tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11516722.post-1138963057898615772006-02-03T05:37:00.000-05:002006-02-03T05:37:00.000-05:00To Darren. I do not want you to think I am putting you down. I understand your anger. Perhaps you've been hurt? And I admit that after the crimes against my brother and myself (stabbed and headbeaten) I felt suicidal which is first reaction anger to kill but ironically turnrd inwards. ("Trying to kill the wrong person" as came out in Group Therapy) Suicide is the angriest statement a person can make and parallels well with the desire to execute. But who is the "right" person to execute? Vernon who is probably innocent and a victim of bad lawyering, or the person who sexually molested and beat Vernon as a child if vernon did do the crime? The witness evidence does not match up. Are you advocating the torture, that you have, of an innocent man to satisfy some blood-lust? To kill in revenge is a first instinct. It takes an evolution of emotional work to realise that this instinct is limited. Execution means the victim survivor stops. There's no follow up. It has taken me 40 years to learn this, to reach a point of "closure" and that learning process leading to closure is an achievement for me with the present daily problem of the epilepsy that the murderer gave me through smashing my brain in the lower left temporal lobe. No one would choose to be a victim of crime but when it is forced on us we have the option of learning from pain, but we victims cannot do that alone. Psychotherapy in a group is the best environment in my view to move on. To learn about ourselves and others from our pain And will I be shot down in flames for suggesting that as many violent criminals are themselves victims of violent childhood crime (their crimes anger turned outwards)that they be offered psychotherapy too and not the death penalty?johnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07732685907482691660noreply@blogger.com