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I'm taking Wee Beastie on a jet plane for the move. apparently he can go under the seat, in his carrier, which is good 'cause I wasn't going to put him in luggage, but still a bit nervous about the whole thing. Any tips? Someone said -not- to give a sedative because the pressure combined with the sedative can actually kill them? :{

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at Eleanor's Trousers.

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This was in response to a comment over at this thread: student: ...Look, I don’t have as much control over what happens in Africa (though believe me, I’m doing as much as I can and we can speak about it privately if you’d like), as I do over what happens to the women around me. I know I have control over what I wear. I know that I can engage fellow English-speakers with computers on the

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feministgal: My appearance does not determine my level of feminist commitment. Neither do my choices to or not to marry or my sexual orientation. Or whether or not i like porn. Guess what? I can vote for whoever the fuck I want and still identify as a feminist... ...I identify with feminism because of its commitment to social, political, and economic equality for all people. Regarding women

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Someone of whom I've never before heard posting at somewhere I've heard entirely too much of, but you can go there via here or here or here, here, or here, anyway: ashley Jul 20th, 2008 at 1:50 pm the defining characteristic of feminism is that it's not fun and it costs dearly in social acceptance. when guys approve, it's a great guage of whether or not something is feminist at all.

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I have to ask: d'you think they kept Garbage Bag Gal instead of the other one because they thought it'd make better television--you know, because she was sure she was gonna be axed and he thought he was gonna win-- or because they really thought wossname's was worse? At least he made an effort...and c'mon, haven't any of these people heard of, ummm, whatever fetish it probably was? Also,

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Re this: ETA: this, too Hi, witchy, stormcloud, delphyne, Heart, whichever other of the "radical feminists" who just can't understand why this is a particularly big deal for those of us who aren't among the Elect, or what the difference is between this guy and, what is it now? all the other porn "users" in the world? all the other male feminists in the world (except the ones you approve of,

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I often think about people who have boundary issues not just as people who have trouble maintaining their own or who are inclined to violate those of others, but as people who seem to actually lack the understanding of where you start and they end. Meaning they take on emotion that’s yours in ways that are just inappropriate, and becomes kinda controlling, and can be really overwhelming…and given

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I really shouldn't bother, but since we're all about lies and the lying liars and all. She fisks: Examples of what I’m talking about from the pro-porn/prostitution side about anti-porn/anti-prostitution men: I find what appears to me at first to be yet another garden variety (as these things go, there aren’t actually THAT many of them I don’t think) male radical feminist blog… Since I’m in the

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Purtek sums up my thoughts nicely: yeah, I’m pretty wary of the kind of guy who dresses everything up in terms of just how completely he is going to save me, the one who seems just far too good to be true, the one who always knows exactly the right words and turns of phrase like maybe it’s actually kind of practiced…but “male feminists” categorically? Not the same thing. Because you know, the

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Just an update to say that even though I did see this entry, somehow I missed the bit where apparently he's PLANNING TO WRITE A BOOK BASED ON WHAT RAPE SURVIVORS HAVE CONFIDED IN HIM. (thanks, Ilyka and Wolfa, for highlighting this): One day I’ll write a book. Well, hopefully several. But this book in particular will be a compilation of all the stories shared with me by survivors. Women (of a

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there's really no need to do this, either.

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Kind of like this.

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ETA again: Also, Renegade has a continually updated list of all the other people covering this, here. So, I'm surfing around, procrastinating, you know how it goes, and I find what appears to me at first to be yet another garden variety (as these things go, there aren't actually THAT many of them I don't think) male radical feminist blog, one Kyle Payne. Since I'm in the mood to snark, I read

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to wit, in this instance, "Who's a 'real' woman, anyway?" more specifically, How many times have you heard some idiot** say something like, “man, I hate American chicks, might as well go to Thailand/El Salvador/Moldova, that’s where the REAL WOMEN are at.” Now, we all know what he probably means here - women who are at a similar economic level are not submissive enough, and women who are not

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Jesse Helms is dead. "no comment," because, well, you know what they say. ...it really is the great equalizer, isn't it? Whatever else in this world, no matter how wonderful or how awful you are, it's the one thing that's guaranteed. Sooner or later. In his case, later. (He was 86). ...aaaaannnnnnnnndddd.... yeah. I said "no comment," didn't I. -bites tongue really hard- Oh, yeah.

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The Doctor:** The very powerful and the very stupid have one thing in common. They don't alter their views to fit the facts. They alter the facts to fit their views. Which can be uncomfortable if you happen to be one of the facts that needs altering. --Doctor Who **(no, NOT that one for once, the one with the scarf. bite me)

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Some people go to the Bible for their clever and profound illustrations of Universal Truths; others find Shakespeare more satisfying. Being of more vulgar stuff, I find this suits my current needs, once more, with feeling:

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Okay, I know this is cheap as all hell, it's Satsuma for fuck's sake, but still, marvel at it, really: http://www.womensspace.org/phpBB2/2008/04/21/on-the-pornography-panel-debate-at-william-mary-college-in-support-of-samantha-berg/#comment-16199 [surprise] Ultimately, I believe pornography is about lack of imagination and dehumanization. It really shouldn’t be a debate at all, but people

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Honestly, I don’t buy either the nature or nurture arguments with regards to gender. I think it’s a combination of effects, and I agree with the line about gender being a “performance” — which I don’t think is the same thing as belittling the importance of gender in the lives of many people or saying that any one gender identity is more or less legitimate than the other. There are a huge range of

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("D'Artagnan! How dare you talk to me that way, you...!") O all right then, twist my rubber dwama/trainwreckspotting addict arm. Heart's got a new blog up "to challenge and refute the attacks on me, on radical feminists and radical feminism on the internet." I figure it'd be remiss to not at least point the way, all things considered.** So far it looks like the first few posts are about

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Strictly in the interest of scientific research, you understand. I may want to design a study, later on. Keeping in mind that we're looking for unifying principles that transcend particular ideologies or "issues," compare and contrast: exhibit 1: These women say they are traumatised. The near impossible job for the Law is to try and assertain if that is the case when often there are no

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um, yeah, no comment: http://nhsblogdoc.blogspot.com/2008/06/when-woman-says-no-she-means-no.html As soon as you start saying "when a woman says 'no' she does not always mean it" you are in hot water. I have been hung out to dry on various feminist sites recently for maintain that, whatever is going on her or in similar circumstances, it is not rape in the ordinary sense of the word. There has

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Damn, that's gotta smart. McClellan: Bush must blame himself for mistrust If the nation doesn't trust the Bush White House, it's the president's and Dick Cheney's own fault, Bush's former spokesman told Congress Friday. From life-and-death matters on down — the rationale for war, the leaking of classified information, Cheney's accidental shooting of a friend — the government's top two leaders

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I used to love that book as a kid.** And last week, it's happened for reals. thanks for sharing, Lina. too sweet. **the Wiki review is cracking my shit up. "Poor characterization?" Critics note that the "loosely plotted" story gives no true explanation for why Mr. Mallard leaves the island in the Charles River or why the Mallards did not simply stay on the lagoon island in the first

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