keeping ashes by your bedside table is as logical ...

2008-11-18T14:50:00.000Z

keeping ashes by your bedside table is as logical as converting ashes into a diamond ring. Is it really just another way of keeping your loved ones with you all the time, or is it just a form of comfort blanket to cling onto when everything else is slipping away.I personally wouldn't choose to turn my husband into a diamond ring or keep him in the glove box! Not because I dont like the idea, mainly because I am a total klutz and likely to loose the ring down the plug hole or smash my car up... then I'd spend the rest of my life mourning a diamond ring and suffering a second loss!

Separation anxiety can lead a child to attach itself to a blanket or a soft toy. Its not a bad thing, in fact its perfectly natural and it doesn't always stop at childhood! I know 5 normal professional adults who admit to using a comfort blanket / comforter of some sort in their adult years. When times get hard many of us will find ourselves reverting back to childhood comforts such as curling up into a fetal position, so why not attaching ourselves to an item?

A positive way of looking at finding comfort in these security items (ashes, diamonds, blankets, or your dead husbands jumper) is that they are often seen as a very good transitional tool to help a child (or adult) settle into a new life or environment. Eventually most will give them up when feeling secure again. However, what's wrong if they dont? If it comforts them and its not harming anyone, why not? After all we are all very different, we all have very different needs and we each find comfort in the strangest ways.

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keeping ashes by your bedside table is as logical ...