Comments on Sex, Relationships & Your Health: Part 4: Lack of Sleep

Hi, Am from Mauritius and am 28yrs old. Am marrie...

2009-05-13T12:18:00.000-04:00

Hi,
Am from Mauritius and am 28yrs old. Am married since 11 month and i dont want to have sex with my husband...my husband works as a barman and he came late at night 1.00. My husband is addicted to SEX he loves that extremely, we know each other since 2yrs and we use to make love everyday at any time. But since am married i dont know why i dont want to have sex and my relationship with my husband is getting worst, everyday we are fighting and he's telling i'll need to find someone if its continue lik that.

i would be grateful if someone there can HELP ME.

My husband complains about any and everything and ...

2008-12-14T22:25:00.000-05:00

My husband complains about any and everything and it is hard to want to have sex because their is something wrong with that. I am just tired of it and don't care what he wants because he will never be satisfied with anything

I,m 58 year old male retired 2 weeks ago.Dating my...

2008-09-15T23:33:00.000-04:00

I,m 58 year old male retired 2 weeks ago.Dating my fiance past 3 years each have our own home. Never worry about sex, used to , most times we enjoy sex to climax once a week mostly weekends. Been several times we get it on twice on weekend but not the norm for us. Oh yea she does not climax every time , but always during oral sex she does. The point is if I could never have sex again it would not be a disaster for me. Sure I would miss this activity but our culture tends heavily to obsess about sex anyhow. I would still enjoy doing oral to her if my erections should fail but life is rich in so many areas why worry as long as were good company to each other. But I do understand and remember when sex was a much stronger appetite for me. And have compassion for folks who feel anguish over sex issues.

I'm 20 yrs old and my boyfriend is 25. We have a 3...

2008-04-28T21:41:00.000-04:00

I'm 20 yrs old and my boyfriend is 25. We have a 3 yr. old and yea i get tired sometimes, but other than that I'm VERY VERY active. He'd be happy with sex once or twice a month & I just don't understand it. We're not 70 years old we're in our early 20's. . Isn't this supposed to be the time when all we want is sex. Another thing he never wants to do anythig new, and I'm up for pretty much anything. He's not the cheating kind so I know that's not it. . .but every time I tell him how rejected and unwanted and unattractive it makes me feel that he turns me down all the time, he just kind of blows it off. I don't know what to do any ideas guys?

my wife dont want to be intimate,i know she not th...

2008-02-24T23:13:00.000-05:00

my wife dont want to be intimate,i know she not the type to do what your thing,what would happen if i dont release for many months?

my wife is 26 and iam 29 full time workers and ful...

2008-02-13T19:38:00.000-05:00

my wife is 26 and iam 29 full time workers and full time parents myself i work 2 jobs and of course i hear the same i am tired thing like everyone else. The one problem i feel is, is that, alot of the problem is that what if the other person feels well thats just the way things are if your tired you go to sleep. Iam no doctor, but it seems to me, that if the mind set on one end is not concerned about sex and the other mind set is about to explode then no one is meeting in the middle. Its almost like its either my way, and just accept it on both ends.its i want sex or iam tired we need to meet halfway,not on one end, thats where i feel alot of the tension are.

^^^^I feel for you man. I've been with my fiance f...

2008-01-14T22:11:00.000-05:00

^^^^

I feel for you man. I've been with my fiance for 4 years and it appears u and i have the exact problem. She is too tired or numerous other excuses. For the first year we went at it like rabbits, and now its 2 times a month on average. She has no drive at all. Any mention of my unhappiness results in "then just leave me."

My wife and I have been married for 9 years. We ar...

2007-11-14T02:43:00.000-05:00

My wife and I have been married for 9 years. We are both in our early 30's.

She has sexual desire maybe once a month. I have communicated for years that I would like to at least be intimate 2-3 times a week.

I get frustrated because she states she is always tired but spends hours watching her favorite TV programs. When the kids go to sleep by 9, she's still finishing off her last program that ends at 10pm and then she passes out. When I talk about the subject we get in to an argument that always brings up divorce as the solution.

im a women who just dont understand sex after 40 n...

2007-11-06T07:20:00.000-05:00

im a women who just dont understand sex after 40 now.. i have no sex drive now. and i was alll for 1 and 1 for all when it came to sex before,im just confused right now!

My wife and I have been married for several years....

2007-10-24T12:39:00.000-04:00

My wife and I have been married for several years. My wife is on her feet all day and when its time for bed, its lights out. Our sex life suffers because of this. It seems she has no desire to even approach me or want anything to do with sex period. It makes me frustrated that she is this way. I do have thoughts about looking for sex somewhere else if this is how things are going to continue to be.
She makes me feel rejected and I feel that she has no attraction to me what so ever. I'm not the cheating kind, but when things get this way the desire to seek it somewhere else grows stronger and stronger. When we do have sex things do go better but she will never admit to this fact.
I feel others frustrations. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. My nerves are wearing thin. Right now sleep is the enemy!

My husband is older me on 10 ys, so when I noticed...

2007-07-02T13:58:00.000-04:00

My husband is older me on 10 ys, so when I noticed that he had probs with erection I thought it was just his age to have them... :( Dear ladies help your partners, they can't anything without us. I bought him Extagen and just gave it to him. The problem has been solved. We have wonderful sex.

I gave birth to my son 5months ago and things were...

2007-05-15T13:40:00.000-04:00

I gave birth to my son 5months ago and things were fine between my husband and I when i was able to have sex again. But as of lately I have not had a big sex drive. I could be in the mood one minute and out of the mood the next. Please tell me what I can do.

I would also like to add that a well oiled machine...

2007-05-10T14:49:00.000-04:00

I would also like to add that a well oiled machine is a very proud and a loyal piece of equipment, anxious to perform at its highest ability to the pleasure of its operator. Ah....nothing works better than a well oiled machine.

Men are like machines which work at the direction ...

2007-05-10T14:46:00.000-04:00

Men are like machines which work at the direction of its operator, their wives. If the operator only knew that machines need some oiling from time to time, the machine would function more properly and become more useful to its operator. Unfortunately, many operators don't read the machine's operating manual and are not familar with the sounds of breaking or failing machinery. Consequentially, problems with machine operation develop from the the lack of oiling certain machine parts. This is why machines are always on the look out for other operators who may be more receptive to machine care.

I was a virgin when I got married, and my husband ...

2007-04-07T03:18:00.000-04:00

I was a virgin when I got married, and my husband had only one previous experience. He became furious with me because I didn't climax on our wedding night! There's no way that any normal virgin could have climaxed with his bumbling inexperience. He snored so loud that a freight train would have seemed quiet. I was getting to be so sleep deprived that I thought I was going to go crazy. I tried earplugs, but when he found out he became infuriated with me and accused me of not loving him. Lack of sleep, ineptness of my husband, and his constant pressure for me to perform finally led to the end of the marriage.

I think 'Lack of Sleep' is huge for my wife right ...

2006-10-24T13:17:00.000-04:00

I think 'Lack of Sleep' is huge for my wife right now! We have a new born and I'm going to work right now. With that said, I try to give her more time sleeping. I'll watch our guy and feed him usually at 1am, then go to bed - so that gives her 9pm to maybe 3 or 4am....I'm tired as hell, but I have no decrease in sexual desire. The hard part is finding the time when 1) we are both relatively awake, 2) we are both home and 3) the little guy is either sleeping or amusing himself in his crib. (and then if she wants it)
It's tough!!! Sex is important for me in our relationship, but I know it's not THE only thing. Maybe I should masturbate to get over those periods of time where I need a release - but I sometimes feel like its cheating on my wife. During the pregnancy, I asked my wife to "help" with that, and it was good b/c I felt the connection with her. I know I should talk to her more about this - but I'm feeling as needy as our little baby, I don't want to add more stress to her life, you know? Sex should be initimate and stress relieving, not stress inducing....

I am a 36 year old woman with a 47 year old boyfri...

2006-10-19T11:39:00.000-04:00

I am a 36 year old woman with a 47 year old boyfriend who used to love to have sex in the beginning of our relationship. He is now tired all the time and he does try but then our intimacy is cut short. Not good for me since I love it! Maybe it is our age difference, I don't know. I can tell you that I am about to purchase vitamins for him and cut the computer cords. Hummm, maybe that is why he is sooo tired all the time. ?? We will see what happens....Good thing he is such a great guy.

Oh, my goodness...are you kidding me? I have been...

2006-10-19T00:20:00.000-04:00

Oh, my goodness...are you kidding me? I have been married for 10 years to a wonderful man who loves sex. I, on the other hand, have absolutely no desire for it - no drive, no libido, not even any feeling. If he touches my arm or cups my breast, the two feel no different. BUT...he needs sex. Even if I don't personally need it, our marriage sure as heck does. We are closer to each other when we have regular sex (appx.2x/week is regular for us and his work schedule; he drives truck). Who the heck cares if I "want" it? How would I feel if he were to stop talking to me? Or if he only had conversation with me once a month? Please! Ladies, get over yourselves and your pathetic excuses (and men, take a good look in the mirror and find out what kind of man leaves his wife or cheats on her instead of working at the relationship...real commitment there)! Jump your husbands! Be there for them! Tell them how much you appreciate them and the work they do to support you and your children! Love them! Put your own needs (wants) aside for 2 seconds and think of them for a change!

My wife is and has been unintereested in sex for a...

2006-10-18T22:42:00.000-04:00

My wife is and has been unintereested in sex for about 8 years. If I try to discuss it with her it just gets worse. She is tired at times, but that isn't the only reason. She just doesn't want or enjoy sex and she will not show or return any interest toward me. We have been married for 12 years and it seems to only get worse and will eventually end our marriage but she doesnt seem to understand that I may need or desire and have at least some desire myself. It is all about her and how she hates sex and doesn't want to have it with me. Maybe she doesn't understand that this is an invitation for me to find someone else. Hopefully some women out there may read this and learn that this attitude is a bad choice you want to keep your husband. I am in the process of trying to find someone to meet my needs - I do not really want that, but what choice do it really have that is fair to me. It can't be all about her.

This is a very good article dealing with women's n...

2006-10-18T19:03:00.000-04:00

This is a very good article dealing with women's need for sleep to help improve their interest in their sexual lives. What about men? My partner is a 43 year old male who suffers from lack of sleep due to stressors from his career. He states that he has no desire for sex because he is too tired. It now has started to really effect our relationship.

My partner is a 51 yr old woman who has lost her i...

2006-10-18T18:17:00.000-04:00

My partner is a 51 yr old woman who has lost her interest in sex, and not because she is tired. Her libido is gone and she is not on any hormone replacement therapy. As her 58 year old female partner, who has a healthy sex drive I am often in the position of asking, hinting, mentioning, flirting and am ignored and denied. We have sex about once a month. She recently told me to go find someone to have sex with, not an affair because she wants me to introduce her to her. I told her I'm not the type to sleep around once I decided to get married, took me til I was 51 to decided. We had a great talk after she told me to find another woman, did not fight, worked it out and she willingly approached me for sex two or three times directly after our talk. Now we are back to square one and I am seriously considering taking her up on her suggestion. Probably would shake her up if I did.

My husband is always complaining about me not real...

2006-10-18T16:19:00.000-04:00

My husband is always complaining about me not really interested in sex. With all his complaining, I am not really interested in sex. He is a constant complainer and I am the one not doing the right thing.