to be one of those readers. It was early in my "critique group experience," and I didn't feel I had a lot to offer yet. Being entrusted with the manuscript for At The Water's Edge was a privilege I've never forgotten. This story is another for the heartstrings, as it deals with the touchy topic of abuse. A near-rape scene gave editors fits and pushed some limits with her publisher, but Annette did an excellent job writing about a very real problem. The ending of this story made me want to cheer, I was so happy for all her main character had overcome.

After a difficult time and a painful rejection following At the Water's Edge, Annette picked herself back up and took her writing in a new direction. The result of this are her three historical romance novels, each centered around the construction of a different temple.

House on A Hill, set in Logan, is probably still my favorite. Those of you who've read it . . . who can forget the quilt scene at the end (sigh)? And the author's notes gave me chills! The historical facts Annette digs up and weaves into her stories are both fun and fascinating. I'll never be able to see the Logan temple without thinking of the letters I know were found inscribed on the stone. Annette did such an excellent job with this story, and so many people fell in love with Abe, that he needed a story of his own. At The Journey's End is the result of friends and fans demanding to see more of him.

At the Journey's End involves the Saint George temple and the infamous Honeymoon Trail that couples and families traveled from Snowflake, Arizona. This book opens with some shocking, graphic, historically accurate scenes, and eventually makes a seemingly-impossible love match. Of all Annette's books, this one wins my vote for the, "ring in the river," most heart-wrenching scene. It too is a definite keeper.

Annette's latest release, Spires of Stone is a take on Shakespeare's Much Ado About Nothing. This is the first story Annette really let loose with her characters and their tongues. Ben and Bethany go at it from page one, and their witty banter is a whole lot of fun. This book wins my vote for "best humor" award of all her historicals, and I hope to see more of that in the future.

As for the future . . . I recently had the opportunity to read Annette's latest manuscript (did I mention she writes well and fast?). This story begins in Logan (and if you've read her other historicals, be sure to look for a familiar face or two) but soon moves to Manti. I won't say too much about it yet, other than to tell you that a certain horse has center stage in this story. Personally, I'm not that into horses, but I actually cried over one while reading Annette's manuscript. Once again, she does her job well.

You might think that someone as busy as Annette---mother of four young children, co-founder of the Utah Chocolate Show, co-conference Queen with Heather Moore for the upcoming Storymaker conference etc.---wouldn't have a lot of time to be great friend. But I've found the opposite to be true, and that is what this tribute is really all about. As much as I've learned about writing from Annette, I've learned even more about being a true friend.

It was Annette, some eight years ago, who looked at my writing and bled all over it, giving me the first honest feedback I'd ever received. It was Annette who took a chance on me, inviting me to attend a critique group she belonged to. And Annette was one of that group who encouraged me to submit Counting Stars to Covenant. Without her cheerleading, I'd still be spinning my writing wheels. And, without her continued editing, my publisher would likely be rejecting my manuscript!

Recently---during the weeks before Thanksgiving, at the height of Chocolate Show madness, and when she was trying to finish her own book---I asked Annette if she would edit my 123,000 word (nearly 500 pages) manuscript. She not only agreed to do this, but actually stopped by my house in Provo to pick it up when I was too busy to get up to American Fork. When she was too busy to return it to me, she stuck it in the mail, so I'd have it on time. Her editing, as usual, was amazingly thorough, and I know she lost more than a few hours of sleep going through my manuscript. A better friend, I cannot imagine.

And it isn't the first time she's gone above and beyond.

Last year, when I had miscalculated a contest deadline, Annette went over chapters as I emailed them to her, covering a third of a novel for me in a couple of days, enabling me to meet my deadline. It was early December then, and I know she had a million other things to do, but somehow she found the time to help me. In all of her fame and fortune (okay, not so much on the fortune end :D), Annette has never been too busy to be a good friend.

I know in the future there will be much more ado about Annette, as she'll continue writing great stories for the LDS market, continue, though her work with the Storymakers, to help other writers find success, and continue to be a great friend to many.

I am so grateful for that friendship, for all she has taught me. I hope those of you reading this blog have friends like this too. It is truly a wonderful thing to know someone who is as genuinely nice as she is successful.

May we all take the time to enjoy and appreciate our friendships this holiday season.