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Don't take responsibility for someone else's actions - 5 min

2009-06-19T14:42:00.000-07:00

Don't take responsibility for someone else's actions - 5 min

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How to deal with emotional harassment - ARTICLE

2009-06-18T09:18:00.001-07:00

That's a key skill in life:

How to set up boundaries when others are systematically invading your space or even abusing you emotionally.

This can happen in relationships or with exes.

It can happen in social circles, at work or with family members.

It takes the form of over emotional reaction to things you do.

You end up feeling like you walk on egg shells all the time, afraid of making mistakes that will call for emotional retaliation from those who abuse you.

This emotional retaliation can take many forms.

Sometimes it is expressed in the form of projected emotional anger.

It can be physical abuse.

Other times it might simply be silent treatment.

You feel there is tension build up but nothing is being said.

These patterns are called cohercive power.

They are an expression of threat.

The principle is the same as any form of threat.

When someone expresses cohercive power, their goal is to conquer, dominate and get things their way.

People use threat all the time against each other.

If you start observing it in daily life, you will see dozens of examples popping up all around you.

Any time a person uses threat either against you or someone else, observe what happens.

On one side, you have an angry person wanting to have control or power.

On the other side, you have another person wanting to avoid emotional pain.

If you take this to a wider scale, you will see that nations use the same dynamics against each other.

They use military threat.

This is still cohercion, simply expressed on a larger scale.

Now, that we defined emotional threat or harassment, the next question is:

What do you do with it, especially if you are the victim of it?

Well... Suppose that you are the victim of some bullying form, the reason why it happens is because part of you lets it happen.

In probably 80% of the cases, the person who is victim from this harassment forgets to stand up for themselves.

Suppose that an ex bothers you for instance.

They keep calling and invade your space.

You can say something like:

"Look, I don't have time for that - I hear you and wish I could do something about it but I can't - Let's talk about this another time - I have to go..."

DONE!

I know, it takes courage and power to do that.

You can practice this with anyone who steps on your toes.

The moment they no longer can reach you, they usually start looking for another victim.

If you are strong and put strategic walls to protect yourself from them, it literally takes you 5 min to shift a negative pattern that might have been there for years!

What if someone else is the victim of this emotional harassment and you want to help?

That's like a whole new skill.

We'll cover that one another time, ok?

To your power!

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You get more of what you focus on + 4 more tips

2009-06-17T10:47:00.001-07:00

Some quick tips on life mastery and the art of manifesting!

Choose life mastery as your life target - TIP

Your wish is my command! - TIP

So many of the problems you can face come from a lack of clarity in regard to objectives and goals - TIP

You get more of what you focus on - TIP

Choose life mastery as your life target - TIP

2009-06-17T10:40:00.000-07:00

Life mastery is a REALLY cool life target because it puts everything into perspective and gives you a long term goal to thrive for!

Instead of seeing challenges as isolated events, you start realizing that these hurdles are interconnected and that the lerger purpose of all that is for you to become and better, more powerful human being.

You know you reached a high degree of life mastery when you feel this sense of ownership over your life!

Events are no longer “happening” to you!

You start consciously creating and designing them!

To your power!

Why choose life mastery as your life target - 6 min - VIDEO

2009-06-17T10:37:00.001-07:00

Why choose life mastery as your life target - 6 min

Life mastery is a REALLY cool life target because it puts everything into perspective and gives you a long term goal to thrive for!

Instead of seeing challenges as isolated events, you start realizing that these hurdles are interconnected and that the lerger purpose of all that is for you to become and better, more powerful human being.

You know you reached a high degree of life mastery when you feel this sense of ownership over your life!

Events are no longer “happening” to you!

You start consciously creating and designing them!

To your power!

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Joy wins! ALWAYS! - FIGHT for your happiness! - 5 min - VIDEO

2009-06-17T10:26:00.001-07:00

Joy wins! ALWAYS! - FIGHT for your happiness! - 5 min

This video is about happiness and how to CONQUER it!

Your happiness is VERY precious and once you realize it is a quality you can REALLY fight for, the whole game changes!

It is your right to do whatever it takes to get it!

To your power!

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PS: more vids on the same topic:

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Check the latest videos...

2009-06-17T10:09:00.001-07:00

These are short 6 min power kicks that tackle a specific life challenge!

These are keys to boost your personal power and gain a greater sense of ownership over your life

CARPE DIEM! - Seize the day! - 6 min

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This last one explain a simple technique to erradicate conflity out of your life!

You can use with relationships, friends, colleagues at work. You can practice it and once you are very good idea, you can diplomatically bring back peace where there was potential for tension.

To your power!

Enjoy!

> Keys to happiness - WATCH THIS...

2009-06-17T10:02:00.001-07:00

Keys to happiness

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Keys to happiness

Here is what is discussed in this video

Your happiness battle plan

Life coach - Francisco Bujan

You are in charge!

Your thoughts, emotions and feelings and in your territory

You are the one who has the greatest influence over them

Happiness is inimately linked with your energy level

Positive action leads to increase in energy

more happiness!

Life coaching with Francisco Bujan

Keys to happiness easily

+ More key strategies on Keys to happiness

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Keys to happiness

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>>>> How do you find happiness - 5 MIN VIDEO

2009-06-17T09:58:00.001-07:00

How do you find happiness

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How do you find happiness

Here is what is discussed in this video

Your happiness battle plan

Life coach - Francisco Bujan

You are in charge!

Your thoughts, emotions and feelings and in your territory

You are the one who has the greatest influence over them

Happiness is inimately linked with your energy level

Positive action leads to increase in energy

more happiness!

Life coaching with Francisco Bujan

How do you find happiness easily

+ More key strategies on How do you find happiness

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How do you find happiness

Check these as well! – All this material is instant access!

How do you find happiness – E-BOOKS

How do you find happiness – VIDEOS

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>> Finding happiness - WATCH THIS...

2009-06-17T09:50:00.001-07:00

Finding happiness

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http://vitalcoaching.com/coaching.htm

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Finding happiness

Here is what is discussed in this video

Your happiness battle plan

Life coach - Francisco Bujan

You are in charge!

Your thoughts, emotions and feelings and in your territory

You are the one who has the greatest influence over them

Happiness is inimately linked with your energy level

Positive action leads to increase in energy

more happiness!

Life coaching with Francisco Bujan

Finding happiness easily

+ More key strategies on Finding happiness

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Finding happiness

Check these as well! – All this material is instant access!

Finding happiness – E-BOOKS

Finding happiness – VIDEOS

Finding happiness – AUDIOS

Finding happiness – MORE!

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>>>> How to set goals - WATCH THIS...

2009-06-16T13:01:00.001-07:00

How to set goals

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How to set goals

Here is what is discussed in this video

Want results?

Focus on your top target for 30 days!

You get more of what you focus on

Distractions

Concentraing your energy

Mind focus

Action

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How to set goals easily

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How to set goals

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>>> Goal setting - WATCH THIS 6 MIN VID...

2009-06-16T12:49:00.001-07:00

Goal setting

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Goal setting

Here is what is discussed in this video

Want results?

Focus on your top target for 30 days!

You get more of what you focus on

Distractions

Concentraing your energy

Mind focus

Action

Life coaching with Francisco Bujan

Goal setting easily

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CLARIFY YOUR OBJECTIVES - Find out first what you want! - 4 min - VIDEO

2009-06-16T12:38:00.001-07:00

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CLARIFY YOUR OBJECTIVES - Find out first what you want! - Vision - Plan - Action path

Let go of what you can't control - 5 min

2009-06-16T07:26:00.001-07:00

Let go of what you can't control - 5 min

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The easiest way to overcome an addiction is to replace it by a positive one - TIP

2009-06-16T03:38:00.001-07:00

If you feel there is an addiction you no longer want in your life, the best way to go is to replace this negative addiction by a postive one.

Your mind needs that focus and almost fanatical focus.

That's the energy sustaining the negative addiction.

This energy needs to find a new channel of expression when you get rid of a negative addictive behavior.

How does it look like?

You shift from overeating to being totally fanatical about your nutrition habits.

You shift from a masturbation addiction to being totally dedicated to your tantric sex practices.

You destroy a smoking addiction and turn this energy into super healthy life style choices.

The point is that you don't want to suppress that source of energy and power which creates the addiction, you want to redirect it and use it positively for a new purpose!

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MUSIC! - Harmonic connections between human beings - TIP

2009-06-16T03:32:00.000-07:00

Music is a way of communicating.

It touches more the intuition and the emotions than the rational mind.

It has this inherent power to bring together and synchronize crowds.

Now, sending a vibe out has the same type of impact.

The language you use is both rational and intuitive, right?

When you communicate, remember that the "commentary" to your message is as important or even more than what you physically say.

This unspoken message is all the non verbal part of what you say.

It can be your tone or voice or body language but there is more than that of course:

There is the radiance as well.

What you transmit in a pure energy form.

Yes! This vibration is like music!

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Your wish is my command! - TIP

2009-06-16T03:30:00.000-07:00

Yes, many forces at play are ready to respond to your orders and directions.

This is what you can understand right now.

Energies respond instinctually to directions and this is the essence of manifesting reality.

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So many of the problems you can face come from a lack of clarity in regard to objectives and goals - TIP

2009-06-16T03:27:00.000-07:00

ABSOLUTELY!

The moment your objectives are clearer, it opens the path to success and manifestation.

When your objectives are not clear you can be trapped in conflicting interests and distractions.

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You get more of what you focus on - TIP

2009-06-16T03:24:00.000-07:00

Yes!

When your mind is focused on negative possible outcomes, it is negative outcomes you tend to attract.

When you envision success it is succes your tend to attract.

Positiveness attracts positive experiences.

That's the essence of the law of attraction.

I agree! It is not the only element playing a role in manifesting the reality you want but it is one that plays a super important role.

If it is success you want, focus more on success.

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How do you help someone who expresses unhappy self defeating mind sets? - ARTICLE

2009-06-16T03:16:00.002-07:00

When you try to help someone who is in a self defeating attitude, they will usually resist the change you propose.

Why because a negative mind set is still a comfort zone.

People will often say they want to change but when the change process starts taking place, they will often resist it, step back and try to avoid the catalytic forces you use to stimulate that change.

Yes! This emotional reaction is logical - It is a reaction of fear to the unknown.

The question is "How do you handle that resistance as a friend, family member or coach?"

What do you do every time someone withdraws their energy or input just when you are about to break through?

Basically, they retreat in their well known self defeating mind sets.

What do you do when this happens without feeling like you need to carry them energy wise.

Ok!

An important shift needs to happen at that moment!

The reason they shift their mind or withdraw is because energy wise, they will get more energy from you if they resist.

The partnership you create when they start moving forward is based on the combination of your two energies.

When they slow down or resist, it would usually force you to put up a higher level of power to keep that ship going.

If they complain, say it is not working, it is simply their way of offering resistance so that you feed that partnership more.

It is a power game!

It is a battle between your mind set and their mind set!

Once you understand that, you need a new posture to stand in so that their emotional reaction does not touch you.

You need an instinctual instant response so that specific moment.

Here are the options:

Force to move forward whatever doubts or resistances the person has
Let them take the lead and redefine the goals or shift directions if they want to
Let them know what they are doing and telling them about these dynamics we just mentioned
Challenge or attack them.
Dissolve the relationship on the spot and stop working with them as soon as they show resistance
Don't work with them in the first place when you foresee that type of problem or behavior.
Simply agree with what they want
Simply shift target instantly and let them reorient according to the new targets or needs

The thing that you need to understand is that they don't actually want you to succeed!

It is your mind set against their mind set.

Your energy reality (positive, outgoing, fresh, etc) against their energy reality(depressed, unhappy, moody, self defeating, etc)

When these two energy realities enter in conflict within a discusion or coaching session for instance, they will do anything they can to stick to their mind set and defend their position.

It is a battle for securing their mind set.

Yes! It is a contradiction because this mind set makes them unhappy but it is logical because they are "comfortable" with that mind set.

If someone has been living in a swamp for their whole life, the idea of moving to a sunny beach location is threatening!

It means change.

It is the same type of change process people face when they shift from unhappy to happy.

It's a profound transformation of their inner beliefs and emotional base.

This is why they are afraid to step out of that unhappy comfort zone: it is because unhappiness has become their base.

They are familiar with it.

When you bombard them with positiveness, it challenges that base.

This is why all the resistance builds up!

Yes! There is a perfect response to that.

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Obsviously, challenging or attacking could strongly reinforce the conflicting attitudes.

Instead, you need to give them the control seat and let them realize that they are in charge!

If they want to stop, you stop on the spot!

Why? Because you have other friends or clients and if they can't go faster, you will go faster with someone else.

This stays their agenda, always.

Even if they feed their agenda with negative self limiting beliefs and target changes.

It is their right to stand still if they want to.

You get addicted to the chemicals associated with the emotions you express the most - ARTICLE

2009-06-16T03:16:00.001-07:00

Mind objects are everything that goes on in your mind, not just thoughts.

They are emotions and feelings as well.

A mind object has a life on its own.

In your neuronet, it represents a very specific set of connections with the whole stream of biochemical reactions associated with it.

This life of thought forms, emotions and feelings is REAL!

Every time you experience an emotion, this emotion is translated into a very specific boost of certain chemicals in your brain and body.

You have the chemicals of happiness, fear, joy, pleasure, etc.

Here is the key element to understand: you get addicted to the chemicals associated with the specific emotional reactions you are used to.

Why addiction?

Because the moment you stop having that specific emotion you are used to, our body misses it!

The part of our body that fed itself from that specific chemical no longer gets its "food".

So, you will often recreate that emotion simply to have a new boost in the specific biochemical associated with that emotions.

I know... I immensely simplified this whole neuroscience concept, but basically this is it!

You are chemically addicted to the emotions you are used to have.

Here is the next key:

This addiction happens not only for positive emotions but for negative ones as well.

This means that when you try to change a negative self belief into a positive one, your body sends out chemical signals calling for the old negative pattern.

This happens until you consciously create new positive mind sets after retraining your brain into positive mind patterns.

This is essential to understand because it is one of the reasons you might keep reproducing negative minds sets even though you no longer want them!

It is literally because your body is addicted to these negative mind sets.

If you are aware of this phenomenon, you can consciously shift patterns and observe the chemical "call" without responding to it.

You see it! You don't let it trigger you.

Understand that negative mind patterns still feed your body and mind.

Even if they are not perfect, they are still an invisible architecture that sustains your life.

When you are used to negative thinking, these mind sets are your vehicle.

You know everything about how they work.

You are familiar with them.

The idea os shifting to a new shiny positive beliefs set can be challenging because you still don't own that new vehicle.

You have to make it yours!

This is why so many people retreat in negative mind sets!

It is because they are used to them!

This process of transformation from negative to positive is a transition period in which you shift patterns one at a time.

Understanding better the dynamics that could hold you back is one of the key ingredients to your success!

Enjoy!

I feel I missed the boat - ARTICLE

2009-06-16T03:15:00.000-07:00

This is a self limiting belief like any other.

It is regret + Feeling sorry for yourself.

The boat is still there by the harbour ready to take you anywhere you want.

The key is to learn from life experiences and not repeat mistakes.

Suppose, there was an opportunity at a given moment in your life and you didn't take it.

What would you do if that opportunity was there today?

Would you take it?

If the answer is yes, then you learned from your experience and you can move on to new opportunities.

The truth is that opportunities are right there ready to be grabbed, today!

They might be different opportunities than the ones you had last year or 20 years ago but they are still chances to jump on the success wagon, try something new and take new risks.

Here is what happens when you dwell in what could have been: you are just looking for an excuse not to take action today!

It is that simple!

This mind set is just an excuse not to take risks today and retreat in self limiting beliefs.

Why do you retreat in these self limiting beliefs? Because they are familiar to you.

You say you don't like them but still they magnetize you back to very specific mind frames and emotional states.

The reason why you keep falling back into these patterns is really because you know them well.

They come in conversations with friends.

You journal about them.

You go into self talk mode and revisit all these specific moments.

Who is feeding these patterns?

You!

What happens the moment you stop feeding them?

They DIE!

That's right! A negative mind set can't survive if you stop feeding it.

Thought forms are mind objects!

They are "alive" and they feed from your life force!

The moment you reject them, they have no place to go and die out naturally!

They are replaced by new positive energy patterns you consciously create!

Got that?

Your mind is your territory and you have the power to design EVERYTHING that goes on in it.

All you have to do is stop the victimization cycle and start gaining back control!

Of course, you might have to wrestle with some negative beliefs but you know that the moment you stop feeding them, they disappear.

So, how do you turn a negative pattern like "I feel I missed the boat" into an empowering one?

You identify the exact mind sets you want to have instead!

Here are some examples of positive mind sets that work better than the negative one you started with:

My life is full of opportunities!
I am in charge and will create whatever I decide to create!
The boat is right there waiting for me to jump in and engage in a new life course.
Etc,

See how it works?

You CREATE new mind sets and start consciously feeding those.

You are the designer of your life - You are in charge! - 5 min - VIDEO

2009-06-15T06:38:00.001-07:00

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