Reflections of ME! Enigmatic SGL Nigerian Fella!

Daily sex makes for healthier sperm

2009-06-30T17:00:00.001-04:00

There was an article I came across and I just couldnt get over it... heheh... an excuse to keep beating the monkey everyday!

LONDON (Reuters) - Having sex every day improves the quality of men's sperm and is recommended for couples trying to conceive, according to new research.

Until now doctors have debated whether or not men should refrain from sex for a few days before attempting to conceive with their partner to improve the chance of pregnancy.
But a new study by Dr David Greening of Sydney IVF, an Australian center for infertility and in vitro fertilization (IVF) treatment, suggests abstinence is not the right approach.
He studied 118 men with above-average sperm DNA damage and found the quality of their sperm increased significantly after they were told to ejaculate daily for seven days.
On average, their DNA fragmentation index -- a measure of sperm damage -- fell to 26 percent from 34 percent, Greening told the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology in Amsterdam Tuesday.

Frequent sex does decrease semen volume but for most men this is not a problem.
"It seems safe to conclude that couples with relatively normal semen parameters should have sex daily for up to a week before the ovulation date," he said in a statement.
"In the context of assisted reproduction, this simple treatment may assist in improving sperm quality and ultimately achieving a pregnancy."
Greening said it was likely frequent ejaculation improved the quality of sperm by reducing the length of time they were exposed to potentially damaging molecules called reactive oxygen species in the testicular ducts.

And we lost him!!!

2009-06-26T11:14:00.002-04:00

My question is where were you when you heard Michael died?? I was sleeping and text messages kept on coming through, I couldnt believe it, I watched all the Canadian stations and they all confirmed it but CNN wont confirm it until the coroner phoned in! I shed a tear or 2..ooh maybe 3 for him!!

Mr. Jackson dominated the charts in the 1980s and is considered one of the most successful entertainers of the past century, with a lifetime sales tally estimated at 750 million records, 13 Grammy Awards and several seminal music videos to his name.
“Michael was and will remain one of the greatest entertainers that ever lived,” said Motown Records founder Berry Gordy, Mr. Jackson's first label boss. “He was exceptional, artistic and original. He gave the world his heart and soul through his music.”
But Mr. Jackson's reputation as a singer and dancer was overshadowed in recent years by his increasingly abnormal appearance, and bizarre lifestyle, which included his friendship with a chimp and a preference for the company of children.
He named his estate in the central California foothills Neverland Valley Ranch, in tribute to the J.M. Barrie's Peter Pan stories, and filled it with amusement park rides and a petting zoo. Mr. Jackson was twice accused of molesting young boys and was charged in 2003 with child sexual abuse. He became even more reclusive following his 2005 acquittal and vowed he would never again live at Neverland.

“I can't stop crying over the sad news,” Madonna said in a statement. “I have always admired Michael Jackson. The world has lost one of the greats but his music will live on forever.”
Mr. Jackson was born on Aug. 29, 1958, in Gary, Indiana, the seventh of nine children and first performed with his brothers as a member of the Jackson 5. His 1982 album Thriller yielded seven top-10 singles. The album sold 21 million copies in the United States and at least 27 million internationally.
The following year, he unveiled his signature “moonwalk“ dance move, gliding across the stage and setting off an instant trend, while performing “Billie Jean” during an NBC special

My Life is Average

2009-06-22T11:18:00.002-04:00

By the time I got to work I realized I left my cellphone at home. The coworkers were glad they will be spared of the incessant ringing and vibration, I wasnt quite happy about it. I rushed home after work to my cellphone and there was no missed alerts, ABSOLUTELY no missed calls/text messages. I was disappointed but didnt tell the coworkers the next day. MLIA

My Life is Average

2009-06-15T09:12:00.003-04:00

It was a case of bad diet and the stomach wasnt quite happy with that! It was a sleepless night while visiting the loo! It subsided by the morning and I thought I could make it to work, I did. But it started again after lunch, I ran to the drugstore in the lobby while in pain and clenching the butt to suppress the next "calling".
I grabbed some pepto-bismol and waited in line, it was my turn to check out, the petite lady at the counter just couldnt pick up a better time to ask questions about basketball - due to my height-, and she wouldnt stop telling me how her 15 year old son loves the NBA championship. I smiled politely... Lady I'm in pain I could "go" anytime from now... check me out please...but she wanted to know who my choice is.. I said Lakers....(God knows I only caught headline news)..... I snatched my credit card, didnt wait for the receipt!

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it was a crazy weekend.... in montreal... hanging out with a bunch of fem dudes! they made up their faces but i opted for mascara... just as an experiment. eyelashes look fab! Took fab pictures.. ended up on FACEBOOK.. yeah FACEBOOK!! Brother msg'd asking if I was gay.... pictures taken off facebook instantly..... my life is average!!

My Life is Average

2009-05-28T08:57:00.001-04:00

For some reason I thought there was a distruption of service on the subway, then I started running towards the bus. There was a crowd and I thought they were all trying to get on the bus, I shoved and pushed my way through, they gave me a crazy look. I missed the bus and got to find out it was a wrong bus and there was no service distruption on the subway!

My Obssession - Boobie!!

2009-03-24T11:38:00.004-04:00

Since I started listening to some Nigerian artist called Zeez 's Bobbee, I had to come out of denial and confess my addiction to..... Bobbee... because I cant get it out of my head.... I even shamelessly did my own miming with emm.. the full costume.... socks!

Here's the song, originally sang in Yoruba with my best english translation beside it....hehe

"Omoge Manchester, se a le wa United? - Manchester girl, can we be United?
Eru to gbe yen lo n je ki wa delighted - I am delighted by the sight of your "load"
Iwo gan ni captain, o ti e need jersey - Apparently, you're the captain... No need for a special jersey.

Original ni omo ko si fake - Its original, there aint no fake
Jo j'en de be, mo ti fe ma lo sugbon bobbee o n ja mi laya... Can I touch it? I was gonna leave but your bobbee is so tempting I need to feel it....

Bobbie e ko n se ejo mi - Its not my fault, its your bobbee
bobbie lo pa yan - Your bobbee is killing

Only you with 2 balls
Small bobbee, Medium bobbee, bobbee na bobbee..."

I like my pretty large, "double xxl bobbee" though... Trust me I do know how it feels! The larger the better!!

I had a near experience with a stripper at Niagara Falls once, by near experience I mean I didnt get a dance or something but she gave me a bobbee shake that I will never forget ... I dont care how "real" that bobbee was, but I can tell yah it was glorious.... soft and lucious, for a second I thought it felt like my heaven...she managed to wringle $40 from me from the bobbee assault though...

The experience has put me in perpetual state of obssession with bobbee, albeit the slightly big ones!!

Hi, I am Naijadude, I am addicted to bobbees!

Anxiously Looking Ahead....

2009-03-17T00:09:00.002-04:00

.....its a familiar path with an outcome yet unknown.... i've been there once i've been there so many times......

.......anxious to tread on it..... again

.....but it could be good.. ...

.... trying to stay positive..... as ever

......wish me luck!

Happy Birthday to me

More Hate from Home!!

2009-03-10T17:57:00.001-04:00

Same-Gender Marriage Prohibition Bill in National Assembly

Nigerian gay rights activists and mainstream human rights organizations are intensifying their campaign against the Same-Gender Marriage Prohibition Bill at the forth-coming public hearing on the Bill.
The Bill was passed into the lower chamber of the National Assembly at its second reading and currently sits on the laps of the Joint Committee on Human rights, Justice and Women’s Affair.

Led by The Independent Project for Equal Rights (TIP), gay rights advocates plan to voice their opposition to the bill and press for legal protection of sexual minorities at the hearing.

Nigeria is among the world’s most dangerous environment for open advocacy for rights of homosexuals.

“This current bill is more draconian than the 2006 bill as it discreetly aims to target human rights defenders through which I am affected along side my colleagues in human rights activism,” said Joseph Sewedo Akoro.
He points out that the bill will fuel human rights violation on the grounds of perceived or actual sexual orientation and gender identity expression in the country.

The public hearing on the same-gender marriage prohibition bill is now scheduled to be held on Monday (March 11).
The bill will receive lots of discussion, after which it may – or may not – be passed by the lower chamber.

If passed, the bill we go through the same process at the upper chamber before it is passed to the President for assent.
TIP is mobilising a group of human rights organisations to attend the public hearing, to give presentations against the bill and inform the House of Representatives the potential effect of the bill to national development and their obligation to maintain peace and orderliness in the country if the bill is passed.
Human rights groups are concerned that the Bill will criminalise sexual minorities and their advocates

What influences your decision??

2009-02-18T00:30:00.001-05:00

Its a tough world out there, hence the need for association and guidance

With a future so brilliant and hopeful, with dedication combined with a ferocious energy and zeal to seek for the emancipation of the soul. but with much emphasis given to the influence of rather ignorant unguided opinions and suggestions, makes way for the inhibition of the soul. Hence a dream is being deprived the opportunity to manifest. What comprises of a better man? A man's persuasaion and drive to go for the attainable regardless of the circumstance and sentiments or a man that allows people's opinion that is subjective to each individual's circumstance guide him? When do you get a chance to go ahead and take control and just do it? By your own conviction or by people's approval? Preparedness for the consequence regardless of the outcome determines when the time is ripe enough.

If Obama had caved in to, given priority to, the suggestions and opinions that set forth to downplay his convictions, -that want to inhibit his passion, that want to convince him against his foresight-, of running the almighty Clinton machine, there wouldnt be no affirmation that could convince that YES YOU CAN!

I think the time is around .. thats what I think.....

2009-02-10T22:32:00.001-05:00

Fellow Nigerians,

On October 1, 1960, Nigeria became an independent country within the Commonwealth of Nations. This historic event brought hope to millions of Nigerians, who had long suffered under the heavy foot of slavery and colonialism. It was a defining moment in our history as Nigerians freed themselves from the shackles of their colonial masters. But 49 years later, most Nigerians are still not free as the average man on the street is still shackled by the manacles of political ineptitude and the chains of socio-economic failures.

The life of Nigerians is typified by being surrounded by plenty of water but not a drop to drink as many are trapped in the vicious cycle of poverty in the midst of bountiful resources that most countries in the world can only dream of. Nearly fifty years later, the average Nigerian still languishes in his own land and millions have placed self imposed exiles on themselves as they move to other countries to find greener pastures.

We must no longer tolerate the shameful condition that our dear country has been reduced to. This is not the country that Nigerian nationalists, who fought to liberate it from the clutches of British rule, envisioned. They fought tooth and nail to gain our independence and bring together Nigerians of all stripes and from all corners of the country. At the heart of their fight was a desire to build a country where every Nigerian could prosper and not be dominated over by a minority whose only interest was to fleece the country dry.

One of the Nigeria’s greatest sons, Herbert Macaulay wrote that the dimensions of the colonial masters looking after the interests of Nigerians were “algebraically equal to the length, breadth and depth of the white man's pocket." Regrettably, that attitude still applies today but replace the white man with Nigerian politicians.

It is very doubtful that Herbert Macaulay would have foreseen the day that Nigerians would be denied the basic rights of life - education, healthcare, personal security, the right to elect, and not select , their leaders and the pursuit of happiness - by fellow Nigerians. It is obvious to all that our leaders have failed to deliver time and time again on any of these as more than 100 million Nigerians still live in penury.

But we refuse to believe that Nigeria is broken and cannot be fixed. We refuse to believe that this country cannot be one of great and boundless opportunities. We refuse to believe that this cannot be a country where justice is no longer a privilege but is guaranteed to every single Nigerian. We refuse to believe that every Nigerian cannot benefit from the limitless riches the country has to offer.

We must however make that pledge to rebuild this good country, and we must do it together. Like the great John F Kennedy once said, “United, there is little we cannot do in a host of shared accomplishments. Divided, there is little we can do as we dare not meet powerful challenges that will easily split us apart.” This will not be a one man job or a one day job, it is an every man every day job.

This country can achieve the potential it has long promised. And the only way we can do this is by working together, struggling together, fighting injustice together, believing in one another and knowing that one day this country of ours will be free of all the fetters that have held us down.

For the Nigerians who believe that we can be better than we are and are willing to make the sacrifice to improve our country, join us. For those, who are hell bent on destroying the country just to line their pockets, we shall fight you to the very end. We will fight, not with violence but with the might of a united people determined to no longer submit to the excesses of corruption and moral decay that have engulfed our country.

For those who laugh at us and call us dreamers, we say Martin Luther King once had a dream, and that dream is now sitting on the most powerful seat in the world as you read this.

We are well aware that we will face challenges that will task us to the limit, test every ounce of our resolve and scare the life out of us. But we also know that it is normal to be afraid and we shall not give in to fear which paralyses the needed hard work to convert this country’s stagnation into progress.

It would be fatal for us not to recognise the urgency of the moment as the time to fight the injustice and inequality long suffered by our brethren is not tomorrow, next week or even next year. That time is now upon us.

The time has come to do away with all the traditions and customs that debase our women and hinder the growth of our children. And to put to rest all forms of tribalism, nepotism, cronyism and religious intolerance.

The time has come for Nigeria to reclaim the vision of our forefathers when they fought for the independence of the country.

The time has come for urgent reformation of a nation where the phrase “Giant of Africa” is no longer met with laughter and raised eyebrows but one that other nations respectfully bestow on our nation.

The time has come to fulfill the words in our national anthem “Great lofty heights attain, to build a nation where peace and justice shall reign.” But if Nigeria is to attain those lofty heights we must fight the battles of eradicating poverty, political and social injustice with the same gusto as those who for fought for the independence of our nation. For a society where many are poor and only a few handful benefits off its lands cannot call itself free.

The time has come for Nigeria to take its position amongst the Commonwealth of Nations, not as a failed state struggling to meet the expectations of all around it but standing shoulder to shoulder with the leading nations of the world.

Now is not the time to rest on laurels when millions of Nigerians, and indeed millions of Africans and the rest of the world, are depending on us to deliver on the promises of democracy.

Now is not the time to give in to shouts of “You dey blow too much grammar” or “We do this the Nigerian way” when we should be doing things the right way.

Now is the time to deliver our nation from the slippery slope of violence due to armed robbery, political thuggery, corruption and intolerance to a solid foundation of law and order.

Now is the time to make peace, justice and personal security a reality for all Nigerians.

Now is the time to abolish all forms of human poverty in our country and ensure its people’s economic prosperity.

Now is the time to stand up and fight for all that we believe in, to not only safeguard our future but that of our children, and their children, and their children’s children.

Now is the time to finally recognise that we are all brothers and sisters. It is not wrong that we have different cultures, languages and dialects. Indeed, that diversification should be our strength as we embrace the model of a melting pot of cultures and ideas like other great nations before us have. It is wrong however to allow people use those differences between us to stoke up fear and hatred for their own personal gain. Until we stand up to them, we will never be able to redefine this nation in a way that will inspire other nations of the world.

Fellow Nigerians, the time has come to come together and begin the difficult journey of rebuilding our nation. To this end a plan has been proposed to hopefully spark the beginning of a socioeconomic revolution in Nigeria.

The plan is designed to address the following:

1. Transportation: A more efficient mass transport system allows for the movement of goods and people to all corners of the country. We can achieve this by engaging the private sector to assist in the building and maintenance of road and rail transports networks that reach every major city in the country, airports that facilitate the safe air travel, and the harnessing of the vast waterways we have for the movements of large cargoes to reduce the stress on the roads and railways.

Every Nigerian should be able to travel safely to all corners of country at the choosing of their own time and mode of transport.

2. Communications: Communication systems eliminate the physical distance between any two communities and allow for the speedy exchange of information. In today’s world of increasing globalisation, it is now a requirement for any business to be able to communicate effectively and quickly.

The telecommunications industry in Nigeria has taken off with a bang since the introduction of mobile phone services, but more work still needs to be done. We need to ensure that mobile phone services are within the reach of every Nigerian at affordable prices. We also need to take the Internet into every home, every office and every nook and cranny of the country. The Internet plays a big role in the world today and it is now considered the most efficient and cost effective way of reducing the knowledge and technology gap between developed and developing nations.

3. Energy: Every aspect of the economy is dependent on energy. The vital role it plays in today’s society cannot be understated. The provision of affordable energy and the constant supply of power to light up houses, offices and factories will be essential in getting the Nigerian economy back on track.

Nigeria has vast and under utilised reserves of oil, natural gas and coal. We will need to push through reforms in these industries and stop the outrageously wasteful practice of gas flaring immediately. We should look into building a couple of nuclear power plants for our electricity needs.

We should also be looking at depending less on oil and gas for our energy needs and looking more at renewable energy sources. The potential for solar, wind, geothermal, bio and hydro-energy sources in our country is enormous and is one that we should begin harnessing now, as carbon-based energy sources are not going to be around forever and place an enormous strain on our environment.

4. Healthcare: A healthy workforce is the engine of any economy. Failure to cater for the health needs of the country’s population only leads to a decrease in the production of goods and services as workers take more time off work than they need to.

Focusing on providing affordable primary health care services to every man, woman and child is the only way we will tackle the scourge of HIV, malaria and other infectious diseases that threaten our livelihood. It is only way we would really be able to bring down the alarming rates of maternal and infant mortality.

The building of large hospitals, while noble, is a bit counter productive at this moment as it averts much needed resources away from the building of primary healthcare centres who form the frontline in the battle for keeping our people healthy. We should revive and expand the late Professor Olikoye Ransome-Kuti’s work in taking primary health care to every nook and cranny of Nigeria and ensuring that every council district in every local government area in every state has at least one primary health care center.

We should also exploit Internet and mobile technologies to build a national e-health network to achieve our objectives and enable the storing of the medical records of Nigerian in electronic format, so that these records are within the reach of registered healthcare providers at every hospital, every ward and every clinic at any time of the day in Nigeria as to ensure continuity of care and reduce deaths due to medical errors.

We must also put drinkable water either through pipes or boreholes within the reach of every single Nigerian child. Nigeria has one of the largest fresh water resources in the world. It is no longer excusable that children should die of diarrheal diseases because we failed to put clean water within walking distance of the child’s mother.

5. Education and Training: An educated workforce is a more efficient workforce. A better educated population also presents multiple opportunities for the economy to diversify beyond its traditional pillars. This was an approach followed by the Asian Tigers, who invested heavily in education to produce a workforce that could provide value-added services as income generators for economies that had little or no natural resources.

We will have to increase the budgetary allocation to education, and indeed healthcare as well, as both sectors are critical to our success as a nation. The provision of compulsory quality primary and secondary school education with a strong focus on the sciences and mathematics to ALL children is a matter of urgency if we are to take our true position amongst the league of leading nations.

We will also need to increase funding to our universities, which were neglected over the years, and task them to get more involved in research. We must also endeavour to build community colleges in every local government area whereby vocational and technical skills training could be provided for school leavers before they enter the workforce.

We must design and deliver a series of informal programmes that educate our people on religious and tribal tolerance, civil rights and civic duties, and a host of educational initiatives aimed at ridding our society of the social injustices that are carried out under the auspices of culture and tradition.

6. Agriculture & Natural Resources: With the global food prices on the rise and Nigeria being a net importer of food, the country will be better served by reviving its agriculture sector, which was also Nigeria’s chief export earner before the discovery of oil.

Nigeria, once an exporter of food crops, now has to import food to meet local demand. It is unacceptable, as a nation that fails that to feed its population is preparing the ground for civil unrest which can tear our society apart.

We will need to reform the agricultural industry as the availability of cheaper foods will also lead to an increase in the quality of life for Nigerians as more people will be able to afford to put more food on the table for their families.

Agriculture is the biggest sector of the economy but yet past leaders have spent all their attention on the oil sector, to the detriment of developing an industrialised agro-based economy.

7. Environment: Damage to the environment has long term implications to the Nigerian economy as it can lead to a deterioration of health of the general population, a depletion of natural resources and an increased cost of doing business. It is much cheaper to put in preventive measures to protect the environment than to clean it up down the line. Protecting the environment is no longer a social issue but an economic one, and one that the Nigerian government will need to embrace fully.

We must put an immediately end to the sloppy practices of oil companies and their local accomplices, who in order to save a buck, are wrecking the environment of the Niger Delta, while recording multi-billion dollar profits at the end of the financial year.

8. Finance & Housing: Developing a strong financial sector which stimulates growth in the private sector through the availability of credit would be a priority, more so given the current global financial crisis.

While it might not possible to provide cheap housing for all Nigerians, we must develop a mortgage system that puts owning a home within the reach of most Nigerians.

We must also strengthen our tax system, as it would provide the necessary funding needed to improve education, healthcare, the enforcement of law and order, and other public services.

9. Enterprise & Innovation: Promoting micro, small and medium sized enterprises (MSMEs) can lead to a reduction in poverty and unemployment, and lead to wealth creation for the owners of the businesses. All these have a direct effect on the economy, and it also useful in reducing the wealth gap between the haves and have-nots.

10. Legal & Security: The enforcement of contracts and adherence to the rule of law not only provides a suitable environment for doing business locally and fighting corruption, it can also lead to increased confidence amongst investors looking to plough their money into the Nigerian economy.

Increased internal security fosters external foreign investment and adds to the quality of life of the country’s citizens. Tackling the crisis in the Niger Delta region and the wave of violent crime across the country will go a long way in improving the quality of life for all Nigerians.

We will also need to strengthen our judiciary system and the police, which have been systematically weakened over the years so as not to challenge the nefarious activities of wayward politicians and military rulers. We must push through legal reforms to change acts and decrees (such as the Land Use Act) that have long put ordinary citizens at a disadvantage and introduce new laws (Child Labour Act, Spousal Abuse Act) that protect the most vulnerable in our society.

11. Trade: Improved trading opportunities in Nigeria’s non-oil sectors can be a major foreign currency earner for the country. Nigeria has a number of mineral and natural resources that have yet to be exploited due to the government’s focus on petroleum.

Also the country is blessed with cheap labour but high energy cost and poor infrastructure have discouraged the growth of a manufacturing base in the country. If an enabling environment where the overhead costs of operation can be brought down to within reason, along with the enforcement of laws in the country, protection of investors, and education reforms, Nigeria can develop a manufacturing base that can rival those in South East Asia.

12. Tourism: Tourism is a good foreign currency earner for any country as every tourist dollar spent has a multiplier effect on the local economy. Improving internal security and transportation and developing a strong financial system can aid efforts in improving the tourism sector in Nigeria.

The country has lots to offer from the diverse ethnic makeup of the country to different climatic conditions (hot humid weather in Lagos, cool temperate weather in Jos) and geographical features (Mangrove swamps in the south, arid savannah in the north). There is something for everybody.

The plan was designed to achieve the following:

• Increased Efficiency in the Economy: Improvements in the transport, communications and the energy sector will bring about a reduction in the cost of production and distribution of goods and services. This will invariably lead to putting goods and services within the reach of more Nigerians.

• Better Quality of Life: Improvements in education, healthcare, agriculture and housing sectors will bring about an improvement in the quality of life of Nigerians. Also taking active measures to protect the environment, not only improves the quality of living in the country, it also prevents huge avoidable costs in cleaning the environment later in the future. Lastly improvements in security will make the people feel safe.

• Fight Poverty: Promoting and supporting enterprise, along with improvements in the financial sector and legal framework will foster the growth of micro, small and medium sized enterprises (MSMEs) which have been shown to fight poverty, increase wealth creation and reduce unemployment.

• Increased Investments: Improvements in the infrastructure, along with those in finance, security, enforcement of laws and education should bring about an increase in both local and foreign investments. The presence of the right infrastructure makes it cheaper to produce goods and services, the enforcement of laws makes it easier to conduct business, and an improved educational system produces quality candidates from which companies can select their staff from.

• Increased Foreign Earnings: Improved trade and tourism will bring about an increase in much needed foreign earnings.

• Diversification: Opening up other sectors of the economy brings out diversification, making the country less reliant on a traditional base e.g. agriculture and oil. This is particularly significant for rural communities.

• A More Open Society: By creating a more open society via our education programs, we can put an end all forms of discriminations that hold our people back from being the best they can be. We can finally begin to see an end to barbaric practices such female genital mutilation. But most of all, an end to tribal politics. We should be able to elect our leaders based on their intelligence, character and integrity, and not because he or she is from a particular part of the country.

Indeed there is a lot of hard work to be done to rekindle that beacon of hope that Nigerians once felt when we gained our independence. And work hard we must, for this is no longer just the North’s country, or the South’s country, neither is it the East’s country nor the West’s country. This is our country. This is our Nigeria.

Things we take for granted.....

2009-02-09T00:12:00.000-05:00

We all face disappointments and setbacks. Life is full of things that try to push us down. Maybe some bad news concerning your health. A relationship didn't work out. Maybe you lost your job. It was a setback. When we face setbacks, it's easy to get discouraged or lose our enthusiasm. Too often we are tempted to just settle where we are. But why do we have to wait till we see how worse it could get before we could acknowledge our situation pales in comparison? We have to have a bounce-back mentality. That means when you get knocked down, you don't stay down. You get back up again. It means when disappointments come, you shake them off knowing that what the enemy meant for your harm God is going to turn around and use for your good.

When you're a bounce-back person, you know that adversity is not permanent. Weeping may endure for a night, but you know joy is coming in the morning. There is wonderful joy ahead on the other side of this trial. Keep standing, keep believing, and choose to be a bounce-back person because you are coming out better off than you were before! You are rising higher, and you will live being content with more will power to get going and push through the setback and go for the attainable!

I used to be a bounce-back person until I started letting my situation get the best of me.. But I refuse to succumb to it any more.. Time to bounce back and keep aiming for the goal, speed bumps are just a sign of caution because it could be worse!!

And I miss you...

2008-11-28T14:02:00.004-05:00

Where have you been??.... I am curious to ask cos I dont seem to see you around anymore...... the boy i used to be, the man i dreamt of growing up to be, the dreams i used to harbour...... where did you all go? I hope you havent departed from me because I seem to give in to the inevitable, well I chose to see it as the inevitable!

The boy that used to be hopeful, witty, with a conscious approach and outlook about life.... the man that used to inspire, .....that motivates.... positive, with a lassez faire attitude to the finer things in life, and yes everything used to be fine!

And I miss you... the young man I once was..... the young man with the mature eyes.... smart and intelligent enough to manipulate your impending troubles/concerns for your favour.... now "they" seem to be in control! ...... what kind of turn around is that?

the young man that never gave up.... spiritual and self-righteous.... the man that always put God first... always full of life because of faith ..... the man that tries to hide all sadness with smile and refuses to cry because I used to believe there's always a light at the end of the tunnel.

I really do miss you..... the man that used to be in control.. .. is now being controlled by "situation", non-challant about looks and appearance anymore, you seem to lose faith in life,

....you shouldnt be here.... in a self-dejected state!

And there's my "new" addiction ....going.....

2008-11-28T01:48:00.004-05:00

Happy Thanksgiving to our southern neighbours and I hope yall enjoy the turkey!!

..... there was I after a long meeting discussing the group project, it went on to get into nasty email exchanges at 3am but thankfully a group member, Dolly, was up as well and she intervened before I made good with my threat of removing the group member.

I was tired as heck after the long ass day, so I decided to go grab a bite, and Dolly suggested I try out a pizza place called "Big Slice". I thought she was being sarcastic, so I went to grab something else. When she asked if I went there, I just simply said I went somewhere else but we made plans to go there at the end of the day. Here we are at Big Slice, ordered my pizza to go with pop and I was amazed at the price. it was CHEAP.. and going by Dolly's referral, it was good too!!

Took it home and enjoyed my pizza and it was damn good.... so I booked another date with my new pizza place with Dolly in tow of course. I decided to invite another group member, Jully, to join us but Jully's got date with the boyfriend and said she'd check with him if he doesnt mind coming with us. He didnt mind and off we go... and while enjoying another slize of BIG pizza, some black guy stumbled in, wearing no jacket and only sandals!

Dolly with the big mouth called him crazy, I said the weather wasnt bad, so no judgement here.. before we could say "jack robinson!", homeboy slumped into the seat behind Jully's boyfriend, some minutes went by and homeboy decided to interrupt our lovely meal and ask for some change.. I checked my pocket and gave me the 4 quarters I had.. and the boyfriend gave him 2 loonies(a dollar coin) and 1 twoonie ($2 coin) .

yapping about my addiction, and how i will be a regular at the joint ...... pizza is done and its time to leave but that was when homeboy decided to stand up with his pant hanging down and he was rubbing the crotch (hanging out in all its glory - EVERYTHING) with the coins he had on his hands and he walked straight to the counter to order his pizza, with the same money????

Man, do I wanna throw up or do I start cursing Dolly for bringing me here?? I really wanna do the former but its too late, I took a sad look at the pizza store and just thought: "and there goes my "new" addiction, off the window".. its a case of welcome ... but good bye.. aloha! aloha goodbye not aloha welcome!

Funniest Prank Call ever....

2008-11-07T14:46:00.002-05:00

Oh no its not Sarah Palin... just check it out... heheh

And I cried....

2008-11-05T00:25:00.002-05:00

Unless its something that has such a huge impact on me ... unless it will make more than a thousand people cry. You wont see me quiver... I wont be shaken...

But I cried.. I did tonight... not because of the situation or of my past association.. but because he's a symbolism of hope. He has the ability to inspire and he did! He pushed me to tears because his actions gave me a whole new perspective about life!

He was only a skinny boy some years ago, he was a poor student brought up by his grandma after being neglected by his father. Now he has a new story, a new story to tell, a story to tell the world and everyone that dare listen! He made me think I can borrow a leaf from him.. He changed me, he gave me a new outlook, he changed my perspective, he renewed my level of faith and hope... He did it because he believed and he made me think I can do it only if I believe... and here I am today professing that because of him, I DO BELIEVE!!!

Yes, I can just because Yes, he did it!!

My salute to the newly elected President Barack Hussein Obama...

I love clearing the throat....until

2008-10-28T19:35:00.002-04:00

its fall ... winter is fast approaching and the flu season seems to be out.... apparently!!

i am one that claims i am immune to the flu but the change of weather usually knocks the better part of me down... ooh the headache, fever .. but thank goodness to advil and tylenol...

here i am on a soggy rainy night.. worked late, walking down the street of downtown and clearing the throat.... the phlegm...

the feeling of the phlegm is so refreshing.... its my "high point", it gives me the feeling that everywhere up there is clean... hence i do it more, i do it with passion.. hmm what grace, what charm, what passion!! I love clearing the throat on a chilly night!! It feels good!!..... and my receiving target is usually the subway vent!.... but it all changed .....

it changed while walking down the street, i think i was looking at the pile of garbage yet to be picked up! for a second i was disappointed there is garbage laying around the financial district! but hey, that gives me another client to receive the assault of my phlegm.....

but as i walked closer i realised its not a garbage pile, its you! its you with lots of dirty looking blankets to be able to withstand the canadian chilly night! you were all huddled over my favourite spot; the vent!! so the vent could keep you warm as the subway passes by.. seems you were ready for the night.. a make believe warm night that is...

i felt the chills; my body shivered! for a first time in a while i felt my throat all dried up, i couldnt clear the throat, there's no phlegm anywhere!! all i could wonder is what you were doing out there, that cold night, out there in the open! and yet i complain about my cubicle with a nice view looking out the downtown landscape, i take that up a notch by assaulting the ground by my unsolicited patronage....

to you! you the supposed homeless man/woman, been forced to sleep on the street for whatever reason that i dont know and dont really wanna know.. i promise not to ever patronise your resting place with my unsolicited phlegm, i know its disgusting but i do it.. but for your sake i wont do it anymore... i am sorry you have to sleep out there in the damn cold weather but i need not add more to your misery.. i hope you find the warmth you seek without having to accommodate more phlegm assault!!

its gonna be good

2008-07-30T12:27:00.003-04:00

here i am with my head bowed.
thinking when is it gonna be better..
the voice is telling me very soon, naijadude...
how soon? whats the timeline?....
sadly no timeline but it will be better soon
soon soon soon..
still waiting...
let me know when you can get a timeline...
it will be better it says...

Trust and strangers? Where do you draw the line??

2008-06-03T00:17:00.003-04:00

Does it really have to do with being skeptical about people or just being overly cautious or perhaps being a baggage hauler(drama). To what extent would you give a stranger your trust? Even though you might potentially love and care about the person, but giving the fact that you don't know them in the first instant, should one give them their 100% trust? I find really ridiculous and very hard to comprehend.

I mean, can we get past the fact that we dont know this person at that instant that you are meeting with them? We do give every stranger with meet an iota of trust, but that is the trust we will be confident with and no regret later! Well thats what I think.......the question is: "Where do we draw the line??"

I sincerely want to understand how much trust we can extend to someone, meanwhile you should be mindful that we are talking about first meeting with a stranger over the internet here. What is the ideal approach? By giving them a 100% trust? What kind of judgment is that? Gut feelings? Instincts or sentimental because you might potentially love the person?

I really want to know and I would appreciate your response.

Sex in my city..... gym..

2008-05-31T19:32:00.003-04:00

I started working out thanks to some promotion that I won, but my body hurts as in the muscle on the bicep and tricep hurts.... I hope its normal ooh...

Tomorrow is the date to watch Sex and the City with my girls, I dont know who is dressing up as Samantha, I am sure not taking that, but I will be Smith Jerrod... it should be fun....

I hate skinny bitches.... too.....

2008-05-08T12:10:00.002-04:00

Here I am on a Saturday night, long and stressful week it was. Thinking of an indulgence that involves dancing is a task on its own. Not in the mood of heading to the village, and mingling with the young reveling gay crowds, while the older ones are right on your case. I want something different, I want some sort of attention.

There it is, your call came through asking me to come along to a house party. Ooh what a nice alternative, I quickly dabbled through the closet to pick out my favorite pant that accentuates my rather big hip (what a hip for a guy, I need to have a chat with my mama), that seems a bit out of place with my slender body!

Here I am feeling confident about myself and you thought you could put a dent to that. "I hate skinny bitches!" were your words, my buddies were like "huh?". And you reaffirmed that, "I hate skinny bitches! I like men with some meat on them. But the skinny bitches, they think they can get what they want, sleep with all men, my 2 ex-bfs cheated on me with skinny bitches."

Am I one to apologize for being skinny? Nope! I simply ignored your ignorance, albeit jealousy. I felt like I needed to gain some pounds at that instant, but it barely lasted for 5 mins, I wanna dance tonight, I wanna flirt, I wanna shake what my mama gave, even though I am not very good at it, nothing aint getting in my way.

We stepped into the party, I made my rounds of saying hellos and sharing light-hugs with few people I know in there, need I mention cute guys too. There you are fuming with anger and jealousy. I pressed the "iggy" button, I asked for us to go get some drinks, we chilled at the corner doing some gossip, you called my attention to the cute guy standing by the door way, I acknowledged he's cute as well. You made it obvious you wanna hook up with him. I told you to go ahead and do your thing.

For some reason unknown, I found myself talking with your cute guy. I pressed the iggy button again after seeing the look on your face. You wanted to go downstairs for a smoke, I followed you but I had to leave you before you finished your smoke because some creepy guy was on my case. By the time you got back to the party you saw me exchanging numbers with some cute guy you've been apparently eyeing. Blame the fatal attraction, not me!!

At the end of the night you saw me leaving the party with your cute guy, he's only my ride, but you dont know that! You couldnt hide your anger by now and I thought its high time I stopped pressing the iggy button. Hence, I looked right into your eyes and said : "I HATE SKINNY BITCHES, TOO!!", while I sashayed my way out of the party!

easy way out??......

2008-04-15T09:31:00.004-04:00

where is this thing that the world seems to revolve around?? i think its not easily attainable yet i can feel its inevitable presence, so close always thinking its closer than i think, well i am still trying comprehend its concept, maybe its existence.

i just dont understand why everything seems like a race. we all strive to become something, achieve something, sometimes we dont care about stumbling blocks, whatever the obstacle might be, we dont let it get in the way. well for the determined folks, we rage on, we soldier on , we fight on until we achieve that which it is we are slaving for.

its a race, its a fight, its a battle, for the pursuit of happiness that is! whoever that knows where it is, where it can be easy, where one can avoid the wandering around in circles, whoever that has the key let me know!!!

still on.. Homosexuality and the Nigerian society

2008-03-03T11:18:00.001-05:00

Then there was a public outcry, well make that international outcry when the then government of Nigeria tried to ban homosexuality, not that homosexuality has always been legal afterall. Whatever happened to that bill? There are speculations that it has been passed.......

But talking about the issue of homosexuality in Nigeria, I think the government is actually helping to increase its awareness, even though the average poor gay guy still stand a chance to be victimized by overzealous hypocritical fellow citizens, people are now starting to realize "their existence" and with the world being a global village with more people clamoring for human rights, I think it actually helps the same-sex loving individual afterall.

Call it during one of my random musing on the internet, I was stunned to realize there is a gay-oriented movie by popular stars out there already and some well known director is investing his resources on producing one. And the one that actually flatters your favorite naijadude is about comments going on forums expecting my reaction to it. Unfortunately, I didnt know about it earlier.

Which calls for the question, is the Nigerian society ready to talk about someone being gay? Is it still the taboo like it used to be known? Mind you, the word "used" is not used lightly. When you've got mainstream media talking about it, movies trying to showcase and explain that "I didnt choose to be it" , "I am not who you think I am, I am just afraid you wont accept me" .

What else could the gay activist ask for? Government acceptance? Less presumed hatred from the masses? I will say its a work in progress , they've got to cast a stone at a time, perhaps they hope the government never stop their hypocritical cry about it....it might favor that gay guy longing for acceptance after all.

ps: to you fool leaving childish and hateful comments on my blog, BACK THE HELL OFF!!! you'd be really foolish to think I will publish your comments, despite, you keep coming back...

update: little do I know about the consequences about the interview, funmi iyanda's show was nearly cancelled because of the interview she did for the gay activist.

"How naïve I was, immediately after the interview (see clips) aired, Bisi Alimi was thrown out of his home, beaten mercilessly and had to go into hiding. On my part, I got heckled and sent hate mail and letters for supporting homosexuality. My Friday edition was cancelled by the network, the rest of the show was taken off the live format, all my guests and shows from that time are screened and censored and l was banned from ever raising political or certain social issues up until now. In fact one of the reasons I started this blog is to find a space to breathe, an alternative voice."

I bet I wont hesitate to heed to the advice of my blogger friend that Nigeria isnt quite ready for me... sad!!

The Smile

2008-02-08T23:53:00.000-05:00

What do you do when your heart is breaking? When the tears are ever so near? I know the answer will be to give in to it, but you can always light up your face with gladness, hide every trace of sadness, just smile!

The smile gives a relief, gives you hope that life is still worthwhile, but only if you just smile.

The smile is a façade, to cover up the sadness, the smile helps you to get the problem behind you, the smile aids in getting the relief you so desire, rather than let people see the sadness on you and ask questions, even though they can’t help. But the smile changes it all, the smile makes you believe it will be fine, with confidence that is. Smile, and maybe tomorrow you will the sun shine through the dark cloud.

So why don’t you just keep smiling, and light up your face with gladness and believe that your best days are ahead.

Happy birthday to my fav. Overwhelmednaijababe!!

2008-02-07T02:01:00.001-05:00

Its my sweetie tangerine overwhelmednaijababe's birthday!

You have been nothing short of a wonderful person, sister, confidant, and a friend!

Do I recall you were gonna go to a church in a november just to light a candle for me?
Even though i cant shake my non-existent booty like you can do yours, I still try to do lagbaja's konko below better!
Thanks for giving me the confidence at the time I needed it most..

Sorry I have been short of a friend, but you know as your official "overwhelmednaijaBOBO" I am forgiven... hahaha

HAPPY BIRTHDAY and I wish you well in your new year !!!

SUPER-DUPER TUESDAY

2008-02-05T20:11:00.000-05:00

I have been very busy, I barely have time to approve comments not to talk of having time to blog, but i have been paying close attention to US elections. Lots to write about later......

Its SUPER TUESDAY!! I am lowering the expectation in part to the media charade about the Obama candidacy and the rash set of endorsements coming thru for him.

I hope you are watching the SUPER TUESDAY as I am watching with a level playing field, nonetheless I know who the WINNER is gonna be, but unfortunately the race is far from being over......

Enjoy!!