Attracting Women Tips

How To Sexually Attract Women, Attraction & Seduction, The Art Of "The Game", PUA - Part Five

2008-03-13T17:52:00.000-07:00

So we left off talking about how a good opinion opener can open any set, anytime, anywhere. If you're going to figure out how to sexually attract women this is the next tool to add to your belt.

The opinion opener should become your opener of choice in most instances. Now we are going to look at a different type of opener, it is still indirect because the intent of the opener is not to convey interest. This time we are going to take it a step further and actually say something to potentially dis-include yourself from being a potential suitor. This type of opener is also used to make sure that your target knows that you do not think that she has more value than you. Due to this fact the delivery of this type of opener has to be delivered appropriately. For example you are standing next to your target at the bar and you look over and notice that she has fake nails. So you say "I really like your nails, are they real?" HB: "Oh thanks, but no." You: "Oh well they still look nice I guess."

The conversation would continue from there but now the HB starts from the bottom position. No girl wants to admit that her hair, nails, eyelashes, or boobs are fake as a first impression. You continue give DHV's (Demonstrations of Higher Value) while she now tries to work her way back into your good graces by trying to prove that even though her nails are fake that she isn't.

Another example of this would be saying "Wow I really like your outfit it must be really popular because I saw a girl at the last bar I was at wearing the same thing." Even though you are complimenting them on one level by commenting about the outfit being worn by someone else you make her feel like she now has to prove that she is original. All of these are tactics used to sexually attract women. Now this should only be used with very attractive women HB9 or better. Using this with a HB7 or HB8 can potentially hurt their feelings and destroy the set.

The introduction of a neg (A comment used to pick on your target and lower her respective value). Now a neg should never be used to degrade women or truly hurt their feelings. Very attractive women are use to guys being truly mean to them especially if they have just turned that guy down. So you don't want to make them shut down you just want to give them a reason to want to prove their worth to you. Did you see that, the secret to sexually attracting women; make them prove their worth to you, not the other way around.

So there is the last component of the opener and there are a ton of them out there. The best openers are relevant to the situation and don't convey interest. So keep on learning and I'm Out!
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Online Dating Tips To Help You Succeed

2008-03-13T17:51:00.001-07:00

So far in 'No Drama Online Dating', I have attempted to cover both the very basics of online dating, as well as some more advanced tips and suggestions that you should bear in mind and put into action, to give yourself the greatest chance of success.

So, here would be a very good point to summarize most of the key points already covered in this book. First, focus on getting your profile right.

It's already been explained in detail just how important it is to get your profile spot on the nail, and why you simply cannot afford to try to work with any online dating website that does not allow you to have one.

Without a profile, you have no way of telling the world about you, and what you are looking for, and thus, there is equally little chance of you ever meeting someone with similar interests to you.

When creating your profile, remember that you should:

• Always use positive, happy and inviting language about both you and the person that you seek.
• Use photos to show that you are a normal cheerful person. Include as many appealing images as you can, ideally shot in differing situations, to show that you are always a cheerful and happy person.
• Think of and use the all-important key words in your profile descriptions, so that the people who search out and find your profile will know that you have many things in common. Remember to ask yourself what it is that you are looking for, in order to make sure that the key words you use do what you want them to do. The second thing that you must do is to get off your backside to take the vital first step, and do not wait for others to do so.
Stop hoping that others will find you - get active in the online dating community right now.
Remember that taking the first step will appear decisive (which is likely to help create a positive fist impression) and it also puts you in control of the situation to an extent, too.

Your profile is designed to attract them. But it cannot do the whole job for you. You are still required to make the required effort if you want to stand any chance of finding your perfect match.

Once you do actually get up the courage to make contact with a person, and meet with them, be sure that you have lots of interesting questions, so that it becomes relatively easy to keep the conversation going.

If you do not, then you are really never giving yourself any chance at all of success, and are basically wasting your time.

Remember that you only have a limited amount of backand- forth emails or chats in which to get their telephone number, and that if either you or they get bored, then the opportunity has probably gone forever.

On the other hand, don't try to rush things along too much, and accept that, however frustrating it might be, online dating is something that will inevitably take time to produce results.
Just like 'real world' dating, all relationships have their own unique dynamics, and you cannot try to rush things into happening too quickly.

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Online Dating - Writing the Perfect Profile

2008-03-13T17:49:00.000-07:00

Your profile is your key to attracting prospective partners on any internet dating site. Everything that your future date knows about you comes from that profile and the information they find there is what they use when deciding whether or not to contact you. This is why it is so important to get your profile right.

The first feature of a profile to catch the eye is usually the photograph. I have already covered this subject at some length in a previous article and so I will not go into great detail about the photograph here. I will just say 'Choose a picture that is recent, accurate, and presents yourself in a positive light.

After this most of your profile should be straightforward to complete. Name, Age, Location, etc. should not present too many problems, just remember to be truthful as you fill in these fields, object of completing this profile is to meet people and anything that you say in your profile that doesn't reflect the truth will soon be exposed when you meet in person.

The most difficult areas of your profile to write are usually the 'About me' and the 'Hobbies and Interests' sections. It is worth taking some time to consider what to write in these areas.

What image do you want to present? It is important to be truthful but everyone has different sides to their personality, and you need to decide how you want to appear. It's easy to write the first thing that comes into your head, but a better idea is to take a piece of paper and jot down your key personality traits and put them in order of their importance to you.

Once you have finished doing this for the 'About Me' then repeat it for the 'Hobbies and Interests' fields. Once you have written out your lists you should have a much clearer idea of how to frame your profile.

One note of caution, there is no need to list every single hobby you have ever engaged in. An overload of information will just cause unneeded confusion, and may even stop someone from contacting you. Choose two or three of your major interests and list a little about each of them, this provides the opportunity for your date to ask questions about these things when they contact you for the first time.

If you are really stuck for ideas then it can be worth taking a look at some other profiles on the site, and see how other people are presenting themselves. Don't copy another profile, but there is nothing wrong with adapting it for your own use.

The most important thing about your profile is to be yourself, you will be much more successful if you present yourself to prospective partners than if you pretend to be someone that you are not.

Peter Townsend is the founder of http://www.SouthEastLondonDating.com He has been writing and publishing articles on a variety of subjects for the last ten years. He lives in south east London with his wife Mona, and spends his time re-publishing public domain works for http://www.TownsendPublications.com

The 3 Stages of Courtship

2008-03-13T17:48:00.000-07:00

There are three stages of attraction, and it is very important that you go through all three, IN ORDER.

1. Attraction
2. Comfort
3. Seduction

Now, the reason that it is important to go through each of these stages is because if you skip one, than you are going to be labeled as something.

For example, lets say that you skip stage one, and go to stage two. This is where you are going to make the girl feel good and comfortable around you. Doing this will easily drop you into the "lets just be friends" or "Nice guy" category.

Let's say that you skip the first TWO stages, and go directly to stage three. This is very dangerous, because the girl has not built attraction to you, and they aren't comfortable with you. This will drop you into the "creepy guy" category. Chances are they are going to just see you as another guy hitting on them.

Next, there is the guy that does get attraction from the women. However, he skips over the second step, and goes straight to the third step of seduction. Now, this girl has not built rapport with the guy, and she does not feel comfort with him, so he is now looked at as a "player".
The final common mistake that men make is probably the worst. Some men develop the attraction. Then they even make the girl comfortable, but they never cross that hump into the third stage of seduction. So now, the women has this guy that she is attracted to, but he is afraid to seduce her. THIS IS BAD. Women, believe it or not, want to be seduced, they just don't want men to know it, and they don't want men to jump straight to it.

So, as you can see, the only real option that you have with these stages is to go through EACH stage, and in order. You can't go from end to beginning, or middle to end. You MUST start at stage one, and go to stage three. Now, be mindful that some of these stages do not take very long to go through. You could easily build attraction and comfort in a matter of hours, or even minutes. However, it is imperative that you go through each of these steps if you want women to really like you.

Jake has been studying human behavior for years, and has many proven ways of approaching women and getting into a relationship. To learn more techniques, visit Jakes blog at http://www.meetingwomen101.blogspot.com

Dating Tips For Men And Women - Leverage The Luck Of The Irish To Become Lucky In Love!

2008-03-13T17:47:00.000-07:00

When you speak of the Irish, talk often turns to luck. According to Wikipedia, this can be a tongue and cheek discussion of luck, since the Irish have fallen victim to many woes over the centuries. Another entry cited that when you catch a Leprechaun, you'll get a piece of gold - which certainly would be lucky!

So how can you leverage the good luck of the Irish to turn your dating luck around? Let's base the love-life shift on the shamrock's three heart-shaped leaves:

1) Begin thinking of yourself as lucky in love
Lucky people usually think of themselves as lucky which further promotes more good luck. They expect to be lucky. So how would your love-life change if you felt lucky in love? You might feel more attractive to the opposite s*e*x. You might not fear rejection as much. You might imagine suddenly finding the love of your life. Not such a bad idea huh?

This concept mirrors "The Secret" and the Universal Law of Attraction which states "Like attracts like." What that really means is that positive thinking attracts more positive thinking. And believing you are lucky in love will attract energy that makes you - you've got it - lucky in love. What have you got to lose?

2) Follow the rainbow to find the Leprechaun's pot of gold
Or the romantic partner you've been seeking. Hmmm. How does that apply? Well, rainbows seem like a bit of magic from the Universe and Leprechauns certainly have a magical quality. So can you stretch to believe that meeting the right person for you is part of the magic of the Universe and bound to happen? People find love every day. Why not you?

Personally, on my dating journey, sometimes what pulled me through the rougher times was reminding myself that everything has a purpose (even if we don't know it.) So there must be a reason I'm doing all this to find a partner. And I chose to believe that the reasons behind it all , the good and the bad, were the lessons I needed to learn to FIND HIM. Holding onto that faith tightly, kept me going when I felt down. I got to the point where I knew undeniably that I was going to find the right partner for me. And I did. If I can do it, I know you can too.

3) Get your own piece of gold to remind yourself that you are lucky
If you did meet a Leprechaun who rewarded you with a piece of gold, you'd probably never let go of it right? Well, what if you found your own talisman to remind you of your good fortune? You could get something like :

One of those popular necklaces with a horseshoe (for more good luck of course)
A small coin stamped with lucky symbols to carry with you (Celtic stores carry them)
Or find a lucky pebble and maybe even paint it gold
The actual item doesn't matter. What does matter is that you find something that speaks to you about your lot in life and turning it around to the lucky soul you deserve to be - and truly are.
Take your luck into your own hands! Allow yourself this new belief of being lucky in love. Who knows where it will take you but expecting to be lucky in love, will definitely attract more luck to you. Here's to getting lucky - in love and life!

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Internet Dating Safety Tips Part 1 - The Talking Phase

2008-03-13T17:46:00.000-07:00

Internet Dating can be very exciting, especially if you're new to it. It can lead to some incredible off-line relationships, from lasting friendship to long-term love to sizzling sex encounters.
However, communicating with people over the Internet can also expose you to real danger if you're not careful. Below are some tips to keep in mind when you start talking to people online.
In the talking phase:

Be Anonymous - When you're first talking to someone you've met online, never give them your real name, phone number, home address, or real email address. It's also a good idea to check with your Internet Service Provider to make sure your personal information isn't listed in your online profile with them.

Use an alternate email service - Set up a second (or third, fourth, etc.) email address through one of the many free email services online. Below are the most popular ones. This adds another level of security to email communications between the two of you.

Free Email Services:
Hotmail
Yahoo! Mail
Google (Gmail)
Use common sense when creating your nickname - A nickname (nic) such as "hotmama1" may get you more attention (of the kind you may not want) than you bargained for. Use a nickname that is not gender specific when joining discussion groups, chat rooms, and message forums.
Common Sense - Basically, use common sense when talking to people online. You wouldn't give a stranger on the street, or even someone you met at a bar all your personal information, would you? Well, the same rules apply when talking to someone online.

After you've established the appropriate measure of trust, and you decide to meet someone you've met online, check out my article "Internet Dating Safety Tips Part 2 - The Meeting Phase" for additional tips to consider.

Will Irvin is the Webmaster for Premier Dating Online, a valuable source for Online Dating Tips, Relationship Advice, and Dating Service Reviews.

Dating 101 - Guidelines For Meeting The Love Of Your Life

2008-03-13T17:44:00.000-07:00

As with anything, it's good to know what you want and have a plan to guide you toward your goal. This is especially true with dating due to the intense emotions involved that make things confusing. It may seem that a plan could kill the romance, but just the opposite is true. Knowing how to handle challenges allows you to relax and enjoy yourself because it creates clarity when intense emotions arise.

The purpose of creating a dating plan is to build trust with a potential partner slowly over time. This will give you the room to find out if the person you're dating is a healthy person for you. Remember, you want to fall in love with someone good for you and do it differently this time. The steps below provide a useful structure so you can be conscious and change your patterns. There are no quick fixes, but putting your focused attention on what's important does make a difference.

1. Meet in a neutral place like a cafe, especially if you've never met the person. This allows you to relax and feel safe both emotionally and physically.

2. Have your first date be a coffee date so there is a minimal investment until you know that you want to spend more time with this person. Having dinner together, especially when alcohol is involved, can compromise your ability to hold your boundaries.

3. Make your dates time limited and schedule something after your date so you can hold the boundaries. It's easy to get intoxicated and lose track of time especially when you're attracted to someone. Remember the whole idea is to remain connected to yourself while connecting with a potential partner.

4. Be clear about your sexual boundaries. How long do you want to wait before having sex with someone? If you just wait and see how you feel, you know what will happen! If you're sexual too soon, you'll lose yourself and your ability to see clearly.

5. Keep your dates with the same person to once a week at first. This will give you time to integrate your experience and see how it really feels to be with this person. Many of us know how it is to suddenly be spending every night with someone while the rest of your life fades into the background. Value yourself by keeping a balance and staying connected to other people.
This plan is a beginning and you need to find what is right for you. Relationships can be complex and unpredictable. We invite you to access our services for personal guidance to make a plan that works specifically for you. Call for a free initial phone consultation.

Lorraine Platt, LMFT

Lorraine Platt is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who supports women to create their ideal relationship. She draws from a variety of disciplines including breath and body-centered therapies. Her unique approach combines Buddhism, Breathwork, Focusing, and the work of David Deida. In addition to her Women's Groups, Couple and Individual sessions, she facilitates Single's Seminars with her husband Richard. She can be reached at 415-302-1700 or lorraine@passionpurpose.org

Passion & Purpose - Advice For Men

2008-03-13T17:43:00.000-07:00

Many men find intimate relationships challenging. The reality is that most of us have not experienced being clear and powerful with women. Our culture is confused regarding masculinity and is desperately lacking positive role models. We have had absent or abusive Fathers and in the words of Tyler Derden from Fight Club we are, "a generation of Men raised by Women."

Suffering in the same environment, our Mothers may have turned to us to meet the needs that should have been met by their Father or Husband. Confused and overwhelmed we tried, but were unable to make our Mothers happy. All of this has left us feeling frustrated and powerless in relationships with Women.

Most of us have a hard time understanding our partners or meeting their needs. We have trouble finding the right partner or committing to the one we are with. We may have discovered ways to feel good and have success, but the relationship we desire is elusive. The answer to our problem is retrieving our Masculine Power and understanding how to be in relationship with the Feminine.

All functional cultures have a process for initiating young men into manhood. The young man is taken by Men from the merged Boyhood world of the Mother and initiated into the individuated Manhood world of the Husband/Father. The initiate gains the power to hunt for and protect the feminine. He also learns to be clear and powerful in intimate relationship with all of Life including Women.

Our culture lacks this process and we are suffering the results. Fortunately, this is not a life sentence. This initiation is available from Men who have been given this power and wish to pass it on. Imagine knowing your purpose in life and having the passion to pursue it. Now, imagine knowing how to satisfy your partner's needs in ways that increase your power. Set your intention to find this for yourself and claim the freedom, strength, and pride that is your birthright.

Richard Platt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Richard Platt founded Passion & Purpose, a practice committed to helping men create an inspiring relationship. Integrating wisdom traditions and modern psychology he has designed a unique program to help men discover their power.

He can be reached at richard@passionpurpose.org or 415-760-8541

The Real Cure For Neediness, Clinginess And Manipulation

2008-03-13T17:40:00.000-07:00

HOW SOCIAL SKILLS REALLY WORK

When we talk about social skills as it relates to attracting women, the conversation typically centers around a very finite number of variables.

Most of these variables involve polar opposites with regard to what we as individuals DO and DON'T want evident in our public-facing persona.

For example, most of us would rather not resort to manipulation in order to get what we want in any aspect of life, especially as it pertains to women.

And true to deserving what we want, we absolutely positively don't want to BE manipulated either.

Further, most of us who aren't psychopathic by nature want to be seen as generous towards others in thought, word and deed. You know--the kind of person who makes everyone's life just a bit more fulfilling and exciting just by being around.

But we'd rather not become everyone's doormat in the process, either.

Perhaps most of all, we dread being "needy" or "clingy" and therefore perceived as someone who is an approval seeker. After all, those who SEEK approval are typically viewed by others as the most starved for it, and therefore those LEAST deserving of it naturally.

Yet...every normal red-blooded human being walking this planet desires to be loved...and therefore "approved", by definition.

Ironic, isn't it?

Indeed, we hear ideas about the individual importance of all of these different concepts bantered about every day, from any and every corner of the wide world of "dating advice".

But what we encounter FAR LESS OFTEN is talk about how all of those factors INTERRELATE.
It's relatively easy to dissect each facet of human interaction and describe it in a vacuum. And you bet that can be valuable conversation.

But without the ability combine all of the right moves into that ever-elusive state of "effective social skill", we flat-out will NEVER be able to attain maximum ability to deserve what we want.
So today, once and for all, I'd like to draw all of those components together for you and demonstrate how they interact...even as WE interact with one another.

Because, you see, I believe this is where the "light bulb" is going to go on for many of us.
Much of the time the advice you read about not being needy, avoiding clinginess, and eliminating manipulative tendencies plays something like a Nike ad: "Just Do It". Putting practical concepts behind such ideas can be elusive.

But we've recently discussed practical steps toward actual, tangible confidence (Real Confidence) and masculinity (Power Sessions, VIRTUOSITY) in our programs for guys, and today I'm going to give you the same level of actual, tangible answers regarding the topic at hand.

Last night I was on the phone with one of the guys who is about midway through the Ten-Plus program. He had brought up an interesting issue earlier in the day via e-mail:

"I have realized that all the things I have done to make the changes that I've been making have been for the purpose of obtaining positive responses from people. Perhaps what I've done is valid, but I did it to be liked. I did it to try and manipulate things, namely how people perceive me."

When I called him and started listening to more about what he was getting at, it occurred to me that he actually felt a bit guilty about his newfound ability to elicit very positive reactions from people thanks to recent changes in social habits.

What threw me was that he used the word "manipulate" to describe how he felt he had brought all of this about.

But when I finally grasped exactly what he was feeling, I simply-non-eloquently-stated, "Dude, you aren't a 'manipulator' simply because people are giving you the type of social approval you've always desired. You have every human right to be appreciated--to be approved of. We all want that, and it's not at all a negative thing to enjoy the logical, natural results of being generous, giving, and downright cool towards people. And there's no GUILT in being attractive to women"

The words were more of an epiphany to him than I could have dreamed while I was uttering them.

And the more we discussed, the more the social concepts that repeatedly vex those who struggle with women (and indeed all things social, in many cases) started coming together before our very eyes.

In reality, being AUTHENTIC about wanting to make the lives of those around you better NATURALLY begets approval from those around you.

Others appreciate your social demeanor towards them, and happily reward you. And enjoying that reward, in a very real way VALIDATES your actions towards others.

It's like a self-perpetuating cycle, loosely related to the good-old Golden Rule: You become a man who enriches the lives of others, and your life is enriched to a greater degree.

The secret to success, from a social standpoint, is all in the nature of the outward intentions you have and your ability to execute upon them

Take ANY aspect of this level of social interaction and throw it into disarray, and the entire house of cards comes crashing down.

Here are the four possible sides of what I mean:

1) Offer unconditional validation and goodwill while rejecting validation and goodwill from others
Become a DOORMAT, therefore, and open oneself to easy manipulation. As my friend and I discussed, this can even come off as arrogance, as oddly tragic as that sounds. No matter what, there is no respect for the "giver".

The polar opposite of this state of affairs would be...

2) Feign unconditional positive concern for others, while the real intent is purely selfish gain
This is the very definition of social manipulation.

Now consider the two ends of the spectrum at large...

3) Little positive concern for others, little concern over personal gain.
This illustrates lack of self-respect, and therefore an inability to respect others. This is the stuff personal hopelessness and despair is made of. The "house of cards" has been flattened.
And finally...

4) Genuine unconditional concern for others, expectation of positive response from others.
This is, by definition, what "mutual respect" is all about. In order to truly respect (and therefore enrich) others we MUST hold our own measure of self-respect to a golden standard. We do not allow ourselves to tolerate mistreatment by others, even as we treat others fairly and reasonably.

The "house of cards" is transformed into a "tower of power" at this point.

Do you see now how all of that (respect, approval, neediness, selfishness, selflessness and manipulation) works together?

If not, read this newsletter several times until it starts to make sense. Doing so could illuminate your ability to deserve what you want more than most people will ever comprehend.
Just for good measure, here are some other thoughts that my friend and I discussed on the phone...all pertinent.

1) A "needy" or "clingy" approval-seeker's primary problem is that he is still in his own head, rather than considering others first. "Neediness" means he is preoccupied about getting his own needs met. The one who is willing to prioritize GIVING validation over RECEIVING validation is the one who is more likely to GET validation and approval. This is because such approval is a REWARD rather than something that is demanded.

2) Similarly, RESPECT cannot be demanded effectively anymore than approval. He who respects himself enough to NOT be a doormat, can respect others accordingly. The desired level of respect is therefore naturally "earned" in a "bloodless coup" of sorts. Contrast this with "badboy" guys who "command" respect through fear and intimidation. The "respect" afforded them is hollow, and therefore unfulfilling...especially from women.

3) "Manipulation" is the fake "shadow" of effective social skill. It's an imitation, exactly as "pickup techniques" are an "imitation" of genuine manhood in a social context with attractive women. The manipulator should only expect to effectively manipulate "doormats", who will have no real foundation for bestowing respect, as we've already noted. In other words, "manipulation" cannot bring about genuine respect or approval...only disingenuous imitations thereof.

4) The manipulator is "self-serving", which is a perversion of "self-respecting" in every sense. The manipulator's mindset is not evolved enough to realize that ham fisting one's desired results on one's own terms can only-at best-result in the effect the manipulator himself envisions. Meanwhile...

5) ...He who respects self and therefore others finds that his social rewards are lavished upon him by others on THEIR terms, which very often exceeds imagination's grasp...and typically BETTER and MORE EXCITING than any outcome that could have been manipulated. So by definition, this experience far exceeds any potential hollow "fulfillment"
And ALL OF THE ABOVE, when considered together, should describe once and for all why the sex-focused man complains that women are "dead lays".

Similarly, now you have a clear picture as to why the man who provides leadership with confidence, direction and-most of all-genuine positive concern is the one you'll NEVER hear complaining that there are "no good women in [insert your country here] nowadays".
He operates with a clear conscience. He naturally draws the adoration and respect of those around, especially highly desirable women. It is he who understands how it is a man becomes a "chooser" versus a "chaser".

He deserves what he wants.
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Dating Web Sites - How to Represent the Real You

2008-03-13T17:37:00.001-07:00

Dating internet services are becoming increasingly popular. They appeal to people who are too busy with work and other obligations to get out and meet potential partners. They also appeal to those who are tired of the so-called "dating game" and just want to find somebody with whom they are compatible. Most dating sites work in a similar fashion; you fill out a profile, and perhaps browse others' profiles until you find a potential match.

It sounds easy enough, but having success with a dating site can require a little creativity, honesty, and hard work on your part. Creating an online profile that reflects the real you isn't as simple as it seems; if you've tried to do so, you'll probably understand what I mean. It requires you to be honest - with potential mates and with yourself. At the same time, you need to portray yourself in a positive manner, or else you might scare possible love matches off.

It might help if you approach creating an online profile that reflects the real you as you would a job interview. You need to succinctly and accurately describe the most important characteristics of your personality. You should include things such as likes and dislikes, hobbies and interests, and any other information that you feel is relevant.

At the same time, you don't want to write a novel; your profile should be in-depth enough to generate interest, yet concise enough for a person to read easily. Nobody wants to read a huge wall of text, and may be put off if that's what they're confronted with when they click on your profile.

Before creating an online profile that reflects the real you, stop and think. Put yourself in someone else's shoes - what sorts of things would you want to know about a potential love match? What attracts or repels you to another person's profile? It might also be helpful to ask a close friend or family member for help when you're writing your profile. Sometimes they can alert you to positive qualities that you may have not ever noticed about yourself!

Most importantly, don't rush through the creation of your profile. If you're really serious about finding a partner through a dating site, then give the process the time and effort it deserves. Take the time to upload a photo (or several photos) of yourself, and always, always be sure to use a spellchecker before submitting the written portion of your profile.

If it looks like you've taken your profile seriously, you're more likely to get serious inquiries. Nobody is going to be impressed by a rush job rife with spelling and grammatical errors, nor with a profile lacking a photograph or creative and informative content.

Creating an online profile that reflects the real you can be a challenge, but it's worth giving your best effort. When you sit down at the computer to create your profile, make sure you have the time to devote to it. Pay attention to detail, ask others for their input, and be honest. Also, don't hesitate to be creative! You don't want to be too "out there," but it can't hurt to add a little "oomph" to your profile to make it stand out!

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Getting Back Into the Dating Game

2008-03-13T17:35:00.000-07:00

If you've gone through a divorce and are ready to start going out on dates again, there are a few important things to keep in mind. Sometimes dating after a divorce can be intimidating for a person. Getting back into dating after a divorce can be tough. I have heard some people say that they forget how to date, or that the thrill is gone for them.

Most of the time, what this is really about is insecurity. Getting back on that horse after a divorce can be scary because you've likely had your heart broken by your former partner. Now, your confidence has been shaken and you wonder if you're really up to the task of wooing somebody else. Well you know what? You are. It just takes some practice.

First, though, it's crucial that you're getting back into the game for the right reasons. Don't let your good intentioned family or friends talk you into doing it before you're ready, and don't feel pressure to start seeing other people just because your former husband or wife is doing so. Rushing back into it before you're ready is almost a guaranteed way to ensure that it won't work.
As for the cold feet, just accept that there might be some "first time" jitters, and then get on with it. Recognize that there is a difference between not being ready to date and being nervous about it. It's perfectly acceptable and normal to be nervous! Take solace in the knowledge that it will become easier the more you do it.

Another concern people often have is that they don't know where to meet a potential love interest. Some of them feel like the bar scene no longer interests them. Others might find that everyone in their social circle is spoken for - this is natural, as married couples tend to seek out other married couples for friendship.

But, don't despair. There are alternatives to hitting up bars or relying on your friends set you up on blind dates. For example, online dating is becoming increasingly popular. It gives you the opportunity to meet potential partners without a lot of the hassle that is typically associated with putting yourself out there. Sometimes people who are getting back into dating after a divorce find this method to be the least threatening, as well.

Lastly, don't expect too much too soon. It's fine to date with the ultimate goal of finding that special person to settle down with, but it's not a good idea to be too intense about finding him or her. Remember to enjoy yourself, and treat the process first and foremost as a way to have fun and meet new people.

If you don't have success right away, don't give up. Chalk bad dates up to nothing more than learning experiences or funny stories you can use to entertain your friends. Remember that you have a lot to offer to the right man or woman, and don't settle for someone who doesn't make you happy! Getting back into dating after a divorce doesn't need to be scary - with the right attitude, it can be fun and exciting!

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How To Get Girls

2008-03-13T17:33:00.000-07:00

Want to really find out How to get girls?

One of the factors that a girl looks for is self-control. Calling them three times a day when you just met the girl is not the way to get girls. The most important concept that you must learn to get girls is that less is more. The more hot a girl is, the more guys that will be trying to ask her out. When she meets a dude she wants, she gives them her phone number.

In any given week, she may give her phone number to three guys. One guy, which never gets any girls, calls her the same day, and another guy, who doesn't get girls either, calls her the very next day. Since this girl has been romanced by men all her life, she is always getting phone calls from men trying to ask her out. Most men call the very next day.

If you, the smart person, calls her a week later, then you will be different than everyone else. If you want to get girls, NEVER call them less than 7 days after getting their phone number. The longer a girl has to think about you, the more she will like you. The important thing to is that if she gave you her phone number, then she must be into you.
Do not rush it because you know that she likes you, and as she keeps wondering if you will ever call, she will start to like you more. If you want to get girls, always remember to have self-control.

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How Do You Solve The Riddle of Life - When You're It?

2007-05-10T19:27:00.000-07:00

Let me take you back 24 years in time to the black of a moonless night when the damp cold would sneak through your clothes and bite through flesh right to the bone. It was January 20, but unusually frigid for the moderate climate of that region.

It was the night I was being murdered.

Imagined if you can, a thirty-year old woman clad in a thread-bare nightgown and wearing thin socks instead of slippers. The man in her life had already pushed her down, shoved her hard against walls, and nearly knocked her down a flight of basement stairs. She kept backing away, and backing away until she was in the bathroom, which had a broken door lock. There was no other place to run, to hide, or escape.

He charged in after her and she found there was no place to go but up. She climbed onto the toilet seat - with her feet slipping first off one side of the rim, then the other, while hands gripped her neck and throat. She would have fallen off the commode were it not for those choking hands gluing her head to the wall.

When breathing was no longer possible and words could not be spoken - words that tried to calm the insane rage leveled at her - suddenly a warm, tingly sensation flooded over her, inside her, through her.

The shear terror of witnessing his bright blue eyes change to bloodshot and green in color, full cheeks becoming sunken and taut, and smooth lips becoming cracked and filled with white froth, gave way in an instant to sublime peace. All her fear was completely gone! The distorted face of evil rage had lost its power to frighten. All terror was lifted.

In but a moment of time, that woman - me - experienced a knowingness that no matter how hard he might try to kill me, I would not, could not, die. The flood of energy, which began as a soothing warmth at the top of my head, coursed through my entire body and seemed to pour out of me. My attacker simple stopped, and walked away. (Some time later when I asked why he didn't kill me, he said, "I meant to. I was going to. I don't know why I didn't.") I do. I know why.

My fear was totally absent. His anger had nothing to fight against. There was no resistance.
Now how does this event connect to the Riddle of Life? Herein lies my epiphany. It is my belief that I felt the Eternal Essence of life, and that the glory of Universal energy does not surround us - it permeates us. All the infinite power and love and healing of that energy is ours for the taking. But there is a catch.

This is where "Know Thyself" plays a key role. I attracted this horrible experience because I had deeply rooted low self-worth and felt like a victim in life. By the way, I have long since forgiven that man, and I have forgiven the 'victim' in myself. I let her go.

To solve the riddle of your own life so you can truly enable the Laws of Attraction and Quantum Resonance (which simply means like energy resonates with like energy and draws it in), you must get to know those dark, negative feelings and beliefs that lurk beneath your surface identity. You must clear them! You must release them and let them go. Only then, is your riddle solved.

Are you thinking, "Well, that's a lot easier said than done."? I'm here to tell you that you can access phenomenal resources to help you accomplish the clearing of any dark clutter inside you - and that you really can feel an amazing sense of peace and freedom! It is then that you can create a new, abundant and fulfilling life for yourself. Your dreams and desires will find their wings, and your life purpose and vision will have lasting clarity.

As a large part of my purpose, I sincerely want to help you. That is why I call myself a Personal Life and Soul Coach. Please visit my website and look around, sign up for a free coaching consultation (I have extreme specials on right now!), or write me to ask about specific programs and tools that would be most helpful to you at this stage in your life.

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2006-11-16T08:36:00.000-08:00

Sometimes we need the hell to be scared out of us! Adultery is a living hell. Divorce is a dose of death. Don’t be another casualty of infidelity and divorce. Keep your pants on and don’t wander where you don’t belong. Be forewarned concerning the dangers of adultery.
Adultery is a disguised detour en route to your personal demise. Don’t travel down that dead end street. Read this book and be armed for battle to overcome temptation. Arrest the adversary before he beguiles and destroys you.
Rise up with a renewed purpose and divine force to nullify the attacks of the enemy. Be all you can be! Fight to preserve your personal and marital purity.
Get spiritual food to strengthen you against adultery. We need to be armed with useful weapons with which to war against the enemy. Purpose to prepare your heart for both matrimony and eternity. Your marriage can be heaven on earth!
This perverse and adulterous generation needs a fresh revelation of the repercussions of adultery. The inhabitants of the earth learn righteousness when God’s judgments are in the earth. Truth and justice remedies the pain inflicted by adultery and balances the scales.
Children learn discipline by experiencing punishment. Adults also suffer affliction when they commit adultery. A fearful judgment awaits the adulterer. Wrongdoing is always followed by the consequences of our actions.
Develop a hatred for the enemies of your marriage and learn how to guard against them. Hate evil and prolong your days. Be stripped and strengthened by the Spirit, by which you can overcome the lusts of the flesh.
Paul Davis is author of several books including Adultery: 101 Reasons Not to Cheat; and Breakthrough for a Broken Heart a book telling us "How to overcome disappointments and blossom into your dreams!" He is a minister, life coach (relational & professional), dating expert, popular worldwide keynote speaker, creative consultant, mediator, liberator and dream-maker.
Paul's compassion for people & passion to travel has taken him to over 50 countries of the world where he has had a tremendous impact. Paul has also brought revival to many in war-torn, impoverished and tsunami stricken regions of the earth. His nonprofit organization Dream-Maker Ministries is building dreams and breaking limitations.
Paul's Breakthrough Seminars inspire, revive, awaken, impregnate with purpose, impart the fire of desire, catapult people into a new level of self-awareness, facilitate destiny discovery and dream fulfillment.
Paul can be contacted at: RevivingNations@yahoo.com - 407-967-7553 or 407-282-1745.

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2006-08-11T19:18:00.000-07:00

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When you go to meet your girlfriend or wife's friends for the first time it can be a little stressful even if you have been together awhile. For starters, they have undoubtedly been talking about you for awhile, and God only knows exactly how much they have talked about. In addition to that, for the majority of women I have known, the opinions of their friends are very important to them and therefore should be important to you as well. You need to make a good impression and at the same time not make them fall totally in love with you!

When you go to meet her friend's be confident and introduce yourself as her boyfriend or husband proudly and boldly and show them that you are not intimidated. All women are attracted to confidence. Also, make sure that you pay attention to what they say and do your best to remember their names, use word association tricks if you need to and don't make the mistake of calling one of them another's name. These may seem like inconsequential things, but to women it is a serious issue and makes it look like you just can't be bothered to remember.

Take an active part in the conversations that are going on when you meet the girls; they will be impressed by this as much as by your taking the initiative and introducing yourself. By participating in the conversation you are showing them that you are really interested in what they have to say and in getting to know them. Your wife or girlfriend will appreciate this as well, as long as you don't get to close or flirty! There is a fine line to walk here, don't cross it. If you spend too much time with the girlfriends and leave your girl alone she may think you are too interested in them. This is especially dangerous if your girl tends to be the jealous type anyway, if so I would advise not to have any private conversations at all with any of the other women.

When you are having the conversations, listen more than you talk and try to remember as much information as you can. Afterwards when you and your girlfriend are alone you can make a comment about it or ask a question including the information and this will let your girl know that you were really paying attention. It will also impress the friends when you see them again, for example if one of the friends told you she had a cat named Fluffy, asking, "how's Fluffy?" will get you some brownie points just for remembering.

You know that your girl and her friends talk, and yes they talk about you too. That is why it is so crucial that they like you because if they don't they will do their best to talk her into dumping you and they always have someone else in mind to hook her up with. Just be nice, be a gentleman, be confidant, and whatever you do, don't flirt!

Gregg Hall is an author living in Navarre Florida. Make your girl feel special with sexy lingerie at http://www.sexiestlingerieplus.com

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2006-06-30T19:55:00.000-07:00

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Feelings
By Nancy Arora

What are feelings?Why are feelings?Which are feelings?When are feelings?Feelings, feelings and
feelingsWhen these come to our heart?

Feeling is to feel. But to feel what, to feel for whom, and to feel why. But then also there are feelings.

To feel the sensation of love is known as feeling, or too feel hatred for some one is feeling. To feel good or to feel bad is what, whether it is our state of mind, or the state of our heart.
What lets us to feel all those feelings, whether our mind commands us to do so or our heart automatically feels.

Feeling of sound in silence is also feeling, feeling of happiness in sadness is also feeling. But it can be the other way also. Might be we may feel sadness when there is happiness all around, or we may listen to no sound when there is lots of sound nearby.

Feeling of beauty even when there is no beauty, feeling of being alone when everyone is around us.

Sometimes, we feel love for the person whom we have never met. But then also we have got those feelings for that person which we just cannot express. Because we ourselves don’t know why is this feeling within us. We keep on thinking for that person for days’ and nights and still we don’t have a single reason that why are we feeling all this. We use to feel his/her presence along with us every time. We use to talk even when we are alone, we use to laugh even when there is nothing to laugh and sometimes we even cry but why all these feelings are coming is just not known.

At times we feel melody in the blowing of air, in the flowing of water, in speak less night, in the singing of birds. We feel all this but still we don’t know why is this so, for whom we are feeling all this. Even we don’t know when we started feeling all this.
We are on and on to feel, but we don’t know the reason. We are feeling what, why, we don’t know.

We just feel each and every moment of these feelings. Feelings enter our soul, our heart without letting us to know. But we just feel and feel.

we sit alone in the night watching the twinkling stars and we have a feeling that someone is holding us in his/her arms, we listens to someone's voice, we feel a kind of strength in the blowing of air and lots more.

At times the feelings are for that person with whom we are in touch. We feel love for the people we meet; we feel hatred for the people we meet. In any case whether we know that person or we don’t know person we have feelings but when these come within us, we just don’t know. We just feel and ask ourselves.

So, just feel, don’t rum behind that why they are there for whom they are there. Your own feelings will some day answer you about all this. So feel the feelings, as one day these feelings will themselves let you know about their being in your life.

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2006-06-14T19:31:00.000-07:00

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The Sex Trap: When Singles Confuse Sex and LoveBy David Steele

As I had my morning coffee, the "Dear Abby" column caught my eye. A reader wrote in with a dating dilemma and ended her letter with that often-heard stereotype that "Women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex." This is a great summation of the "Sex Trap."

For singles who fall into the Sex Trap, having sex carries immense meaning and consequences.

Singles fall into the Sex Trap in one (or both) of two ways:

A. they believe sex is a necessary test of compatibility, (if the sex is good then the relationship will be good as well)

B. more commonly, all consciousness goes out the window, and one or both formerly level-headed singles consider themselves a committed couple as soon as they have sex.

So, rather than looking at whether this other person might be a match on levels other than physical attraction — such as long-term requirements, needs, and wants — they are blind-sided by the chemistry under the covers.

Chemicals and Chemistry

No doubt, it can be challenging to keep in touch with reality when all those hormones are running wild. Our body reacts to someone we are attracted to by producing hormones such as PEA or phenylethylamine (natural amphetamine), dopamine and norepinephrine (natural mood enhancers), and testosterone (increases sexual desire), which makes the opportunity to have sex with someone we are attracted to extremely hard to resist. Then, after orgasm, we produce oxytocin (which acts on the hypothalamus to produce emotions), which makes us feel very close to and bonded with our sex partner.

These chemical reactions are involuntary and strong, leading to powerful feelings of attraction, excitement, love, closeness, and well-being.

But when problems arise, those who fall into the Sex Trap often rationalize by thinking, "Well, we've got problems, but the sex is great!" They most likely wouldn't admit it, but they prioritize physical intimacy and regard the rest as optional. Their main tool for making a partner choice is sexual attraction and physical compatibility.

A Guy Thing?

Barry North, a relationship coach who works primarily with gay men, says that many of his clients have fallen into the Sex Trap.

"For gay men especially in metropolitan areas, sex is readily available, and that in itself is a trap," North says. "In addition, the culture, with its emphasis on physical appearance, encourages sexual activity. Many gay men want to find out from the beginning if a potential partner is going to be sexually compatible. Why waste your time if the sex isn't going to be good?"

Nonetheless, North adds, "I suspect this is a 'guy' thing rather than a 'gay' thing."

I do want to point out that chemistry is important. Yet, chemistry is a given that we can't control in a relationship; it is either there or not there, and it must be there for the partnership to work. If not there, we can't "make" chemistry happen, though sometimes it can grow over time.

Singles who pursue a relationship based upon sexual chemistry risk relationship failure when the hormone-induced intoxication wears off and reality hits.

For Conscious Dating: Combine Chemistry with Common Sense

To avoid the Sex Trap, you must balance your heart (and hormones) with your head. This means combining chemistry with common sense. While good sex is important for a sustainable relationship, you need to make your partner choices by paying full attention to your vision, values, goals and requirements — while feeling all those exciting sparks!

Copyright 2006 David Steele

David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of the ground-breaking new book for singles Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World. http://www.consciousdating.com/book.htm

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How To Attract Exactly Who You Want

Do you wish you could attract exactly who you want? Do you want to have more dates and more choices? Would you like to meet the person of your dreams? Perhaps you need to discover the rules of attraction.

There are five rules that will bring you more of what you want: more choices, more love, and more happiness. When clients come to me looking for a relationship, we concentrate on these rules of attraction. Following these rules puts them in control of their destiny.

Five Rules of Attraction to Get Exactly Who You Want

1. Look for signs of love.
Change your negative picture that love does not exist. Since your thoughts become your reality, you need to look for signs of love between a man and a woman. If you do not think love happens except in the movies, it may take you a while to see it in others. But it is out there. Start writing down the positive examples of love that you see. This will become your book of evidence that you can refer to when you get discouraged. These new examples become some of your new thoughts.

2. Believe that you will find love.
If you believe that you can find your mate, you will. If you believe that you can't, you won't. Other people have found their soul mate...you can too.

3. Focus on what you want.
We get what we focus on. Think about what kind of relationship you would like to have. Dream big. Make a list of the top ten qualities you would like to have in another. Whenever your thoughts and feelings go to hopeless, change your thoughts. Cut pictures out of a magazine that show a man and a woman enjoying their time together, whether walking on a beach or sharing a candlelit dinner. Post these pictures in a place where you can see them often. When you look at them several times a day, see yourself in that picture.

4. Surround your vision of the relationship you want with feeling.
When you look at pictures of couples having fun, or when you see others enjoying each other, imagine that you are doing the same. Feel it happening to you. See yourself having the relationship you have always wanted.

5. Become the person you are looking for.
This is the most important law of attraction. You attract who you are. What kind of person do you want to find? Are you that person? Get busy becoming the wonderful person you would like to share your life with. If you are depressed or despairing, get help. Remember to fill yourself with positive energy by doing activities that you love. Sort out your finances, handle your past baggage, make your living environment something you are proud of that gives you peace and comfort, and surround yourself with friends and family members who support you. It is from this space that you create someone who will love you.
And finally, be a generous spirit...to yourself and to others. We find someone to love when we love ourselves in a kind and nurturing way. You deserve to love and be loved. And remember...someone waits for you.

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Book Review: SEDUCTION SCIENCE

First glace at the Seduction Science system smacks like a shameless ad for the latest "miracle product." It promises everything:

Strip shyness
Get women wet instantly
Templates that offers "ten sure-fire ways to get laid."
Conversastional hypnosis that kicks her lust onto overdrive!

Truly exciting, but before coughing the cash, let's look at it closely.

Is it bull... or the next best thing to transforming into Tom Cruise? I bought the book to slough away the hype and peek behind thecurtain of near-nude women to help you make an informed decision.

You receive four e-books. This means instantaneous access. Get your ink cartridges ready!

The system is well organized, attractively laid out and ready to get you laid. More than 150 pages, you'll end up giving Epson a workout.

But is it worth it?

Contents follow the format of magazine article: warm and encouraging. You'll kick off with mind-spinning exercises for supreme relaxation and utter confidence. Based on NLP, the exercises don't even require that you understand what "NLP" means. But don't fret -- the exercises march by in easy, by-the-numbers layout.

It's vital that set aside 2 hours a day to run the exercises to master the books. All in all, you'll find them practical, potent and very natural (no crazy phrases to rote memorize!) You'll master feeling positive, launching killer opening line, and hypnotic conversational mastery.

It's obvious: I like it. I learned much despite my prior background as a seasoned NLP Practitioner.

The first volume offers specific action plans. You learn what to do and say. This is the spoon feeding part. From there, discussion moves on to building a framework of seduction whereby you build up with your own technique. What you create ultimately exceeds those narrated in the book. Imagine creating killer "moves" on the fly so you can get physical fast.

Each chapter closes with real world pickup strategies.

The second book bursts with image projection mastery tips. You need to go slow here because everything is a gold mine! Some topics:

* power dressing* getting better teeth* building your body for ultimate sexiness.* Alluring hygiene.

In the third volume, you enter the world of online pickups. Everything from finding the right chat mate to building up online sexual tension is covered.

The last book, "3 Master Keys to Pick-Up Lines," covers the best tactics of breaking the ice and building attraction under specific environments. It's short: 16 pages and serves as a good reference.

Closing Comments

Seduction Science may not win laurels as the ultimate source of attraction techniques to win women, but it does offer solid, practical and practicable methods to to winning women and developing fantastic relationships. Backed by 365 day money back guarantee and 60 days of live coaching, I say it may be one of the better $40 investments you'll make.

My cousin borrowed the book last December. My jaw dropped when he got laid that night.

Check out Seduction Science website. They have mounds of free articles even if you don't buy the book.

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The Truth About Attraction
By Derek Vitalio

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So many guys think you can improve your sexual quality by learning all sorts of special techniques. Sure, those are nice – but they’re closer to window dressing than the heart of the matter. What you REALLY need to do is engage her brain, activate her fantasies – and become that which TRULY turns her on. You’ll like this exercise

I want you to close your eyes. I want you to close your eyes and continue reading through squinty eyelids that you shut whenever you get enough info to run with it.

Now, I want you to think of the HOTTEST image you can.

It can be something you’ve done, something you’ve seen done, or just something you’ve dreamt of doing.

Paint the full picture. Really let yourself go, get randy, get to the point where it’s tough to just sit there without doing something ABOUT this amazing fantasy.

Once you’ve gotten the picture firmly in your head and you’ve, uh, concluded it, take a few moments to reflect.

What was it about the fantasy that turned you on?

It’s not the size of the wave, OR the motion of the ocean?

Now I don’t claim to have ANY idea what you personally find exciting, but I’m prepared to make a few generalities that will almost CERTAINLY apply.

It might have been location-specific, or person-specific, or attitude-specific.

But it wasn’t technique-specific.

What I mean by this is, you might have been on a secluded beach with three other ladies lapping at you – but you weren’t concerned with the exact motion of the flicks of their tongues (even if you know it through vivid imagination).

If you were making out, it might have been the EXCITEMENT of doing it in a hotel pool with lots of balconies around – but not the pattern of suction she applied to your lips.

Or if you were eating sushi off some naked Asian beauty, it was the fact that you were EATING SUSHI OFF SOME NAKED ASIAN BEAUTY, and didn’t have much to do with how you held the chopsticks.

Where are we going here?

Technique isn’t important. Ok, it’s important – but only in a secondary kind of way.

You’ve been duped too long!

‘Wait,’ you think, ‘What about Susie Q. who did this thing it drove me wild, that was technique!’

Yeah, that can happen. But only when you already LIKE someone, for the most part. Susie Q. already got you excited – so you were LOOKING for something to turn you wild. You were just helping her along.

Now, there are rare instances of a woman who has such AMAZING technique that she’ll keep her men around just for that.

But trust me, those are EXTREMELY rare instances, both because of the skill necessary and because, well, most men need something MORE than the pure physical pleasure of pleasing touches.

Don’t get me wrong, the pleasing touches are wonderful – they just can’t do the job alone.

Now, bearing in mind what it is that REALLY turns men on, remember this – for women, it’s even MORE about the fantasy and LESS the physicality.

Up to ten times more, in some cases.

And what is it that most books or programs try to teach a man to help his sex life?

Yep, techniques.

Hey, it can be handy to know the 1 o’clock hot spot or the Frisbee hold… in the same way it can be handy to know where the salad fork goes.

These things can help make an event that much more special, but if you can’t COOK, they don’t mean much.

So, sexually, how do you COOK?

Simple. You’ve got to plug into your lady’s brain.

Engage her mind, find out and then ACT OUT her fantasies. Don’t worry so much about stroke order until you’ve mastered the more ephemeral parts of sex.

And how do you do that?

If I had to sum it up in two words, I’d say Inner Confidence.

You need to be so COMFORTABLE in your sexual skin that you RELAX her. So OPEN and at ease that you bypass her nerves and shyness (and most women – even gregarious ones – are shy when you get to sexual fantasies).

You need to make her feel ok being open and vulnerable with you. And you do that not through cooing and being a girlie-man – but by being open and confident and completely natural about everything.

And then you need to LEAD her.

If her comfort and trust are what open the door, you’ve gotta take her hand and help her through it.

Think about it – you can NEVER achieve this sort of openness and freedom with another spontaneously or just because you WANT to – it MUST be actively brought out by your partner.

And then, once you’ve got access to her fantasies, start making them come TRUE. Trust me, if you truly get in her head, you can make a woman orgasm without even TOUCHING her.

And if you’ve got a lady having that much fun, she’s going to INSIST on sharing the pleasure.

So now you know WHAT to do – the question is HOW?

Where’s that recipe?

The answer is from WITHIN yourself. This is entirely an inside-to-outside enterprise.

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2006-06-11T01:24:00.000-07:00

Attracting Women Tips

How to REALLY Win Friends and Influence People
By Derek Vitalio

There’s a popular belief that you need to have a certain approach to have any success. Like for instance, you have to be extroverted and entertaining to get the ladies. It just ain’t so – the ONLY thing that matters is your relaxed CONFIDENCE and the way you PROJECT that confidence, using your body. After that, it’s just a matter of picking your own style.

Alright, what will fetch you more success – being introverted or extroverted?

I know you think YOU know what I want you to say. And maybe you’re right. After all, it’s a lot easier for extroverts to meet people than introverts, eh? There’s no doubting it. And extroverts also tend to be more personable, faster to charm, soakers of attention… while introverts often are alone in a corner.

BUT – and this is a big one – all the things that seem GOOD about an extrovert can be turned around on them. They can come off as insincere, eager to please, all that sort of negative stuff.

And the INTROVERT can come off as mysterious, confident, at home in his skin… all that sort of positive stuff.

No, really

I have a friend who is VERY shy, but he gets tons of ladies. How? He lets everyone else talk and blab and yabber away, all these guys trying to impress the women, and he just calmly listens from the edge of the group. Then, when he sees an opening, BAM, he makes one extremely insightful biting comment.

Usually the talkers sort of fade away after that, their confidence shattered by ONE well-thought out comment. My friend gradually takes a larger role in the discussion through cajoling, but for the most part he just LISTENS and saves everything up for an occasional GEM.

I’m not saying that introvert is the way to go, or that you should be gregarious all the time. In truth, a little of this and a little of that at different moments is the best approach, but it DOESN’T REALLY MATTER.

BOTH can work. Both DO work. Because the REAL discussion on this issue isn’t about how talkative you are.

That scale, taken alone, is meaningless. You could never shut up and it could be great or horrible – you could never say a word, same thing, it’s NOT about how much you talk or even how many conversations you start.

So what is it about?

What it REALLY is about is RELAXED CONFIDENCE. And you can act confident saying everything OR nothing.

This is just a roundabout way of me reinforcing one of my favorite points: it’s NOT what you say, it’s HOW you say it.

It’s in the attitude and the BODY language.

Am I a teacher? Or your inner smarty pants?

And of course you KNOW all this, deep in your bones. I’m just verbalizing it – which hopefully will make it easier to ACT using this knowledge.

For instance, if I show you two guys, one quietly leaning against a post with a sardonic smile, the other approaching EVERYONE with a nervous grin and speaking WAY too fast, barely breathing – which one do you think is more likely to go home with a girl?

Or if there’s a dude who has a relaxed funny answer to everything and plenty of interesting anecdotes and stories – and another guy is hunched over in a booth toying with his coaster and afraid to make eye contact with anyone, who’s getting the girl?

Congratulations, you’re right on both counts.

Because you already KNOW what you have to do.

In fact, MOST guys know EXACTLY what they have to do to get any woman at any time. It’s buried in our BONES, sometimes deeply, but it’s there.

Why, then, don’t we always GET the girl?

Good question, sad answer.

Man, men are screwy

Most of the time, it’s just because we’re SCARED to do it. Introverts and extroverts are BOTH convinced that THEY have a problem which prevents them from doing what they NEED to. The problem may seem different – introverts usually can’t get up the bravura needed, extroverts usually have too much nervous energy to listen to their knowledge when they need it – but in truth, it’s the SAME problem.

Because it’s just a matter of a limiting belief. You don’t think you can, and like the little engine’s evil twin, you can’t.

How’re we going to fix this huge little problem of ours?

This time, we’re getting at it from the outside in.

Practice time

We’re going to CARRY ourselves like we’ve got a great working relationship with our own knowledge, AND that we can act on it anytime it’s called for.

And pretty soon, it’ll become true.

If you’re extremely extroverted, practice THINKING before you say some things, make sure it’s the right thing to say. Don’t be afraid to take your time, everyone will still be listening two seconds from now.

If you’re too introverted, practice DOING exactly what you’re thinking. Even if it seems crazy and you’re ‘sure’ everyone else will hate it. Trust me, even if it bombs completely, it’s not that bad. And more likely, everyone will LOVE it because THEY know it’s the right thing too – they were just waiting for someone ELSE to do or say it.

As always, carry yourself standing tall. Expand yourself, don’t shrink (this especially goes for the heavier-set, who have a tendency to try and hide their belly which, ironically, makes it look larger as you slouch and double it up). Eliminate your eager language – no close talkers here. No soft talkers either – if you aren’t speaking loud enough for people near you to hear, you’re telling them ‘I’m not saying anything important’ or, worse, ‘I have ZERO confidence.’

Don’t get hung up on how MUCH or little you speak – just try to say everything with RELAXED CONFIDENCE.

That’s it. That’s ALL you need to worry about. Do everything else in the style and with the frequency that’s most comfortable to you – because you want to be as COMFORTABLE in your skin as possible. That’s the key.

Stop worrying over the things you THINK are hurdles, and start concentrating on the ones that really ARE in your way – things which you placed there yourself.

Get rid of them, and NOTHING will be able to stop you.

Check out my Seduction Science System which includes my Palm Reading ebook free of charge and you’ll see exactly what I mean – it will help you become a more desirable man in EVERY phase of the game.

Until Next Time,
Derek Vitalio

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Attracting women tips

2006-06-11T00:48:00.000-07:00

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