tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20182651290947928152009-02-21T04:17:32.546-08:00"The Yearning and the Reality"Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-2144985066807902562008-12-01T16:11:00.000-08:002008-12-01T16:30:36.198-08:00

Dear Loyal Readers,Good evening!We would all agree that respect is essential to a healthy relationship between parents and their children. Now, a serious problem arises when one of the parents encourages the children to disrespect the other parent.In fact, the younger the kids, the more confused they are, as the do not understand what is going on. On one hand, they know that they should respect

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-3655177848652074572008-12-01T15:38:00.000-08:002008-12-01T16:33:06.297-08:00

Dear Readers,Good evening!We all know the importance of respect in a relationship between children and their parents. This discussion today is therefore not about belaboring this point. However, the discussion is about what to do when one of the parents is encouraging the kids to disrespect the other parent in order to gain ground.The truth is that this is far more damaging to the children than

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-23487429478133787822008-11-11T11:40:00.000-08:002008-11-15T20:00:09.586-08:00

Dear readers,A single parent, whether it is the Dad or the Mom, has a lot of work ahead of him or her. There are two main components that generate all this work: the first part stems from the fact that that single parent will have to take the children to school and activities by himself/herself, as there is no partner to fall back on. The second part, however, is caused by the ex-wife/husband who

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Dear readers,People who wish to divorce tend to view the divorce as an end or a goal, whereas it is a means by which both parents, or one parent will get to raise their/his/her children to the best of their ability. Often times, parents think of the temporary situation, and how they are going to get through the divorce. They think about who should have custody of the children, and if they are

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-35792039888542175212008-09-19T11:40:00.000-07:002008-09-19T11:43:06.929-07:00

Hi everyone,This is Dr. Dreamer saying hi to all my readers. Please let me hear your comments.Have a great weekend everybody.Dr. Dreamer

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-35675659648809311272007-05-16T13:50:00.000-07:002007-05-16T14:14:15.801-07:00

Good evening everyone,I just wanted to comment on some of the comments left by one of the readers.He or she mentioned that: "My father never spoke ill of my mother but he talked about money problems around us (not to us) sighed about bills, we in turn felt guilty about holidays. He always expressed how much he missed us, too much in fact, he always asked if we wanted to stay longer and we felt

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-40171126997345651422007-05-10T14:58:00.000-07:002007-05-10T15:03:43.001-07:00

Dear Readers,Tonight, I am going to share with you the comments of one of my readers. I would like to thank her or him for sending me her or his thoughts, and for her or his good wishes. She or he wrote the following:"Hello,I am not going through a divorce, I am married and have one child we struggle, work and build upon our relationship every day and while I would like to say it's great it's not

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-43925014044455167372007-05-03T14:19:00.000-07:002007-05-08T18:33:05.924-07:00

Dear Loyal, and New Readers,Tonight, I will talk about in-laws and the problems they may cause.I understand that we all love our families, i.e. our mom, dad, brothers, sisters, etc...However, this does not mean that, when we get married, we should let them dictate to us how we should behave with our spouses. Unfortunately, it seems almost impossible to keep family members from interfering.If you

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-73427356793952767172007-05-02T16:56:00.000-07:002007-05-02T17:38:05.009-07:00

Good evening!Tonight, I am going to talk a little bit about kids and parenting or parental guidance.The key idea here is for divorced parents to raise their children to the best of their abilities without trying to interfere with the other parent's rearing skills. Sure, you may disagree with the other parent in terms of raising your children, which might be one of or the main reason for your

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-6463122385809197422007-04-30T15:30:00.000-07:002007-04-30T15:44:52.087-07:00

Dear Loyal Readers,A little more on that subject.....When the Law metes out justice, and hence, Child Support, it does not check how the money is spent and on whom! In other words, the parent, who is awarded Child Support, may use or misuse the money in any way that she or he pleases. Now, how fair is that?The idea behind Child Support is to ensure that the children are well taken care of, and

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-91909174022106739372007-04-24T15:00:00.000-07:002007-04-24T15:27:14.183-07:00

Good evening!Last time, I mentioned that I would expound on the subject.Here is how Family Law operates, which, you will see, defies any logical thinking. It really makes you wonder who wrote these Family Laws?In essence, here is what happens when there is a divorce that involves minor children. The Law gives the Children, and Child Support to one parent, and leaves the other parent with nothing!

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-66481427428203375842007-04-18T15:39:00.000-07:002007-04-24T15:25:34.237-07:00

Dear Readers,More on the fairness of the Law.....The sad reality is that one of the parents, whether it is the mom or the dad, may try to use the Law to his or her advantage. If the Law were more equitable, such issues would not occur as often.During my divorce, I went to the library and read up on Family Law. I encountered a site that published statistics regarding divorce in all 50 States! it

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-42693679851248005352007-04-17T15:16:00.000-07:002007-04-24T15:26:19.363-07:00

Good evening everyone!Tonight, I am going to talk about a very sensitive topic: The Law!Is the Law or are the Laws fair to all parties involved in a divorce?This is a very difficult question to answer because it depends on the perspective of the parties involved. In other words, moms may feel a certain way about certain laws, whereas dads may feel differently about same.Let's take a look at

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-37342903492130870702007-04-13T17:17:00.000-07:002007-04-13T18:31:51.978-07:00

Dear Loyal Readers,Life gets so hectic sometimes that I did not have the chance to write for the last few days, but here we go.....Another interesting, yet very sad, aspect of divorce is GREED!Unfortunately, many people are driven by pure greed as opposed to principles or scruples!In other words, some people are more interested in how much money they are going to get from a divorce than whether

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-22074109031925547392007-04-03T13:45:00.000-07:002007-04-03T14:32:55.013-07:00

Good evening!I have talked before about Child Custody and how important it is during and after a divorce.I was just reading an interesting article about Britney Spears and Kevin Federline. Apparently they have been fighting over legal and physical custody of their two sons. This comes as no surprise, again, as a child is the most important thing out of a marriage!Back in January, 2007, they

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-46176366841983649272007-03-29T15:20:00.000-07:002007-03-29T15:34:39.160-07:00

Good evening,Dr. Dreamer here: tonight, I am going to talk about post divorce.What really happens when the divorce is final?All of a sudden, you will find that your life is totally different from what you once knew!If you work, you will no longer come home to a full house. If you did not work during the marriage, you will no longer be waiting for your spouse to come home.Furthermore, you will not

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-51207813693152577742007-03-27T17:19:00.000-07:002007-03-27T17:48:24.094-07:00

Dear Loyal Readers,One of the issues that you may encounter after divorce is the repercussions of the parenting styles. I am currently having a big problem with one of kids in regards to school. My child's attitude is one of "so what?" when it comes to academics!Unfortunately, my child sees that my ex does not care about academics, and, therefore, thinks that this is OK! I know that this is going

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-72654438187837420762007-03-26T14:44:00.000-07:002007-03-26T15:16:23.882-07:00

Hello everyone!Back to the impact of the in-laws on marriages, and divorces!One of the most important signs or flags to look for is rivalry between your in-laws and you. Sometimes it is initiated by one party or the other, or by a combination thereof. Usually this rivalry is negative in nature and fosters hard feelings which will, in turn, cause tension with the in-laws. This would add a lot of

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-27062893716434271182007-03-21T15:21:00.000-07:002007-03-21T15:43:41.546-07:00

Dear Loyal Readers,I hope that everyone has had a good day!Here is a subject that is probably long overdue for me to discuss!The impact of "In-laws" is horrendous on a relationship, be it a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship or a marriage. If the In-laws are positive people, they may play a very nice role in bringing the couple together when they have problems or differences. On the other hand, if

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-24882088100550502112007-03-18T11:06:00.000-07:002007-03-19T09:26:07.990-07:00

Hello,Today, I am going to talk about a Single Dad!I know a Single Dad who works very hard all day, and after work, he works very hard taking care of his children. He is a very devoted Dad.After work, he picks up the kids from school.He helps them out with their homework. In fact, he is the type of Dad who spends the time to look at all the details pertaining to his children's homework. Unlike

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-19855082611671883652007-03-16T15:06:00.000-07:002007-03-16T15:50:38.519-07:00

Good evening!On the first part of "single mom", I talked a little about "A".Tonight, I am going to fill you in on some new developments. One of the major problems, when a relationship ends, occurs when there are minor children involved. As you know from part (1), "A" has a baby, and her ex boyfriend left her to go back to his former girlfriend.While this is sad enough in and of itself, her ex

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-16001228594454990022007-03-14T15:15:00.000-07:002007-03-14T15:21:17.173-07:00

The Friend Of the Court, FOC, is an entity that facilitates the handling of child-related issues and other issues, such as Child Custody, Parenting Time, Child Support, and Spousal Support, formerly Alimony. The Friend Of the Court does not exist in all states. The Friend Of the Court helps the Court with the above issues.

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-83164139394632638452007-03-13T15:07:00.000-07:002007-03-13T15:48:47.297-07:00

Dear Loyal readers,Tonight, I will expound on "things in common".The more things in common you have with your girlfriend/boyfriend, or your husband/wife, the better the relationship will be both short term and long term!In fact, the long-term relationship is the one which benefits the most from that. Again, the interests that people share help a relationship work even after so many years of

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-18132944490682171752007-03-12T14:53:00.000-07:002007-03-13T15:47:46.942-07:00

Good evening!Last time, I talked a little about "having things in common" and how important that is in a relationship whether it is while dating, or during a marriage. A couple of days ago, I remembered something interesting, which I thought I would share with you.First, I would like to mention that I do not have all the facts about what I am going to share with you. I remembered that Andre

Dr. Dreamernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018265129094792815.post-74291775347006483262007-03-09T13:40:00.000-08:002007-03-09T14:19:57.481-08:00

Hello,Needless to say that this is one of the most important topics!During the difficult times of a divorce, you want to make sure to keep your focus on your kids. In essence, your kids should always come first. Try to shield the kids as much as you can. It is best if you can avoid arguing with your spouse in front of the kids, as this only hurts them.Talk to your children about the divorce with

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